Black chicks...are we our OWN worst e...

Black chicks...are we our OWN worst enemy?

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Since: Aug 10

London, UK

#1 Sep 3, 2010
There is something that happened tonight that i feel like i need to get off my chest. There seems to be some sort of divison between you know, the STEREOTYPICAL black girl aka HOODRATS and then the NON STEREOTYPICAL BLACK GIRLS aka BLACK BARBIES(as ive heard people call us). I went to a bar with a few of my friends, and we all won loads of money at the casino so we decided to splash it on a few drinks at a bar. However, when we got into the bar (please take note that my friends are what people call 'black barbies') you know, we dont do the whole neck snapping, eyes rolling, sweater wearing, no handbag thing..we literally dress up and go everywhere in heels! lol everything is about fashion and living well with us..anyway, as soon as we got in, there were these OTHER girls i guess we will call them HOOD black girls aka STEREOTYPICAL black girls and they gave us a hard time whilst we was at the bar, they would make sly remarks when we walked past, and stare at us up and down etc. Anyway, my question is...do these black girls understand that they are being what society expects them to be like? do they understand that this is why many call them undesirable? are they just plain ugly so they feel like they need to bring other black girls onto their level? i mean, instead of them trying to give us dirty looks, i couldve offered them some style and beauty tips. Today, i happened to come across some videos where other black girls express this too. Most people in the comments say that technically, us black girls who are 'pretty' tend to be STUCK UP or come across that way (i saw this on google too with people discussing it). They therefore feel like since we DONT act like the stereotype we are a threat. Most people even left comments saying things like 'black guys hate you stuck up B words' since they think we wont date them (this is not true) we just have many options like any attractive girl of any race. We are young, modern day chicks with NO responsibilities so the thought of other girls (our own fellow black girls) even spewing hate and jealousy towards us is strange. I guess they want us to be miserable like them. Here are some video links ive found including one of another black girl saying NIKKI MINAJ stole her style etc. We do soo well when we stick together but i would NOT want to let my self go and just dress DOWN in order to be known as 'black' thats just not me...why cant i be myself and still be seen as a normal black girl? If anyone else understands what im talking about or have had experiences similar to this, please leave a comment.


http://www.youtube.com/watch...
http://www.youtube.com/watch...
http://www.youtube.com/watch...

~ some discuss what im talking about, some make jokes out of it, one of them is a black girl saying nikki minaj stole her BARBIE style, and then one of them you would have to read the mean comments people have left her ~

please leave your opinions and get it together ladies!

TaTa doll x0x0x0x0x

“Dynamite Diva!”

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Since: Mar 10

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#2 Sep 3, 2010
tatiyana kiss doll wrote:
There is something that happened tonight that i feel like i need to get off my chest. There seems to be some sort of divison between you know, the STEREOTYPICAL black girl aka HOODRATS and then the NON STEREOTYPICAL BLACK GIRLS aka BLACK BARBIES(as ive heard people call us). I went to a bar with a few of my friends, and we all won loads of money at the casino so we decided to splash it on a few drinks at a bar. However, when we got into the bar (please take note that my friends are what people call 'black barbies') you know, we dont do the whole neck snapping, eyes rolling, sweater wearing, no handbag thing..we literally dress up and go everywhere in heels! lol everything is about fashion and living well with us..anyway, as soon as we got in, there were these OTHER girls i guess we will call them HOOD black girls aka STEREOTYPICAL black girls and they gave us a hard time whilst we was at the bar, they would make sly remarks when we walked past, and stare at us up and down etc. Anyway, my question is...do these black girls understand that they are being what society expects them to be like? do they understand that this is why many call them undesirable? are they just plain ugly so they feel like they need to bring other black girls onto their level? i mean, instead of them trying to give us dirty looks, i couldve offered them some style and beauty tips. Today, i happened to come across some videos where other black girls express this too. Most people in the comments say that technically, us black girls who are 'pretty' tend to be STUCK UP or come across that way (i saw this on google too with people discussing it). They therefore feel like since we DONT act like the stereotype we are a threat. Most people even left comments saying things like 'black guys hate you stuck up B words' since they think we wont date them (this is not true) we just have many options like any attractive girl of any race. We are young, modern day chicks with NO responsibilities so the thought of other girls (our own fellow black girls) even spewing hate and jealousy towards us is strange. I guess they want us to be miserable like them. Here are some video links ive found including one of another black girl saying NIKKI MINAJ stole her style etc. We do soo well when we stick together but i would NOT want to let my self go and just dress DOWN in order to be known as 'black' thats just not me...why cant i be myself and still be seen as a normal black girl? If anyone else understands what im talking about or have had experiences similar to this, please leave a comment.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v =l0Ejy0d_qhkXX
http://www.youtube.com/watch...
http://www.youtube.com/watch...
http://www.youtube.com/watch...
~ some discuss what im talking about, some make jokes out of it, one of them is a black girl saying nikki minaj stole her BARBIE style, and then one of them you would have to read the mean comments people have left her ~
please leave your opinions and get it together ladies!
TaTa doll x0x0x0x0x
I can't believe I wasted 5 mins of my life reading this.

