Here's to a bright Future for Black W...
Frank

Clarkston, MI

#1311 Jan 27, 2013
Capree wrote:
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Buying people extra homes, condos, cars, jewelry and expensive trips isn't providing for them it is lavishing them. OJ lavished Nicoles white family with presents in order to buy their friendship and assistance in pushing Nicole into his arms. I would had sooner flushed my money down the toilet. Real men are concerned with providing for their wives and children and not a bunch of grownazz users!
Many REAL men, such as JFK's dad, Joe Kennedy, have been known to do BOTH.

Some men are stingy, some men are generous, some men are giving, some men are selfish, some men are combinations and variations, but they are all "REAL men".
Capree wrote:
No human being can truly own another human being no matter how much money, furs and jewels OJ gave Nicole, she still did what she wanted like giving oral sex to some white guy in their living room as OJ peeked in the window.
You're right. He was the guy that OJ was YELLING at her about on the infamous 911 tape.

They say Nicole called OJ to come over, leaving the curtians open in the front window so he would see her sexing her lover.

She was hoping that he would beat her ass, so she could get an increase in support payment, so she set the whole thing up.

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#1312 Jan 27, 2013
Alfie wrote:
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No no I only date bw
Ok but bw aren't the sellouts.

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#1313 Jan 27, 2013
Frank wrote:
<quoted text>Many REAL men, such as JFK's dad, Joe Kennedy, have been known to do BOTH.
Some men are stingy, some men are generous, some men are giving, some men are selfish, some men are combinations and variations, but they are all "REAL men".
<quoted text>You're right. He was the guy that OJ was YELLING at her about on the infamous 911 tape.
They say Nicole called OJ to come over, leaving the curtians open in the front window so he would see her sexing her lover.
She was hoping that he would beat her ass, so she could get an increase in support payment, so she set the whole thing up.
Just because some old, womanizing, crook bootlegged his way to the top doesn't make him a real man. He was indeed rich enough to take of his family and chick on the side but he put his wife and children through hell with his public displayed affairs. President Kennedy was good man for the common people but his father was trash who taught him and his brothers some of his low-life ways.
Nomad

Torrance, CA

#1315 Jan 27, 2013
BM don't care what BW do. There is so much of 'this' out there, who has the time lol!

Frank

Clarkston, MI

#1317 Jan 27, 2013
irregardless = regardless
Nomad

Torrance, CA

#1318 Jan 27, 2013
Bulls*it. I used to live in O.J. Potrero Hill neighborhood in San Francisco and I went to Galileo High too (much later than he did). O.J. wasn't ridin' no white d*ck. OJ didn't ride anybody's d*ck but I heard he kicked some mean white boy and Chinese ass when they couldn't find the GG bridge to jump off and decided to f*ck with him instead.
Capree wrote:
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Please! OJ not only kissed and licked Nicole's azz out and her families too, inorder to get her. Once he got her, he thought he owned her and it drove him crazy when she still reached out to her white men. OJ greatest wish was to be white and OJ's own self-hate of being black, made him feel like a worthless nicca no matter how successful he was. I think he actually lost respect for Nicole for marrying a black man like himself.

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#1319 Jan 27, 2013
Capree wrote:
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No because you are kissing WW's azzes.
Like you kiss the WM's.
Sadbuttrue

Woodbridge, VA

#1320 Jan 27, 2013
Tim from Evanston wrote:
<quoted text>Like you kiss the WM's.
MACEO

Kissing their Ass for 35 years only to end up with nothing! LMAO

Your a FOOL!
Sadbuttrue

Woodbridge, VA

#1321 Jan 27, 2013
All1234 wrote:
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I think the biggest fault of single aa mothers is that out of desp
MACEO

Can you blame Black women for moving on? Hell to the Damn NO! lmao

No, fabrication!

Ask MACEO for the link for OkCupid; they also did a poll for Internet Dating with the Major dating sites.

The Response from Black male to Black female was only 27%! Not only was it the lowest response out of all the races but other races got more of a response from Black women then Black men did.

White men scored the highest with 10% higher range and Asian men were 8%, falling in second.

Black women were the "least desired" by all races as well as Black males who had "Red Boxes" in almost every area by every race of women.

So that basically confirmed what my GF said on the Dating Polls! Who response to who!

they said Black women respond more to "men" than other races of women. As well as Black males are 25 times more aggressive to other races of women than their own race because they don't get much of a response.

It appears that what my GF said is true! Black women are swearing off Black males in large numbers especially attractive, educated Black women who feel they have more options than other Black women to date/marry out. They have more to offer another race of man and are generally not as demanding as other women. There not only attractive, educated, well traveled but they feel they can enhance and bring some thing to the table besides looks.

Bottom line is women want to get married and build a legacy. Todays Black woman don't feel they can do that with "Marginal Black Man" who collectively don't respect women, abandon their children and don't seen to what to work for anything in life.

Life is all about the next generation doing better and Black men are not doing anything except chasing ASS and wasting time.

Time to move on and that's what many Black women are doing these days!

