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Is Interracial/Inter ethnic Marriage Unavoidable?

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“The Love Below”

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#1 Jan 5, 2013
I have a ethiopian associate, and hes been in the states for 14 years. He told me that he does not believe in marrying outside of his ethnic group, or race, nor his people either, which is his thing, and I believe in black american unity, but I dont hate interracial couples. He said if you raise your kids not to date out, they will not. I told him that I have another ethiopian co-worker, and his male friends are dating AA women, and some are married to them, and he said he was against it, but he was not appalled by it, but his kid better not bring a non ethiopian home. I explained to him that its unavoidable in america, or thats what I think. I told him, that once you have kids, somewhere along the line, or your grandkids line, someone is going to date out, he was against that too, hes a christian as well (just throwing that in their). He said he will raise his kids not to date out, but some date behind their parents back, I have know some. Do you think its unavoidable?

PolskaHusaria
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#2 Jan 5, 2013
U.S inter-racial marriages have kept at a steady 1%- 5% range for the longest time.

“Shed so many tears”

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#4 Jan 6, 2013
BROWNMAN20 wrote:
I have a ethiopian associate, and hes been in the states for 14 years. He told me that he does not believe in marrying outside of his ethnic group, or race, nor his people either, which is his thing, and I believe in black american unity, but I dont hate interracial couples. He said if you raise your kids not to date out, they will not. I told him that I have another ethiopian co-worker, and his male friends are dating AA women, and some are married to them, and he said he was against it, but he was not appalled by it, but his kid better not bring a non ethiopian home. I explained to him that its unavoidable in america, or thats what I think. I told him, that once you have kids, somewhere along the line, or your grandkids line, someone is going to date out, he was against that too, hes a christian as well (just throwing that in their). He said he will raise his kids not to date out, but some date behind their parents back, I have know some. Do you think its unavoidable?
Honestly, no. I have a great uncle who out right did not agree with mixing, especially with whites. He has 4 daughters and three sons, they all dated and married black, but guess what, the grand kids mixed with white and my uncle now has three mixed grandkids, whom he would not even look at , AT FIRST!

He eventually got over it and soon as he did his youngest daughter divorced and married white and he gave her hell!

Lifes a B!
Sadbuttrue

Arlington, VA

#5 Jan 6, 2013
BROWNMAN20 wrote:
I have a ethiopian associate, and hes been in the states for 14 years. He told me that he does not believe in marrying outside of his ethnic group, or race, nor his people either, which is his thing, and I believe in black american unity, but I dont hate interracial couples. He said if you raise your kids not to date out, they will not. I told him that I have another ethiopian co-worker, and his male friends are dating AA women, and some are married to them, and he said he was against it, but he was not appalled by it, but his kid better not bring a non ethiopian home. I explained to him that its unavoidable in america, or thats what I think. I told him, that once you have kids, somewhere along the line, or your grandkids line, someone is going to date out, he was against that too, hes a christian as well (just throwing that in their). He said he will raise his kids not to date out, but some date behind their parents back, I have know some. Do you think its unavoidable?
Pierre

Funny, I talked to a couple of Africans on my job say the same thing. I look black but in most cases they want to know a racial break down.

They said some Africans are obsessed with AA women and find them very pretty due to the mix; but the cultures are different.

What I find interesting is the Africans expressed a "Commitment" to their culture no matter how attractive AA women were. I was told this by quite a few Africans.

I will say that Africans run after mixed Race AA women and will tell you their Educational Background as well career in less than 2 sentences also letting you know where they live!

Another words, Ive had Africans Doctors approach me based on looks alone and made plenty of offers! Its the same way that Black men are obsessed with White women with no education or nothing to offer just "White skin"
Sadbuttrue

Arlington, VA

#6 Jan 6, 2013
JustdroppedIN--MACEO wrote:
<quoted text>Honestly, no. I have a great uncle who out right did not agree with mixing, especially with whites. He has 4 daughters and three sons, they all dated and married black, but guess what, the grand kids mixed with white and my uncle now has three mixed grandkids, whom he would not even look at , AT FIRST!
He eventually got over it and soon as he did his youngest daughter divorced and married white and he gave her hell!
Lifes a B!
MACEO

Go back and read what you wrote it doesn't make any sense! HOw can all Black kids who married Black people have mixed grandchildren? LMAO

You lie alot not sure why but your foolish!

“Shed so many tears”

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#7 Jan 6, 2013
Sadbuttrue wrote:
<quoted text>MACEO
Go back and read what you wrote it doesn't make any sense! HOw can all Black kids who married Black people have mixed grandchildren? LMAO
You lie alot not sure why but your foolish!
greatgrands, azz wipe!

“The Love Below”

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#8 Jan 6, 2013
You can mix, have kids, but not marry as well.

