Why do black men dog out black women in public and in private?

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Downey, CA

#1 Apr 9, 2012
I'm not saying ALL black men do this, but it makes me feel bad that I am seen as unattractive by both the world and by a lot of our own men because i am black. Also, I'm not referring to women who verbally or physically abuse their men, because then the man has the right to stand up for himself. That being said, I am sick of the offhanded comments made by the brothas about black women.(do a good search on youtube if you don't know what I'm talking about, you'll see both the media hype and the brotha hype, and then you got the brotha's trying to 'fix' what's been done by saying positive stuff)

I don't see other men publicly degrading their women en masse. I go on youtube and type in "black women" and the first thing that comes up is "unattractive", "single", "unmarried". WTF is up with this sht?! Then, i type in "white women" and the first thing that comes up is "workout", "tell the truth", "who like black men". I typed in asian and hispanic women and the youtube results seemed more even (the good mixed with the bad, or neutral). Even making a title on youtube saying "Black women unattractive" subconsciously reinforces that notion, even if the ultimate message is positive in the video (but I know they do it to get views, so I kind of can't blame them).

Also, I don't understand WHY black men degrade their OWN women. That's degrading their own race and everything our black leaders (MLK, Malcom X, Harriet Tubman) have worked for to get us to the place we are today in society! You say bad stuff about your other half, the half that the Bible said was made from your own rib and then people will start to look at YOU and not just the person you are degrading. And then black people complain about why we "can't get ahead", or why "there're no breaks for a brotha out here", or why "all the good brothas are up in jail".

Then there's the stereotype about the loud, aggressive black woman that "don't take no sht". Yes, this stereotype is no doubt negatively affecting us as black women today, but have people ever thought to connect the dots as to the jail/victimization rate of black men and the dogging out of black women by our own men? The RACE...the black RACE is seen as violent, aggressive, uncivilized, and these ignorant black men are perpetuating the degradation of the African/American by deeming their own women as unattractive, difficult, and whatever else you want to throw in there.

Another thing that I'm sure went through someone's mind....I'm not against interracial pairings. I prefer to date interracially myself for my own reasons. I may have negative or positive views about black men in dating, BUT I never voice these blanket statements to the world! Especially on youtube! And, if someone asks me about "hey, why don't you date a brotha?" like my family has asked time and time again. I tell them that "i'm not attracted". It's none of anyone else's business as to why i date outside of my race, or ONLY date black men for that matter!

I think a lot of the problem has to do with the fact that black men are too comfortable in their stereotypical role as the sex gods of the world (with the big black dck). They think that all women will naturally want it. I've seen this with white men too (they act surprised when you aren't interested in them, because everyone wants a white man, right?)

That being said, i think that more black women need to give men from other races some consideration while dating and marrying.

Just food for thought....

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#2 Apr 9, 2012
Let your actions and lifestyle be your own testimonial and representative. Distance yourself from those who disrespect you and or play games.

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#4 Apr 9, 2012
a--x--e wrote:
Black men are fundamentally immature, even into their adulthood, frightened by any potential threat to the tiny, fragile egos, and threatened by anyone more masculine than themselves, which of course perfectly describes the typical negro female.
What describes a trying to be bigot Caucasian who has not life, posts on a forum with black people mostly half his age and has had top ranking amongst most users here?
That describes the typical self compensating loser.

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#5 Apr 9, 2012
VirgoSLC wrote:
<quoted text>What describes a trying to be bigot Caucasian who has not life, posts on a forum with black people mostly half his age and has had top ranking amongst most users here?
That describes the typical self compensating loser.
Does my "ranking" annoy you? You never talk to me unless I'm at the top of the leaderboard. Why would you care about some utterly meaningless "game" that Topix invented to entice users to manually (lol) click hundreds of links on a daily basis?

Does my "ranking" annoy you? Do you know anything about internet scripting, C++ or manipulation?

Bytch, I have 255 points every morning before I ever wake up, and you seem irritated by it.

Win.
kay

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#6 Apr 9, 2012
White surpremacy + media=self hate.

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#7 Apr 9, 2012
This thread is food for racists. Women choose these men who they meet at clubs do you expect them to be gentleman? I wont make anymore threads like this. Why not obsess over good men? I never hear women talking about somebody whose good. Yall like complaining? If 30 percent of men are thugs they get talked about 90 percent of time.

