I'm single because I'm a black woman.

I'm single because I'm a black woman.

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Attention

Middleburg, FL

#1 Feb 5, 2011
I'm looking for a real solution... I'm a young black woman, I'm in good shape, I'm cute (maybe a 7 out of 10), natural hair, I have a nice attitude, no kids, I have my life together, etc. etc....

Why am I still single?

I've tried meeting guys in bookstores, college campuses, coffee shops, churches, malls, dating sites, whereever. I've lived in several states in locations that aren't bad at all, so that has nothing to do with it.

I don't care about a man's educational level or career, so long as he can and is supporting himself. Whether he has a three story house or a one bedroom apartment doesn't matter to me.

Race is not an issue.

Height is not an issue.

Looks... minimal. As long as he is clean and well groomed then he is fine.

I do NOT date or talk to "thugs" or guys who curse and listen to a lot of hip hop.

I'm smart and well versed... Why can't I find a guy who takes me seriously?

The guys I go out with all stop seeing me usually after the 3rd or 4th date because I don't have sex with them.

I've tried to pick better men, but it seems as if all of them are taken or not interested.

I don't want to be lonely for the rest of my life...

I know that a lot of good black women are in my position as well.

What is the solution?

By the way, I'm not a religious person (I attend church with a coworker sometimes, though) so please don't suggest prayer... Thanks.
Louisianaemperor

Alexandria, LA

#2 Feb 5, 2011
Attention wrote:
I'm looking for a real solution... I'm a young black woman, I'm in good shape, I'm cute (maybe a 7 out of 10), natural hair, I have a nice attitude, no kids, I have my life together, etc. etc....
Why am I still single?
I've tried meeting guys in bookstores, college campuses, coffee shops, churches, malls, dating sites, whereever. I've lived in several states in locations that aren't bad at all, so that has nothing to do with it.
I don't care about a man's educational level or career, so long as he can and is supporting himself. Whether he has a three story house or a one bedroom apartment doesn't matter to me.
Race is not an issue.
Height is not an issue.
Looks... minimal. As long as he is clean and well groomed then he is fine.
I do NOT date or talk to "thugs" or guys who curse and listen to a lot of hip hop.
I'm smart and well versed... Why can't I find a guy who takes me seriously?
The guys I go out with all stop seeing me usually after the 3rd or 4th date because I don't have sex with them.
I've tried to pick better men, but it seems as if all of them are taken or not interested.
I don't want to be lonely for the rest of my life...
I know that a lot of good black women are in my position as well.
What is the solution?
By the way, I'm not a religious person (I attend church with a coworker sometimes, though) so please don't suggest prayer... Thanks.
Well if race is not an issue then you come across as desperate. And no man who feels good about himself want a desperate woman. You should just scratch black men off your list because if you're willing to date any race of men than MOST black men are not gonna want you. You don't have any standards and you just want a man. Any man of any race as long as he's not a thug. Well with that being said, you are not a jewel worth pursuing. You need to do some soul searching first and check yourself.
HALO SPARTAN

United States

#3 Feb 5, 2011
Dont listen to that lousianaemperor tard, you will find someone, it just happens..dont drop your standards ; having sex to get or keep a man is not the answer..be patient and all will fall into place, inshallah.
Attention wrote:
I'm looking for a real solution... I'm a young black woman, I'm in good shape, I'm cute (maybe a 7 out of 10), natural hair, I have a nice attitude, no kids, I have my life together, etc. etc....
Why am I still single?
I've tried meeting guys in bookstores, college campuses, coffee shops, churches, malls, dating sites, whereever. I've lived in several states in locations that aren't bad at all, so that has nothing to do with it.
I don't care about a man's educational level or career, so long as he can and is supporting himself. Whether he has a three story house or a one bedroom apartment doesn't matter to me.
Race is not an issue.
Height is not an issue.
Looks... minimal. As long as he is clean and well groomed then he is fine.
I do NOT date or talk to "thugs" or guys who curse and listen to a lot of hip hop.
I'm smart and well versed... Why can't I find a guy who takes me seriously?
The guys I go out with all stop seeing me usually after the 3rd or 4th date because I don't have sex with them.
I've tried to pick better men, but it seems as if all of them are taken or not interested.
I don't want to be lonely for the rest of my life...
I know that a lot of good black women are in my position as well.
What is the solution?
By the way, I'm not a religious person (I attend church with a coworker sometimes, though) so please don't suggest prayer... Thanks.
Knowledge