“The Love Below”

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#9 Jan 6, 2013
Some just have mixed kids, but never marry the othe race.

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#10 Jan 6, 2013
BROWNMAN20 wrote:
I have a ethiopian associate, and hes been in the states for 14 years. He told me that he does not believe in marrying outside of his ethnic group, or race, nor his people either, which is his thing, and I believe in black american unity, but I dont hate interracial couples. He said if you raise your kids not to date out, they will not. I told him that I have another ethiopian co-worker, and his male friends are dating AA women, and some are married to them, and he said he was against it, but he was not appalled by it, but his kid better not bring a non ethiopian home. I explained to him that its unavoidable in america, or thats what I think. I told him, that once you have kids, somewhere along the line, or your grandkids line, someone is going to date out, he was against that too, hes a christian as well (just throwing that in their). He said he will raise his kids not to date out, but some date behind their parents back, I have know some. Do you think its unavoidable?
only if the media programs your race to date out. when you see a black person in a movie or tv show 99% of the time their partner is non black. this is brainwashing on a massive scale. and your black leaders are 100% behind race mixing.

so for blacks it is unavoidable; whites not so much

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#12 Jan 6, 2013
BROWNMAN20 wrote:
I have a ethiopian associate, and hes been in the states for 14 years. He told me that he does not believe in marrying outside of his ethnic group, or race, nor his people either, which is his thing, and I believe in black american unity, but I dont hate interracial couples. He said if you raise your kids not to date out, they will not. I told him that I have another ethiopian co-worker, and his male friends are dating AA women, and some are married to them, and he said he was against it, but he was not appalled by it, but his kid better not bring a non ethiopian home. I explained to him that its unavoidable in america, or thats what I think. I told him, that once you have kids, somewhere along the line, or your grandkids line, someone is going to date out, he was against that too, hes a christian as well (just throwing that in their). He said he will raise his kids not to date out, but some date behind their parents back, I have know some. Do you think its unavoidable?
most HOA AND SUDAN family against it .

“>3 =O”

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#13 Jan 6, 2013
Do you not want them to date out if you had any kids? I think if you are close to them then they can be convinced not to. I would not care though, and if I did I would be a hypocrite.

LAcreole
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#14 Jan 6, 2013
Living in the most multicultural society and country on earth (U.S.), I'd say it is unavoidable. With all the culture influence in American society especially today, whatever your parents have taught you, most people throw it out of the window due to even more curiosity for "the other". My fiance was born and raised in Liuthiania. Our cultures are completely different but when we have children, I will not teach my children to date one over the other. They will have the freedom to enjoy loving the person they are with just as long as that man/woman is a good person and worthy of them.
Ali

Hamilton, Canada

#15 Jan 6, 2013
I'm Somali and my parents told us that if we ever even think about being with a non Somali, they will disown us.

I know one Somali girl who started dating some non Somali guy, and the entire community shut her out! Last I heard she got pregnant and even her parents have shut the door at her. I think she is homeless now or something. We don't like mixers in our community and people talk because everyone knows one another. It is suicide!

Also, in our culture if a Somali woman has children with a non Somali guy, the children are automatically not Somali! So she effectively ends her entire cultural line.

Now I'm engaged to a beautiful Somali woman and all my siblings are married to other Somalis.

Why would anyone want to mix anyways? It destroys cultures. Mixing is very Anti-diversity because it destroys cultures.

“The Love Below”

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#16 Jan 11, 2013
sudance girl wrote:
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most HOA AND SUDAN family against it .
Hes definately against it. Hes a christian as well. I heard a ethiopians do date out though, but not a lot of course.

“The Love Below”

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#17 Jan 11, 2013
Jstylez wrote:
Do you not want them to date out if you had any kids? I think if you are close to them then they can be convinced not to. I would not care though, and if I did I would be a hypocrite.
The most I will go is afro latino, or mixed race. Believe you me, some of these guys date their non ethnic women, but dont marry them. I work at a job with people of different backgrounds, and from different countries. I think many americans are just more open to it for some reason. I think some americans have the " I want a exotic person mentality" lol.

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#18 Jan 11, 2013
BROWNMAN20 wrote:
<quoted text>The most I will go is afro latino, or mixed race. Believe you me, some of these guys date their non ethnic women, but dont marry them. I work at a job with people of different backgrounds, and from different countries. I think many americans are just more open to it for some reason. I think some americans have the " I want a exotic person mentality" lol.
I didn't listen to my mom, but then again I wasn't close to her. I think they will listen to your requests if you have a strong bond with them.

