Kelly Rowland Says She Hated Her Dark...
Donna

United States

#1230 Mar 19, 2013
Gogago wrote:
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I didn't say they were. I don't know what your new point is but all I said is there are more bw screwing wm than bm screwing ww and that irwm screw a bigger number of bw than irbm screw ww and that most bw prefer wm and that you yourself have screwed an ok amount of wm.
how are there more Bw screwing wm then Bm screwing ww? Where they do that at? Perhaps your city? On a day to day basis I always see Bm with their yetis I mean white women. I'm sorry but although more and more BW are dating out the MAJORITY are still hung up on black men because physically you all look good and many of you are good and bed but, emotionally and stability wise many of you fall short and that's the truth. My friend is 35 and all she dates is Bm relationship after relationship they cheat and leave her for a big booty girl ( let's not pretend that Bm don't love that a$$) or a light skin girl. I told her alot of Bm just don't wanna commit ( my opinion) and its not her she's educated, sweet, cooks, cleans and is a nice person. She is still hung up on black dudes and won't give another nationality a try. After her last break up NOW she's like maybe I should give Latin men a try. This is what I'm use to the sistas here are hung up on Bm.
Cold as ice

Australia

#1231 Mar 19, 2013
Cogito2 wrote:
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LOL! Cold you've got sex on the brain girl....lol! You are a newbie, so let me fill in the blank spaces for you. These debates/arguments/whining sessions go far beyond who's banging who....that's only the sub plot!What this is about is their expectation, desire, need and want for us to share their LOVE AND RESOURCES with them, to extend our physical and psychological protection to them so that they may be able to build homes and families and do what they were biologically designed to do, which is to nurture the next generation...... much deeper than just sex.
And most of us Quality Black men AGREE and UNDERSTAND this on a visceral level, but we disagree on how this should come about and we collectively feel that some of the sisters have lost the age old understanding of how to achieve this desired end. Instead of inspiring and winning us over by beguiling us with their feminine essence and beauty, the younger ones simply demand, complain and attempt to guilt manipulate us with their entitlement mindsets.
And though our exchanges may ostensibly appear to be brutal and cut throat, we're just negotiating. We tend to be verbally aggressive people who speak our minds uncensored, so to the uninitiated, it may seem like a blood bath, but we'll be aiight!
gotcha, yep i understand now. Well it is frustrating trying to make someone listen. Not long usually till the shit hits the fan i suppose lol. I can understand also wanting to share a life with someone who has things in common too. Goals, lifestyle etc. i myself am pretty mellow, i think i have raised my voice only a few times. I prefer logic and reasoning. Yelling hurts my ears lol. There is nothing wrong with asserting a point but i spose trying to maintain decorum when you about to lose your shit is hard lmao. You are right though. Women, black and white have lost the ability for feminine negotiation. The logical reason for this imo is there is only so many times you can say something nicely before you have to up the anti lol. Now, chicks just cut out the nice and shoot straight for the balls cos they just assume they not going to get listened to lol. I dont rekon i would be into a guy who does that, so im kinda understanding where you coming from.

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Since: Jan 12

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#1232 Mar 19, 2013
Cold as ice wrote:
<quoted text>gotcha, yep i understand now. Well it is frustrating trying to make someone listen. Not long usually till the shit hits the fan i suppose lol. I can understand also wanting to share a life with someone who has things in common too. Goals, lifestyle etc. i myself am pretty mellow, i think i have raised my voice only a few times. I prefer logic and reasoning. Yelling hurts my ears lol. There is nothing wrong with asserting a point but i spose trying to maintain decorum when you about to lose your shit is hard lmao. You are right though. Women, black and white have lost the ability for feminine negotiation. The logical reason for this imo is there is only so many times you can say something nicely before you have to up the anti lol. Now, chicks just cut out the nice and shoot straight for the balls cos they just assume they not going to get listened to lol. I dont rekon i would be into a guy who does that, so im kinda understanding where you coming from.
Awww, the lost of art of feminine persuasion! They gave all of up to be like us men. What a pity!
Cold as ice

Australia

#1233 Mar 19, 2013
Cogito2 wrote:
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Awww, the lost of art of feminine persuasion! They gave all of up to be like us men. What a pity!
haha yep. Oh god, i just vice versa'd that and got a bad mental pic! Lmao.
Cold as ice

Australia

#1234 Mar 19, 2013
I gotta say though. I see a lot of nice polite educated guys with some really aggressive nutty women. My opinion was always that they liked it or they would leave? I always thought i was too nice. As I've gotten older I've sussed it out.

