Level 6

Since: May 07

Sunnyvale, CA

#219 Jul 16, 2010
I think black women should stop with the attitude bs and I think black men should start approaching. Then we will start to see some light here.

“100%”

Level 8

Since: Jan 10

Orlando, FL

#221 Jul 16, 2010
DISASTER LOOMS wrote:
<quoted text>
Do you know there's an AA community in the Dominican Republic, and they're been there for hundreds of years? And they're still distinctly culturally AA??? These people are probably more AA than blacks on the west coast because there aren't any whites to mix with. That's my point. Cultural extinction isn't that much of a threat (yet) on the East Coast due to the larger number of AA and other afro-latinos.
So you saying the only reason many blacks date each other is because they're isolated from other races or living among various ethnic groups will destroy our culture? To me that isn't a good excuse. We can still maintain our culture if we choose too. Immigrants do it all the time. Plus many of them disagree with mixing and are taught not to mix outside their race by the relatives.

Since: Jul 07

Philadelphia, PA

#222 Jul 16, 2010
Brownsuga26 wrote:
<quoted text>
I see a lot of black women dating out so take your pitty party else where. I've had no problem with dating out and so do many other of the youger black women. So if you want to continue complaining about black men then go right ahead however there are many of us who recognize men of other races and do not care what black men think. you need to get someone counseling on self esteem.
Whatever. Who the hell is complaining about black men? I'm not. I'm just saying that black people tend to date each other more, that's all I said so shut the fuck up! Just because I have pride on myself to not date a cracker doesn't mean that I have low self esteem. Go ahead with that bullshit!

“100%”

Level 8

Since: Jan 10

Orlando, FL

#224 Jul 16, 2010
AA's date outside their race probably because we are not taught growing up that race mixing is right or wrong. We are taught everyone is equal. Of course there are some blacks who still don't agree but majority of us are not brought up to breed among our race only. There are other races tho who are taught not to date outside. I have heard stories of Indians, Arabs among few who have literally killed their own child for dating out cause that is disgraceful in their family.

“The Ah-Nizzle”

Level 2

Since: Nov 07

Los Angeles

#225 Jul 16, 2010
Nicole Little wrote:
<quoted text>
It ain't coming from my side and my city so I don't know what you are talking about. Black men and black women in New York and Philly either be with each other or they date out, so pleast take that somewhere else. With that attitude that you got, you can see why brothers don't want to be bothered with us.
Philly sucks

“"Checkin things out"”

Level 2

Since: Aug 09

Fair Fax Va.

#226 Jul 16, 2010
Nicole Little wrote:
<quoted text>
Whatever. Who the hell is complaining about black men? I'm not. I'm just saying that black people tend to date each other more, that's all I said so shut the fuck up! Just because I have pride on myself to not date a cracker doesn't mean that I have low self esteem. Go ahead with that bullshit!
Nicole your mouth is filthy. All I'm saying is that if you want to be dedcated to black men fine but be perpared for the fall out. Most black men do date in their race however not every black man does. Black men who even date in their race have issues. It's not even worth it. You don't have to date white men ,however, what about Hispanic men? All I'm saying all this time you spend waiting for a black man you could've found you a man in another race. Being dedicated to black men is going to limit you. You don't owe black men anything.

Since: Jul 07

Philadelphia, PA

#227 Jul 16, 2010
King Ahzi wrote:
<quoted text>
Philly sucks
Philly doesn't suck! At least we have a strong black culture in Philly unlike California.

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#228 Jul 16, 2010
Nicole Little wrote:
<quoted text>
Excuse me, but I know you ain't talking about me about having low self esteem. You don't even know me, and me complaining about black men is LONG GONE, so that shit is old news. Just because I tell the truth doesn't mean that I have low self esteem. I'm doing just fine being single so you don't know what I'm talking about. The truth is most white men in America do not want black women, and that's a fact. Take it or leave it. Don't wait until I'm gone to talk about me behind my back. You don't know shit about me. Thanks.
Not trying to be mean or anything, but I have been reading this thread for the past couple of days and you have been all over here writing your thoughts and ranting. I have to agree with SexyBlkWoman about how you come off. And I am sure we are not the only two BW here who see it.