We get it.. everyone is jealous because you are "black barbies" yada yada...*yawn*

Level 5

Since: Jul 09

London, UK

#3 Sep 3, 2010
kemi8 wrote:
<quoted text>
I can't believe I wasted 5 mins of my life reading this.
We get it.. everyone is jealous because you are "black barbies" yada yada...*yawn*
You know? Someone needs to change the record, it's getting stuck!

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Since: Aug 10

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#4 Sep 3, 2010
Your post intimidates me.....

Too many words all squished together....

It doesn't FLOW, and it'll make most posters either skim it or come back to it when they are bored....

Try to break it up into small cohesive paragraphs....

I was gonna post something, but my head hurts, too many WORDS. I'll come back when I'm bored with the other threads.

hehehehehe

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#5 Sep 3, 2010
There ya go....

FU, too ya little beotch!

(((MIDDLE FINGER)))

LOL
MOSES-1

United States

#6 Sep 3, 2010
That is the result of self esteem. In order for people to have high self esteem, they must measure themselves with others. Hence, for the "hood rats" to maintain their high self esteem, they had to look down their noses.

In order for some people to feel good about themselves, they must bash someone else.

Believe it or not!

Thus, bw vs bm, bw vs bw and bm vs bm. We all think we're better than the other. That is the price we pay for our HIGH SELF ESTEEM. It keeps us at odds with each other.
james

Monterey, CA

#7 Sep 3, 2010
tatiyana kiss doll wrote:
There is something that happened tonight that i feel like i need to get off my chest. There seems to be some sort of divison between you know, the STEREOTYPICAL black girl aka HOODRATS and then the NON STEREOTYPICAL BLACK GIRLS aka BLACK BARBIES(as ive heard people call us). I went to a bar with a few of my friends, and we all won loads of money at the casino so we decided to splash it on a few drinks at a bar. However, when we got into the bar (please take note that my friends are what people call 'black barbies') you know, we dont do the whole neck snapping, eyes rolling, sweater wearing, no handbag thing..we literally dress up and go everywhere in heels! lol everything is about fashion and living well with us..anyway, as soon as we got in, there were these OTHER girls i guess we will call them HOOD black girls aka STEREOTYPICAL black girls and they gave us a hard time whilst we was at the bar, they would make sly remarks when we walked past, and stare at us up and down etc. Anyway, my question is...do these black girls understand that they are being what society expects them to be like? do they understand that this is why many call them undesirable? are they just plain ugly so they feel like they need to bring other black girls onto their level? i mean, instead of them trying to give us dirty looks, i couldve offered them some style and beauty tips. Today, i happened to come across some videos where other black girls express this too. Most people in the comments say that technically, us black girls who are 'pretty' tend to be STUCK UP or come across that way (i saw this on google too with people discussing it). They therefore feel like since we DONT act like the stereotype we are a threat. Most people even left comments saying things like 'black guys hate you stuck up B words' since they think we wont date them (this is not true) we just have many options like any attractive girl of any race. We are young, modern day chicks with NO responsibilities so the thought of other girls (our own fellow black girls) even spewing hate and jealousy towards us is strange. I guess they want us to be miserable like them. Here are some video links ive found including one of another black girl saying NIKKI MINAJ stole her style etc. We do soo well when we stick together but i would NOT want to let my self go and just dress DOWN in order to be known as 'black' thats just not me...why cant i be myself and still be seen as a normal black girl? If anyone else understands what im talking about or have had experiences similar to this, please leave a comment.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v =l0Ejy0d_qhkXX
http://www.youtube.com/watch...
http://www.youtube.com/watch...
http://www.youtube.com/watch...
~ some discuss what im talking about, some make jokes out of it, one of them is a black girl saying nikki minaj stole her BARBIE style, and then one of them you would have to read the mean comments people have left her ~
please leave your opinions and get it together ladies!
TaTa doll x0x0x0x0x
If thats YOU in the videos you need to STOP obsessing over "haters" you look good, and it be a shame that you spend so much time worring about BS.

