When a bw call bw out on the carpet, bw don want to hear it

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ONO
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#1 Sep 4, 2013
was talking to a very close Sister of mine, and during the course of our conversation, we both felt that it seems among the Sisterhood, we can’t say we love the Black Man without receiving some sort of backlash from Black Women. In order for our Sisters to love us, we have to hate HIM. If we speak of the flaws and destructive behavior that we as Black Women have adapted its “throwing our Sisters under the bus“, but apparently it’s OK to throw him under the bus, then run him over. Whenever accountability of the Black Woman is mentioned, deflection always makes its presence known. I am always being told that I should speak more on fatherless homes, unemployed Black Men, uneducated Black Men……you know the usual he ain’t *** subjects.

These issues are talked about EVERYDAY, but when the contribution the Black Woman has made to the current state of the Black Family is mentioned, it’s a problem. It becomes well “we” should all work together. Really, because a minute ago it was all “he should do this,“he should do that”,“he abandoned his family“, He…He…HE….and now when the mirror is held up to us, it becomes “we“. It can’t become “we” until BOTH look at self.

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#2 Sep 4, 2013
The Black Woman says she has been proudly holding it down right…….so has that worked out for us? Teenage pregnancy and abortions are at an all-time high, our sons are being mis-educated and neglected, and by the hands of OUR negligence, they grow up to be the uneducated men we tell our daughters to stay away from, but we stood and WATCHED them be mis-educated and did NOTHING about it. Oh I forget, we only want to take credit for the GOOD things that happen in our community all that is negative, has nothing to do with us, we have contributed nothing right?

So there are no children being told that their father is no good from the mouths of the mothers’ right? So there are no children that are being told that their father abandoned them, but didn’t make mention of how he might have been PUSHED away. So there are no Black Men, being handcuffed by the child support system right? There are no Black Women that say they don’t need a man for anything right? There are no Black Women that speak to Black Men in a tone that COMPLETELY kills their spirit right? There are no Black Women that will HELP a man work for self, but will blast him if he doesn’t have a job right? Again, if the Black Woman is completely innocent, if she has done no wrong, and everything that is negative in our community falls on the shoulders of Black Men……..who in the HELL gave BIRTH to them? Whose wombs did these so called no good men come from?
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ONO
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#3 Sep 4, 2013
This is not about playing the Blame Game, but it is about us as women, saying, you know what? We HAVE contributed to the destruction of the Black Family. We HAVE at times perpetuated the agenda of our enemy. We HAVE consistently exercised destructive behavior. I would like us to be honest enough to acknowledge that, WITHOUT saying, but it was because the Black Man____(fill in the blank.)

It seems that we are unable to admit our faults and flaws without diverting the attention BACK to the Brothers. We often speak of Black Men and the need for them to come and take back their Woman and communities, and we say this as if it is an easy task. Sure Black Man, come whisk your counterpart from the folds of our common enemy. The same enemy that fed her, clothed her, housed her and mis-educated her, come on and get her back. If Black Men attempted to reclaim us all, how many would follow him? How many would submit to him? How many would recognize him as the head?
MikeBlack

Tomball, TX

#5 Sep 4, 2013
Its a good thing to have understanding and supportive BW with you... rare gems they are...

“Gone But Not...”

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...Forgotten:^)

#6 Sep 4, 2013
bump.lol somebody else has caught on to this ish FINALLY!!!!!!!

ONO
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#7 Sep 4, 2013
MikeBlack wrote:
Its a good thing to have understanding and supportive BW with you... rare gems they are...
Rare indeed.

ONO
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#8 Sep 4, 2013
PrinceShyShy wrote:
bump.lol somebody else has caught on to this ish FINALLY!!!!!!!
Correcto mundo.

The bw want to be worshipped as a goddess and if told she's human, she's offended.

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#9 Sep 4, 2013
oh stfu

“Get use to the cold!”

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#10 Sep 4, 2013
Definitely some of those mothers are to blame and many of those fathers are to blame. When kids become adults they also need to be responsible, many kids might have not the best upbringing but they don't turn into destructive adults tearing things about.

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#11 Sep 4, 2013
Men are suppose to lead their communities yet most bm are self centered and self destructive. A woman cannot teach a boy to be a man she also cannot force a man to be a man. Yet the burden of child care and education falls solely on her?? Bm leave their children at alarming rates while bw struggle alone to provide and care for the children alone. So when single parenting fails how is it always the bw fault.

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#12 Sep 4, 2013
If bw neglect their children its because her time is thin being that shes alone having to spend most of her days working cooking and cleanin and still has to squeeze time in for the kids while the bm simply pays his child support and continues living his self centered life. I see this with my friends and other women in my community. A woman gives up her time for the kids while a bm treats his fatherhood like a car note. There are only 24 hours in a day parenting requires two people for good reasons.
I can appreciate where the thread maker is trying to go but i respectfully do not completley agree.
Hot Black and Strong

Jerseyville, IL

#13 Sep 4, 2013
liberal logic-

when a black man sleeps w alot of women and leaves behind children for tax payers to take care of, he is a deadbeat

when a black woman sleeps with alot of men (its feminisim, shes fighting the double standard by embrassing her sexual freedom)
JimiJon

Manassas, VA

#15 Sep 4, 2013
I'm calling out BW for not understanding that in business you have to be open to everyone. Most BW today who are into BM are simply pro black.....period. In my field (promotion and marketing)if you want to be successful, you have to be open to everyone regardless of race. Johnson Publishing may have achieved success with a strictly black focus, but it's doubtful you could repeat that today. When BW see me w/my white, Hispanic, and Asian business associates, they write me off, just like that. So I'm now hated on because I'm successful in business?!! Whatever! My GF is Mexican and serious eye candy so I don't complain too much,LOL!
Spit-Fiyah

Montgomery, AL

#16 Sep 4, 2013
lmbao the black trash nighur btch race at their very best again i see.