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#8 Apr 9, 2012
cooldude17 wrote:
This thread is food for racists. Women choose these men who they meet at clubs do you expect them to be gentleman? I wont make anymore threads like this. Why not obsess over good men? I never hear women talking about somebody whose good. Yall like complaining? If 30 percent of men are thugs they get talked about 90 percent of time.
because ppl like to complain. Negative things are easier to complain about, and chances are that the person one is speaking with has experienced a similar situation and agree. take for example ppl talking about bad vacation spots, women trading annoying husband stories, ppl talking about certain politicians... it's just a thing that ppl do.

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#10 Apr 9, 2012
MOSES-11 wrote:
What is the OP doing if this isn't dogging AAM out.
WHERE THERE IS NO WOOD, THERE IS NO FIRE!
The OP is adding wood to the fire and instigating more black vs black bullschitt
Black power!

Black unity!

Face it, Relic. Your race is beyond redemption. You should just sink into your liquor-fueled retirement and sigh in deep despair as you watch your species turn to dust, born out of their own ignorance and stupidity.

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#12 Apr 9, 2012
MOSES-11 wrote:
What is the OP doing if this isn't dogging AAM out.
WHERE THERE IS NO WOOD, THERE IS NO FIRE!
The OP is adding wood to the fire and instigating more black vs black bullschitt
go ahead and type in "black men" on youtube. First things that pop up are: "hate single women" and "hate black women". True stuff. I think something needs to be said and yes I'm taking this personally because as a group I'm tired of seeing my black women disrespected! Let's let this thread get hot! If I didn't care about the black community I'd let this ish slide but it needs to be addressed...somehow!

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#13 Apr 9, 2012
MOSES-11 wrote:
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What happened to your thread about you kicking a pregnant black "B" In the stomach.
You're a freaking coward azz b!tch that gets an ego boost behind a computer.
It was removed.

And, somehow, I didn't whine about the fact that it was removed for four months.

How's tricks, you ancient, irrelevant, whining twxt?

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#14 Apr 9, 2012
Why don'y you try asking the BM that do it? Smh

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#15 Apr 9, 2012
don't***

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#16 Apr 9, 2012
Your an LA BW, where im from. The worst of the worst, just like the BM. You better quit while you are ahead.

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#17 Apr 9, 2012
Jstylez wrote:
Why don'y you try asking the BM that do it? Smh
It's a COMMUNITY problem, not just a one person/set group of people problem. Why would the first words out of youtube search be what I just said if there weren't mass people on this topic already. It's reached mainstream media now (Youtube).

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#19 Apr 9, 2012
Also, I dare you to go onto GOOGLE and type "black women are"...and let GOOGLE finish the sentence....

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#20 Apr 9, 2012
Genevieve11 wrote:
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go ahead and type in "black men" on youtube. First things that pop up are: "hate single women" and "hate black women". True stuff. I think something needs to be said and yes I'm taking this personally because as a group I'm tired of seeing my black women disrespected! Let's let this thread get hot! If I didn't care about the black community I'd let this ish slide but it needs to be addressed...somehow!
We cant change community its not even a community just a ethnic group w/ no common interests. Best believe I wont waste my time complaining about hoodrats and IRbw.

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#21 Apr 9, 2012
MOSES-11 wrote:
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You're doing the same thing to AAM and you know AAM are not going to be quiet. When AAM respond, you play the innocent victim.
You're not resolving anything, you're promoting black on black conflict.
ANOTHER BASH THE AAM THREAD
How do you suggest we resolve this issue? It has to start somewhere...and NOW.

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#23 Apr 9, 2012
MOSES-11 wrote:
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Bless ya little heart.
Your new standard retreat?

Face it, old bytch, you're spent.

You spend hours and hours on here trying to spin your particular brand of armchair psychology to an UNRECEPTIVE audience.

You ook and ook, and nobody cares for your "wisdom".

Usually the only ones responding to you are whites.

That's GOTTA burn.

Now, bless my heart again, crying negro.

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#24 Apr 9, 2012
cooldude17 wrote:
<quoted text>We cant change community its not even a community just a ethnic group w/ no common interests. Best believe I wont waste my time complaining about hoodrats and IRbw.
HOODRATS?! IRBW?! Where did I EVER complain about black men being in IR!!! There goes the disrespect, indirectly calling me a "hoodrat" and "wasting your time". YES WE AS AA ARE A COMMUNITY, YOU BEST BELIEVE IT! And include other countries as well, such as Jamaica, Africa, etc.! We are ALL black women!

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#26 Apr 9, 2012
Genevieve11 wrote:
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It's a COMMUNITY problem, not just a one person/set group of people problem. Why would the first words out of youtube search be what I just said if there weren't mass people on this topic already. It's reached mainstream media now (Youtube).
You begin to fix a problem one at a time, start off small. It is up to them on whether they want a solution are not.

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