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“Sleep is My Sanctuary”

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#44 Aug 18, 2014
BM Moving On wrote:
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You don't like BM, period. To you we are all thugs and no good. So whats the point?
1) I never said I don't like black men. You are assuming that because my current boyfriend is white. I've given no reason for you to believe I don't like black men.

2) I never once said all black men were no good thugs.

How about you stop trying to make up reasons to dislike me and just admit you assume as a black woman who dates interracially I must hate all black men.

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#47 Aug 19, 2014
Jubilant Sleep wrote:
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1) I never said I don't like black men. You are assuming that because my current boyfriend is white. I've given no reason for you to believe I don't like black men.
2) I never once said all black men were no good thugs.
How about you stop trying to make up reasons to dislike me and just admit you assume as a black woman who dates interracially I must hate all black men.
You're right JS! I've never seen you go there! Fair is fair!

“Sleep is My Sanctuary”

Since: Mar 14

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#48 Aug 19, 2014
dbiggs69 wrote:
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You're right JS! I've never seen you go there! Fair is fair!
Thanks, hon.
BM Moving On

Richmond Hill, Canada

#49 Aug 19, 2014
Jubilant Sleep wrote:
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1) I never said I don't like black men. You are assuming that because my current boyfriend is white. I've given no reason for you to believe I don't like black men.
2) I never once said all black men were no good thugs.
How about you stop trying to make up reasons to dislike me and just admit you assume as a black woman who dates interracially I must hate all black men.
hmmmm.. I'll keep an eye on you Juilant, but for now, I'll believe you.

“Taking snowbunnies one by one”

Level 5

Since: Jul 12

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#51 Aug 20, 2014
Ding Dong Brown Is Dead wrote:
lol ... this should be brief (and packed with lies)
White boy's dilemma:

They hate Black men who aren't doing good things with their lives because they are "lazy."

Yet they hate Black men who are successful because they are doing better than them.
Big Knob

United States

#52 Aug 20, 2014
Jubilant Sleep wrote:
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1) I never said I don't like black men. You are assuming that because my current boyfriend is white. I've given no reason for you to believe I don't like black men.
2) I never once said all black men were no good thugs.
How about you stop trying to make up reasons to dislike me and just admit you assume as a black woman who dates interracially I must hate all black men.
Are you sure that thats not what bw assume about bm who date interracially,.........i hear these brothers telling their stories of success, and not speaking on the types/races of women that they date.......
X-TREME BIAS

Chicago, IL

#53 Aug 20, 2014
This bogus thread title contains two oxymoron's:

It reads:

Successful black man.

1. "Successful" black.

2. Black "man".

It should read:

Failed black boy.

1. "Failed" black.

2. Black "boy".

Write this down as I'm going to ask questions later.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxymoron
Michael

Riverside, CA

#54 Aug 20, 2014
X-TREME BIAS wrote:
This bogus thread title contains two oxymoron's:
It reads:
Successful black man.
1. "Successful" black.
2. Black "man".
It should read:
Failed black boy.
1. "Failed" black.
2. Black "boy".
Write this down as I'm going to ask questions later.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxymoron
Men are men. Men are not boys. You are conveying hate and bias.

Everyone, unless you are into hate and or bias, please do yourself a favor and ignore X-TREME BIAS. Every man and every woman in the US, regardless of race has the potential to be successful. Action must be taken be you to have success. Persistence, consistency and faith in yourselves with good planning will guide you.

Level 7

Since: Jan 12

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#55 Aug 20, 2014
Though the sentiment is not popular with women, bm should in fact secure their own personal interest before ever considering marriage and or having children. Taking on this financial responsibility should be deferred until you are not only solvent, but have successfully procured some income producing assets to opt out of the job paradigm should you desire to do so; as well as accruing various assets free of debt liabilities building your net worth which will uniquely position you in the credit markets when capital is needed for a new and even bigger opportunity. Those otherwise obligations ( In financial parlance = liabilities) will constrain your opportunistic mobility in creating wealth, particularly when you are young.

