young girls having sex,who's to blame-mothers or media?

[nappy neffie]

i started this thread because this is a very real and distubing reality in the world today.i personally feel that both are to blame, but it's moreso the mom's fault(and dad) because what your child does and learns begins in the home.i also know that the kids can be ANYWHERE and hear/see sexually explicit material;that's why i say it's not 100% the mom's fault.however,you're child's perception of sex does begin at home with the mom(AND DAD).

[Nubian_x]

a child will do what a child wants
and at some point you have to loosen the ropes
they wont be under your wing forever

and it takes two to tango, young boys and young girls are having sex

and borthcontrol has been drummed into their heads enough
they are using condoms and birth control

[Captn]

12:00 o'clock midnight on a school night. You drive around and see young Black/ young Latino girls running around all the time.

The old saying is "the only thing open late at night are 7-11s and legs."

Then its oops, I'm pregnant. Both parents are to blame. You have to stop wanting to be the child's best friend, and start being a parent.

[nursesista]

I was discussing this with one of my gfs who said I would be wrong for putting my child on birth control @ 16 LOL. She said I'd be encouraging her, but I dont think so. I dont have kids and Im really thinking about NEVER having any b/c ppl are so scik today. If a perv isnt molesting a child, the childs having sex too damn early. My mom didnt talk to me about sex she just told me not to have it. When she found out I did, she took me to the dr for a preggy test. With all the stds out here now that should've been the least of her worries. Idk sometimes I see kids raised in the best direction their parents knew and still turn out off the chain. I think open lines of communication are the best way to combat pre marital teen sex. Unfortunately a lot of teens dont like talking to parents about sex.....

nappy neffie wrote:

i started this thread because this is a very real and distubing reality in the world today.i personally feel that both are to blame, but it's moreso the mom's fault(and dad) because what your child does and learns begins in the home.i also know that the kids can be ANYWHERE and hear/see sexually explicit material;that's why i say it's not 100% the mom's fault.however,you're child's perception of sex does begin at home with the mom(AND DAD).

[nursesista]

Captn wrote:

12:00 o'clock midnight on a school night. You drive around and see young Black/ young Latino girls running around all the time.
The old saying is "the only thing open late at night are 7-11s and legs."
Then its oops, I'm pregnant. Both parents are to blame. You have to stop wanting to be the child's best friend, and start being a parent.

Agreed, but my mom was not my friend and she still thinks I started having sex too early. She told me to be comfortable with my sexuality, but dont have sex?!?!? LOL

[Captn]

nursesista wrote:

<quoted text>Agreed, but my mom was not my friend and she still thinks I started having sex too early. She told me to be comfortable with my sexuality, but dont have sex?!?!? LOL

My sister is in her early twenties. I'm still crossing my fingers that she is a virgin. lol
But seriously, the cool mom or dad thing is more destructive than good.

[jayrag]

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TEEN PREGNANCY

GLOUCESTER, Mass.-- A spike in pregnancies at a Massachusetts high school is being blamed at least in part on an agreement made by a group of girls to get pregnant.

Time magazine quoted the principal of Gloucester High as saying the girls decided to get pregnant and raise their babies together.

The number of pregnancies at the school jumped from the usual four per year to 17. Gloucester High School has 1,200 students, reported Boston TV station WCVB.

Principal Joseph Sullivan told Time magazine that the girls were making frequent stops at the school clinic for pregnancy tests and "seemed more upset when they weren't pregnant than when they were."

He said when some of the girls found out they were pregnant, they traded high fives and talked about baby showers.

One of the fathers was identified as a 24-year-old homeless man, Sullivan told the magazine.

Students said they were shocked.

"I remember finding out one person was pregnant. That was, like, incredible ... these numbers are outrageous," student Mollie Wagner said.

"I am friends with a couple of them," Wagner said. "I mean it's their decisions -- whatever they want to do. You won't catch me getting pregnant in high school. No way," Wagner said.

Brianna Porter graduated last week. She and many other teens said that the pact story has been overstated -- that only a few girls actually made a pact, WCVB reported.

"I heard that there were two girls who were best friends and they wanted to, like, be pregnant together," she said.

The school district's superintendent said the girls who got pregnant generally "lack self-esteem" and have a lack of love in their lives.

A friend of the teens said they seemed "curious" about her own pregnancy.

Christen Callahan had her baby when she was 15. The former Gloucester High School student told NBC's "Today" show that some of the teens would ask her questions and talk about how they thought their own parents would react if they were to get pregnant.

Callahan said she tried to warn her friends.