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#19 Jan 11, 2013
BROWNMAN20 wrote:
I have a ethiopian associate, and hes been in the states for 14 years. He told me that he does not believe in marrying outside of his ethnic group, or race, nor his people either, which is his thing, and I believe in black american unity, but I dont hate interracial couples. He said if you raise your kids not to date out, they will not. I told him that I have another ethiopian co-worker, and his male friends are dating AA women, and some are married to them, and he said he was against it, but he was not appalled by it, but his kid better not bring a non ethiopian home. I explained to him that its unavoidable in america, or thats what I think. I told him, that once you have kids, somewhere along the line, or your grandkids line, someone is going to date out, he was against that too, hes a christian as well (just throwing that in their). He said he will raise his kids not to date out, but some date behind their parents back, I have know some. Do you think its unavoidable?
africans are very tribal. you might even have issues between tribal groups in the same country. so this 'only my tribe' mentality imo, only applies to africans.


aa, caribbeans, afro-latinos, and other diaspora blacks really don't care.
KIP

San Francisco, CA

#20 Jan 11, 2013
BROWNMAN20 wrote:
I have a ethiopian associate, and hes been in the states for 14 years. He told me that he does not believe in marrying outside of his ethnic group, or race, nor his people either, which is his thing, and I believe in black american unity, but I dont hate interracial couples. He said if you raise your kids not to date out, they will not. I told him that I have another ethiopian co-worker, and his male friends are dating AA women, and some are married to them, and he said he was against it, but he was not appalled by it, but his kid better not bring a non ethiopian home. I explained to him that its unavoidable in america, or thats what I think. I told him, that once you have kids, somewhere along the line, or your grandkids line, someone is going to date out, he was against that too, hes a christian as well (just throwing that in their). He said he will raise his kids not to date out, but some date behind their parents back, I have know some. Do you think its unavoidable?
I'm not Ethiopian. I respect their culture when they come here, and as a person native to this land, I would hope they respect mine. Ethiopian culture and African American culture are different. Our histories are different and the things that have shaped our experiences are different. The music we like and create is different and our way of dress is different. True, we are black peoples, but we are not always shaped by the same things. Ethiopia has endured a border war with Eriterea, as well as a bloody 30 year Civil War resulting in Eritrean independence. These kind of events shape a people, so in many ways in the context of choosing a mate, their experience will be different from that of an African American.

Regardless, love writes its own rules. It doesn't always depend on who is black, white, brown, yellow, or whatever. It is what it is. When love is involved the outcome favors all. The rest of us can set back and judge, gawk, or whatever, but in the end it will be. As for children and grandchildren, it's wise to love and accept them no matter what. Eventually, one will die. Controlling who they choose to love is not possible from the grave, and it would be better to be remembered and missed as the loving parent or grandparent.

“The Love Below”

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#21 Jan 11, 2013
DISASTER LOOMS wrote:
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africans are very tribal. you might even have issues between tribal groups in the same country. so this 'only my tribe' mentality imo, only applies to africans.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v =AEEfNbB3f6AXX
aa, caribbeans, afro-latinos, and other diaspora blacks really don't care.
My somolian associate married a AA woman, and he told me that he thought AA's were more open to dating other blacks, if they resembled them, or didnt look too foreign. I think black people are big on features, and if the other black person has features that they fell are just different, then they will consider that person unattractive, not all. A lot of women like the guy Idris Alba, but he could probably pass as a AA, but I can tell hes not from here for some reason, but many Black Women would give him a pass it seems. A lot of AA's would give a mixed person a pass too. A lot of this is about facial features, skin color, culture, ect I feel, but many will not say it openly. My ethiopian friend told me about colorism their, but he said he believed it came when european colonization came through their, and I think europeans brought christianity their, or some non ethiopian group, he noted the portuguese for this.

“The Love Below”

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#22 Jan 11, 2013
KIP wrote:
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I'm not Ethiopian. I respect their culture when they come here, and as a person native to this land, I would hope they respect mine. Ethiopian culture and African American culture are different. Our histories are different and the things that have shaped our experiences are different. The music we like and create is different and our way of dress is different. True, we are black peoples, but we are not always shaped by the same things. Ethiopia has endured a border war with Eriterea, as well as a bloody 30 year Civil War resulting in Eritrean independence. These kind of events shape a people, so in many ways in the context of choosing a mate, their experience will be different from that of an African American.
Regardless, love writes its own rules. It doesn't always depend on who is black, white, brown, yellow, or whatever. It is what it is. When love is involved the outcome favors all. The rest of us can set back and judge, gawk, or whatever, but in the end it will be. As for children and grandchildren, it's wise to love and accept them no matter what. Eventually, one will die. Controlling who they choose to love is not possible from the grave, and it would be better to be remembered and missed as the loving parent or grandparent.
We AA's dont understand why africans war with each other, but we have our own issues with violence among ourself, mainly the poor black americans.

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