African American arranged marriages

African American arranged marriages

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“Not African, we're Orginal!”

Since: Sep 08

The World

#1 Jan 13, 2009
African American arranged marriages:
Arranged marriages have the tradition in African societies for centuries. Even today overwhelming majority of African Americans have their marriages planned by their parents and other respected family-members, with the consent of the bride and groom. Arranged matches were made after taking into account factors such as age, height, personal values and tastes, the backgrounds of their families (wealth, social standing) and the astrological compatibility of the couples' horoscopes.
The institution of marriage amongst Africans is considered a very important one. In general both the parents and the young people feel that since they were older and wiser than their progeny, they would be able to find a suitable match for their children with more prudence than the latter. Although most marriages are arranged, some couples amongst Africans are opting for love marriage in urban areas. Among the overseas Africans, many marriages are still arranged with the assistance of the parents. Even the so-called love marriages amongst African Americans generally happen with the approval of the parents, although their blessing may sometimes be reluctant.
With African Americans/Africans, the marriage is thought to be for life, and the divorce rate is extremely low, 1.1% compared with about 50% for USA. The arranged marriages generally have a much lower divorce rate. The divorce rates have risen significantly in recent years:
"Opinion is divided over what the phenomenon means: for traditionalists the rising numbers portend the breakdown of society while, for some modernists, they speak of a healthy new empowerment for women."
African/African American arranged marriages
Afro Dharma accords paramount importance to marriage between two people found compatible, and on an auspicious day, chosen to be compatible with the bride and the groom, with the blessings of the elders and in the presence of gods, so that the couple will flourish and walk in dharma, and any progeny conceived after such elaborate rituals would be a blessed soul and good human being.
Once the parents of both bride and groom agree with each in which all the relatives and known circle are called from both sides as a witness and to bless, then in that engagement function itself a date is fixed for marriage as per bride and grooms horoscope and astrologically auspicious day, the priest will announce to all that both the family are agreed to the acceptance of marriage of their son/daughter on the particular date. Then in the name of god both the families exchange fruits and cloths as a symbol of happy acceptance.
An auspicious day is chosen in accordance with the religious almanac and the bride and the groom's horoscopes, also if it is moon's phase (ascending is preferred by some) apart from any other logistical consideration.
The wedding is conducted in accordance with African rites and rituals with the invited guests considered to be the 'society' in whose presence the girl is given away in holy matrimony to the boy.
From that moment on, he is to consider himself responsible for fulfilling her smallest of small desires to the biggest of them, to the best of his ability. He promises to be faithful to her and to worship the ground she walks on. She in turn is to treat him as her lord and master, her guide and advisor through good and bad, for the rest of her life. They will only have sex when they are married.
Good god

Tunapuna, Trinidad and Tobago

#2 Jun 23, 2011
I am afro-caribbean and I am in an arranged marriage.Lucky for me I finf him attractive and good hearted and he thinks of me of the same way.
womynwarrior

Oakland, CA

#3 Nov 1, 2013
"...lord and master...guide and advisor...for the rest of her life. Problematic for this wom(b)an living in the present.
Blacks Are Worthless

Miami, FL

#4 Nov 1, 2013
Africans, what a tribe.
amadou dioulde

Saudi Arabia

#5 Apr 13, 2014
bonjour ou bonsoir se lon l'endroit ,,,,,,,,,,,
amadou dioulde

Saudi Arabia

#6 Apr 13, 2014
j'amerais rencontrer des africain americain
Cha

Bronx, NY

#7 Apr 13, 2014
Kobena wrote:
African American arranged marriages:
Arranged marriages have the tradition in African societies for centuries. Even today overwhelming majority of African Americans have their marriages planned by their parents and other respected family-members, with the consent of the bride and groom. Arranged matches were made after taking into account factors such as age, height, personal values and tastes, the backgrounds of their families (wealth, social standing) and the astrological compatibility of the couples' horoscopes.
The institution of marriage amongst Africans is considered a very important one. In general both the parents and the young people feel that since they were older and wiser than their progeny, they would be able to find a suitable match for their children with more prudence than the latter. Although most marriages are arranged, some couples amongst Africans are opting for love marriage in urban areas. Among the overseas Africans, many marriages are still arranged with the assistance of the parents. Even the so-called love marriages amongst African Americans generally happen with the approval of the parents, although their blessing may sometimes be reluctant.
With African Americans/Africans, the marriage is thought to be for life, and the divorce rate is extremely low, 1.1% compared with about 50% for USA. The arranged marriages generally have a much lower divorce rate. The divorce rates have risen significantly in recent years:
"Opinion is divided over what the phenomenon means: for traditionalists the rising numbers portend the breakdown of society while, for some modernists, they speak of a healthy new empowerment for women."
African/African American arranged marriages
Afro Dharma accords paramount importance to marriage between two people found compatible, and on an auspicious day, chosen to be compatible with the bride and the groom, with the blessings of the elders and in the presence of gods, so that the couple will flourish and walk in dharma, and any progeny conceived after such elaborate rituals would be a blessed soul and good human being.
Once the parents of both bride and groom agree with each in which all the relatives and known circle are called from both sides as a witness and to bless, then in that engagement function itself a date is fixed for marriage as per bride and grooms horoscope and astrologically auspicious day, the priest will announce to all that both the family are agreed to the acceptance of marriage of their son/daughter on the particular date. Then in the name of god both the families exchange fruits and cloths as a symbol of happy acceptance.
An auspicious day is chosen in accordance with the religious almanac and the bride and the groom's horoscopes, also if it is moon's phase (ascending is preferred by some) apart from any other logistical consideration.
The wedding is conducted in accordance with African rites and rituals with the invited guests considered to be the 'society' in whose presence the girl is given away in holy matrimony to the boy.
From that moment on, he is to consider himself responsible for fulfilling her smallest of small desires to the biggest of them, to the best of his ability. He promises to be faithful to her and to worship the ground she walks on. She in turn is to treat him as her lord and master, her guide and advisor through good and bad, for the rest of her life. They will only have sex when they are married.
My parents told me how YEARS AGO here in the 'STATES' African American parents ACTUALLY USE TO DO THAT; a African tradition practice by a FEW- right here in the 'STATES' that eventually died out; however, it WAS DONE.
Though this traditional practice was, and STILL is practiced in a few countries within the continent of AFRICA, always was a tradition practice there. Though I was blessed to have made fairly good choice, I personally, have no ill feelings towards this traditional practice.
amadou dioulde

Saudi Arabia

#8 Apr 14, 2014
des bonnes personnes,,,,,,,,,,,,,bonnes intentions..............
American Women

Brooklyn, NY

#9 Oct 2, 2014
I need to find a well diversed African Man to Marry

“Hunde kala e saa'i mun”

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#10 Oct 2, 2014
American Women wrote:
I need to find a well diversed African Man to Marry
Best of luck
American Women

College Point, NY

#11 Nov 22, 2014
I would prefer someone practicing the same faith as I

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