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Are Men That Marry Mail Order Brides Sale Outs?

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BLACKBOLT08

Mansfield, OH

#1 Apr 2, 2010
A lot of American men are choosing to marry women from overseas now days.Does this mean that they cant get a women in the US? Or, do they just want something different from the old run of the mill ball and chain,They don't want the American nagging woman.
Yellowjackit77

Mansfield, OH

#2 Apr 3, 2010
No, I dont think they are sale outs. You got to admit, there are some very attractive women in other countrys.A lot of men in the military get married to women out side the US.

“Music>You”

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#3 Apr 3, 2010
Nope they are usually either desperate, or just want to take the easy route.

Desperate as in they cant get an American Woman, and they actually considered marriage (I consider that desperate as a personal view). As for easy route, they dont want to deal with the BS (as much) as they would with an American Woman.
Casey

La Mirada, CA

#4 Apr 3, 2010
BLACKBOLT08 wrote:
A lot of American men are choosing to marry women from overseas now days.Does this mean that they cant get a women in the US? Or, do they just want something different from the old run of the mill ball and chain,They don't want the American nagging woman.
Bm wouldn't be able to afford mail order brides!
Skeptic

Methuen, MA

#5 Apr 3, 2010
I think men that are interested in other cultures are rejecting the typical American woman and her woman's liberation.

Lots of American woman want to act like men, and if you're a straight man, why the hell would you want to mate up with a tough guy, butch female?

In other countries, many women are still feminine, and that's attractive to men. That's the only thing I can think of.....
Skeptic

Methuen, MA

#6 Apr 3, 2010
Actually, a song was written about the American woman, by a Canadian group. The song is not flattering for American women. Too bad, not all women are like that, but certainly, many are.
The Tooth Fairy

Spring, TX

#7 Apr 3, 2010
Jcookie wrote:
Nope they are usually either desperate, or just want to take the easy route.
Desperate as in they cant get an American Woman, and they actually considered marriage (I consider that desperate as a personal view). As for easy route, they dont want to deal with the BS (as much) as they would with an American Woman.
Actually this is a phenomena among older usually divorced, WM, guys in their mid-40s or older who hookup with very young Asian brides. The high numbers of WM/Asian women marriages is largely attributed to these mail-order marriages.

“Yes WE Can! Yes we Will!”

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Since: Jul 07

Baltimore, Md.

#8 Apr 3, 2010
Casey wrote:
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Bm wouldn't be able to afford mail order brides!
I actually know of black men--mainly members of the black bourgeoisie, who have married mail order (or at least foreign) brides.
I've known some below the economic status of the black elite who've married foreign women, but most of those brothers wwere in the military.
I know of at least one older brother of modest means who married a lady from Southeast Asia whom he met while he served in Vietnam.
And they're STILL TOGETHER.

I don't know if this makes him a sell out or not. His wife is an Asian woman of color, but not hlack. Does that make him a sell out? Does that make HER one?

“Yes WE Can! Yes we Will!”

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Baltimore, Md.

#9 Apr 3, 2010
The Tooth Fairy wrote:
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Actually this is a phenomena among older usually divorced, WM, guys in their mid-40s or older who hookup with very young Asian brides. The high numbers of WM/Asian women marriages is largely attributed to these mail-order marriages.
It seems I've heard or read that myself. Also, I read that for white men who are interested in IR relations or marriages, they preferred choice is an ASIAN woman--whether from abroad or here.
But most Blacks--male or female--who go for an IR situation usually choose whites....though a growing number seem to lean toward Hispanics.

“Music>You”

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#10 Apr 3, 2010
Savant wrote:
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I actually know of black men--mainly members of the black bourgeoisie, who have married mail order (or at least foreign) brides.
I've known some below the economic status of the black elite who've married foreign women, but most of those brothers wwere in the military.
I know of at least one older brother of modest means who married a lady from Southeast Asia whom he met while he served in Vietnam.
And they're STILL TOGETHER.
I don't know if this makes him a sell out or not. His wife is an Asian woman of color, but not hlack. Does that make him a sell out? Does that make HER one?
Im guessing someone who marries someone of different race is a sell-out right? Hes a happily married sell-out. lol

“Music>You”

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#12 Apr 3, 2010
lol the 23 year old brainwashed ones that marry(older men) for money.

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Since: Sep 07

Ann Arbor

#13 Apr 3, 2010
BLACKBOLT08 wrote:
A lot of American men are choosing to marry women from overseas now days.Does this mean that they cant get a women in the US? Or, do they just want something different from the old run of the mill ball and chain,They don't want the American nagging woman.
I think there are different factors for this, I wouldn't call a man a sell out b/c he gets a mail order wife. Just based on observation #1 have you seen some of the men who get mail order brides? A lot of them are very unattractive or extremely gawky and nerdy (not against nerdy men, I happen to like nerdy dudes-or at least dudes who most women would deem nerdy)#2 like some posters are writing here, many women from overseas still value marriage and being a "submissive" wife, many American women (not just black) want independence and are not willing to compromise, and many can't tolerate the notion of submissiveness, so many men just plain don't want to deal with a woman who he feels if he comes home from work, he's going to have to deal with an attitude, the dinner maybe not being cooked etc etc etc.