Omaha, NE

#4 Feb 5, 2011
Attention wrote:
I'm looking for a real solution... I'm a young black woman, I'm in good shape, I'm cute (maybe a 7 out of 10), natural hair, I have a nice attitude, no kids, I have my life together, etc. etc....
Why am I still single?
I've tried meeting guys in bookstores, college campuses, coffee shops, churches, malls, dating sites, whereever. I've lived in several states in locations that aren't bad at all, so that has nothing to do with it.
I don't care about a man's educational level or career, so long as he can and is supporting himself. Whether he has a three story house or a one bedroom apartment doesn't matter to me.
Race is not an issue.
Height is not an issue.
Looks... minimal. As long as he is clean and well groomed then he is fine.
I do NOT date or talk to "thugs" or guys who curse and listen to a lot of hip hop.
I'm smart and well versed... Why can't I find a guy who takes me seriously?
The guys I go out with all stop seeing me usually after the 3rd or 4th date because I don't have sex with them.
I've tried to pick better men, but it seems as if all of them are taken or not interested.
I don't want to be lonely for the rest of my life...
I know that a lot of good black women are in my position as well.
What is the solution?
By the way, I'm not a religious person (I attend church with a coworker sometimes, though) so please don't suggest prayer... Thanks.
Now, this is an interesting post, Attention. You have reasonably standards in what you want in a man. It is clearly us (men)slacking on this one. I apologize for the inconveniences you have been experiencing. Hopefully, the right male will come around in due time and very soon I hope.

Knowledge, formerly Black Man
HALO SPARTAN

United States

#5 Feb 5, 2011
It doesnt matter what race a person is,what matters is that the person you are with makes you happy, treats you good, respects you, respects himself and others, has a good work ethic, honest, truthful, faithful.
St George

Bolton, UK

#6 Feb 5, 2011
Attention wrote:
I'm looking for a real solution... I'm a young black woman, I'm in good shape, I'm cute (maybe a 7 out of 10), natural hair, I have a nice attitude, no kids, I have my life together, etc. etc....
Why am I still single?
I've tried meeting guys in bookstores, college campuses, coffee shops, churches, malls, dating sites, whereever. I've lived in several states in locations that aren't bad at all, so that has nothing to do with it.
I don't care about a man's educational level or career, so long as he can and is supporting himself. Whether he has a three story house or a one bedroom apartment doesn't matter to me.
Race is not an issue.
Height is not an issue.
Looks... minimal. As long as he is clean and well groomed then he is fine.
I do NOT date or talk to "thugs" or guys who curse and listen to a lot of hip hop.
I'm smart and well versed... Why can't I find a guy who takes me seriously?
The guys I go out with all stop seeing me usually after the 3rd or 4th date because I don't have sex with them.
I've tried to pick better men, but it seems as if all of them are taken or not interested.
I don't want to be lonely for the rest of my life...
I know that a lot of good black women are in my position as well.
What is the solution?
By the way, I'm not a religious person (I attend church with a coworker sometimes, though) so please don't suggest prayer... Thanks.
Im realy attracted to girls who have intrests and passions.
I get easily bored with girlfriends who cant talk about anything except themselves and other girls they dont like.
If your too frigid to give out sex but want boys to be crazy about you then become interested in interesting things.

eg hotforwords and her millions of youtube hits...

“Big lips don't lie ”

Since: Feb 10

Location hidden

#7 Feb 5, 2011
There's always online dating like OKCupid. The only men I've dated were the ones I meet in school.