ONO
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#17 Sep 4, 2013
As a bm, I can walk into a mall or restaurant and bw will put on the stank face as if it is their time of the month. Who want to approach a bw that has "I'm trouble" written all over her face.

If I walk into a mall or restaurant with a non-bw, the bw goes into further girations. The bw want to treat a bm like a dog and expect the bm to glorify her. Bm are not going to play that game.

In case someone deny the significance of facial expression, I suggest they contact UCLA and enroll in it's doctoral program of facial expressions.

http://psychology.about.com/od/nonverbalcommu...

ONO
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#19 Sep 4, 2013
drugsaredumb wrote:
oh stfu
The author must have struck a nerve

You can't stand criticism. If it was from a bm, you'd degrade and insult the bm. This is from a bw and what's your hypersensitive response?

"OH STFU"!

Why don't you use that weak excuse of "not all bw"? The author did not discriminate, isolate, segregate, separate, segment or divide bw because, all bw have been infected to some degree of the "bm are losers" disease.

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#20 Sep 4, 2013
Kola_Koca wrote:
Men are suppose to lead their communities yet most bm are self centered and self destructive. A woman cannot teach a boy to be a man she also cannot force a man to be a man. Yet the burden of child care and education falls solely on her?? Bm leave their children at alarming rates while bw struggle alone to provide and care for the children alone. So when single parenting fails how is it always the bw fault.
The author said many bw push the man out of the house.

The baby trap isn't working like it used to.

The bw is the least sought out woman on earth except when it comes to sex. Then she's the easiest to conquer.

Black Women: 59 Percent Have Multiple Babies' Daddies ...

http://rollingout.com/politics/black-women-59...

ONO
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#21 Sep 4, 2013
The Oracle wrote:
Why waste time listening to what black boys think.
The have no integrity.
Liars, thieves, losers the lot.
You can't read.

I'll quote from the author again for your benefit.

"Th Black Woman says she has been proudly holding it down right…….so has that worked out for us? Teenage pregnancy and abortions are at an all-time high, our sons are being mis-educated and neglected, and by the hands of OUR negligence, they grow up to be the uneducated men we tell our daughters to stay away from, but we stood and WATCHED them be mis-educated and did NOTHING about it. Oh I forget, we only want to take credit for the GOOD things that happen in our community all that is negative, has nothing to do with us, we have contributed nothing right?

“Beautiful Princess.....”

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#23 Sep 4, 2013
Another BULLSHYT thread invented by a fool to get an argument started. I doubt that anyone black even posted this stupidity.

There is not a REAL BW on this forum that has ever been attacked by all BW for saying they love BM. GTFOH

ONO
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#26 Sep 4, 2013
Bychance37 wrote:
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You are the BIGGEST FOOL on this thread, even more so than the other racist trolls. I don't give a damn about some woman writing anything generalizing about black women. She didn't interview me nor 99% of other BW therefore she can't speak for all of us. This woman is part of a society that separates men and women. That puts men on a pedestal and women under foot. She can't tell me anything because if she said that about ALL BW then she's STUPID and if you hang on her every word so are you!
Hello fool. You're back again?

Black Woman: Shields of Deflection.

I was talking to a very close Sister of mine, and during the course of our conversation, we both felt that it seems among the Sisterhood, we can’t say we love the Black Man without receiving some sort of backlash from Black Women. In order for our Sisters to love us, we have to hate HIM. If we speak of the flaws and destructive behavior that we as Black Women have adapted its “throwing our Sisters under the bus“, but apparently it’s OK to throw him under the bus, then run him over. Whenever accountability of the Black Woman is mentioned, deflection always makes its presence known. I am always being told that I should speak more on fatherless homes, unemployed Black Men, uneducated Black Men……you know the usual he ain’t *** subjects.

These issues are talked about EVERYDAY, but when the contribution the Black Woman has made to the current state of the Black Family is mentioned, it’s a problem. It becomes well “we” should all work together. Really, because a minute ago it was all “he should do this,“he should do that”,“he abandoned his family“, He…He…HE….and now when the mirror is held up to us, it becomes “we“. It can’t become “we” until BOTH look at self.

The Black Woman says she has been proudly holding it down right…….so has that worked out for us? Teenage pregnancy and abortions are at an all-time high, our sons are being mis-educated and neglected, and by the hands of OUR negligence, they grow up to be the uneducated men we tell our daughters to stay away from, but we stood and WATCHED them be mis-educated and did NOTHING about it. Oh I forget, we only want to take credit for the GOOD things that happen in our community all that is negative, has nothing to do with us, we have contributed nothing right?

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