Why Do Women Mistreat Nice Men?

Why Do Women Mistreat Nice Men?

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Mack the Great

Since: May 07

Fort Washington, MD

#1 Aug 17, 2008
The idea for this thread is credited to brotha Azenday in Swade's explanation of why nice guys finish last thread.I'd like to know why is that nice men get mistreated by women all the time.Based off my past experiences with black women, I can say that it's because they are experiencing trouble at home with their parents and are likely jealous of the seemingly easy going and drama free lives we nice men are living even though I didn't have an easy life growing up because other blacks. What do these mean and bitter women hope to accomplish by relentlessly being cruel to nice men that haven't done anything to them? Yet these women wonder why they'll never be able to find a good man, as they literally destroyed their chances of being with one by chopping him down unprovoked. Ladies and gents, please share your thoughts and theories!:);)
MDJ

Since: Apr 07

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#2 Aug 17, 2008
Mack the Great wrote:
The idea for this thread is credited to brotha Azenday in Swade's explanation of why nice guys finish last thread.I'd like to know why is that nice men get mistreated by women all the time.Based off my past experiences with black women, I can say that it's because they are experiencing trouble at home with their parents and are likely jealous of the seemingly easy going and drama free lives we nice men are living even though I didn't have an easy life growing up because other blacks. What do these mean and bitter women hope to accomplish by relentlessly being cruel to nice men that haven't done anything to them? Yet these women wonder why they'll never be able to find a good man, as they literally destroyed their chances of being with one by chopping him down unprovoked. Ladies and gents, please share your thoughts and theories!:);)
You know black women can say the exact same thing........about black men. But i think it's the individual! There are not so nice people in the world. And some women...... just are not interested, in nice guyz! It could be because she's not attracted to him, physically. He does'nt have the things that she desires, etc....I mean, It's an ample amount of reasons why nice guyz, finish last........or don't finish at all.......but you have to find that woman who has your best interest.... that is a must........some brothas, also overlook nice girls. Sometimes, that brotha, may want a lightskinned girl, he may want a sista who has longer hair, a bigger butt, huge breasts, she has to be a certain size, etc.....people are attracted to people based on physical appearance. And not all of them. But most of them..........we all have felt we are nice people and where passed over. So it applies to us as well.

“ZZZZZZZ”

Since: Oct 07

ATL

#3 Aug 17, 2008
Mack the Great wrote:
The idea for this thread is credited to brotha Azenday in Swade's explanation of why nice guys finish last thread.I'd like to know why is that nice men get mistreated by women all the time.Based off my past experiences with black women, I can say that it's because they are experiencing trouble at home with their parents and are likely jealous of the seemingly easy going and drama free lives we nice men are living even though I didn't have an easy life growing up because other blacks. What do these mean and bitter women hope to accomplish by relentlessly being cruel to nice men that haven't done anything to them? Yet these women wonder why they'll never be able to find a good man, as they literally destroyed their chances of being with one by chopping him down unprovoked. Ladies and gents, please share your thoughts and theories!:);)
A few months ago I met a Geechi woman from Charelston. We had nice first date and everything, a week later I heard at work she was telling people I was a pushover and so forth! I was like wow all I did was be gentleman that nite! Alot believe all black men is just too much aggressive, or all have the angry blackman personality. It's like what do yall women want, do want a person that will treat you right or someone who will use you. Alot of guys are not going to wait around for that! Especially if they are good men!

“ZZZZZZZ”

Since: Oct 07

ATL

#4 Aug 17, 2008
MDJ wrote:
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You know black women can say the exact same thing........about black men. But i think it's the individual! There are not so nice people in the world. And some women...... just are not interested, in nice guyz! It could be because she's not attracted to him, physically. He does'nt have the things that she desires, etc....I mean, It's an ample amount of reasons why nice guyz, finish last........or don't finish at all.......but you have to find that woman who has your best interest.... that is a must........some brothas, also overlook nice girls. Sometimes, that brotha, may want a lightskinned girl, he may want a sista who has longer hair, a bigger butt, huge breasts, she has to be a certain size, etc.....people are attracted to people based on physical appearance. And not all of them. But most of them..........we all have felt we are nice people and where passed over. So it applies to us as well.
Good post

Mack the Great

Since: May 07

Fort Washington, MD

#6 Aug 17, 2008
MDJ wrote:
<quoted text>
You know black women can say the exact same thing........about black men. But i think it's the individual! There are not so nice people in the world. And some women...... just are not interested, in nice guyz! It could be because she's not attracted to him, physically. He does'nt have the things that she desires, etc....I mean, It's an ample amount of reasons why nice guyz, finish last........or don't finish at all.......but you have to find that woman who has your best interest.... that is a must........some brothas, also overlook nice girls. Sometimes, that brotha, may want a lightskinned girl, he may want a sista who has longer hair, a bigger butt, huge breasts, she has to be a certain size, etc.....people are attracted to people based on physical appearance. And not all of them. But most of them..........we all have felt we are nice people and where passed over. So it applies to us as well.
LOL! Good point MDJ. I already know that us men are guilty of doing the same thing to all the nice black women and there's a plethora of reasons why nice guys and nice girls get treated like crap from the opposite. The superficial qualties they want in a black man or black women that they lack may've be the reason why they are abused and harassed, but there's really no need
to attack them.Even though I was guilty myself of wanting a good looking sista with big butts and boobs and though the nice girls didn't have it, I never felt compelled to constantly belittle and harass her as I know it's wrong and stupid to be mad at her for not having things we can't afford. I just don't see how us nice guys, with alot of worthwhile skills and qualities to offer a woman wound up finishing last, when we men who do the right thing are supposed to be the winners and bad men are supposed to be losers. That irks me to this very day MDJ......
MDJ