You keep flip-flopping about BM in IRRs and how you are glad you are not from the West Coast because of that and then an hour later you will say it doesn't bother you and you are so over it. Well, if you would re-read some of the things you posted here, it certainly sounds like you are bitter about BM in IRRs.

You have the right to stick to "your own kind," but when you constantly complain about "your own kind" - in your steadfast loyalty - and then refuse to see any other option, it is an unintelligent way to react because that is an unhealthy solution.

That is why you are so bitter.'Cause it pisses you off, you feel left out, and you see no hope out of the present situation. You are not dumb so you know the numbers don't stack up in your favor.

That is why you are on here 20/7, not resting, bathing, and eating like you should, letting off steam.

Listen to yourself.
just reading

Chesapeake, VA

#229 Jul 16, 2010
Tony17 wrote:
Well I declare.
LOL

Level 8

Since: May 10

Location hidden

#230 Jul 16, 2010
SEXYBLKWOMAN wrote:
Once again get the fuck out of here a relationship is a job an its not something you take lightly you really don't know what you are talking about!! An you are talking about going with Africans but they have already told you that they believe in staying with in there own tribe.
<quoted text>
A relationship is a lot of things, but it isn't anything without compatibility. You can be sure that no one wants a "job" if the work doesn't match the reward. Why do you think so few people are getting married and so many marriages end in divorce? And why has this become the major issue that it is, today?

A man looks for a certain type of woman when he's thinking about serious relationship and marriage. But we don't get his side of the staying single phenomenon, and why he hasn't found the "one" who he couldn't say no to.
If you know the story of Adam, Lilith, and Eve. I liken these three characters to the typical dynamic between men and women, as I believe this is its purpose. imo, the AAW is more Lilith than she is Eve. She's selfish, rebellious, arrogant, and vindictive. Her home is not nurturing and comforting, but hostile and confrontational. And the only thing she ever submits to is her own lusts and ambitions. She also hates other women (Eve) who don't share her traits and view of the world. And will continuously seek to ridicule and corrupt "Eve".

To be sure, women will always define the nature and substance of her relationship with her man. This is the one area where women lead and men, follow. But you don't get to have anything you want, whenever you want it. You can't be Lilith and a slave to your own desires and expect your man to follow. Eve is closely bound to her man and shares his vision, submits and caters to his needs. She's on the same page as her man, and understands the art of compromise, and her virtue is a prominent part of her character. But there are few Eves among AAW, and many Liliths. The Adam and Eve relationship between AAM and AAW was badly damaged during slavery and continued to be assault throughout the Jim Crow years, in the media and from the rise of black feminism. It's unlikely that it can ever be repaired.

But one possible solution for AAM who want to maintain their black identify, and build a black home and community is the foreign option - African, Caribbean, and Afro-latina - expanding their option in a more afrocentric kind of way. Any together AAM who decides to go this route won't have any problem finding his black queen, this you can be sure of.

“"Checkin things out"”

Level 2

Since: Aug 09

Fair Fax Va.

#231 Jul 16, 2010
Redefined wrote:
AA's date outside their race probably because we are not taught growing up that race mixing is right or wrong. We are taught everyone is equal. Of course there are some blacks who still don't agree but majority of us are not brought up to breed among our race only. There are other races tho who are taught not to date outside. I have heard stories of Indians, Arabs among few who have literally killed their own child for dating out cause that is disgraceful in their family.
I think most American's have no problem with IR dating. Those Indians and Arabs who find it a disgrace to marry out are usually born and raised in their native countries before they come here. Most Africans who were born and raised in Africa date in their race and culture.
just reading

