Zimbabwean men
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“Its all instilled by reason”

Since: Dec 07

Nottingham

#1 Dec 29, 2007
Has anyone dated a Zimbabwean guy? what were your findings?

“The One You Love To Hate”

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Since: Dec 06

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#2 Dec 29, 2007
I have not dated an Zimbabwean guy, but I have had one try "unsuccessfully" to date me - and oh by the way, he was married:

My story is below:

My former boss was from Zimbabwe. He was a black african around 38 years of age. He had just married a white woman who had cancer and was undergoing chemotherapy treatments.

Well, after fondling one too many people at my job, he was "fired".(I guess he thought that having pictures of his "white wife" around his office everyone would give him some immunity to being booted by the higher up white bosses and he was wrong).

After he was fired, and I was looking for another job, because we had always been cool, I called him up and asked for a reference (I mean, he was still my former boss) and he obliged.

Well, after that phone call he started calling "me". Over and over again. He said he was just checking up on me. He didn't know much about my living situation but he knew I owned a home not far from him. As I had never spoken to him about a boyfriend (and I have one by the way) he assumed I was single.

He started asking to come over "just to talk". I knew this was inappropriate and always weazled my way out of it by saying I was out of town, etc.

His calls became more constant and finally "sexual" in nature. I was deeply offended by this behavior but I have found that African men (and I've dated a couple from Senegalese, Nigerian and Ghanian) don't mind cheating on their spouses AT ALL.

They feel as long as they are working and paying bills, outside cootchie is no problem at all. I finally got tired of this little cat and mouse game and the fact he could not pick up on my hints I didn't want his ugly ass.(And yes, he was dirt ugly - uglier than anything I had ever seen and I could not understand how anyone would have sex with him - thinking about it grossed me out).

I'm not sure if all Zimbabweans are like that, but if he is any indication of what you can expect, I say take the money and run.

“Its all instilled by reason”

Since: Dec 07

Nottingham

#3 Dec 29, 2007
its funny because all the Zimbabwean men I have met seem to run around on their girls but if you say this to a Zimbabwean man all hell will break lose and they deny they are anything like that.

thank you for your story!
irhb

Newark, NJ

#4 Dec 29, 2007
He probably have 13 wives back in Africa, just like the king of Swaziland.
Yolanda wrote:
I have not dated an Zimbabwean guy, but I have had one try "unsuccessfully" to date me - and oh by the way, he was married:
My story is below:
My former boss was from Zimbabwe. He was a black african around 38 years of age. He had just married a white woman who had cancer and was undergoing chemotherapy treatments.
Well, after fondling one too many people at my job, he was "fired".(I guess he thought that having pictures of his "white wife" around his office everyone would give him some immunity to being booted by the higher up white bosses and he was wrong).
After he was fired, and I was looking for another job, because we had always been cool, I called him up and asked for a reference (I mean, he was still my former boss) and he obliged.
Well, after that phone call he started calling "me". Over and over again. He said he was just checking up on me. He didn't know much about my living situation but he knew I owned a home not far from him. As I had never spoken to him about a boyfriend (and I have one by the way) he assumed I was single.
He started asking to come over "just to talk". I knew this was inappropriate and always weazled my way out of it by saying I was out of town, etc.
His calls became more constant and finally "sexual" in nature. I was deeply offended by this behavior but I have found that African men (and I've dated a couple from Senegalese, Nigerian and Ghanian) don't mind cheating on their spouses AT ALL.
They feel as long as they are working and paying bills, outside cootchie is no problem at all. I finally got tired of this little cat and mouse game and the fact he could not pick up on my hints I didn't want his ugly ass.(And yes, he was dirt ugly - uglier than anything I had ever seen and I could not understand how anyone would have sex with him - thinking about it grossed me out).
I'm not sure if all Zimbabweans are like that, but if he is any indication of what you can expect, I say take the money and run.

“Its all instilled by reason”

Since: Dec 07

Nottingham

#5 Dec 29, 2007
you could be onto something there, thats what my mum said 'make sure he doesnt have a wife somewhere' when she found out i was dating one!
irhb

Newark, NJ

#6 Dec 30, 2007
Good advise. Most African men in the US have several wives back in Africa.
Instilled by Reason wrote:
you could be onto something there, thats what my mum said 'make sure he doesnt have a wife somewhere' when she found out i was dating one!

“Its all instilled by reason”

Since: Dec 07

Nottingham

#7 Dec 30, 2007
ihrb, you had any experience dating them? if you are female that is. i know the ladies are more respectable to date.

