is my girlfriend lying about cheating...

is my girlfriend lying about cheating on me?

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brother

Teaneck, NJ

#1 Jan 5, 2012
Hey everyone, i have been dating this girl for 6 years and we have a daughter together. We have had great relationship until a couple of weeks ago. On december 17th i found out that she was talking to an other guy on facebook. They talked about seeing each other,and they talked about going on date so i confronted her about it and she went ballistics. First, she tried to lie to me about talkin to him and then later admitted it. Since then i have lost all my trust in her. I dont know the guy she was talking to in person but i see him sometimes. It bothers me alot and i dont know how to deal with it. Should i confront him and tell him to back the fuck off or what should i do? And she just told me that shes going to the mall with her girls but i dont know if shes really going to the mall or shes going to see that guy? Im not a jealous person but its just too much to take in....any idea? I love her and i love my daughter and i dont want to end this relationship. I just wanna work it out but dont know how?

“Israel uses Jim Crow Terrorism”

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Since: Jan 08

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#2 Jan 5, 2012
Code:

if([gf isMemberOf:BlackRace]== YES)
print("Your gf is lying about cheating on you!")
else
print("Can not compute...")
brother

Teaneck, NJ

#3 Jan 5, 2012
fair_guy wrote:
Code:
if([gf isMemberOf:BlackRace]== YES)
print("Your gf is lying about cheating on you!")
else
print("Can not compute...")
I dont wanna bring racial issues into this but yes she is black. Should i contfront the guy?
att

Franklin, TN

#4 Jan 5, 2012
brother wrote:
<quoted text>I dont wanna bring racial issues into this but yes she is black. Should i contfront the guy?
Don't confront the guy, confront your girl its her fault.
att

Franklin, TN

#9 Jan 5, 2012
Gena19 wrote:
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How? it's her fault because a guy came on to her. You guys are dumb and have no respect at all.
Its not her fault the guy hit on her. Its her fault for not telling the guy she had a boyfriend. She didn't have to talk to this guy about going out on dates and sh!t.

You tell me how that's not her fault.

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#10 Jan 5, 2012
att wrote:
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Don't confront the guy, confront your girl its her fault.
agreed ,she knows she is in a relationship . it's her fault not the guys.

she is silly enough to fall for his tricks,

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#11 Jan 5, 2012
brother wrote:
Hey everyone, i have been dating this girl for 6 years and we have a daughter together. We have had great relationship until a couple of weeks ago. On december 17th i found out that she was talking to an other guy on facebook. They talked about seeing each other,and they talked about going on date so i confronted her about it and she went ballistics. First, she tried to lie to me about talkin to him and then later admitted it. Since then i have lost all my trust in her. I dont know the guy she was talking to in person but i see him sometimes. It bothers me alot and i dont know how to deal with it. Should i confront him and tell him to back the fuck off or what should i do? And she just told me that shes going to the mall with her girls but i dont know if shes really going to the mall or shes going to see that guy? Im not a jealous person but its just too much to take in....any idea? I love her and i love my daughter and i dont want to end this relationship. I just wanna work it out but dont know how?
No offense, but you should have married her for a commitment. It is too easy to cheat without a ring. Just my opinion.
brother

Teaneck, NJ

#12 Jan 5, 2012
att wrote:
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Don't confront the guy, confront your girl its her fault.
I already confronted her and she got really pissed cuz she knew she was wrong. Its her and his fault. It was him that asked her out first and she didnt tell him that she was in a relationship with me at all and she gave him her number so this is her fault too. I wanna confront them both. How can i stop her or him from seeing each other without confronting them?

“Fooyre na fooDa Demngal saa e ”

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#13 Jan 5, 2012
brother wrote:
<quoted text>I dont wanna bring racial issues into this but yes she is black. Should i contfront the guy?
no your girlfriend, she fell for his trap. shows how loyal she is too you.

“I Love My Life!”

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#14 Jan 5, 2012
Gena19 wrote:
<quoted text>You should confront the guy because she's your woman. The guy hitted on her and she can't help it. We women can't help other guys loooking at us. She should have enough sense in her head to say "No" instead of cheatin on you.
He should have no beef with guy. She should not have been chatting up another guy if she was still in a relationship with this other guy. She is at fault. She is the one that broke the commitment. How do we even know the guy knew she had a boyfriend. She is the dog.

“JUST LIL OLE ME!”

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Since: Dec 11

Oakdale, Ca. Now in B'ham, Al.