But then again, maybe it just makes you feel SPECIAL that people are so called "hating" in the first place.

PS.(no offense) but are you even full black? You said you are "100% Jamacian" but that could be you are mixed with Brittish since Jamacia is a Brittish Isle, or even spanish or west indian.

Anayways,(whatever you are) your cute.

Level 2

Since: Aug 10

London, UK

#8 Sep 3, 2010
MOSES-1 wrote:
That is the result of self esteem. In order for people to have high self esteem, they must measure themselves with others. Hence, for the "hood rats" to maintain their high self esteem, they had to look down their noses.
In order for some people to feel good about themselves, they must bash someone else.
Believe it or not!
Thus, bw vs bm, bw vs bw and bm vs bm. We all think we're better than the other. That is the price we pay for our HIGH SELF ESTEEM. It keeps us at odds with each other.
Thank you for answering honestly, even though im realy tired and i know i never paid enough attention to what i was typing with this thread, im glad you read it and tried to understand it and gave me feedback. I wont be answering people that want my attention, only people who will answer. Once again, thanks :]

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Since: Aug 10

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#9 Sep 3, 2010
tatiyana kiss doll wrote:
<quoted text>...... I wont be answering people that want my attention.....
Don't flatter yourself, sweetie, it's an open forum.

;o)

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Since: Aug 10

London, UK

#10 Sep 3, 2010
james wrote:
<quoted text>
If thats YOU in the videos you need to STOP obsessing over "haters" you look good, and it be a shame that you spend so much time worring about BS.
But then again, maybe it just makes you feel SPECIAL that people are so called "hating" in the first place.
PS.(no offense) but are you even full black? You said you are "100% Jamacian" but that could be you are mixed with Brittish since Jamacia is a Brittish Isle, or even spanish or west indian.
Anayways,(whatever you are) your cute.
No way that isnt me...but she is deffitnately pretty isnt she? anyway, she says shes 100% jamaican. People will call themselves according to what they know. She probably dosent have time to trace back all her MIXES..and lets be honest, what black person is FULL black anymore anyway? theres even lightskinned people that were born and bread in africa! so where did they come from? we just say BLACK because were going off based on our IMMEDIATE settings. Im ghanaian my ghana tribe is called FANTE and were known to have mixed with the portuguesse/english hence why some ghanians tend to have english surnames compared to nigerians etc. Some of the blacks from ghana even went to brazil and all that jazz...i havent got time to say i am 'portuguesse, french, quater english, egyptian' and blah blah blah (i hope you get my point)?..we simply dont have time to name ALL the mixes since its not IMMEDIATE. its like someone asking you who you live with and you name ALL your family thats alive including the ones that are dead. Us blacks are VERY diverse and we must appreciate that. Its wierd to me that blacks in general, love to call people MIXED for being pretty or having nice hair, they just dont want to accept that the person is black.

Level 2

Since: Aug 10

London, UK

#11 Sep 3, 2010
Mikah3 wrote:
There ya go....
FU, too ya little beotch!
(((MIDDLE FINGER)))
LOL
Sooo hood....[yawn ]
MOSES-1

United States

#12 Sep 3, 2010
tatiyana kiss doll wrote:
<quoted text>
Thank you for answering honestly, even though im realy tired and i know i never paid enough attention to what i was typing with this thread, im glad you read it and tried to understand it and gave me feedback. I wont be answering people that want my attention, only people who will answer. Once again, thanks :]
No let me thank you for giving my meager words a review.

