Black American men and African women
chinyere

Maynard, MA

#22 Aug 17, 2009
deonnanaxoxo wrote:
i doubt they're willing to date one that looks like the stereotype african. those features are looked at as unattractive in African American culture
http://www.worlded.org/images/features/ASGP/A...
so if the african girl doesn't look all black then i'm sure the black guy is game.
http://www.icrw.org/images/images/Ethiopia%20...
this is one of the reasons why I don't agree with the relationships, if you don't get by now that african blacks come in differnt shades, then there no use in relationships like this. The funny part this is the problem, many AA men have picked up in america that lighter is better. many african men from differnt shades step to black african women of differnt shades, so it's not a problem.
The interesting thing though is when white european men go to african countries and go out with african black women, they go out with the darkest ones, the same ones that AA men would look at with contempt.
So the question to AA men is do you think black african women don't know this that many AA men prefer lighter is better, as a result many black african women of differnt shades will be appauled by this because almost every african family has different shades. So that can be somebodies african aunt, mother, sister.

This attitude is not in black african men or white european men but in some AA men, and I'm not making this up because I have witnessed many examples of this. So besides culture, AA men should think what are the other reasons why black african women avoid them.

Since: Aug 09

Beaumont, TX

#23 Aug 17, 2009
kamit4ever wrote:
<quoted text>
And what do you mean by "stereotype African"? I don't need to watch the Maury show to see AA stereotype.Or the Jerry Springer show is the only one that shows unattractive AAs?
i meant how AA think africans look (which is why i included a pic) they think they are very dark, fat lips, big nose (and that is considered ugly in AA culture). I've met Africans of all types of shades from all over AFrica (not just Ethiopia or Somalia). i did not mean PERSONALITY like "ghetto"

you really read that the wrong way
kamit4ever

Vancouver, Canada

#24 Aug 17, 2009
KemiSeba wrote:
<quoted text>
The subject is "Black American men and African women", not unattractive BA guests on the JP show lol. I know that some of you guys will be tempted to turn this forum into the usual AA vs A soap opera but please, let's make an effort to remain on topic. Are you African? If so, where are you from? Perhaps i've dated a women from your country :-)
Why didn't you take your time and read other posts b4 reply me back? Below is what the pedophile from California wrote about African women in his post #5:

"i doubt they're willing to date one that looks like the stereotype african. those features are looked at as unattractive in African American culture
http://www.worlded.org/images/features/ASGP/A ...

so if the african girl doesn't look all black then i'm sure the black guy is game.
http://www.icrw.org/images/images/Ethiopia%20 ... "

You: "Are you African?"

KAMIT4EVER: Yes i am.

You:" If so, where are you from? "

KAMIT4EVER: I'm from one of the countries located in Central Africa.
chinyere

Maynard, MA

#25 Aug 17, 2009
this is why the AA and african american community will always be divided.
The Moor

United States

#26 Aug 17, 2009
chinyere wrote:
I don't agree with african women marrying/dating black american men because of the culture, any way there is not many relationships in this category. this is coming from a black african women.
Then don't marry an African-American...in the larger scale of things it matters not...if AA are open to shared cultural perspectives...then what is the problem... we are all genetically related!
The Moor

United States

#27 Aug 17, 2009
chinyere wrote:
this is why the AA and african american community will always be divided.
Yet you make the earlier statement that you are against us marrying and reproducing...but then you make this statement as if you are concerned...very disingenuous!

Since: Jul 09

Lahaina, HI

#28 Aug 17, 2009
deonnanaxoxo wrote:
<quoted text>
i meant how AA think africans look (which is why i included a pic) they think they are very dark, fat lips, big nose (and that is considered ugly in AA culture). I've met Africans of all types of shades from all over AFrica (not just Ethiopia or Somalia). i did not mean PERSONALITY like "ghetto"
you really read that the wrong way
I don't get this because many african americans have the same features as afrikans which is big noses and full lips and coarse nappy Hair like most africans
The Moor

United States

#29 Aug 17, 2009
chinyere wrote:
<quoted text>
this is one of the reasons why I don't agree with the relationships, if you don't get by now that african blacks come in differnt shades, then there no use in relationships like this. The funny part this is the problem, many AA men have picked up in america that lighter is better. many african men from differnt shades step to black african women of differnt shades, so it's not a problem.
The interesting thing though is when white european men go to african countries and go out with african black women, they go out with the darkest ones, the same ones that AA men would look at with contempt.
So the question to AA men is do you think black african women don't know this that many AA men prefer lighter is better, as a result many black african women of differnt shades will be appauled by this because almost every african family has different shades. So that can be somebodies african aunt, mother, sister.
This attitude is not in black african men or white european men but in some AA men, and I'm not making this up because I have witnessed many examples of this. So besides culture, AA men should think what are the other reasons why black african women avoid them.
Your claims are both biased and false...there are just as many natives who chase after worship whites as AA who want light skin mates...and not all of us are like that...many of us prefer Nubian beauties...I sure as hell do!

