Why are black women afraid to date wh...

Why are black women afraid to date white men?

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FlashBack21

Lake Worth, FL

#1 Jul 25, 2008
How come every race of women date outside their race except black women?

“TAM Were Some Real Black Men!”

Since: May 08

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#2 Jul 25, 2008
Though black women are catching on the fact that black men are not the only men in the world, many black women still hesitate dating white and other nonblack men because they still fear family rejection, being seen as sell-out to and no longer being a part of black community eventhough black men can date and marry white women and other races of women yet still be considered pro-black and welcomed, along with his nonblack female into the African American community. Many time black women don't want to endure the attention they draw, the whispers, snickers and judgement not only from sometimes from blacks but also from the nonblack man's family who are use of many black women crossing or having to welcome them to the family.

But if black women don't start doing what is right for themselves and dating outside if they desire then their families, the men's families and society will not have a chance to get use to this type IR relationships the way they have bm/ww relationships.
FlashBack21

Lake Worth, FL

#3 Jul 25, 2008
Freebird32 wrote:
Though black women are catching on the fact that black men are not the only men in the world, many black women still hesitate dating white and other nonblack men because they still fear family rejection, being seen as sell-out to and no longer being a part of black community eventhough black men can date and marry white women and other races of women yet still be considered pro-black and welcomed, along with his nonblack female into the African American community. Many time black women don't want to endure the attention they draw, the whispers, snickers and judgement not only from sometimes from blacks but also from the nonblack man's family who are use of many black women crossing or having to welcome them to the family.
But if black women don't start doing what is right for themselves and dating outside if they desire then their families, the men's families and society will not have a chance to get use to this type IR relationships the way they have bm/ww relationships.
I think more black women are dating out now but I very rarely see a balck woman out with a man of another race. I am not quite sure why it is taking black women the longest out of any race to date out.

“TAM Were Some Real Black Men!”

Since: May 08

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#4 Jul 25, 2008
FlashBack21 wrote:
<quoted text>I think more black women are dating out now but I very rarely see a balck woman out with a man of another race. I am not quite sure why it is taking black women the longest out of any race to date out.
Well for the some of the reason that I have already stated plus the fact this sense of loyality to black men (eventhough most bm never return it) and the belief that it is our duty has black women to be the backbones of our community and hold everything together that has been drilled in most black women heads who are over 25 year old. I am glad to see the young black women and now some of the black women in their 30s and 40s are finally beginning to feel more comfortable about dating other races of men.
Seriously

Edmonton, Canada

#5 Jul 25, 2008
Please go away Flashback21.

“TAM Were Some Real Black Men!”

Since: May 08

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#6 Jul 25, 2008
FlashBack21 wrote:
<quoted text>I think more black women are dating out now but I very rarely see a balck woman out with a man of another race. I am not quite sure why it is taking black women the longest out of any race to date out.
Other races of women, except maybe for muslin women were never taught they most remain loyal to their race or that they had to be the backbones of their communities like black women were but now sisters are finally waking up and leaving. It is still a long process but now where I live I see at least 2 or 3 black women and nonblack men couples a week where at one point in the past I would only see one bw/wm couple every month or 2.

Level 8

Since: May 08

Pacific Northwest

#8 Jul 25, 2008
Freebird, you just git on down with yo' bad self. No permission needed from THIS black man...

LOL

Ever'body needs to just do they thang!
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Since: Jul 08

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#10 Jul 25, 2008
FlashBack21 wrote:
<quoted text>I think more black women are dating out now but I very rarely see a balck woman out with a man of another race. I am not quite sure why it is taking black women the longest out of any race to date out.
Because she believes BM are the cream of the crop
FlashBack21

Lake Worth, FL

#11 Jul 25, 2008
I never see white men with black women. It is so rare. Next time you go out in public, count all the race mixed couples that you see. I bet you will rarely if ever see a white man with a black woman.