Level 2

Since: Aug 10

London, UK

#13 Sep 3, 2010
Mikah3 wrote:
<quoted text>
Don't flatter yourself, sweetie, it's an open forum.
;o)
Yeah exactly, that makes it even worse you dumb git. The fact that you came back to this thread when you couldve been on others and you have posted comments three times shows how much you want my attention awww dont worry sweetie, hopefully one day you could get like me :]

Since: Aug 10

New York, NY

#14 Sep 3, 2010
I get what your saying here.

some people believe if you act or dress a certain way you think your better than them.

It's sad but true.

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Since: Aug 10

Location hidden

#15 Sep 3, 2010
tatiyana kiss doll wrote:
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Sooo hood....[yawn ]
I'd rather be HOOD than a rambling, empty-headed, nit wit with no point.

;oP

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#16 Sep 3, 2010
tatiyana kiss doll wrote:
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Yeah exactly, that makes it even worse you dumb git. The fact that you came back to this thread when you couldve been on others and you have posted comments three times shows how much you want my attention awww dont worry sweetie, hopefully one day you could get like me :]
Tehehehehe

Like you, HOW?.....Exactly?

I don't even KNOW you. How could I possibly envy you? How do we know that that fantastic fantasy that you've created for yourself is even TRUE?'Cause you TELL us it is?

DON'T MAKE ME LAUGH, Barbie.

P.S.
I'm in this thread to make a quick and proper fool of you. Not 'cause I need your attention. YOU'RE the attention whore, not I.
MOSES-1

United States

#17 Sep 3, 2010
Mikah3 wrote:
<quoted text>
Tehehehehe
Like you, HOW?.....Exactly?
I don't even KNOW you. How could I possibly envy you? How do we know that that fantastic fantasy that you've created for yourself is even TRUE?'Cause you TELL us it is?
DON'T MAKE ME LAUGH, Barbie.
P.S.
I'm in this thread to make a quick and proper fool of you. Not 'cause I need your attention. YOU'RE the attention whore, not I.
She has a perspective and presented that perspective. If that is seeking attention, I guess everyone that post a thread or message is seeking attention. What would this forum look like if everyone was silent?

It is the person that opens up that teaches everyone else. That is a risky endeavor but, with great risk comes great rewards. With little risks comes little rewards.

Level 2

Since: Aug 10

London, UK

#18 Sep 3, 2010
Mikah3 wrote:
<quoted text>
Tehehehehe
Like you, HOW?.....Exactly?
I don't even KNOW you. How could I possibly envy you? How do we know that that fantastic fantasy that you've created for yourself is even TRUE?'Cause you TELL us it is?
DON'T MAKE ME LAUGH, Barbie.
P.S.
I'm in this thread to make a quick and proper fool of you. Not 'cause I need your attention. YOU'RE the attention whore, not I.
[ yawn ]

fans ^^^^
Mother Earth

AOL

#19 Sep 3, 2010
I can definitely relate. I've had bm and bw take one look at me and automatically assume that I am stuck up. As if being pretty is synonymous with being stuck up. Many hood bw have an inferior complex and they wear it on their sleeve. Basically what they are doing when they "hate" is letting the other woman know that she is better than them and they are too stupid to realize it. You just have to leave hood people in the hood.

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Since: Aug 10

London, UK

#20 Sep 4, 2010
Mother Earth wrote:
I can definitely relate. I've had bm and bw take one look at me and automatically assume that I am stuck up. As if being pretty is synonymous with being stuck up. Many hood bw have an inferior complex and they wear it on their sleeve. Basically what they are doing when they "hate" is letting the other woman know that she is better than them and they are too stupid to realize it. You just have to leave hood people in the hood.
I agree, i dont know what they was doing in a classy bar like that anyway i had to ask the bodyguard 'do you let ghetto girls in here' lol

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