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#1322 Jan 27, 2013
Nomad wrote:
Bulls*it. I used to live in O.J. Potrero Hill neighborhood in San Francisco and I went to Galileo High too (much later than he did). O.J. wasn't ridin' no white d*ck. OJ didn't ride anybody's d*ck but I heard he kicked some mean white boy and Chinese ass when they couldn't find the GG bridge to jump off and decided to f*ck with him instead.
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The only people OJ hated worse than black men where black women. OJ only kept a few black men hang-ons to do his bidding. Beyond that OJ surrounded himself with white men and white women to be his friends and trustees. OJ even supported white moocher Kato Kaelin and let him live off of him for years.

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#1323 Jan 27, 2013
Tim from Evanston wrote:
<quoted text>Like you kiss the WM's.
I don't need to kiss any person's azz!

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#1324 Jan 27, 2013
Funny how many black men promote disloyality, jealousy and hatred among us black women but support black men sticking together and covering each other no matter what.
SMH

Jacksonville, FL

#1325 Jan 27, 2013
Capree wrote:
Funny how many black men promote disloyality, jealousy and hatred among us black women but support black men sticking together and covering each other no matter what.
Blacks are the only race who date outside their race and put down their own people. You people are fcking pathetic, and by far, the lowest race on the planet.

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#1326 Jan 27, 2013
SMH wrote:
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Blacks are the only race who date outside their race and put down their own people. You people are fcking pathetic, and by far, the lowest race on the planet.
Remember this did not start with black women who for a long time supported black men no matter what. Black men were the first ones to betray, devalue and ridicule black women. At this point is when black women started withdrawing their support of black men and telling the truth.
Sadbuttrue

Woodbridge, VA

#1327 Jan 28, 2013
Capree wrote:
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The only people OJ hated worse than black men where black women. OJ only kept a few black men hang-ons to do his bidding. Beyond that OJ surrounded himself with white men and white women to be his friends and trustees. OJ even supported white moocher Kato Kaelin and let him live off of him for years.
Capree

Yes, this is true! I see this in "Slave Mentality" Black males who do for White's entire family but not their own!

I'm not a racist, not against White people or IR marriage; but I see black men doing this all the time; they even let their own family go without for the White woman

MACEO and many of his friends are this way! Then they wonder why Black women don't want Black males! Then Black men arrogant ASS wants to "Live off the backs of Black women" when they've done nothing with their lives!

I don't blame Black women for moving on!
Sadbuttrue

Woodbridge, VA

#1328 Jan 28, 2013
SMH wrote:
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Blacks are the only race who date outside their race and put down their own people. You people are fcking pathetic, and by far, the lowest race on the planet.
MACEO

Capree described you perfectly and you know it! You look like a Grandiose Fool for supporting your White wife's family and didn't do for your own!

You hated on Black women because you couldn't attract a "Successful light skin Black women" when you didn't do anything with your life! You keep saying your not the "Thug, Criminal but a Nice Guy", I disagree with you!

You didn't do anything with your life except "Cheat on your white wife the entire duration of your marriage" !All you thought about was yourself; you wouldn't even do for your own Black family!

Your a broke OJ who married and Unattractive White woman! You did her wrong too!

A smart Black woman wouldn't have gone along with your selfish, self centered agenda but I guess a Naive white women did!

She didn't get any from you except your DISRESPECT!
Sadbuttrue

Woodbridge, VA

#1329 Jan 28, 2013
Capree wrote:
Funny how many black men promote disloyality, jealousy and hatred among us black women but support black men sticking together and covering each other no matter what.
Capree

So true and they will laugh about their abuses to Black women as well as not supporting their kids and brag on it like its an achievement!

Many even brag about not marrying Black women as well and a few Brag about not having kids with anyone!

Black men being absent has really messed up Black men and the race as a whole. Young Black women such as yourself can't even look up to Older mature Black men because in many cases not only are they "Worse in terms of Attitude, they're Broke, have poor credit" and not really a "Role model" to any Black women who are young!

Black women see these trifling Ass black males who look pathetic in in their own age; in many case their been "Rejected so much" because of their own behaviors; nobody wants them!

Sadly I see lot of Black males who were married to WW/Non Black women and now they want a Black woman with a good job, that's kind, stunning with a job to accept them "As is"! lmao

They haven't done anything for Black women, nothing for their children, feel their God's Gift to woman when they have less to offer in Assets or "Good consideration" then other races!

If you compare Black males to other races; Black women really don't get much. In fact, Essence did a survey and said Black women get 350-400 % less from Black males than other women get as basics from their men!

That alone should make most Black women run!

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Since: Jan 13

Minneapolis, MN

#1330 Jan 28, 2013
DISASTER LOOMS wrote:
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i think aam were doing a pretty good job fighting for their families during he civil rights era. but the breakdown of the family led to the culture of promiscuity that we see today. oow multiple baby daddies and mommies. sexual activity early and often, and std rates through the roof. highest abortion rates and multiple abortion rates. low marriage rates and high divorce rates. and the promiscuous lifestyle and single black female headed households being fully accepted by the larger culture and the aa subculture.
and this downward spiral happening within just one generation.
both aam and aaw accepted a new type of personal relationship that didn't expect anything from them. so in this sense they both to blame.
AAM were doing a GREAT job fighting for their families and communities during the Civil Rights Era and long before. And AAW did a great job of supporting, encouraging, and loving their men through those same periods.

