Will any AA men ever think of Asian Indian woman as their soulmate ?

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#1 Aug 23, 2008
I am an Asian Indian woman. I'm extremely addicted to one black man and I want to find out if a black man will ever consider Indian woman as his life partner/soul mate ? What is important for a black man to marry someone ?

There were AA men who were attracted to me before. I've friends of all color black, brown, yellow and white. I know they have their pros and cons. I never felt in my life the way I feel for my man. The man I like is talk, dark and handsome. In addition he's intellectual, knowledgeable, brave, courageous, straight forward and honest. He is someone who fought for social justice.

I completed my graduation before many years. This just happened that before couple of years, I was looking for changing my profession and moving to different field. So I went ahead and registered for some course. He was my professor extremely intellectual and outspoken. Touching my heart with every words. Eventually I didn't changed my profession but he managed to change my whole life. Every word of his sinks into my mind. I've deep crush for him almost like love at first sight. No, not that may be love at his first word. I always used to wait after class to ask him some questions. All his views made me progress in my life. Feel more brave and confident which gave me more success with my career and personal life.

I was done with my course but I felt I owe my career/life to him. I left him a thank you note and a small gift. He returned back my gift but asked me if I can have tea with him. After that we are friends and having tea or lunch occasionally but not anything more. The more I sit and talk to him the more I like him. He has beautiful eyes. I like the way he make eye-contacts. Everything about him so beautiful, even his feet. I was gazing at his feet once when he had sandals on. I have deep respect for him because he is somebody who changed my life when I thought I was falling in to drain and will disappear like a worm from this planet. As an Indian we are taught teachers are God but now I wish he becomes a MAN for me. Is it asking for too much ?

After long time, I know it's not crush. I adore and revere him. My respect for him exceeds my love and I don't see myself as his equal because he is more smarter and intelligent than me. I keep thinking of him all night and day, even dreaming of him and how our babies will look. I am not sure, occasionally I felt he had some feelings for me. I'm very immature to understand. How can I know if he has any kind of attraction for me ? He has very strong personality.

I'd tried cooking for him to see if I can reach his heart through his stomach. It didn't work, may be he doesn't like spicy Indian curry. Is there any other way to get to his heart ?Any advice ? I occasionally give him some little gift but he always returns it back. How do I make him feel that I appreciate him ?

He filled my heart, mind and nerves with his intellectual abilities and charms. I know there are many of his ex-female-students who are attracted to him in this same way as I'm. I happen to meet my ex-classmate(a white girl) at dentist place and she was all head over the heals in praises for him. Now, reading many AA threads seems like black men's first choice is white woman, isn't it ? I wish that at least he will know that I like him lot.

I'm also curious if any of you students had relations with ex-professors, was it ever successful ? Do they ever treat their spouse with love rather than authority if it ever goes as far as marriage ?

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#2 Aug 23, 2008
Occasionally, I express my desire for a black man in few threads and I say I'm an Indian woman. Even though most educated Indians in silicon valley don't care about who does IR or their women goes after black or Grey, I'm extremely disgusted about 3rd class illiterate Indians trying to call me sl-t. Also start becoming extremely abusive or racist. This in general come from their own frustration of unable to find another Indian woman willing to date or have relations with them. As such in India 85% of marriages still today are arranged by parents.

As for me I'm traditional Indian woman never given any thought of dating any Indian men. Because people might think Indians are all same but there is wide difference within our community. When Indians marry parents want to find a guy who speak same language, has same religion, caste, status, etc. Even with same caste there are several groups and things can get very complicated.

Even though I can find very few similar tall, dark and handsome guy in my own race, I feel they are just unappealing. They are more of educated book worms with study pay check but when I sit down and have conversation, they never make any eye-contact. They aren't aware-of the world events. They don't have that charm and confidence which make 'my man' so appealing. I feel I have deeper attraction to him than his looks. I know Indian marriages are supposed to be forever but I know the number of years of marriage does not reflect quality of marriage.

I know, I will never ever feel the same feelings I have for him. I just want to see if any black men will be kind to advice me on my issues. I have at least found 3 different individual in this AA forum who reason like him and for a moment, I fantasized that you are him. Anyway, if you are him, you might know that :

I LOVE YOU.
HUMKO AAPSEI PYAR HAI.

NO HATERS HERE PLEASE.

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#4 Aug 23, 2008
Eddy Smegma wrote:
First of all, you gotta do something about that smell ya'll have. I don't know what it is - maybe from eating too much curry or something - but it sure is nasty! The brothas I work with really hate it. So, unless you want a brotha to screw you wearing a gas mask, do something about that smell!
i always thought it was the oils that they use it their hair??