Since: Apr 07

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#7 Aug 17, 2008
stereo type breaker wrote:
<quoted text>Good post
Thanx, babe!

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#8 Aug 17, 2008
Mack the Great wrote:
The idea for this thread is credited to brotha Azenday in Swade's explanation of why nice guys finish last thread.I'd like to know why is that nice men get mistreated by women all the time.Based off my past experiences with black women, I can say that it's because they are experiencing trouble at home with their parents and are likely jealous of the seemingly easy going and drama free lives we nice men are living even though I didn't have an easy life growing up because other blacks. What do these mean and bitter women hope to accomplish by relentlessly being cruel to nice men that haven't done anything to them? Yet these women wonder why they'll never be able to find a good man, as they literally destroyed their chances of being with one by chopping him down unprovoked. Ladies and gents, please share your thoughts and theories!:);)
Thanks for the shout out Mack! I always ponder and think of the drama factor that distracts women away from nice men i.e. we are transparent and have none for the most part. These knucklehead men who argue with them, are senseless, and straight buffoons are exciting, it gives them something to talk about to their girlfriends. Some women are attracted to always being wounded and never being healed, thus the non attraction to the nice guy. Some women love to have these pity parties with their friends who may be having the same problem with their man. "Girl, you know you should...", "But Girl I love him so much and he is so good in..." Blah, blah, blah. All jargon. No substance. They treat us this way to either get rid of us, or to get us to treat them bad in return. Most smart nice guys will leave, I hope.

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#9 Aug 17, 2008
Mack the Great wrote:
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LOL! Good point MDJ. I already know that us men are guilty of doing the same thing to all the nice black women and there's a plethora of reasons why nice guys and nice girls get treated like crap from the opposite. The superficial qualties they want in a black man or black women that they lack may've be the reason why they are abused and harassed, but there's really no need
to attack them.Even though I was guilty myself of wanting a good looking sista with big butts and boobs and though the nice girls didn't have it, I never felt compelled to constantly belittle and harass her as I know it's wrong and stupid to be mad at her for not having things we can't afford. I just don't see how us nice guys, with alot of worthwhile skills and qualities to offer a woman wound up finishing last, when we men who do the right thing are supposed to be the winners and bad men are supposed to be losers. That irks me to this very day MDJ......
When are these nice guys and gals going to meet?
MDJ

Since: Apr 07

Location hidden

#11 Aug 17, 2008
Mack the Great wrote:
<quoted text>
LOL! Good point MDJ. I already know that us men are guilty of doing the same thing to all the nice black women and there's a plethora of reasons why nice guys and nice girls get treated like crap from the opposite. The superficial qualties they want in a black man or black women that they lack may've be the reason why they are abused and harassed, but there's really no need
to attack them.Even though I was guilty myself of wanting a good looking sista with big butts and boobs and though the nice girls didn't have it, I never felt compelled to constantly belittle and harass her as I know it's wrong and stupid to be mad at her for not having things we can't afford. I just don't see how us nice guys, with alot of worthwhile skills and qualities to offer a woman wound up finishing last, when we men who do the right thing are supposed to be the winners and bad men are supposed to be losers. That irks me to this very day MDJ......
Gooood point Mack! Very good point! I love the last part of your post. It's unfortunate, but it is the reality of it.......and those men do not have the best interest for those women. And it keeps being a repetitive cycle........of her liking those negative qualities, in those men. And then when the light bulb comes on.......and she get it. That nice guy, has completed college, has his degree, has the house and car they both could have shared together. And he ends up with the woman, who loved him when he had nothing.......and the icing on the cake is......he could end up with a white woman, or an asian woman..........and then that's when the bitter black woman comes in..........with the white women are taking our men.

Mack the Great

Since: May 07

Fort Washington, MD

#12 Aug 17, 2008
stereo type breaker wrote:
<quoted text>A few months ago I met a Geechi woman from Charelston. We had nice first date and everything, a week later I heard at work she was telling people I was a pushover and so forth! I was like wow all I did was be gentleman that nite! Alot believe all black men is just too much aggressive, or all have the angry blackman personality. It's like what do yall women want, do want a person that will treat you right or someone who will use you. Alot of guys are not going to wait around for that! Especially if they are good men!
What?That's surprising coming from an African woman who you'd thought wouldn't be so much of a hassle to date like AA women!You're right, it's as if these women really don't know what kind of man they really want and she was an absolute waste of your time and money.Good men won't waste their time, money, and qualities on women that are just as confused,picky, and unclear about the kinds of men they want.I myself wont!