#16 Jan 5, 2012
I do believe she was intending to cheat. If you really want to try and make it work anyway then you need to have a serious talk with her. Theres no excuse excuse for cheating, but try to find out why she felt the need to turn to someone else. Maybe she has become bored or feels like she has missed out on something. Maybe shes needing something u dont give her. Like I said, thats still no excuse, but if you can find out her reason, then maybe you can work it out. Be willing and open to what she might have to say. Personally, I have been down that road, and he was cheating simply because he couldnt keep his pants zipped up for nothing. I finally ended it. It hurt, but I wont tolerate that kind of behavior. Good luck sweetie, I hope it works out the way you want it to.

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#17 Jan 5, 2012
brother wrote:
<quoted text>I already confronted her and she got really pissed cuz she knew she was wrong. Its her and his fault. It was him that asked her out first and she didnt tell him that she was in a relationship with me at all and she gave him her number so this is her fault too. I wanna confront them both. How can i stop her or him from seeing each other without confronting them?
you can't ,you cannot stop a cheater from cheating. the best you can do is tell her is to show u respect or your gone.

btw its 100% her fault she didn't tell him she had a man. so how would he know ,she practically gave him the green light.

“Fooyre na fooDa Demngal saa e ”

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#18 Jan 5, 2012
Gena19 wrote:
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I do blame her for talking to the guy. But he shouldn't blame her because the guy hitted on her. He should confront the guy instead because her. He should find out, what cause her to cheat. You guys never ask questions that why girls cheat.
Lack of love.
theres no excuse for cheating

“Fooyre na fooDa Demngal saa e ”

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#19 Jan 5, 2012
Married with children wrote:
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He should have no beef with guy. She should not have been chatting up another guy if she was still in a relationship with this other guy. She is at fault. She is the one that broke the commitment. How do we even know the guy knew she had a boyfriend. She is the dog.
c/s it's 100% her fault,she went into temptation ,and now she is guilty.
brother

Teaneck, NJ

#20 Jan 5, 2012
att wrote:
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Its not her fault the guy hit on her. Its her fault for not telling the guy she had a boyfriend. She didn't have to talk to this guy about going out on dates and sh!t.
You tell me how that's not her fault.
I agree with you. But the guy knows she got a boyfriend. He knows im her boyfriend cuz i found out that he was talking to my girlfriend about me and he was stll asking her out. But she didnt say no and thats what bothered me so much. She was willing to go on date with him while she ws still with me.
att

Franklin, TN

#21 Jan 5, 2012
brother wrote:
<quoted text>I already confronted her and she got really pissed cuz she knew she was wrong. Its her and his fault. It was him that asked her out first and she didnt tell him that she was in a relationship with me at all and she gave him her number so this is her fault too. I wanna confront them both. How can i stop her or him from seeing each other without confronting them?
If I was you I would want them together so I could confront them both at the same time. No way for them to put the blame on the other one that way.
whites are nonhuman

Fort Worth, TX

#22 Jan 5, 2012
Married with children wrote:
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No offense, but you should have married her for a commitment. It is too easy to cheat without a ring. Just my opinion.
No offense,marriage and a ring doesn't prevent cheating,especially with women.
whites are nonhuman

Fort Worth, TX

#24 Jan 5, 2012
brother wrote:
Hey everyone, i have been dating this girl for 6 years and we have a daughter together. We have had great relationship until a couple of weeks ago. On december 17th i found out that she was talking to an other guy on facebook. They talked about seeing each other,and they talked about going on date so i confronted her about it and she went ballistics. First, she tried to lie to me about talkin to him and then later admitted it. Since then i have lost all my trust in her. I dont know the guy she was talking to in person but i see him sometimes. It bothers me alot and i dont know how to deal with it. Should i confront him and tell him
to back the fuck off or what should i do? And she just told me that shes going to the mall with her girls but i dont know if shes really going to the mall or shes going to see that guy? Im not a jealous person but its just too much to take in....any idea? I love her and i love my daughter and i dont
want to end this relationship. I just wanna work it out but dont know how?
Dump the hoar and move on.She'll come crawling back after the other guy finishes using her as his sex toilet.
candaycoated

Wichita, KS

#26 Jan 5, 2012
how come u didn't put a ring on her finger? I can't feel sorry for u if ur having kids out of wedlock.If you haven't branded the bxtch as your own then how can you complain.U need to give that bxtch your last name man.

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Since: May 11

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#29 Jan 5, 2012
Another one of Mr Andersons sob stories about him and his "spectacular" white women. LMBO!!!

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