Dark Skin Documentary on Oprah Network

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#238 Jun 29, 2013
breadandwater wrote:
And when you choose to love yourself regardless of your skin color people will love you too!
EVERY BODY is attracted to self confidence.
Exactly.
That's why high IRBM numbers damage the image of the black race as a whole.
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#239 Jun 29, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
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Exactly.
That's why high IRBM numbers damage the image of the black race as a whole.
IRBM are brainwashed.They have no love for themselves or the women of their race.

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#240 Jun 29, 2013
breadandwater wrote:
And when you choose to love yourself regardless of your skin color people will love you too!
EVERY BODY is attracted to self confidence.
I have seen PLENTY of dark skinned women take men away from light skinned women.
May be she had a bigger ass or a prettier face or better personality!
We all know it boils down to chemistry!
Have you ever dated a person that was so good looking but had no personality??
And then you dated someone who you would consider as not attractive but there was fireworks in the bedroom!
Eventually we all know its not about color. The system is just playing on peoples vulnerabilities.
at the end of the day it's your SELF ESTEEM and if you lack it regardless of skin color you will have problems in the male department

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#242 Jun 29, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
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Exactly.
That's why high IRBM numbers damage the image of the black race as a whole.
this thread is NOT about IRBM go on somewhere with that Bullshi every thread you want to be About black men and white women. This thread is about Dark skin women and oprahs documentary!!!

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#243 Jun 29, 2013
vampiYAH stabB wrote:
<quoted text>That's an excellent point, New. A lot of the inferiority complexes found in folk, especially folk so young, come from parents mentally abusing their own kids.
This wouldn't shock me if this was the case surrounding the child in the documentary. And being that the mother was lighter than the daughter it does make you raise an eyebrow and makes you wonder. I pray this isn't the case...but you have to consider it...this child, as tender in age she is, didn't just wind up THIS fcuked up automatically.
I believe if these children were white raised by the same parents, they wouldn't suffer the same issues because the parents would treat them better due to the value placed on being white. Blacks are not seen as valuable as their counterparts due to a racial system. In some parts of India it's the same between girls & boys. Boys are seen as more valuable as women & thus they are treated better than women.

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#244 Jun 29, 2013
Blaq honey wrote:
<quoted text> this thread is NOT about IRBM go on somewhere with that Bullshi every thread you want to be About black men and white women. This thread is about Dark skin women and oprahs documentary!!!
You're a very silly person. What do you think Colorism is based on and which group of females do you think benefit from it most?
There is no way you can discuss dark skinned women having self hatred without discussing the source, the women who benefit from the brainwashing in the first place.

Dumb dumb.

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#245 Jun 29, 2013
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Thanks, and I peeped Mom too and the expression on her face. It didn't appear as a concerned mother. She was happy the child don't tell on her that it was her who told her that.
An old friend of my sister has a very insecure teenage daughter due to her calling this child every name in the book including the B word. No matter how many times my sister checked her hatred towards her own daughter she didn't stop. My sister decided to cut ties with her and just pray for them both. I mean this woman have called her daughter black and ugly so much that it's pathetic. In this case the mother is the same tone as the daughter. The poor child self-esteem is so damaged that she is out looking for love. The husband/father is deceased by the way.
Home should be the first place your children hear they are loved and beautiful.
That's sad BUT I'm NOT surprised there are adults who say things like this to their own children. They do NOT value themselves nor their children so they disrespect their children & themselves. You can always tell how much someone values you or themselves by the amount of respect shown.

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#246 Jun 29, 2013
breadandwater wrote:
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IRBM are brainwashed.They have no love for themselves or the women of their race.
I wonder why so many black mothers are not investing love and time in their sons? A BM going IR is surely a sign that the mother/son bond got fcked up.
There is no bigger rejection of mother than to go IR, when 70% of women from your mother's race are unmarried.
Black mothers are leaving a big empty gap where mother love should be in their sons' hearts and other women from outside are exploiting this.
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#247 Jun 29, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
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I wonder why so many black mothers are not investing love and time in their sons? A BM going IR is surely a sign that the mother/son bond got fcked up.
There is no bigger rejection of mother than to go IR, when 70% of women from your mother's race are unmarried.
Black mothers are leaving a big empty gap where mother love should be in their sons' hearts and other women from outside are exploiting this.
Again..........SPOT ON.

Notice how BLACK MEN put emphasis on femininity?

It clearly was lacking from their mother. That's why they run to white women like dogs do to their master when it needs affection!

And then they look at black women with a scorn in their faces and then they bury their heads in the white woman's lap while she strokes his head.

They are completely brainwashed and lost!

Race TRAITORS!
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#248 Jun 29, 2013
And then when things don't work out for black men with white women. They come on here and try to bash black women...because it call comes down to the fact that they are upset that their mother was not there for them the way they wanted her to be!

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#249 Jun 29, 2013
breadandwater wrote:
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It all boils down to SELF CONFIDENCE.
Everybody of every race suffers from it once in a while. What you will usually find is that when a person is feeling vulnerable you will tend to all of a sudden notice all of the negative messages.
Its a bit like when you are looking to buy a particular house or car you tend to notice those things more.
Give any person who is suffering from negativity a million pounds i guarantee you ALL their problems will disappear over night. Its all about PERCEPTION! How you choose to see yourself.
The glass is either half full or half empty!!
Yes It's about how we choose to see ourselves. Some PPL simply see themselves as less than because they either believe the negatives taught about themselves or they are always comparing themselves to others whom they find appealing. Self HATE isn't always taught. Even if we were all the same shade, you would still have those with self esteem issues if they have issues with their body type or other physical traits.
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#250 Jun 29, 2013
If you look at the black men that come from homes where there was 2 parents a black mother and a black father they are the ones that tend to be a bit more mentally stable than the ones that grew up in single parent homes!