“The One You Love To Hate”

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Since: Dec 06

Location hidden

#8 Dec 30, 2007
irhb wrote:
Good advise. Most African men in the US have several wives back in Africa.
<quoted text>
I agree with you.

Many african men do have wives when they get to the U.S. especially if they come here in their 20's. They never tell women about this though.

When I use to live I met so many african men who were quick to say there were not married, and after some time I found out they were. They were always taking those trips back home and it was NOT always to see their mothers as they so often stated.

They think American women are so stupid. And unfortunately in cities like Atlanta, GA there are many stupid women. So many that fall for this for a man with a job (since the women in Atlanta outnumber men like 18 to 1 and its more than that if you exlude the men who do not work).

“The One You Love To Hate”

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#9 Dec 30, 2007
Oops.

My second paragraph sentence should have started off with "When I use to live in ATLANTA I met so many african men .........
Never Again

Irving, TX

#10 Oct 15, 2008
I am married to a Zimbabwean man it was a huge mistake. We have children now and he has run off to live in another country because he is a "refuge" yeah right defrauding the system. I have not been given a divorce and after he left I found out he was sleeping around all over town. In particular African women that knew we were married. I asked my friend and she said well when the marry you all everyone knows its not a real marriage and just for papers. The only advise I can offer anyone out there about ZIMBABWEAN MEN is proceed with extreme caution they don't respect women not even their own its just that a lot of them are conditioned to believe that their behavior is normal.
Crap

Saint Cloud, MN

#11 Dec 17, 2008
I don't know for sure, but I have a the impression that my brand new husband has messed around on me. He tells me no all the time, but I've got this gut feeling theres sumthin going on, I think it's time for me to draw up the divorce papers even though we've only made it like 4 months. I'm not about to get screwed over in this one, lets call it a pre-emptive strike.
Never Again wrote:
I am married to a Zimbabwean man it was a huge mistake. We have children now and he has run off to live in another country because he is a "refuge" yeah right defrauding the system. I have not been given a divorce and after he left I found out he was sleeping around all over town. In particular African women that knew we were married. I asked my friend and she said well when the marry you all everyone knows its not a real marriage and just for papers. The only advise I can offer anyone out there about ZIMBABWEAN MEN is proceed with extreme caution they don't respect women not even their own its just that a lot of them are conditioned to believe that their behavior is normal.
kay

Gloucester, UK

#12 Apr 16, 2009
I am a single white zimbabwean woman. I dated 2 zimbabwean men. They good and treat their women well, they got old fashioned manners and its great. I am still not married but I would love to marry a Zimbo. They are really good guys!!!

In africa like many countries/ continents in the world - men do cheat. Just becareful, and hope you don't get a cheating man.
GODDY

Harare, Zimbabwe

#16 Jul 14, 2009
WE HAVE MORE THAN 5 MILLION ZIMBABWEAN MAN AND I AM ONE. YOU ARE JUST STERIOTYPING. THE 2 MEN YOU KNOW ARE NOT EVEN A FRACTION OF 5 MILLION ZIMBO MAN. YES THEY ARE SOME WHO ARE LIKE THAT BUT DONT SAY ALL ZIMBABWEAN MAN. I HAVE STAYED IN SO MANY COUNTRIES BUT HAVE NEVER MARRIED THERE. ALWAYS GO HOME TO ZIMBABWE TO HAVE SEX WITH MY WIFE AND MOVED BACK WHEN I FIND IT TIRESOME. GUESS WHAT WE ARE HAPPILY MARRIED. PEOPLE ALSO TALK ABOUT AMERICAN WOMAN AS LOOSE AND HIGH SEXUAL IMMORALITY BUT WE DONT TALK. REMEMBER THEY ARE FULL IN PORNOGRAPHIC MATERIALS SO WHO IS BAADD
Zoey louise

Basildon, UK

#17 Aug 23, 2009
I am married to a loving, caring man and we have two beautiful children together. I bet i would find it hard to find a british guy that was a loving father, a trusting, faithful husband and not to mention sexy as hell!

You are all steriotping and trashing the Zimbabwean name - they are lovely people with good morales and a whole nation can not be blamed for these zimbabweans you have come into contact with.