Though I did in fact invest hard work in its fruition,, my initial success was but a flashing mirage because though the money was great, the shelf life was relatively short ( sports), but the exposure to the motley crew of successful people in the peripheral was from which my REAL success was built. I didn't grow up in proximity to anyone with a nuanced understanding of Macro or Micro Economics, but this global exposure to all of these experienced and enlighten beings provided me with an empirical education that underpinned my success as an investor across various asset classes, including some private equity investments. Success is within all of our grasp, we just to envisage and go get it.

Level 8

Since: Aug 09

Minneapolis, MN

#60 Aug 21, 2014
BM Moving ON wrote:
For me, I'm in my late 20's and went to University. Graduated with two health science degrees. Worked hard in my early 20's to put myself through school while working security guard jobs at night.
Now I work in health care in a senior role making a great living. I own my own home and two vehicles. I'm engaged and ready to settle down to the love of my life.
My goals in the next 10 years is to open up my own health consulting firm. As I am a supervisor/coordinator in my department, I eventually want to move up into upper management which should happen in the next few years as our manager is about to retire.
Success is all out believing in your abilities. There is no success without taking chances, so I suggest for young Black men to work on their education, save money, never settle for a gold-digging woman. Always use protection with dealing with women as many women will trap you. Work on yourself first.
Thanks. I want to vouch for every word you said. But I will go one step further. "Protection" is one thing and it helps a lot. But it is not risk free since I know of no birth control pill for men. But birth control pills woukld not be 100% effective. The only 100% effective way is 100% abstinence. I have had multiple periods in my life of celibacy. And I can assure you that it is possible. And I consider it to be character building because it develops self-restraint. Avoiding the immoral sex trap is probably the most important factor in assuring success in life for brothers.

As a reference, I recommend Nkruamahism as represented in two sources. One is Ghana: the Autobiography of Kwame Nkrumah. The other is the Handbook of Revolutionary Warfare by Kwame Nkrumah. In both books, brief mention ins made of sexual restraint as a key to success, especially in politics and Revolution. But the context in which those mentions are made are very, very instructive. Please read both books. One is a free download. The other is available at any library through inter library loan. It is worth purchasing both books for your personal library at home.

http://libyadiary.files.wordpress.com/2012/09...
http://www.amazon.com/Ghana-The-Autobiography...

Level 8

Since: Aug 09

Minneapolis, MN

#61 Aug 21, 2014
Cogito2 wrote:
Though the sentiment is not popular with women, bm should in fact secure their own personal interest before ever considering marriage and or having children. Taking on this financial responsibility should be deferred until you are not only solvent, but have successfully procured some income producing assets to opt out of the job paradigm should you desire to do so; as well as accruing various assets free of debt liabilities building your net worth which will uniquely position you in the credit markets when capital is needed for a new and even bigger opportunity. Those otherwise obligations ( In financial parlance = liabilities) will constrain your opportunistic mobility in creating wealth, particularly when you are young.
Though I did in fact invest hard work in its fruition,, my initial success was but a flashing mirage because though the money was great, the shelf life was relatively short ( sports), but the exposure to the motley crew of successful people in the peripheral was from which my REAL success was built. I didn't grow up in proximity to anyone with a nuanced understanding of Macro or Micro Economics, but this global exposure to all of these experienced and enlighten beings provided me with an empirical education that underpinned my success as an investor across various asset classes, including some private equity investments. Success is within all of our grasp, we just to envisage and go get it.
Buy a house before you buy a car. Buy a house before you get married. That way no feminazi can ever call the cops on you and have you kicked out of your home. But every one of them will at least try to do it once. My ex did it to me. The first couple of times, I left and on at least one occasion, spent the night sleeping on the beach. This was because my children were so dependent on both of us at the time. So, I took a lot of crap that I really did not have to take. The last time the police came to my house, she is the one who left. Me and the kids stayed. And we have been tightly together ever since. Right now, I am traveling. But my grown kids and my grandchildren are making me come home early. This is just to show you how tight we are. I will go home just to hug the babies and hit the road again because my work is so important to the success of my project. This brings me to another point.