“ZZZZZZZ”

Since: Oct 07

ATL

#13 Aug 17, 2008
Mack the Great wrote:
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What?That's surprising coming from an African woman who you'd thought wouldn't be so much of a hassle to date like AA women!You're right, it's as if these women really don't know what kind of man they really want and she was an absolute waste of your time and money.Good men won't waste their time, money, and qualities on women that are just as confused,picky, and unclear about the kinds of men they want.I myself wont!
Geechi's are AA's they are originally from the coastal islands of the Carolinas and Georgia, they accents are unique kind of close to West Indian, but not quite. She was a drama queen anyway! She was pointed to the exit sing lol!
MDJ

Since: Apr 07

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#14 Aug 17, 2008
Also, black men should not hold all black women responsible for those black women who mistreat nice guyz (black men).........Because even though i have had my share of brothas, not being interested, in me. I still love and date black men! That's my ideal preference and who i'm most attracted to..........and i feel comfortable, and i don't have to be someone i'm not........

Mack the Great

Since: May 07

Fort Washington, MD

#15 Aug 17, 2008
stereo type breaker wrote:
<quoted text>Geechi's are AA's they are originally from the coastal islands of the Carolinas and Georgia, they accents are unique kind of close to West Indian, but not quite. She was a drama queen anyway! She was pointed to the exit sing lol!
You mean like the Gullah people?Another source said that they are Africans from Senegal,Gambia, Sierra Lionne, and Liberia residing in the the Carolinas and Georgia.How did you not see that coming with her being a drama queen?Did she keep herself low profile as a good woman when you were dating her and later revealed her true drama queen nature a few days later?

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Since: Dec 06

Texas

#16 Aug 17, 2008
stereo type breaker wrote:
<quoted text>A few months ago I met a Geechi woman from Charelston. We had nice first date and everything, a week later I heard at work she was telling people I was a pushover and so forth! I was like wow all I did was be gentleman that nite! Alot believe all black men is just too much aggressive, or all have the angry blackman personality. It's like what do yall women want, do want a person that will treat you right or someone who will use you. Alot of guys are not going to wait around for that! Especially if they are good men!
I am sorry to hear that because women and men with traits like that make it hard for the ppl with a open mind, honest heart,and willing spirit. Ppl are afraid to open up again after being burnt once or twice.

“ZZZZZZZ”

Since: Oct 07

ATL

#17 Aug 17, 2008
MDJ wrote:
Also, black men should not hold all black women responsible for those black women who mistreat nice guyz (black men).........Because even though i have had my share of brothas, not being interested, in me. I still love and date black men! That's my ideal preference and who i'm most attracted to..........and i feel comfortable, and i don't have to be someone i'm not........
C/S the feelings mutual. I havent' gave up on yall, and never will

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Since: Feb 07

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#18 Aug 17, 2008
Mack,

Sometimes the nice girls gets overlooked as well. Especially in high school.

“keep it fair across the board!”

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Since: Dec 06

Texas

#19 Aug 17, 2008
MDJ wrote:
Also, black men should not hold all black women responsible for those black women who mistreat nice guyz (black men).........Because even though i have had my share of brothas, not being interested, in me. I still love and date black men! That's my ideal preference and who i'm most attracted to..........and i feel comfortable, and i don't have to be someone i'm not........
Amen to that and I see many many attractive, successful brothers everyday!

“ZZZZZZZ”

Since: Oct 07

ATL

#20 Aug 17, 2008
Mack the Great wrote:
<quoted text>
You mean like the Gullah people?Another source said that they are Africans from Senegal,Gambia, Sierra Lionne, and Liberia residing in the the Carolinas and Georgia.How did you not see that coming with her being a drama queen?Did she keep herself low profile as a good woman when you were dating her and later revealed her true drama queen nature a few days later?
Yeah Gullah and Geechi is pretty much the same! She was nice at first after that, it was something always to complain about, I got children, I dont need a 24 year old child, sometimes people only put up a surface, that why most people should go on a few dates before they say they are a a couple, you don't figure a person out right away, but you see a little bit of them to see whether you can deal with them or not
AA Forum President TWC

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#21 Aug 17, 2008
kaley wrote:
Mack,
Sometimes the nice girls gets overlooked as well. Especially in high school.
Youre forgetting that "NICE WOMEN" dont sleep around with every ghetto crawlin creature in the neighborhood....

Lets be honest here,Kaley,you'd never be considered a nice woman...

Nice women have honour,integrity and virtue and dont make a mockery of morality!

Nice try though!
AA Forum President TWC

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#22 Aug 17, 2008
MDJ wrote:
Also, black men should not hold all black women responsible for those black women who mistreat nice guyz (black men).........Because even though i have had my share of brothas, not being interested, in me. I still love and date black men! That's my ideal preference and who i'm most attracted to..........and i feel comfortable, and i don't have to be someone i'm not........
White women take your so called "GOOD MEN" away from you sistas everyday and yet you say nothing about it...

White women are trash just admit it and quit being such a damn wus...

I mean damnnnnnnnnn...!

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