So many western men cheat on their wifes/girlfriends also. More marriages last longer in zimbabwe than in the UK or US so what does that tell you?
J KK

UK

#18 Sep 29, 2009
Ive worked with numerous men from Zim and dated 2. I also have female zimbabwee friends whom are married to zim men.
I am yet to meet a decent,faithfull, truth telling zimbabwean male.
They are visous, jealous, lying, cheating ill mannered individuals.
No wonder the country is in utter turmoil and been booted out of the common wealth!!
Be more aware ladies, they are very bad news.
They are also very violent by nature if you ever get involved in an argument with one then run!!!!!
Cockney Lass

London, UK

#19 Sep 30, 2009
I am a white Anglo Saxon British woman (yes blue eyed, blonde-haired and all that) and I have been happily married to my Zimbabwean husband for close to 10 years now. I could not have asked for a better husband than him. He is a wonderful husband to me and the best father our son and two daughters could ever have. He is old fashioned enough to insist on teaching our kids good old African-community manners, yet modern enough to cook breakfast and dinner for the family when he chooses!

I think Yolanda and some of the women here are just stereotyping the nation of Zimbabwe. You will find adulterous cheating men wherever you go.

When the world's media broke the story that former New York governor Elliot Spitzer was cheating on his wife by paying for sex with a call girl, did that make every American man a cheating idiot? Or here in the U.K. when former British Home Secretary David Blunkett was exposed as having an affair with a married woman and fathering a child with her, did that mean that every British man was a cheating bastard? How many people trashed and stereotyped British men when former Deputy Prime Minister John Prescott had an affair with his secretary?

Stop trashing Zimbabwean men for goodness sake. For some of us who are happily married and who have lived amongst Zimbabwean people in Zimbabwe, we know the truth and the truth is that they are the most caring, loving gentle people you can find on this earth. And that includes the men.

Peace and love!!!!
tracey

Australia

#20 Nov 21, 2009
I m from australia and I have decided that zim men are not worth the paper their birthcert is printed on. Well you may think this is harsh but I have had enough of them and will overtly now refuse any zinbo that approaches me. Since coming to australia I thought that maybe I should give african men a chance. as I now live in a conservative community and have always been an independant single woman. I myself being part african also (mum white/dad african Kenya)have always had a lot of respect from the men I have met in the past from africa. But in australia they have become corrupted beyond belief. Let me relate my experience from the past 3 years: So far every zim man I have met has stuffed me around. No1- stalker, No2 got me kicked out of my apartment no.#1 and rang up a bill on my telephone in the hundreds of dollars (which thankfully I was able to get the local service provider to pay off) No3 beat me up and put me in hospital, left me i=on a street bleeding and the police found me - victims support compensation still in negotiation, No4- not a bF just friend (what a joke) and his mate fought in my apartment and I was faced with a court case from primary flatmate at which I was blamed for the fight and niether showed to support me as friends and finally - they just believed that that behaviour was ok at my apartment - possibly because it wasn't their own., No6- longest relationship - accepted loans from me and then ran out when I wasn't in the position to help him anymore, and needed the act in kind from him.In the entire year together he has given me a packet of smokes an $40 for food, when in comparison we took him in as family and treated him with respect and now he cries VICTIM because I had enough of being treated like his dirty little secret.No7- married and couldn't understand why I was not interested in an affair with him - like that is normal behaviour for everyone. As far as I am concerned their is only one zim I trust and he is strictly a plutonic friend. I just think they are a huge waste of space and worst of all I didn't resort to this attitude easily, until I knew that their's had defeated me. I can now officially say I am racist against zimbo men - and will never date another one. They get their willing girls to fight their battles for them so they can sit back and watch a cat fight. I find them to be ethnocentric and have a lot of hatred for people that would be classed as coloureds in their country (perhaps this is a historical thing I don't know) I am not a zim and us kenyans don't have their pathetic apartied system colouring our judgements of other african people. The next time I meet a zim who makes a proposition to me I have decided to walk away. The worst thing is - I have always been a pan- africanist thinker but zim men have truley tested that. All I have to say to them is thankyou for contributing to the further black on black hatred that exists in this world.
Jasmine

Derby, UK

#21 Nov 21, 2009
Tracey, supposing that your story is true, if Zim men were really that bad, why did you go on and date 7 of them?

You come across like a very bitter woman. Did some girl entice your Zim boyfriend away from under your nose?
Back Beauty

Leyland, UK

#22 Jan 5, 2010
Tracey, all i can say is you are so full of hate and, being a Zimbo, i think you you are the one contributing in what you called 'black on black hatred'
I would have wanted to say much but i feel you are a waste of space and i really do not want to offend my Kenyan friends that i have in abundance. Best of luck with your hunt for the perfect man--- i found my Zim Prince xxx
carol

United States

#23 Jan 29, 2010
how do african men feel about african american women

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