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#5 Aug 23, 2008
I want to know any MANTRA which can work to attract my black man. I feel for any relation to be successful people should be attracted to person's inner self not just driving to get physical pleasure. So I'll rule out being on his bed.

I see too many great points in him which attracts me to him. I wonder if he will find anything ?

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#6 Aug 23, 2008
LOL! You are funny! I thought he liked the perfume I wear.
Eddy Smegma wrote:
First of all, you gotta do something about that smell ya'll have. I don't know what it is - maybe from eating too much curry or something - but it sure is nasty! The brothas I work with really hate it. So, unless you want a brotha to screw you wearing a gas mask, do something about that smell!

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#7 Aug 23, 2008
You were with the wrong one! I don't use any!
oneya wrote:
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i always thought it was the oils that they use it their hair??

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#8 Aug 23, 2008
EkDesiLadki wrote:
Occasionally, I express my desire for a black man in few threads and I say I'm an Indian woman. Even though most educated Indians in silicon valley don't care about who does IR or their women goes after black or Grey, I'm extremely disgusted about 3rd class illiterate Indians trying to call me sl-t. Also start becoming extremely abusive or racist. This in general come from their own frustration of unable to find another Indian woman willing to date or have relations with them. As such in India 85% of marriages still today are arranged by parents.

As for me I'm traditional Indian woman never given any thought of dating any Indian men. Because people might think Indians are all same but there is wide difference within our community....
I know nothing about Black male/Indian woman unions except to say that they certainly are possible and do happen. But aside from the movies (Mississippi Masala), I haven't seen them.

I suspect your biggest challenge will be Indian parents' acceptance of a black son-in-law. If the parents are simply too conservative, isn't it useless to dream about a union that won't be accepted by the elders?

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#10 Aug 23, 2008
I really like some constructive comments, so I can still have some hope and dream about him. Or just pack up my dreams and throw in in ocean.

I read few smart decent AA men's comments in other threads. Hopefully, I 'll get some input from you guys.

Since: Jul 08

Racists Get Ignored!

#11 Aug 23, 2008
I’m an African-American man who likes East Indian women. I won’t get into all the detail about it, but one thing I would say is, East Indian women are “colored” people who have mostly brown skinned. I don’t like “Asian” women yet I’m attracted to Indians and Sri Lankan women. South Asians. I use to go out with this Ethiopian girl and she looked like an Indian, so for some reason, I stated to have attraction for East Indian women.

“I want to find out if a black man will ever consider Indian woman as his life partner/soul mate ?

If the chemistry is there, it would not be a problem for me.

“We are what we think!!!!!!!!!!”

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#12 Aug 23, 2008
Harrison,

For my parents to be acceptable the person has to be speaking the same language with same religion, caste, status, etc. I know they will be disappointed even if the other guy is an Indian if doesn't match almost everything they want.

Even though most arranged marriages seems last longer, there is no such thing called LOVE. It's only convenience marriage. We women are into looking for a guy who earns maximum pay-check. Similarly men will have their own agenda, may be pay-check, dowry(that's another stigma), looks, etc.

I know, I can't please my parents. I have few friends who did IR/marriages they had to walk out of their home with nothing. If you know, walking out of home does mean you need to trust your partner completely. Also, feel that other person will love and protect you. As such you might think it's baby thing but Indian women are used to some level of protection. Since I already feel protection, trust and comfort every time, I'm with my friend(ex-prof). I'm not concerned.

As far as I'm concerned, I have rare chance to love another person. I'm always preoccupied with him and live in my own world.
Harrisson wrote:
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I know nothing about Black male/Indian woman unions except to say that they certainly are possible and do happen. But aside from the movies (Mississippi Masala), I haven't seen them.
I suspect your biggest challenge will be Indian parents' acceptance of a black son-in-law. If the parents are simply too conservative, isn't it useless to dream about a union that won't be accepted by the elders?
BlackAmericanPri ncess

Middletown, OH

#13 Aug 23, 2008
You didn't have to give your whole life story
That was way too long
I know plenty of Bm who date Indian women and they ALL are different
Thus we cannot give you advice about a man whom we don't know
What I can tell you is to approach him with how you feel and take it from there

“Margaret Cho ”

Since: Jun 08

Massilion

#14 Aug 23, 2008
EkDesiLadki wrote:
I am an Asian Indian woman. I'm extremely addicted to one black man and I want to find out if a black man will ever consider Indian woman as his life partner/soul mate ? What is important for a black man to marry someone ?
There were AA men who were attracted to me before. I've friends of all color black, brown, yellow and white. I know they have their pros and cons. I never felt in my life the way I feel for my man. The man I like is talk, dark and handsome. In addition he's intellectual, knowledgeable, brave, courageous, straight forward and honest. He is someone who fought for social justice.
Oh stop lying will you? Because you are just another black man pretending to a nonblack woman on here trying to make it seem like Indian women wan't your arses now. Indians are very colorstruck and strong believers in their caste system so most Indian women wouldn't be caught dead with a black man. Even if these Indian women would be caught with they black men they would be quickly slaughtered by their male relatives. Can't you come up with a better story?