"You lose everything," Callahan said. "You lose your friends. You lose being able to go out. I know a lot of people that like to go out every night. You can’t really do it. You lose -- you lose everything."

Callahan said she has no firsthand knowledge of any pact among other Gloucester students to have babies
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[jayrag]

Girls/Women don't get pregnant by accident. they do it on purpose.
In America girls have access to all types of birth control.
No excuse.

[Nagaspirit]

Captn wrote:

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My sister is in her early twenties. I'm still crossing my fingers that she is a virgin. lol
But seriously, the cool mom or dad thing is more destructive than good.

My sister got on birth control around 17.....its almost like saying mummy/daddy...guess what!....

[AfriSN]

I would blame both the young girls and their parents. If the parents scare them off then they would probably not have got pregnant. For me since I was brought up by a Muslim family I was told as a young girl that I would get sin and would go to hell if I ever got pregnant and that god is always watching me which is true...... so it definitely scared the hell out of me because I do fear Allah.

[Le PouBelle]

Blame the hormones a.k.a the inner demons.

Hot boys + the hot weather + wearing skimpy clothes + feeling horny + loving the attention = 3 minutes of heaven for these young kiddos.

You cannot blame nature taking it's course on parents.

Give them advice and hold your breath.

[Captn]

jayrag wrote:

Girls/Women don't get pregnant by accident. they do it on purpose.
In America girls have access to all types of birth control.
No excuse.

By now we all heard the story of the pregnancy pact.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/25272678/

I do believe that some girls/women are very lonely, and feel that a baby will love them.

[jayrag]

AfriSN wrote:

I would blame both the young girls and their parents. If the parents scare them off then they would probably not have got pregnant. For me since I was brought up by a Muslim family I was told as a young girl that I would get sin and would go to hell if I ever got pregnant and that god is always watching me which is true...... so it definitely scared the hell out of me because I do fear Allah.

Many muslim and hindu families will disown women who have out of wedlock children.
The problem with Western/Chrisian society is that it accepts all types of immoral and unethical behavior as normal.

[Captn]

Nagaspirit wrote:

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My sister got on birth control around 17.....its almost like saying mummy/daddy...guess what!....

Nice.
I know that some women say they use birth control because of irregular periods. But I wouldn't know too much about that.

[BrownSuga]

blame media for what? blame the parent(s)

parents will/can have so much control over there kids if there were strict and not pretending to be the kool mom/dad, if the parent is not being a parent but being a "friend" then of course the child is gonna be fast and more likely to pop out a kid at 14. I think its all on the parent(s) they have full control over their kids and nowadays they don't know how to use it.

I know this girl she lost her virginity at 9 :/ now she's 16 I think slept around with men that was over the age of 30 + married had abortions already, and fast as hell, just nasty! and I have 0 respect for her and her mom, mainly her mother cause her mom should have her in check mode! but its to late.

[CHOCOLATE FLAVOR]

Their sorry azz fathers for abandoning them as little young girls.They're having so much sex ,because they're searching for that fatherly love and affection from older men.If black men and men in general would be better fathers and take care of their responsibilities at home,this wouldn't happen.

[east-african beauty]

This is like an epidemic in London, everywhere i go i see 14 year old mothers, and i think the problem is the lack of morals, if you talk too these kids you would see that they really dont take sex as a important issue, its the carelessness that we have created in society that is the problem.

There is a reason why this is so bad in the western world, its because Sex has become something that is no longer sacred or important, young people see it as something of a past-time. Not only that but within a lot of these families the image that promiscuity isn't a issue is reinforced to their minds, which has lead us to a society with no morals.

[jayrag]

CHOCOLATE FLAVOR wrote:

Their sorry azz fathers for abandoning them as little young girls.They're having so much sex ,because they're searching for that fatherly love and affection from older men.If black men and men in general would be better fathers and take care of their responsibilities at home,this wouldn't happen.

Barack Obama and Bill Clinton were raised by single mothers. Not having a father is no excuse for failure and making bad decisions.

[CHOCOLATE FLAVOR]

jayrag wrote:

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Barack Obama and Bill Clinton were raised by single mothers. Not having a father is no excuse for failure and making bad decisions.

It's not a matter of making bad or good decisions.It's about knowing and learning how too.When the father is missing in these children lives they go a stray.These actions are the result of lack of love from the parents and lack of guidance.

[Analysis]

Bill Clinton is a poor example, his personal life,
from what I've read,
really is akin to an alley cat. He also perjured himself, and obstructed justice, you need a better example than him.

jayrag wrote:

<quoted text>
Barack Obama and Bill Clinton were raised by single mothers. Not having a father is no excuse for failure and making bad decisions.