OOW children, high STD rates, and an overall subculture that promotes sexual promiscuity and looking out for self rather than our community. How did we get here?? And better yet, what can we do to change it?

I suggested two things that I feel would help as a BW:
1) Stop Preaching the idea that women can raise men-- in other words women don't need a man so that Mothers and daughters will re-learn the importance and value of Men

2) Begin to recognize the importance of doing everything that you can to keep that man there and keep him happy in order to keep our families healthy and together. We as women can not force a man to do anything, but this is something that is within our powers to help keep our families intact

What do you as BM suggest that we BW can do?

What do you as BM suggest that BM can?

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#1331 Jan 28, 2013
All1234 wrote:
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AAM were doing a GREAT job fighting for their families and communities during the Civil Rights Era and long before. And AAW did a great job of supporting, encouraging, and loving their men through those same periods.
OOW children, high STD rates, and an overall subculture that promotes sexual promiscuity and looking out for self rather than our community. How did we get here?? And better yet, what can we do to change it?
I suggested two things that I feel would help as a BW:
1) Stop Preaching the idea that women can raise men-- in other words women don't need a man so that Mothers and daughters will re-learn the importance and value of Men
2) Begin to recognize the importance of doing everything that you can to keep that man there and keep him happy in order to keep our families healthy and together. We as women can not force a man to do anything, but this is something that is within our powers to help keep our families intact
What do you as BM suggest that we BW can do?
What do you as BM suggest that BM can?
bm need to be more paternal, and bw need to be maternal. people naturally try to make things work when they put their kids 1st. and children benefit in many ways from their bond with their parents. specifically both beastfeeding from the mother, and 'play' from the father, increases intelligent and modifies behavior.

bw need to stop having kids with multiple men, unless the 1st father is definitely outta her life. according to a study this was the #1 reason why aa fathers become distant from their kids, when the mother starts having more kids with other dudes.

bw need to learn how to be selfless. all other women are selfless with their man, except bw who tend to be narcissistic.

bm need to value education - both formal and informal. and have responsible short term and long term goals and the discipline to meet'm. no one likes a stupid man with no ambition.

both aam and aaw need to love their race culture heritage and the aa community. understanding that you part of something bigger than yourself and taking pride in it, can helps to reinforce your personal bonds. and can motivate individuals to strive for excellence.

there's probably more but i can't think of'm right now.

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Since: Jan 13

Minneapolis, MN

#1332 Jan 28, 2013
DISASTER LOOMS wrote:
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bm need to be more paternal, and bw need to be maternal. people naturally try to make things work when they put their kids 1st. and children benefit in many ways from their bond with their parents. specifically both beastfeeding from the mother, and 'play' from the father, increases intelligent and modifies behavior.
bw need to stop having kids with multiple men, unless the 1st father is definitely outta her life. according to a study this was the #1 reason why aa fathers become distant from their kids, when the mother starts having more kids with other dudes.
bw need to learn how to be selfless. all other women are selfless with their man, except bw who tend to be narcissistic.
bm need to value education - both formal and informal. and have responsible short term and long term goals and the discipline to meet'm. no one likes a stupid man with no ambition.
both aam and aaw need to love their race culture heritage and the aa community. understanding that you part of something bigger than yourself and taking pride in it, can helps to reinforce your personal bonds. and can motivate individuals to strive for excellence.
there's probably more but i can't think of'm right now.
Selflessness. Now that's an interesting idea... I think you're on to something.

So, as a result of bad experiences (whether your own or someone you know) a bw develops a fear of being hurt. And with that fear you no longer open yourself to vulnerability. And once you're afraid to be vulnerable, how can a person be selfless?

This might seem like a no brainer to most men, but me being a bw, I think about some of the single bw I know who can be the most selfless, loving, caring people I know. But I do notice that they can hesitate to show this side in relationships in fear of being taken advantage of. And how can you have love when you're afraid to love??

So what comes first the chicken or the egg? Is it the women who need to just change their minds and step out on faith that this man won't be the one to hurt them? or should the men begin to realize the effect that they themself or another brotha caused in a sista, who then carries that pain to the next relationship. What if bm began to treat every sista with love whether they were with that person romantically or not-- which would have positive effects on the next black couple and our community as a whole?

I do think if aaw were more cautious with who we get involved with and allow in their life in the first place, we would then be free to love as hard as we can-- making us selfless, which causes a man to love her harder...

Sorry if I'm thinking too mechanically about this, but I'm really trying to pinpoint where the disconnect happens.

Idk, what are your thoughts?

(The other comments about # of fathers, setting and achieving goals, etc all make sense as well, but the aspect of selflessness intrigued me the most)

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