“May Allah Guide Mankind”

Level 6

Since: Mar 09

Jihad An-Nafs

#30 Aug 17, 2009
kamit4ever wrote:
<quoted text>
Why didn't you take your time and read other posts b4 reply me back? Below is what the pedophile from California wrote about African women in his post #5:
"i doubt they're willing to date one that looks like the stereotype african. those features are looked at as unattractive in African American culture
http://www.worlded.org/images/features/ASGP/A ...
so if the african girl doesn't look all black then i'm sure the black guy is game.
http://www.icrw.org/images/images/Ethiopia%20 ... "
You: "Are you African?"
KAMIT4EVER: Yes i am.
You:" If so, where are you from? "
KAMIT4EVER: I'm from one of the countries located in Central Africa.
Tu n'es en aucun cas obligé de me répondre mais étant donné que la "plupart" des pays en Afrique centrale sont des pays francophones, il y a de fortes chances que tu viennes d'un de ces pays-là,à savoir le Gabon, les deux Congo, le Burundi, le Rwanda, le Cameroun sinon il y a l'Angola bref I would just ask you not to turn this into an African American vs African drama, it's a little old now. I read the guys comments and I don't agree with him but if you begin to insult one another, African American men and African women will inevitably become "African Americans vs Africans"

“May Allah Guide Mankind”

Level 6

Since: Mar 09

Jihad An-Nafs

#31 Aug 17, 2009
chinyere wrote:
this is why the AA and african american community will always be divided.
This is not about division, this is about African American men who are romantically involved with African women. Why is it so hard to stay on topic? I suggest that you create another thread titled "why African women avoid AA men". It's like you guys thrive off of negativity lol. If you don't like AA men, so what, it's not the end of the world, the world doesn't revolve around your likes and dislikes, such egotistical behaviour. My AA brothers are coming here to share their experiences, and that bothers you, our happiness means your unhappiness, our joy means your sorrow, our pride means your lack thereof. My very existence is an insupportable burden on your shoulders, if you could, you would exterminate all of us.

“May Allah Guide Mankind”

Level 6

Since: Mar 09

Jihad An-Nafs

#32 Aug 17, 2009
fortunately I am here because as we say in French "à beau mentir celui qui vient de loin", whoever comes from far away may easily lie. I will not let anyone lie on this forum, I am committed to the truth.

For those who don't know me, you can call me "Kemi Seba"=Black Star in the ancient Egyptian language. I've been fortunate enough to travel to various parts of Africa and I spent 4 years in France, 4 years during which I also explored the "old continent" as we say. I am not here to denigrate African nations, what purpose would that serve? I come as a brother, armed with truth and an ardent desire to make it known. I don't speak about Africa in generalistic terms as if it were one big country. If I mentioned where i've travelled to, it's because I don't want to hear "you've never been to Africa", which is sometimes used as a means of imposing baseless and unfounded arguments. Most people on here don't know African women very well, their perspectives can only be limited. Most men from Ghana, and this is just an example, wouldn't be qualified to speak on behalf of Somalian sisters. Why? Because Somalians rarely and I mean rarely date West African men, let alone men from Ghana. Therefore, an African can not speak for all African women, there are over 3000 tribes in Africa, each having its own distinct cultural traits and traditions. For the African girl who said African women avoid AA men, this is false, this ridiculous and obtus statement couldn't be further from the truth. And when you say they "avoid" them, can you be specific? What countries? lol even if 100 African girls came here and said the same thing, it would still be false, there are over 900 million people in Africa lol.

“May Allah Guide Mankind”

Level 6

Since: Mar 09

Jihad An-Nafs

#33 Aug 17, 2009
Last thing and yes there are marriages between White men and African women that are truly based on mutual love and tenderness. That being said, no African girl should claim with pride that White men are coming to Africa and are marrying dark-skinned sisters. I said "claim with pride" which is not a refutation of the claim. This is actually a major problem both in Africa and Europe, the overwhelming majority of these relationships end in disaster. Do you even know how these women are treated when they go to Europe? A lot of these White men kick them to the curve like trash once their back in their respective countries. Not mentioning the sick and perverted sexual acts to which these women are subjected, I will spare you the details. Most of the African prostitutes in France were once wives to White men, do some research

“May Allah Guide Mankind”