Level 1

Since: Dec 10

East Coast

#8 Feb 5, 2011
Attention wrote:
I'm looking for a real solution... I'm a young black woman, I'm in good shape, I'm cute (maybe a 7 out of 10), natural hair, I have a nice attitude, no kids, I have my life together, etc. etc....
Why am I still single?
I've tried meeting guys in bookstores, college campuses, coffee shops, churches, malls, dating sites, whereever. I've lived in several states in locations that aren't bad at all, so that has nothing to do with it.
I don't care about a man's educational level or career, so long as he can and is supporting himself. Whether he has a three story house or a one bedroom apartment doesn't matter to me.
Race is not an issue.
Height is not an issue.
Looks... minimal. As long as he is clean and well groomed then he is fine.
I do NOT date or talk to "thugs" or guys who curse and listen to a lot of hip hop.
I'm smart and well versed... Why can't I find a guy who takes me seriously?
The guys I go out with all stop seeing me usually after the 3rd or 4th date because I don't have sex with them.
I've tried to pick better men, but it seems as if all of them are taken or not interested.
I don't want to be lonely for the rest of my life...
I know that a lot of good black women are in my position as well.
What is the solution?
By the way, I'm not a religious person (I attend church with a coworker sometimes, though) so please don't suggest prayer... Thanks.
Maybe you're trying too hard. Desperation can sometimes bring your the wrong person. Let it be organic.

Level 5

Since: Jul 09

London, UK

#9 Feb 6, 2011
Louisianaemperor wrote:
<quoted text> Well if race is not an issue then you come across as desperate. And no man who feels good about himself want a desperate woman. You should just scratch black men off your list because if you're willing to date any race of men than MOST black men are not gonna want you. You don't have any standards and you just want a man. Any man of any race as long as he's not a thug. Well with that being said, you are not a jewel worth pursuing. You need to do some soul searching first and check yourself.
Her post reads like a personal ad!!
ICUtroll

Memphis, TN

#10 Feb 6, 2011
Attention wrote:
I'm looking for a real solution... I'm a young black woman, I'm in good shape, I'm cute (maybe a 7 out of 10), natural hair, I have a nice attitude, no kids, I have my life together, etc. etc....
Why am I still single?
I've tried meeting guys in bookstores, college campuses, coffee shops, churches, malls, dating sites, whereever. I've lived in several states in locations that aren't bad at all, so that has nothing to do with it.
I don't care about a man's educational level or career, so long as he can and is supporting himself. Whether he has a three story house or a one bedroom apartment doesn't matter to me.
Race is not an issue.
Height is not an issue.
Looks... minimal. As long as he is clean and well groomed then he is fine.
I do NOT date or talk to "thugs" or guys who curse and listen to a lot of hip hop.
I'm smart and well versed... Why can't I find a guy who takes me seriously?
The guys I go out with all stop seeing me usually after the 3rd or 4th date because I don't have sex with them.
I've tried to pick better men, but it seems as if all of them are taken or not interested.
I don't want to be lonely for the rest of my life...
I know that a lot of good black women are in my position as well.
What is the solution?
By the way, I'm not a religious person (I attend church with a coworker sometimes, though) so please don't suggest prayer... Thanks.
ThE iS a lYING TRoll!!!!! sMh tHat yOu FAiL 4 iT
Louisianaemperor

Alexandria, LA

#11 Feb 6, 2011
HALO SPARTAN wrote:
Dont listen to that lousianaemperor tard, you will find someone, it just happens..dont drop your standards ; having sex to get or keep a man is not the answer..be patient and all will fall into place, inshallah.<quoted text>
Please do not mention me whenever you're trying to make a point to someone. My opinion is just as valid as yours and most black men don't date black women who are open to dating all other races of men. That's a form of promiscuity if you ask me. No standards. Men of all races feel this way about their women but for some reason us black men are not suppose to feel that way. Yea OK, whatever. I stand by what I said.
Sadbuttrue

Silver Spring, MD

#12 Feb 6, 2011
Attention-MACEO wrote:
I'm looking for a real solution... I'm a young black woman, I'm in good shape, I'm cute (maybe a 7 out of 10), natural hair, I have a nice attitude, no kids, I have my life together, etc. etc....
Why am I still single?
I've tried meeting guys in bookstores, college campuses, coffee shops, churches, malls, dating sites, whereever. I've lived in several states in locations that aren't bad at all, so that has nothing to do with it.
I don't care about a man's educational level or career, so long as he can and is supporting himself. Whether he has a three story house or a one bedroom apartment doesn't matter to me.
Race is not an issue.
Height is not an issue.
Looks... minimal. As long as he is clean and well groomed then he is fine.
I do NOT date or talk to "thugs" or guys who curse and listen to a lot of hip hop.
I'm smart and well versed... Why can't I find a guy who takes me seriously?
The guys I go out with all stop seeing me usually after the 3rd or 4th date because I don't have sex with them.
I've tried to pick better men, but it seems as if all of them are taken or not interested.
I don't want to be lonely for the rest of my life...
I know that a lot of good black women are in my position as well.
What is the solution?
By the way, I'm not a religious person (I attend church with a coworker sometimes, though) so please don't suggest prayer... Thanks.
Try dating White men or other races, I did and you'll soon get married or engage.

