Why are BP unable to ignore differences in others?

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“The Spotted Girl News Network”

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#1 Jan 6, 2014
Like all people, BP want to be respected. They basically want WP to ignore their dark skin and treat them the same as they would other people they respect. They want WP to ignore the bad things that many other BP do when dealing with them. On the surface, that sounds reasonable. However, they do not seem to wish to reciprocate. Possible examples:

1. When a WP is on a bicycle, they expect to be treated the same as in a car. That means to ignore the bicycle and pretend they are in a car - much like WP are forced to pretend BP are the same as WP. Yet, BP tend to condescend to White cyclists, treat them like they are inferiors like they are children, make comments to cyclists they would not say to other drivers, etc. "Be careful on that thing!" Would you say that to a person in a car? So why do BP act weird when around someone on a bicycle? Why can't they ignore the bicycle and not mention it? For instance, a white lady cyclist went to the courthouse for a reason. The security screeners always harassed her - "You still riding a bike?" "Where is your bike?" "When are you going to get a car?" It took talking to the captain and the director to get that stopped. Yet, they didn't ask the others there about their cars. They singled her out, and that was just one example of many BP who ask about it, when WP in her town didn't.

2. For some reason, some BP are overly concerned with the health decisions of *other people* who are neither their friends nor related to them. A lot of WP like to go out without coats in the winter and rough it for short distances. In our culture, that is a status symbol. The more you naturally resist the elements, the more respect you earn. But some BW seem to have a coat fetish. "Where's your coat at?" It is in whatever the correct place for that given person is. Like many WP, I work to acclimate myself for the winter. That means letting yourself stay colder than comfortable to allow your body to adjust. Wearing a coat is a crutch, and never lets your body adjust. That is why we have a thyroid gland (well, a pair of them, forming a butterfly shape), and why it changes size with the seasons. Same goes with shoes. While women of all races will often stare at someone's shoes, it seem BP are more bossy and nosy about what others wear on their feet. Why can't they ignore any difference, move on, and never mention it?

3. Similar to #2, but this is about marks, tattoos, spots, etc. Why can't BP assume any marks on a person are either natural or chosen by the person (and thus not up for discussion)? I read of a person who somehow got a mark put on their face. Most WP they are around respect them enough to not act like they notice and not comment. But the first thing out of a BP's mouth is: "What is wrong with your face?" There is nothing "wrong" with it. Haven't they seen tattoos before? Besides, it is on another person, and that other person didn't do it for the asker. They surely have their own PRIVATE reasons.

“The Spotted Girl News Network”

Level 8

Since: Apr 09

Spotted World

#2 Jan 6, 2014
Not really on topic, but item #3 ties in with an earlier thread I started about why BP seem to nearly always jump to negative conclusions, when WP may form several conclusion and not comment, or assume the best or most innocent of the situation. Here is an example of how a couple of WP handled a situation. A WW called herself a "medical intuitive." Imagine things like astral projection or remote viewing, but inside of someone. A doctor called her asking for help for insights into a patient. She was to meet him at the hospital. She brought a friend along. Anyway, something wasn't right on the way there. Out in the parking lot were fires and people all around. The passenger said, "Hey, this looks like fun, they are having a parade!" The medical intuitive may have figured out the real situation, but she felt a positive attitude would be their best defense. They got out and a guy was staring at them. They told the guy, "Hey! Nice evening for a parade!"

When they finished up inside the hospital, they returned to the parking lot. What they saw was alarming. The car behind theirs was torched, and the occupants were beside it, apparently beaten to death. The two ladies continued away from there safely. It turns out that what they saw on the way in was a riot. Riots only have 2 types of people - aggressors and victims, often both in the same persons. Now they were not of either spirit and were thus out of place for a riot, and that might have saved their lives.

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