Since: Jun 08

duval

#12 Jul 25, 2008
Genesis wrote:
This is a good question. Race is not an issue for me so I think I would date a white man. I have never dated one but I think it would take some time to open up to him. I would be a little nervous and afraid we may not have anything in common. So that is the only reason why I would be afraid to date them. Some are good looking, but if only the white racist didn't ruin it for them when they open up their mouths. Racist white guys say the most disgusting things, but I don't judge them as a whole or lump them together.
i like u. u open minded

Mack the Great

Since: May 07

Fairfax, VA

#13 Jul 25, 2008
It's not that they are afraid but maybe they don't find them attractive as they do with black men perhaps? Besides, most black women are only attracted to black men and no other race of men.
FlashBack21

Lake Worth, FL

#15 Jul 25, 2008
Mack the Great wrote:
It's not that they are afraid but maybe they don't find them attractive as they do with black men perhaps? Besides, most black women are only attracted to black men and no other race of men.
Let me give you an example---Why are so many white men with asian women? Are you telling me its cause they are attracted to them? Why would they be attracted to another race is such high numbers? I find it hard to believe its all based on attraction cause every race has beautiful women.

“I shall not be moved!!!”

Since: Mar 08

Place where few are sober

#16 Jul 25, 2008
I think a large part of it is the racist white men ruin it for the rest.
I judge people on an indivdual basis, but some white men just aint right.Some of the stuff that comes out their mouth, and many are situational racists, and by the time a bw considers all these things, why bother?
I dont think anyone should limit themselves, though.Keep your options open.

APV

“You were saying about bp aging”

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Since: Apr 08

still busy trolling??

#17 Jul 25, 2008
I seen Italian men with BW. I even knew of a couple that was married in Vegas and never left their honeymoon sweet the whole time. That must have been a fun honeymoon!

Some people just need to get out more if they think that WM don't date/marry BW.

But the question still remains, why is this a concern for Flashback when he clearly is upset that cuban women are dating outside of their race?

Someone needs to adjust their focus...

Level 8

Since: May 08

Pacific Northwest

#18 Jul 25, 2008
APV wrote:
I seen Italian men with BW. I even knew of a couple that was married in Vegas and never left their honeymoon sweet the whole time. That must have been a fun honeymoon!
Some people just need to get out more if they think that WM don't date/marry BW.
But the question still remains, why is this a concern for Flashback when he clearly is upset that cuban women are dating outside of their race?
Someone needs to adjust their focus...
Ummm.... because he needs some

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Since: Apr 08

Gwynn Oak, MD

#19 Jul 25, 2008
2 reasons why black women don't date white men is that black men are the alpha male. Most white men who date ir choose to date asian women. Asian woman/white men are the #1 ir couple in the U.S.

Mack the Great

Since: May 07

Fairfax, VA

#20 Jul 25, 2008
FlashBack21 wrote:
<quoted text>Let me give you an example---Why are so many white men with asian women? Are you telling me its cause they are attracted to them? Why would they be attracted to another race is such high numbers? I find it hard to believe its all based on attraction cause every race has beautiful women.
White men dating Asian women are doing it because they are Asiaphiles themselves that exoticize, objectify and fetishize Chinese/Japanese culture and buy into the submissive housewife stereotype that Asian women have.
think about it

Saint Louis, MO

#22 Jul 25, 2008
FlashBack21 wrote:
I never see white men with black women. It is so rare. Next time you go out in public, count all the race mixed couples that you see. I bet you will rarely if ever see a white man with a black woman.
If Black men don't want to date them , why the hell would you expect White men too? sorry but most of the women look just like the men,,eewww.
babygirl

Houston, TX

#24 Jul 25, 2008
its not about bein afraid and def not nobody wantin black women and def not black men bein the alpha male, its got to do with a lot of sistas have been told to be wit jus black men for they whole life so when they get older it kind of fvcks them up that they'll have to change their whole thought process and all their expectations around to fit in the fact that their husband wont strong mythical black king they told her it would be. its basically like she has to refigure out the way she expected her whole love life to be and that can be exhausting to even think about for some women so they choose to just not do it, even when they know the odds arent in their favor when they dont.
and i'm talkin about interracial dating period for black women, not jus white men.

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Since: Apr 08

Flashing Lights Chicago, IL

#25 Jul 25, 2008
FlashBack21 wrote:
How come every race of women date outside their race except black women?
I'll be nice tonight, but this still doesn't change the fact that I think you're sort of dense. I'm not going to sit here and explain all of reasons why a black woman would choose not connect with someone who's constrasting on a certain level, but with me it the lack of attraction. Not outer the appearnace exclusively... I just DO NOT see it period. People could either agree or disagree with me, but it should be all about the respect for my personal preference.

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