Don't waste your time on the bulk of BM you'll most likely not get anything for your time or effort except used !
Louisianaemperor

Alexandria, LA

#13 Feb 6, 2011
TruthbknownLDN wrote:
<quoted text>
Her post reads like a personal ad!!
LOL yes it does. Me personally, I do not like a woman that seems desperate. Some men might respond to that but not me.
Sadbuttrue

Silver Spring, MD

#14 Feb 6, 2011
TruthbknownLDN-Emporer-MaCEO wrote:
<quoted text>
Her post reads like a personal ad!!
MACEO

You married a WW and you chase poor White Trash for the last 30 years.

Is this your comment below?

http://www.topix.com/forum/afam/TJR3LQNRPB387...

The HardTruth aka MACEO

To ALL Black Men: This Thread Contains 16 Parts To It. I Made This Thread,
So You Can FINALLY Stop Lying To BW About Why You Prefer WW Over Them. I
Wanted To Remind Everyone Here, Including BW Of Everything That WW Have To
Offer And Why there Taking All The BM.

BW Could Learn A Thing Or 2 From The WW. And It's About Time They Saw Why.
So That's Another Reason Why I Made This Thread. They Need To See Why No BM
Can Resist A WW!!

Eat Your Hearts Out BW!!!!!...

http://www.topix.com/forum/afam/TJR3LQNRPB387...
Sadbuttrue

Silver Spring, MD

#15 Feb 6, 2011
Knowledge-Attention-MACEO wrote:
<quoted text>
Now, this is an interesting post, Attention. You have reasonably standards in what you want in a man. It is clearly us (men)slacking on this one. I apologize for the inconveniences you have been experiencing. Hopefully, the right male will come around in due time and very soon I hope.
Knowledge, formerly Black Man
I guess you wrote the post! I don't know why your alwyas posing as a Black female or Mixed race when your 54 years old an look like clarence Thomas!

SMH.........Black men are losers!

too many BM like you out there!

Now go chase those lowly Fat Poor Country WW that you like!

“Be Happier ”

Level 1

Since: Mar 09

Letting go of anger.

#17 Feb 6, 2011
There ist a magic bullet so you will have to be patient.
Sadbuttrue

Silver Spring, MD

#18 Feb 6, 2011
MACEO wrote:
I'm looking for a real solution... I'm an old black man, think, poor health, not in great shape! I'm average or below (maybe a 4-5 out of 10), Bald, Dents in my head, beady eyes, Quiet but Sneaky, I loe to instigage trouble. I have no kids because my sperm count is low, I'm insecure, defensive and spent 30 of my years chasing White females. I was also married to a WW for 19 years. My white wife left me because I was unhappy because I married for the wrong reasons and we outgrew each other. I also ran after WW while I was married but very unsuccessful. I have little education HS degree and I love bashing bW on forums in my spare time. I also intersted in a WW who will worship me and allow me to control her. I'm the man and she doesnt have a voice in the relationship because women are "less than" especially Black women who make more than I do and are more successful! LMAO
..
Why am I still single? LMAO

I've tried meeting lowly WW at Work, in bookstores, college campuses, coffee shops, churches, malls, dating sites, whereever. I've lived in several states in locations that aren't bad at all, so that has nothing to do with it but I still.

I don't care about a women's educational level or career, so long as she's White and fat, I can supporting myself. Whether she has a three story house or a one bedroom apartment doesn't matter to me as long as she's big Fat White and country and doesnt talk about me being broke, habitual liar, deceitful and runs to adultery
.
Race is an issue.
Height is not an issue.

Looks... minimal. As long as she is clean and well groomed and doesnt ask for anything then she is fine.

I do NOT date or talk to "Attractive educated BW" there too snobdy an have more than I do! I listen to 70's musics and rarely go out due to my budget and debt from getting a recent divorce!