I have had two successful careers so far. I am now working on my third and hopefully last career as a professor and researcher/writer. It requires me to be away from home some times which is never easy. Right now, I am so homesick, I cannot concentrate on my work. But hard and consistent work is what must always be done to succeed in anything that is worth doing.

Also, the girls, and not just the black girls. They are there too. And they are not ghetto: beautiful clean sisters. But my schedule did not anticipate so many lovely sisters working on me. So I have to restrain myself.

Plus, there is every other race of women you can imagine is hitting on me every day. There are about four Brazilian sisters ranging from medium brown to blonde. There is two Chinese women, two Vietnamese and one Hmong lady. Thee are two Native American Indians. and there are about ten white girls. It is like that. But I have to focus on my work because there was no social life planned in this project. This is where self-restraint is most important because women do not have much self-restraint in my presence at least. Maybe they do with the rest of you guys but not with me. I can usually have my pick. And they are all very beautiful girls in the 18-25 age range. Plus, I have a Latina waiting at home for me.

“Sleep is My Sanctuary”

Since: Mar 14

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#63 Aug 21, 2014
Big Knob wrote:
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Are you sure that thats not what bw assume about bm who date interracially,.........i hear these brothers telling their stories of success, and not speaking on the types/races of women that they date.......
I didn't say that all black women think like me. I'm just letting you know that I do not partake of this silly IR gender war.

Anyway to stay on topic, I am friends with three black men who each have computer science degrees. One was a double major and has an engineering degree as well. Some distant college friends of mine are already successful in their careers. Some are married with children. Their futures look very bright.

“>3 =O”

Level 5

Since: Mar 12

los angeles

#64 Aug 21, 2014
Jubilant Sleep wrote:
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I can't read about successful black men? Why not?
I wouldn't want you getting any crazy ideas like dating one. It is better for them if you stayed away.

Level 2

Since: Mar 13

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#65 Aug 21, 2014
Abdurratln wrote:
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Buy a house before you buy a car. Buy a house before you get married. That way no feminazi can ever call the cops on you and have you kicked out of your home. But every one of them will at least try to do it once. My ex did it to me. The first couple of times, I left and on at least one occasion, spent the night sleeping on the beach. This was because my children were so dependent on both of us at the time. So, I took a lot of crap that I really did not have to take. The last time the police came to my house, she is the one who left. Me and the kids stayed. And we have been tightly together ever since. Right now, I am traveling. But my grown kids and my grandchildren are making me come home early. This is just to show you how tight we are. I will go home just to hug the babies and hit the road again because my work is so important to the success of my project. This brings me to another point.
I have had two successful careers so far. I am now working on my third and hopefully last career as a professor and researcher/writer. It requires me to be away from home some times which is never easy. Right now, I am so homesick, I cannot concentrate on my work. But hard and consistent work is what must always be done to succeed in anything that is worth doing.
Also, the girls, and not just the black girls. They are there too. And they are not ghetto: beautiful clean sisters. But my schedule did not anticipate so many lovely sisters working on me. So I have to restrain myself.
Plus, there is every other race of women you can imagine is hitting on me every day. There are about four Brazilian sisters ranging from medium brown to blonde. There is two Chinese women, two Vietnamese and one Hmong lady. Thee are two Native American Indians. and there are about ten white girls. It is like that. But I have to focus on my work because there was no social life planned in this project. This is where self-restraint is most important because women do not have much self-restraint in my presence at least. Maybe they do with the rest of you guys but not with me. I can usually have my pick. And they are all very beautiful girls in the 18-25 age range. Plus, I have a Latina waiting at home for me.
I say it all the time, black man have your own! Stay away from women who are not trustworthy, and have a bunch of kids, grown or not, and don't have anything! Even if her kids are grown, ask yourself, are they self sufficient? If they're not they're gonna back and forth all the time! A lot of the BS that goes on in BM/BW relationships doesn't happen with me because I have my own everything and don't take any BS!

