Why AA's can't find ROMANCE? Don't k...

Why AA's can't find ROMANCE? Don't know what it is.

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#1 Jul 29, 2013
All that junk about a "I want" this or that in a companion is exactly why we can't find "I want". Cupid see our laundry list, pack up his bows, arrows to leave because, we think we know more than cupid.


There are three elements to romance and strong, independent or intelligence don't have anything to do with romance. Romance is as old as time and will always and forever consist of:


The father of romantic idealism, Roussaeu said one should rely upon feelings, instincts and emotions instead of the "lubrication of the intellect."

The first thing is listed last, instead of the lubrication of the intellect. INSTEAD means do not intellectualize everything. Instead. Forget about cinderalla and the prince.

Many people have a laundry list of gualifications, a yard stick, an idea, a mold or fixed idea of what they want in a companion. Let's say you've ran across someone that met your list to the letter. Just as soon as the two individuals meet, there is no chemistry., no chemistry Whoa. That's what they THOUGHT they wanted.

Always and I repeat, always trust your feeling, instincts and emotions because, they are natural and your bells and whistles. People that ignore their feelings, instincts and emotions are usually the ones that say, I saw the signs and ignored them or something told me..... That is also known as SELF DENIAL


Here is another jab at intelligence. Has anyone ever heard, "a thinking man is a depraved animal?" Yes this is Rousseau too. When you fell in love, did you plan it, prepare for it and program it to happen that day? No, it caught you off guard and when you were least expecting it to happen.

What' more romantic

(A) telling a person that we're sending them flowers.

(B) sending flower without telling them? This element is why old men will tell a woman he'd treat her like a queen. The old man is thinking too much but, young men will tell a woman he'd make feel like a queen. The young man ain't thinking at all. Any cougars in the house?


Stimulate one or all the five senses. I'm going to shorten this. Take any toothless baby, rub it softly with oil, put something sweet on it's lips, baby powder for a pleasing smell, wave something in it's view, sing softly and watch that baby give us one great big toothless smile. That's it right there, We're all big babies and we want to have that great big smile.

That baby could care less about your intelligence. All that baby is concerned with is being happy. All of us are grown babies wanting to be happy. Start telling that baby about rocket science, being a brain surgeon or computer programming all the time and watch that baby go to sleep?

Intelligence has nothing to do with romance and that's why two people go on a dead date, no chemistry, intellectualize everything, lacking spontaneity and stimulation.

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#2 Jun 19, 2014
Back to square one

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#3 Jun 19, 2014
Ummm...I did. K bye.

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