I'm not very smart or well versed... Why can't I find a Average WW or BW who will take me as is? I'm very seriously can someone help me?
My suggestion to you MACEO is go find another Lowly White woman! LMAO

“Fooyre na fooDa Demngal saa e ”

Since: Nov 10

Location hidden

#19 Feb 6, 2011
Attention wrote:
I'm looking for a real solution... I'm a young black woman, I'm in good shape, I'm cute (maybe a 7 out of 10), natural hair, I have a nice attitude, no kids, I have my life together, etc. etc....
Why am I still single?
I've tried meeting guys in bookstores, college campuses, coffee shops, churches, malls, dating sites, whereever. I've lived in several states in locations that aren't bad at all, so that has nothing to do with it.
I don't care about a man's educational level or career, so long as he can and is supporting himself. Whether he has a three story house or a one bedroom apartment doesn't matter to me.
Race is not an issue.
Height is not an issue.
Looks... minimal. As long as he is clean and well groomed then he is fine.
I do NOT date or talk to "thugs" or guys who curse and listen to a lot of hip hop.
I'm smart and well versed... Why can't I find a guy who takes me seriously?
The guys I go out with all stop seeing me usually after the 3rd or 4th date because I don't have sex with them.
I've tried to pick better men, but it seems as if all of them are taken or not interested.
I don't want to be lonely for the rest of my life...
I know that a lot of good black women are in my position as well.
What is the solution?
By the way, I'm not a religious person (I attend church with a coworker sometimes, though) so please don't suggest prayer... Thanks.
awwww my friend, don't think about men think about school first.

btw i give you credit on not having sex with those losers,because that is all they wanted from you that is why they lefted.

lol also you are young you will not be single for the rest of your life
HALO SPARTAN

United States

#20 Feb 6, 2011
So your opinion is that most black men have serious racial hangups...it sounds to me that you are speaking for a whole race, maybe you should have said YOU dont like or date women that are open to dating all races. Most people who have this type of thinking have insecurities ; they fear that the openminded woman will actually be able to compare and be able to make a choice based on experiences. Fear of the unknown. I will make great efforts to not mention your tag in my comments, my bad. The advice you gave that girl ( if it is a girl ) can be said of all races...EVERY race has members with the " my race better " or the " I dont mess with girls who date out of my race " attitude. You might as well told her to scratch ALL races of men off her list.
Louisianaemperor wrote:
<quoted text> Please do not mention me whenever you're trying to make a point to someone. My opinion is just as valid as yours and most black men don't date black women who are open to dating all other races of men. That's a form of promiscuity if you ask me. No standards. Men of all races feel this way about their women but for some reason us black men are not suppose to feel that way. Yea OK, whatever. I stand by what I said.
Louisianaemperor 3

Alexandria, LA

#21 Feb 6, 2011
HALO SPARTAN wrote:
So your opinion is that most black men have serious racial hangups...it sounds to me that you are speaking for a whole race, maybe you should have said YOU dont like or date women that are open to dating all races. Most people who have this type of thinking have insecurities ; they fear that the openminded woman will actually be able to compare and be able to make a choice based on experiences. Fear of the unknown. I will make great efforts to not mention your tag in my comments, my bad. The advice you gave that girl ( if it is a girl ) can be said of all races...EVERY race has members with the " my race better " or the " I dont mess with girls who date out of my race " attitude. You might as well told her to scratch ALL races of men off her list. <quoted text>
No. just scratch black men off. And it has nothing to do with her comparing us to other groups of men. Why do women come up with some of the dumbest excuses to explain why men feel the way we feel. I don't want a woman that is open to dating other races of men especially white men because it's NASTY to me. She has no standards and will engage any man as long as he has a swinging dick and not a felon. What kind of shyt is that??? I don't want a woman that is open like that. Most men of all races are territorial. Sorry if you as a woman can't understand that but don't attempt to rationalize why we as men (MAJORITY) are the way we are. It has nothing to do with her comparing and making a better choice. I would encourage her to not date any black man once she dates out so there won't be any comparing to be done. And she doesn't have to scratch other men off her list because she is only violating black men. When white women date out she is disrespecting white men, Asian women who date out disrespect Asian men. Do you understand what I am saying. She can only disrespect the race of men in which she is a part of especially when 90% of those men date women of their own race. Men are enemies with other races of men so when a woman disregard such realities than she is disrespectful to her race of men. That's all races of women.

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