The Emotionally Abusive Black Man

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UK Sista

UK

#1 Nov 5, 2011
A widely-held belief amongst men in the Black community is that a woman is to blame if she has a relationship with an abusive man, as she should have “picked” better. It is interesting to me how none of the men that point the finger of blame at the woman for being a victim of a manipulative control freak ever make men responsible for being a manipulative control freak and abuser of women! Such an attitude makes these men as emotionally abusive as the men they are so anxious to absolve of guilt.

Don’t be deceived by outward trappings of success. Even so-called “good” Black men – highly educated and successful can be emotionally abusive. Men as a whole treat women as subordinate and less important than themselves. Men want to be right all the time, and to be right that means they must make women wrong. Men want to have the power and control all the time, and to have power and control
exclusively they must make sure that women have none. I believe it fair to say that the vast majority of Black men are now or have at some point behaved in a fashion that qualifies as emotionally abusive to women.
Apaphis

Los Angeles, CA

#2 Nov 5, 2011
Don't date bm problem solved.
Kim

London, UK

#3 Nov 5, 2011
Who actually cares about bm. Come on now time to move on and upwards.

Since: Apr 11

London, UK

#4 Nov 5, 2011
Kim wrote:
Who actually cares about bm. Come on now time to move on and upwards.
Time for you to change your name.I was here first.

Level 6

Since: Jun 08

DC

#5 Nov 5, 2011
I can honestly say this is me most of the time
UK Sista wrote:
A widely-held belief amongst men in the Black community is that a woman is to blame if she has a relationship with an abusive man, as she should have “picked” better. It is interesting to me how none of the men that point the finger of blame at the woman for being a victim of a manipulative control freak ever make men responsible for being a manipulative control freak and abuser of women! Such an attitude makes these men as emotionally abusive as the men they are so anxious to absolve of guilt.
Don’t be deceived by outward trappings of success. Even so-called “good” Black men – highly educated and successful can be emotionally abusive. Men as a whole treat women as subordinate and less important than themselves. Men want to be right all the time, and to be right that means they must make women wrong. Men want to have the power and control all the time, and to have power and control
exclusively they must make sure that women have none. I believe it fair to say that the vast majority of Black men are now or have at some point behaved in a fashion that qualifies as emotionally abusive to women.

“I am”

Level 8

Since: Jul 11

The Original Intention

#6 Nov 5, 2011
UK Sista wrote:
A widely-held belief amongst men in the Black community is that a woman is to blame if she has a relationship with an abusive man, as she should have “picked” better. It is interesting to me how none of the men that point the finger of blame at the woman for being a victim of a manipulative control freak ever make men responsible for being a manipulative control freak and abuser of women! Such an attitude makes these men as emotionally abusive as the men they are so anxious to absolve of guilt.
Don’t be deceived by outward trappings of success. Even so-called “good” Black men – highly educated and successful can be emotionally abusive. Men as a whole treat women as subordinate and less important than themselves. Men want to be right all the time, and to be right that means they must make women wrong. Men want to have the power and control all the time, and to have power and control
exclusively they must make sure that women have none. I believe it fair to say that the vast majority of Black men are now or have at some point behaved in a fashion that qualifies as emotionally abusive to women.
And women are even more so emotionally abusive to themselves. See here you apply zero guilt to yourself... which allows you and other women to continually walk the path that leads you straight to the "abusive man".

:o

Level 1

Since: Oct 11

United States

#7 Nov 5, 2011
Well sista, first women need to get themselves together mentally, emotionally, and financially. If you got your stuff together, then you won't need him and it won't be so hard to leave. I have never understood why women would stay in those types of relationships. That's why I put part blame on the woman (well the ones that stay and endure it). My mom always taught me not to take it. The more you let them get away with it the worse they get. At the first sign, put your foot down and don't be scared. If he hits you, take a frying pan to his head and leave. He'll only do as much as you allow.
Roller blader

Newark, DE

#8 Nov 5, 2011
Black men are so mentally damaged they can't even think straight, always telling people what to do, yet can't even get their shit straight. Black men have mental due to their bad experiences with HOOD RAT bitches, so they think all blacks are like that. They need to date each other or get the fuck out the country.
///

London, UK

#9 Nov 5, 2011
Roller blader wrote:
Black men are so mentally damaged they can't even think straight, always telling people what to do, yet can't even get their shit straight. Black men have mental due to their bad experiences with HOOD RAT bitches, so they think all blacks are like that. They need to date each other or get the fuck out the country.
who cares what you think, half mexicant. You're not even black lol
///

London, UK

#10 Nov 5, 2011
So many half breed rejects flocking to black people just to complain.

These other black people who treat half breeds like they're black are fools. Why don't they send these half breeds to their other side... See how kindly they treat them.
joanna

Sydney, Australia

#11 Nov 28, 2012
just dating a black guy. I am white and age difference upset him a lot. Now trays to control everything that I do. from what I should and should not wear to you must send me now! I was over at his house felt upset and he told me to just leave he had no time for any tears! He will never pay for anything! He has never taken me out only back to his house. He has a daughter and flat mate living there but won't introduce me them. I have to sneak in like a thief in the night.

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