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#603 Oct 5, 2012
General Pancho Salazar wrote:
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What Is Emotional Abuse?
Emotional abuse of a child is commonly defined as a pattern of behavior by parents or caregivers that can seriously interfere with a child’s cognitive, emotional, psychological or social development. Emotional abuse of a child — also referred to as psychological maltreatment — can include:
Ignoring. Either physically or psychologically, the parent or caregiver is not present to respond to the child. He or she may not look at the child and may not call the child by name.
Rejecting. This is an active refusal to respond to a child’s needs (e.g., refusing to touch a child, denying the needs of a child,
ridiculing a child).
Isolating. The parent or caregiver consistently prevents the child from having normal social interactions with peers, family members and adults. This also may include confining the child or limiting the child’s freedom of movement.
Exploiting or corrupting. In this kind of abuse, a child is taught, encouraged or forced to develop inappropriate or illegal behaviors.
It may involve self-destructive or antisocial acts of the parent or caregiver, such as teaching a child how to steal or forcing a child into prostitution.
Verbally assaulting. This involves constantly belittling, shaming, ridiculing or verbally threatening the child.
http://www.americanhumane.org/children/stop-c...
I think you are somewhat correct. But how do you think I child would be without parents? I think they would be in the same position or worst.
An Inquiring Mind

Harrisburg, PA

#604 Oct 5, 2012
PANMA19 wrote:
<quoted text> I think you are somewhat correct. But how do you think I child would be without parents? I think they would be in the same position or worst.
How do you mean without parents?

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#605 Oct 5, 2012
An Inquiring Mind wrote:
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How do you mean without parents?
Well he explain a house with "abusive parents" and I was wondering would it be better if they did not have any parents at all.
bluest

Memphis, TN

#606 Oct 5, 2012
PANMA19 wrote:
<quoted text>No, I do not think so. I think not having your parents there add on to what you will have to endure later on. You see if you grow up an orphan and say I never had any parents them you will feel more lost than if you knew where you came from. But on the other hand, if you knew your parents and they treated you bad then that would be something for you to fall on and uplift yourself, and say,“I will never be that way to my children.” I think it is better to have parents in the house.
I can understand your thought process on this. Keep in mind I said it was better to have one decent parent than two parents and one was horrid, abusive. That is different than saying the kid is better with no parents.

Most of the time, it is not two abusive parents --it is usually one whose the aggressor and maybe a complacent parent.(Abusive people tend to find weaker people to partner with).

I do not feel kids are better off in orphans or even adoption lots of time, than with their actual real parents. We all link our presence in the world to our parents..our family.. so I think that's why even those adopted have hard adjustments sometime. Because, where do you actually "belong"?

Kids do fine with one parent..as long as that parent is good and manages to keep stability.
Frank

Clarkston, MI

#607 Oct 5, 2012
http://www.lipstickalley.com/f219/effects-fat...

EFFECTS OF FATHERLESSNESS (US DATA)

1) BEHAVIORAL DISORDERS/ RUNAWAYS/ HIGH SCHOOL DROPOUTS/CHEMICAL ABUSERS/ SUICIDES

85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes (Source: Center for Disease Control)

90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census)

71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes (Source: National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools.)

75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes (Source: Rainbows for all God's Children.)

63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census)

2) JUVENILE DELINQUENCY/ CRIME/ GANGS

80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes (Source: Criminal Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26, 1978)

70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. Dept. of Justice, Special Report, Sept 1988)

85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home (Source: Fulton Co. Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. of Corrections 1992)

California has the nation's highest juvenile incarceration rate and the nation's highest juvenile unemployment rate. Vincent Schiraldi, Executive Director, Center on Juvenile and Criminal Justice, "What Hallinan's Victory Means," San Francisco Chronicle (12/28/95).

These statistics translate to mean that children from a fatherless home are:

5 times more likely to commit suicide

32 times more likely to run away

20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders

14 times more likely to commit rape

9 times more likely to drop out of high school

10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances

9 times more likely to end up in a state-operated institution

20 times more likely to end up in prison

Juveniles have become the driving force behind the nation's alarming increases in violent crime, with juvenile arrests for murder, rape, robbery and aggravated assault growing sharply in the past decade as pistols and drugs became more available, and expected to continue at the same alarming rate during the next decade. "Justice Dept. Issues Scary Report on Juvenile Crime," San Francisco Chronicle (9/8/95). "Crime Wave Forecast With Teenager Boom," San Francisco Chronicle (2/15/95).

Criminal behavior experts and social scientists are finding intriguing evidence that the epidemic of youth violence and gangs is related to the breakdown of the two-parent family. "New Evidence That Quayle Was Right: Young Offenders Tell What Went Wrong at Home," San Francisco Chronicle (12/9/94).

3) TEENAGE PREGNANCY

"Daughters of single parents are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 164% more likely to have a premarital birth, and 92% more likely to dissolve their own marriages. All these intergenerational consequences of single motherhood increase the likelihood of chronic welfare dependency." Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, Atlantic Monthly (April 1993).

Daughters of single parents are 2.1 times more likely to have children during their teenage years than are daughters from intact families. The Good Family Man, David Blankenhorn.

71% of teenage pregnancies are to children of single parents. U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services.
Frank

Clarkston, MI

#608 Oct 5, 2012
EFFECTS OF FATHERLESSNESS (US DATA)continued

4) CHILD ABUSE

The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services states that there were more than 1,000,000 documented child abuse cases in 1990. In 1983, it found that 60% of perpetrators were women with sole custody. Shared parenting can significantly reduce the stress associated with sole custody, and reduce the isolation of children in abusive situations by allowing both parents' to monitor the children's health and welfare and to protect them.

5) POVERTY

"The National Fatherhood Institute reports that 18 million children live in single-parent homes. Nearly 75% of American children living in single-parent families will experience poverty before they turn 11. Only 20% in two-parent families will experience poverty." Melinda Sacks, "Fatherhood in the 90's: Kids of absent fathers more "at risk"," San Jose Mercury News (10/29/95).

"The feminization of poverty is linked to the feminization of custody, as well as linked to lower earnings for women. Greater opportunity for education and jobs through shared parenting can help break the cycle." David Levy, Ed., The Best Parent is Both Parents (1993).

6) KIDNAPPING

Family abductions were 163,200 compared to non-family abductions of 200-300. The parental abductions were attributed to the parents' disenchantment with the legal system. David Levy, Ed., The Best Parent is Both Parents (1993), citing a report from the U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Juvenile Justice (May 1990).
lifes a beach

Lewistown, PA

#609 Oct 9, 2012
Colorado Chick wrote:
WHO THE FREAK...LIED to you AGAIN? FEAR...the MOTHER..she is the POWER behind any stable family life..SHE is the one..making sure..YOU are taken care of..she will GIVE up for herself ANYTHING..for the child..UNLIKE a FATHER..who will THINK about himself BEFORE he thinks of the wife or his children..
Nope sorry that is not a true father then. Sorry but it sounds like your own experiences have tainted your view of true fathers, who would readily lay down their life for their own family.
Frank

Clarkston, MI

#610 Oct 9, 2012
lifes a beach wrote:
Nope sorry that is not a true father then. Sorry but it sounds like your own experiences have tainted your view of true fathers, who would readily lay down their life for their own family.
Quite often, that depends on the mother.

I have read many news stories about BAD men married to BAD women who murdered their wives and/or their kids!

As the Hindu proverb states, "Bad women are made for BAD men and good women are made for GOOD men", so if you hear a woman complain about her husband or her boyfriend, nine times out of ten, she TOO ain't worth sh*t!

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