“Sleep is My Sanctuary”

Since: Mar 14

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#66 Aug 21, 2014
Jstylez wrote:
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I wouldn't want you getting any crazy ideas like dating one. It is better for them if you stayed away.
And why is that?

“>3 =O”

Level 5

Since: Mar 12

los angeles

#67 Aug 21, 2014
Jubilant Sleep wrote:
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And why is that?
It is better for a BM to be single than to have one of you, that is all.

Level 8

Since: Aug 09

Minneapolis, MN

#68 Aug 21, 2014
dbiggs69 wrote:
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I say it all the time, black man have your own! Stay away from women who are not trustworthy, and have a bunch of kids, grown or not, and don't have anything! Even if her kids are grown, ask yourself, are they self sufficient? If they're not they're gonna back and forth all the time! A lot of the BS that goes on in BM/BW relationships doesn't happen with me because I have my own everything and don't take any BS!
You are right bro. Most of us are suckers. And that is why our women are so dang spoiled and irresponsible. Like my brother, he met a pretty black girl. She already had one child. But he was so sexually aroused, he did not notice that there had been another man already there. He attempted to raise the other stepson. But it proved impossible to do. In the meantime, that pretty girl did not appreciate how hard my brother was working to take of another man's son. So she went and got herself yet another man. Eventually the marriage fell apart and my brother came close to suicide. That other man's son in in prison. And he took another member of our clean family with him. When we went to court the effing judge was a feminazi. That b!tch tried to lecture us on failing to raise our children when it was not our children. It was some deadbeat's child who took one of our children with him. But that stupid feminazi judge was too much of a spoiled fool to notice that it was not my family's fault. That how effed up this whole society and power structure is. So we have to be dam fools to keep taking that kind of crap off those no good women. But my broehr is a slow learner. He went and married another one with a child by another man. This child has grown up to be an active prostitute whom my brother cannot keep off the streets.

But I have tried to learn. It is tempting some times to fall for one of those h-words. We are not even allowed to call them whores. But that is what they are. I resist them with all the strength in my body. Eventually word got around that I was smarting up. So they started to show me a lot of hatred. But I refused to give in. They made fun of me and said that I have been single so long until I am now an old man who cannot do it anymore. What they forget to realize is that Latina sisters who came and picked me up. They did not have six kids by other men, being Catholics and all. Plus, the Muslim sisters are available to me. And most of these sisters are lovely and clean. The only ones who are not virgins are thos3e who grew up ion the USA. So, if you want a really clean sister, you need to go all the way back home in Africa or Arabia to find one. But they are there and available. And the best ones do not even speak English. So it is best for you to learn Arabic. In the meantime, the feminazis are spreading lies about how Arabs will not marry a brother. Well, I am here to tell you that that is not true. Arab women love us. So do the Asians such as Pakistanis and Bengalis, etc. You can even find a Chinese or Filipina Muslim girl if that suits your tastes. They are there waiting for you, bro. Do for it.

Level 8

Since: Aug 09

Minneapolis, MN

#69 Aug 21, 2014
I meant to say Go for it.

Level 4

Since: Mar 12

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#73 Aug 23, 2014
Just this week, I had a black patient who couldn't believe I was the Dentist because I'm both young and Black. He asked if I was practicing on him or whether I had a license. I let him know that 1) this was not the first time someone had said this to me and 2) he wouldn't have asked me that if I was white. He then realized his racism and said he was glad he had a brotha as a Dentist.

Unfortunately, in my experience, it is our own people that question my qualifications as a Doctor. When they see me in scrubs they assume I am either a Janitor, Physician's Assistant, or Nurse. The problem is two fold; they assume I'm not a Doctor because there is a shortage of Black doctors. They question my qualifications because they don't believe we are capable of being Doctors--they have internalized white supremacy.

We need to do better.
Hellywood

Panama City, FL

#76 Aug 23, 2014
Most trolls in here are uneducated poor angry black male trash like me. I don't know how to act when I meet racialized people who are better than me. People like you destroy my generalizations and boring stereotypes. I hate you because you make me hate me.*signed a dumb jealous BM racist.

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