Chesapeake, VA

#232 Jul 16, 2010
Wow some funny stuff going on in here! lol, I'm very entertained. Anyway heres my 2 cents, If your the one always complaining, maybe its you..., I don't have any problems being approached. black, white, hell even the mexicans follow me around in the grocery store every once an awhile, I don't see what the problem is and what east coast west coast has to do with it, you want what you want and you like what you like and you will find a way to get it if its in your area or not.
just reading

Chesapeake, VA

#233 Jul 16, 2010
sorry for typos!:0

Since: Jul 07

Philadelphia, PA

#236 Jul 16, 2010
Brownsuga26 wrote:
<quoted text>
Nicole your mouth is filthy. All I'm saying is that if you want to be dedcated to black men fine but be perpared for the fall out. Most black men do date in their race however not every black man does. Black men who even date in their race have issues. It's not even worth it. You don't have to date white men ,however, what about Hispanic men? All I'm saying all this time you spend waiting for a black man you could've found you a man in another race. Being dedicated to black men is going to limit you. You don't owe black men anything.
I can say whatever I want. This is a free country, right? I can tell that you're young because you younger black people are a bunch of sellouts. And now black women are catching up with the brothers when it comes to interracial dating! WTF??? If we black people don't stick together, we are going to look like a bunch of mixed people. I believe that the reason why black people intermix is because they don't fucking love each other and it's out of self-hate. You black people don't like your blackness so of course you are going to be willing to mix with other races. I'm sorry but my preference is black men only, and if you have a problem with it, KISS MY BLACK ASS!!!

Since: Jul 07

Philadelphia, PA

#237 Jul 16, 2010
I notice that it's only IR black women that are against me because they attack those who don't want to dilute their blood with crackers. Maybe this sounds foreign to you IR black bitches, but not all black people want to intermix. DEAL WITH IT AND STOP PUSHING YOUR IR AGENDA ON THOSE WHO DON'T WANT TO MIX!

“esa hembra es mala”

Level 8

Since: Sep 09

Location hidden

#238 Jul 16, 2010
Lol sure they do Lmao
Nicole Little wrote:
<quoted text>
Philly doesn't suck! At least we have a strong black culture in Philly unlike California.

Since: Jul 07

Philadelphia, PA

#239 Jul 16, 2010
TheTropics wrote:
<quoted text>
Not trying to be mean or anything, but I have been reading this thread for the past couple of days and you have been all over here writing your thoughts and ranting. I have to agree with SexyBlkWoman about how you come off. And I am sure we are not the only two BW here who see it.
You keep flip-flopping about BM in IRRs and how you are glad you are not from the West Coast because of that and then an hour later you will say it doesn't bother you and you are so over it. Well, if you would re-read some of the things you posted here, it certainly sounds like you are bitter about BM in IRRs.
You have the right to stick to "your own kind," but when you constantly complain about "your own kind" - in your steadfast loyalty - and then refuse to see any other option, it is an unintelligent way to react because that is an unhealthy solution.
That is why you are so bitter.'Cause it pisses you off, you feel left out, and you see no hope out of the present situation. You are not dumb so you know the numbers don't stack up in your favor.
That is why you are on here 20/7, not resting, bathing, and eating like you should, letting off steam.
Listen to yourself.
Are you trying to be a smart ass too? I swear, you IR black women always want to diss black women who prefer black men only. Just because you are willing to let a white man stick his white dickin you doesn't mean that you have to look down on black women who don't IR, and then you are going to throw insults at me just like what SXYBLKWM is doing. You IR black women digust me.

Since: Jul 07

Philadelphia, PA

#240 Jul 16, 2010
SEXYBLKWOMAN wrote:
Please not to long ago yo ass was complaining lol you think just because you have stoped complaiing now that the pass will be erassed????
Lol funny if you aren't complaining about blk men liking light skin women you are complaining about blk men liking hispanic women!! An we know a good number of them love them some Puerto Rican women over there. They will tell you in a minute that Puerto Rican women are better. An I can careless if so called brothas don't want us blk women, because I'm not going to o crazy are define myself by the type of man I have!!!
<quoted text>
Whatever bitch. They like black women AND Latino women, so what? AND!! At least Philly has a strong black culture unlike yours, BITCH!