This is why we are seeing self hating black men dating white women. They NEVER grew up seeing black love.

That's why they are lost. NO IDENTITY.

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#251 Jun 29, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
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You're a very silly person. What do you think Colorism is based on and which group of females do you think benefit from it most?
There is no way you can discuss dark skinned women having self hatred without discussing the source, the women who benefit from the brainwashing in the first place.
Dumb dumb.
you idiot!!!! Again this thread is about dark skin women. Alot of black men have a preference for light skin black women but they are still black dum Azz!!!! All light skin women are not biracial. We already know it comes from being whitewashed thanks to slavery!!!! We don't need to constantly bring up BM with WW when many bi racials are from WM and bw!!! You are OBSESSED with that shi you look crazy ALWAYS bringing it up!!!! Let the ├čistas have a thread where we talk about the real issue which is SELF HATE not WW!!!! And you need to shut up anyway your BABY DADDY is WHITE STFU!!!! DAYUM hypocrite

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#252 Jun 29, 2013
Another thing, self HATE doesn't always boil down to physical attributes. Self hate can arise from our own natural capabilities. Some of us are MORE gifted than others in certain aspects of life & thus how naturally gifted one see themselves can also impact self esteem. So our natural capabilities & self image can BOTH contribute to insecurities.

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#253 Jun 29, 2013
Another thing, self HATE doesn't always boil down to physical attributes. It can also arise from our own natural capabilities. Some of us are MORE gifted than others in certain aspects of life & thus this can have an effect on self esteem. So BOTH natural capabilities & self image can impact self esteem. We always associate self HATE with physical appearance but this isn't always the case but how one view themselves overall beyond the physical. Racial systems are designed to make a PPL see themselves as less physically appealing & incompetent.

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#254 Jun 29, 2013
Blaq honey wrote:
<quoted text> you idiot!!!! Again this thread is about dark skin women. Alot of black men have a preference for light skin black women but they are still black dum Azz!!!! All light skin women are not biracial. We already know it comes from being whitewashed thanks to slavery!!!! We don't need to constantly bring up BM with WW when many bi racials are from WM and bw!!! You are OBSESSED with that shi you look crazy ALWAYS bringing it up!!!! Let the ├čistas have a thread where we talk about the real issue which is SELF HATE not WW!!!! And you need to shut up anyway your BABY DADDY is WHITE STFU!!!! DAYUM hypocrite
LMBAO!

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#255 Jun 29, 2013
MsNewNew wrote:
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Thanks, and I peeped Mom too and the expression on her face. It didn't appear as a concerned mother. She was happy the child don't tell on her that it was her who told her that.
An old friend of my sister has a very insecure teenage daughter due to her calling this child every name in the book including the B word. No matter how many times my sister checked her hatred towards her own daughter she didn't stop. My sister decided to cut ties with her and just pray for them both. I mean this woman have called her daughter black and ugly so much that it's pathetic. In this case the mother is the same tone as the daughter. The poor child self-esteem is so damaged that she is out looking for love. The husband/father is deceased by the way.
Home should be the first place your children hear they are loved and beautiful.
I agree, the domestic environment should be the first place where the child gets paved with the groundwork that gives them their esteem, their confidence and self-awareness...not self-CONCIOUSNESS.

The woman that Lil Sis knew that attacked her daughter frequently was probably targeted by her mom too. That type of abuse is normally generational: The daughter gets sh!tted on by the mother...the mother got sh!tted on by the grandmother...and so on. I don't know how many times that I've personally bore witness to this type of pattern with certain women.

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#256 Jun 29, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
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I agree with you. Something aint right. That child is the kind of dark that is very accepted, she's a warm chocolate colour and not the very dark colour that some of the adult women were.
It seemed strange to me that a little girl who is just a few shades away from being medium brown, would have such a problem with her skin colour.
Call the CPS!
You're placing emphasis on the degree of the child's colour when your focus here ought to be that the child shouldn't even be wrestling with this type of internal conflict to begin with, Shalimarr.

Bring your scope UP; you're shootin' too low.

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#257 Jun 29, 2013
Redefined wrote:
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I believe if these children were white raised by the same parents, they wouldn't suffer the same issues because the parents would treat them better due to the value placed on being white. Blacks are not seen as valuable as their counterparts due to a racial system. In some parts of India it's the same between girls & boys. Boys are seen as more valuable as women & thus they are treated better than women.
C/S!!!

Black parents are going to have to start expressing the "value" of their Blackness to their children...but this means that parents are gong to have to start valuing Blackness themselves and these realizations should exceed far beyond Martin, Malcolm and the Civil Rights Movement.

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#258 Jun 29, 2013
vampiYAH stabB wrote:
<quoted text>C/S!!!
Black parents are going to have to start expressing the "value" of their Blackness to their children...but this means that parents are gong to have to start valuing Blackness themselves and these realizations should exceed far beyond Martin, Malcolm and the Civil Rights Movement.
Yes we have to start attaching 'Positives' to our BLACKNESS. Right now our society BLACKNESS is evil, ugly, incompetent, etc.

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