“Leading the Revolution”

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Since: Oct 09

Iraq

#15 Apr 3, 2010
are we talking about men who marry only women from Asia? Russia? Eastern Europe? I wont say that they are sell outs, it doesn't mean you are desperate if you marry a woman from another place. Some men prefer woman of different cultures, some American woman are hard to be with. I didn't say all American woman, but some are.
The Tooth Fairy

Spring, TX

#16 Apr 3, 2010
Lisa-Michigan wrote:
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I think there are different factors for this, I wouldn't call a man a sell out b/c he gets a mail order wife. Just based on observation #1 have you seen some of the men who get mail order brides? A lot of them are very unattractive or extremely gawky and nerdy (not against nerdy men, I happen to like nerdy dudes-or at least dudes who most women would deem nerdy)#2 like some posters are writing here, many women from overseas still value marriage and being a "submissive" wife, many American women (not just black) want independence and are not willing to compromise, and many can't tolerate the notion of submissiveness, so many men just plain don't want to deal with a woman who he feels if he comes home from work, he's going to have to deal with an attitude, the dinner maybe not being cooked etc etc etc.
I agree and that's also what I've seen. Most of these guys are compromised physically, personality wise, are, or some other way. They could never get a beautiful young American girl, but the world is full of beautiful women who'd love to come to America. I think they go for the Asians because they're known to be the most loyal, whereas the Russians will get a divorce once their two years is up, or they'll cheat like crazy.

“Leading the Revolution”

Level 6

Since: Oct 09

Iraq

#17 Apr 3, 2010
The Tooth Fairy wrote:
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I agree and that's also what I've seen. Most of these guys are compromised physically, personality wise, are, or some other way. They could never get a beautiful young American girl, but the world is full of beautiful women who'd love to come to America. I think they go for the Asians because they're known to be the most loyal, whereas the Russians will get a divorce once their two years is up, or they'll cheat like crazy.
i agree however this is not always true. everyone does not want to come to america. some men dont want an american girl period, too much drama usually, but you do have a valid point.

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Since: Sep 07

Ann Arbor

#18 Apr 3, 2010
The Tooth Fairy wrote:
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I agree and that's also what I've seen. Most of these guys are compromised physically, personality wise, are, or some other way. They could never get a beautiful young American girl, but the world is full of beautiful women who'd love to come to America. I think they go for the Asians because they're known to be the most loyal, whereas the Russians will get a divorce once their two years is up, or they'll cheat like crazy.
You're right, I have seen some attractive or at least average looking Asian women (mail order brides) with the ugliest of white men, not that looks should matter that much, just an observation. Also, I think some of those men may be intimidated by the average American woman, why get with an American woman that can match you wit for wit, when you can get a tenderoni who probably won't question you, ever.... and will jump at your commands?
The Tooth Fairy

Spring, TX

#19 Apr 3, 2010
Lisa-Michigan wrote:
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You're right, I have seen some attractive or at least average looking Asian women (mail order brides) with the ugliest of white men, not that looks should matter that much, just an observation. Also, I think some of those men may be intimidated by the average American woman, why get with an American woman that can match you wit for wit, when you can get a tenderoni who probably won't question you, ever.... and will jump at your commands?
Yep. I've never been to the orient but I have some friends who spent years in Japan and what they tell me about Japanese women is just amazing. Like a stepford wife, they will follow a guy from room to room and wait for him to tell her to do something as if that was her only purpose in life. smh. This is the side of the WM/Asian woman statistic that people don't talk about.
The Tooth Fairy

Spring, TX

#20 Apr 3, 2010
dkanela wrote:
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i agree however this is not always true. everyone does not want to come to america. some men dont want an american girl period, too much drama usually, but you do have a valid point.
You would be surprised at how many dropdead gorgeous Russian, Eastern European, and Asian women would love to be American. They have such an inflated view of what that means and will do anything, including paying a guy if they have the money, to make them an American wife. And these women are beautiful! It's a wonder why more American men don't go that route. But that would mean that you'd actually have to get married, which I guess is still a scary thought for many guys regardless of the situation..:)

“Leading the Revolution”

Level 6

Since: Oct 09

Iraq

#21 Apr 3, 2010
The Tooth Fairy wrote:
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You would be surprised at how many dropdead gorgeous Russian, Eastern European, and Asian women would love to be American. They have such an inflated view of what that means and will do anything, including paying a guy if they have the money, to make them an American wife. And these women are beautiful! It's a wonder why more American men don't go that route. But that would mean that you'd actually have to get married, which I guess is still a scary thought for many guys regardless of the situation..:)
so true
Casey

La Mirada, CA

#22 Apr 3, 2010
Savant wrote:
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I actually know of black men--mainly members of the black bourgeoisie, who have married mail order (or at least foreign) brides.
I've known some below the economic status of the black elite who've married foreign women, but most of those brothers wwere in the military.
I know of at least one older brother of
modest means who married a lady from Southeast Asia whom he met while he served in Vietnam.
And they're STILL TOGETHER.
I don't know if this makes him a sell out or not. His wife is an Asian woman of color, but not hlack. Does that make him a sell out? Does that make HER one?
You got to be kidding in regards to your statement. You must understand that the difference between meeting someone and " mail order bride" have two different meanings. My point is that BM cannot afford to order brides from brochures. And bm wouldnt even do that anyways.

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