“esa hembra es mala”

Level 8

Since: Sep 09

Location hidden

#242 Jul 16, 2010
Listen Disaster Looms I'm going to check yo ass right now!!
1.Please don't go citing that bible bull shit to me because I don't believe in that shit.
2.No woman shouldn't have to lessen there selfs to be with men.
An as long as men keep on having that way of thinking there will forever an a day be failing realtionships!! An by the way blk men want all the rights of having the wowman submit of having the woman obey but yet they fail to take reponsiblity they fail to provide an protect women!! Y'all have so many failures why would blk women follow you?????? You guys want do the work but you guys want to sit around like kings get the fuck out of here!!
3. Blk women don't owe blk men shit!! Blk women are not here to please blk men. Blk women are here to do for ourselves you got that?
4. Blk women don't expect blk men to follow shit! We demand blk men to be egalitarian towards blk women not dominating!!
5. When you dominate your partner you bring hate an resentment an then that partner shows that hate an resentment towards there kids.
As long as you continue to want to be over your woman you will always have issues.
DISASTER LOOMS wrote:
<quoted text>
A relationship is a lot of things, but it isn't anything without compatibility. You can be sure that no one wants a "job" if the work doesn't match the reward. Why do you think so few people are getting married and so many marriages end in divorce? And why has this become the major issue that it is, today?
A man looks for a certain type of woman when he's thinking about serious relationship and marriage. But we don't get his side of the staying single phenomenon, and why he hasn't found the "one" who he couldn't say no to.
If you know the story of Adam, Lilith, and Eve. I liken these three characters to the typical dynamic between men and women, as I believe this is its purpose. imo, the AAW is more Lilith than she is Eve. She's selfish, rebellious, arrogant, and vindictive. Her home is not nurturing and comforting, but hostile and confrontational. And the only thing she ever submits to is her own lusts and ambitions. She also hates other women (Eve) who don't share her traits and view of the world. And will continuously seek to ridicule and corrupt "Eve".
To be sure, women will always define the nature and substance of her relationship with her man. This is the one area where women lead and men, follow. But you don't get to have anything you want, whenever you want it. You can't be Lilith and a slave to your own desires and expect your man to follow. Eve is closely bound to her man and shares his vision, submits and caters to his needs. She's on the same page as her man, and understands the art of compromise, and her virtue is a prominent part of her character. But there are few Eves among AAW, and many Liliths. The Adam and Eve relationship between AAM and AAW was badly damaged during slavery and continued to be assault throughout the Jim Crow years, in the media and from the rise of black feminism. It's unlikely that it can ever be repaired.
But one possible solution for AAM who want to maintain their black identify, and build a black home and community is the foreign option - African, Caribbean, and Afro-latina - expanding their option in a more afrocentric kind of way. Any together AAM who decides to go this route won't have any problem finding his black queen, this you can be sure of.

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#243 Jul 16, 2010
Brownsuga26 wrote:
<quoted text>
Nicole your mouth is filthy. All I'm saying is that if you want to be dedcated to black men fine but be perpared for the fall out. Most black men do date in their race however not every black man does. Black men who even date in their race have issues. It's not even worth it. You don't have to date white men ,however, what about Hispanic men? All I'm saying all this time you spend waiting for a black man you could've found you a man in another race. Being dedicated to black men is going to limit you. You don't owe black men anything.
I think Nicole is a hopeless cause. She will wake up one day, in her mid-forties, unmarried and childless, and then regret her decision to stay loyal to a group of men that are not loyal to her and to go extinct rather than seek a man who could have provided her with a family.

It's the same sad story happening with many BW today.

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