“ZZZZZZZ”

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ATL

#15 Aug 23, 2008
Macyfin wrote:
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Oh stop lying will you? Because you are just another black man pretending to a nonblack woman on here trying to make it seem like Indian women wan't your arses now. Indians are very colorstruck and strong believers in their caste system so most Indian women wouldn't be caught dead with a black man. Even if these Indian women would be caught with they black men they would be quickly slaughtered by their male relatives. Can't you come up with a better story?
How would you know?!!

“We are what we think!!!!!!!!!!”

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#16 Aug 23, 2008
CHUP BEI GHADEI.

That means shut up # in Hindi.

Honey don't piss me off, I can speak too many different languages and say extremely horrible stuff and thrash you much severely than my would be husband.

Not all Indians will go for the caste. As such Indian caste system was organized by PEOPLE'S PROFESSION. He is a professor. That means he is Brahmin that the highest caste in the Indian CASTE SYSTEM. It might be worth while to read about other culture.

My parents aren't that type who will kill some body. They are more civilized than your parents. Now, YOU SHUT UP AND GET LOST.
Macyfin wrote:
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Oh stop lying will you? Because you are just another black man pretending to a nonblack woman on here trying to make it seem like Indian women wan't your arses now. Indians are very colorstruck and strong believers in their caste system so most Indian women wouldn't be caught dead with a black man. Even if these Indian women would be caught with they black men they would be quickly slaughtered by their male relatives. Can't you come up with a better story?

“fullblown technicolour ”

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#17 Aug 23, 2008
I'm not a man...but basically, black guys aren't an enigma, just talk to him, flirt a bit and see where it goes.

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#18 Aug 23, 2008
That's another problem I have, since he used to be my ex-prof, I feel concerned that he might be offended. He already said he doesn't like to associate with younger white students who try to behave cuddly with him. See black men as more for “it”. I'm not the younger once since I finished my grad school long before I took the course with him. But now, I can't do the same what he dislike in others. I'm different, at least I want to keep him as my friend.
illusioned wrote:
I'm not a man...but basically, black guys aren't an enigma, just talk to him, flirt a bit and see where it goes.
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#19 Aug 23, 2008
Eddy Smegma wrote:
First of all, you gotta do something about that smell ya'll have. I don't know what it is - maybe from eating too much curry or something - but it sure is nasty! The brothas I work with really hate it. So, unless you want a brotha to screw you wearing a gas mask, do something about that smell!
EDDIE...GET LOST...you just UPSET because you REALIZE Asian women can actually see past YOU white men.!

How does FEEL to realize that YOU'RE NO at the top of the list anymore for suitable mates?!!!
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#20 Aug 23, 2008
EkDesiLadki wrote:
I really like some constructive comments, so I can still have some hope and dream about him. Or just pack up my dreams and throw in in ocean.
I read few smart decent AA men's comments in other threads. Hopefully, I 'll get some input from you guys.
Well First off...is this professor SINGLE or married?
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#21 Aug 23, 2008
EkDesiLadki wrote:
CHUP BEI GHADEI.
That means shut up # in Hindi.
Honey don't piss me off, I can speak too many different languages and say extremely horrible stuff and thrash you much severely than my would be husband.
Not all Indians will go for the caste. As such Indian caste system was organized by PEOPLE'S PROFESSION. He is a professor. That means he is Brahmin that the highest caste in the Indian CASTE SYSTEM. It might be worth while to read about other culture.
My parents aren't that type who will kill some body. They are more civilized than your parents. Now, YOU SHUT UP AND GET LOST.
<quoted text>
LOL...THAT A GIRL...YOU TELL HIM OFF GIRL....LOL...HA HA HA Ha HA HA HA...WAY TO GO!
:)
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#22 Aug 23, 2008
EkDesiLadki wrote:
I want to know any MANTRA which can work to attract my black man. I feel for any relation to be successful people should be attracted to person's inner self not just driving to get physical pleasure. So I'll rule out being on his bed.
I see too many great points in him which attracts me to him. I wonder if he will find anything ?
Well most black men will go for ANY race of women, they are the ONLY race of men on the face of this earth that will go for ANY kind of woman and for ANY kind of reason....MOST black men ARE NOT THAT choosey at all...and so being that you're NOT BLACK...that even puts your chances even HIGHER of scoring one...SAD..BUT..TRUE!

PEACE

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