Level 6

Since: Mar 09

Jihad An-Nafs

#34 Aug 17, 2009
Anyway i'm off topic myself LOL, back to African women. When it comes to African women, you have to respect their culture, it is of paramount importance. Respecting their culture is not limted to avoiding cultural faux-pas, it is also the fact of showing genuine interest in their culture and in doing so, you show interest in them. When you are really into someone, you try to learn everything about that person, cultural habits, spiritual and religious beliefs, customs, traditions, values, both moral and cultural etc. Recap, the 1st step is to show you are actually interested in her as a person. If you are Muslim, like myself al7amdoulillah, this is a plus, given the fact that various African cultures and islam have become so intertwined. That doesn't mean there's nothing to learn, Senegal is a Muslim country and the wolof culture is a very rich one, despite having incorporated islamic practices into the Wolof culture, they have maintained distinc cultural practices

“If you live to love you will..”

Level 1

Since: Dec 07

love to live ((South London))

#35 Aug 17, 2009
KemiSeba wrote:
fortunately I am here because as we say in French "à beau mentir celui qui vient de loin", whoever comes from far away may easily lie. I will not let anyone lie on this forum, I am committed to the truth.
For those who don't know me, you can call me "Kemi Seba"=Black Star in the ancient Egyptian language. I've been fortunate enough to travel to various parts of Africa and I spent 4 years in France, 4 years during which I also explored the "old continent" as we say. I am not here to denigrate African nations, what purpose would that serve? I come as a brother, armed with truth and an ardent desire to make it known. I don't speak about Africa in generalistic terms as if it were one big country. If I mentioned where i've travelled to, it's because I don't want to hear "you've never been to Africa", which is sometimes used as a means of imposing baseless and unfounded arguments. Most people on here don't know African women very well, their perspectives can only be limited. Most men from Ghana, and this is just an example, wouldn't be qualified to speak on behalf of Somalian sisters. Why? Because Somalians rarely and I mean rarely date West African men, let alone men from Ghana. Therefore, an African can not speak for all African women, there are over 3000 tribes in Africa, each having its own distinct cultural traits and traditions. For the African girl who said African women avoid AA men, this is false, this ridiculous and obtus statement couldn't be further from the truth. And when you say they "avoid" them, can you be specific? What countries? lol even if 100 African girls came here and said the same thing, it would still be false, there are over 900 million people in Africa lol.
yes true, somalis dont usually date out but neither do most African groups. But even so i knew a few married to west african men.

And your right, you cant generalise Africans were too different.
chinyere

Maynard, MA

#36 Aug 17, 2009
The Moor wrote:
<quoted text>
Your claims are both biased and false...there are just as many natives who chase after worship whites as AA who want light skin mates...and not all of us are like that...many of us prefer Nubian beauties...I sure as hell do!
personally i'm against it but I'm not against any one doing that. At the same time I wasn't directing the conversation to you, it's the post I read about dark and light skinned women that I was responding to, so don't take offense.
chinyere

Maynard, MA

#38 Aug 17, 2009
shut up I've never been with a white man and my fiance is black african, in medical school. I wasn't even talking to you. PLEASE
chinyere

Maynard, MA

#40 Aug 17, 2009
is that a surprise for you, there are many like me, I was raised to marry my own. Majority of african women marry african men here and in africa. so i don't know the women you have been bumping into but I love my black african men.

p.s. i was born in this country from african immigrants, trained in the culture, so take your assumptions some where else.

“May Allah Guide Mankind”

Level 6

Since: Mar 09

Jihad An-Nafs

#41 Aug 17, 2009
east-african beauty wrote:
<quoted text>
yes true, somalis dont usually date out but neither do most African groups. But even so i knew a few married to west african men.
And your right, you cant generalise Africans were too different.
salam, yes, in general, East Africans don't associate with West Africans, this is not a secrete, most West African brothers and sisters will tell you this. I remember one day at work, this gorgeous girl passed by and I said to my friend from Togo "t'as vu la meuf là? Elle est bonne" lol did you see that girl, she's hot and he said "she's Somalian, they don't associate with West Africans", I was like "dude, that's your problem, i'm gonna holla" LOL Anyway thanks for responding East African princes, pardon, beauty*** viva East Africa

Since: Jul 09

Location hidden

#42 Aug 17, 2009
deonnanaxoxo wrote:
i doubt they're willing to date one that looks like the stereotype african. those features are looked at as unattractive in African American culture
http://www.worlded.org/images/features/ASGP/A...
so if the african girl doesn't look all black then i'm sure the black guy is game.
http://www.icrw.org/images/images/Ethiopia%20...
i doubt "they're" willing to date one that looks like the stereotype african.

u aren't even a black male. and making dum statements

Since: Jul 09

Location hidden

#43 Aug 17, 2009
IR BW wrote:
Delete this thread!
* on behalf of all African women.
bitter IR BW is PISSED lol

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