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Since: Jan 12

Location hidden

#1235 Mar 19, 2013
Cold as ice wrote:
<quoted text>haha yep. Oh god, i just vice versa'd that and got a bad mental pic! Lmao.
Yeah, I was remiss in not admitting that we men have lost the art of chivalry and masculine persuasion as well! My bad!
Cold as ice

Australia

#1236 Mar 19, 2013
Cogito2 wrote:
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Yeah, I was remiss in not admitting that we men have lost the art of chivalry and masculine persuasion as well! My bad!
so, moving forward, the only way wrongs can be right'd is if everyone goes back to basics, remembers what they are. And tries to be the best at it. Women= feminine, nurturing, sensual and soft. Men= masculine, protecting, gentlemanly and reasonable. There ya go. Easy peasy lol
Jannette

Jamaica, NY

#1237 Mar 19, 2013
moor wrote:
of course she hated it...she grew up next to beyonce and they were in talent shows and looking for fame when they were younger. Who couldn't see that i mean really who is naive enough to think that shyt still doesn't exist. I hear this generation right in high school talking about light skin this or that..thats old as history refer solomon's wife how she was treated about her blackness. The problem is there aren't enough images of chocolate women being held high as there are of them bent over on some tv screen. Nobody is born hating there skin they are taught to despise it..
Fact is black people as in (American black),have more hang ups about the skin shades among other blacks,than other people outside of the black community do. Non blacks don't see as big a deal between a light skinned black, and a brown skinned black,as much as many blacks do.
I'm light skinned and without fail always when I'm in the company of blacks,they are making stupid statements to me,that they won't say to a black,who is dark skinned like themselves,but only make such stupid remarks to me,because they have an issue with the contrast between my fair skin,and their dark skin,and they want to hear my response to them,for their reasurance,which I never give..And this is very annoying,to say the least.One needs to prefer their God give looks over all others,be you light dark,or whatever,and stop expecting other people to do it for them.
Cold as ice

Australia

#1238 Mar 19, 2013
Jannette wrote:
<quoted text>Fact is black people as in (American black),have more hang ups about the skin shades among other blacks,than other people outside of the black community do. Non blacks don't see as big a deal between a light skinned black, and a brown skinned black,as much as many blacks do.
I'm light skinned and without fail always when I'm in the company of blacks,they are making stupid statements to me,that they won't say to a black,who is dark skinned like themselves,but only make such stupid remarks to me,because they have an issue with the contrast between my fair skin,and their dark skin,and they want to hear my response to them,for their reasurance,which I never give..And this is very annoying,to say the least.One needs to prefer their God give looks over all others,be you light dark,or whatever,and stop expecting other people to do it for them.
if someone is wanting some reassurance because they dont feel so good about themselves it only takes 5 minutes to make someone feel good. Its kind to make people feel good. I think you should reconsider your stand ob this and spread some positivity to someone in need.
Donna

Chicago, IL

#1239 Mar 19, 2013
Jannette wrote:
<quoted text>Fact is black people as in (American black),have more hang ups about the skin shades among other blacks,than other people outside of the black community do. Non blacks don't see as big a deal between a light skinned black, and a brown skinned black,as much as many blacks do.
I'm light skinned and without fail always when I'm in the company of blacks,they are making stupid statements to me,that they won't say to a black,who is dark skinned like themselves,but only make such stupid remarks to me,because they have an issue with the contrast between my fair skin,and their dark skin,and they want to hear my response to them,for their reasurance,which I never give..And this is very annoying,to say the least.One needs to prefer their God give looks over all others,be you light dark,or whatever,and stop expecting other people to do it for them.
I agree that black Americans are very hung up on skin tone but we are NOT the only ones. Jamicians make a BIG deal out of skin tone and so do Puerto Ricans and especially East Indians. I have also heard Mexicans make a big deal out of the light skin Mexicans vs the brownskin ones. I know what you are saying about black people obsession with skin color it is quite annoying. As a teenager darker skin blacks would always be the first ones to bring up my skin color in a conversation or a group setting
London

Memphis, TN

#1240 Mar 19, 2013
Cogito2 wrote:
* want US to share our LOVE and REOURCES with them*
Well isn't that the basis of any relationship? Furthermore, many black women have their own resources so this comment is baffling. Inside of a relationship if you aren't willing to share, no point in worrying about a relationship. Resources and love aren't bargaining chips inside of a relationship.
London

Memphis, TN

#1241 Mar 19, 2013
Donna wrote:
<quoted text> how are there more Bw screwing wm then Bm screwing ww? Where they do that at? Perhaps your city? On a day to day basis I always see Bm with their yetis I mean white women. I'm sorry but although more and more BW are dating out the MAJORITY are still hung up on black men because physically you all look good and many of you are good and bed but, emotionally and stability wise many of you fall short and that's the truth. My friend is 35 and all she dates is Bm relationship after relationship they cheat and leave her for a big booty girl ( let's not pretend that Bm don't love that a$$) or a light skin girl. I told her alot of Bm just don't wanna commit ( my opinion) and its not her she's educated, sweet, cooks, cleans and is a nice person. She is still hung up on black dudes and won't give another nationality a try. After her last break up NOW she's like maybe I should give Latin men a try. This is what I'm use to the sistas here are hung up on Bm.
Anymore cards you want to lay out on the table ??
Donna

Chicago, IL

#1243 Mar 19, 2013
London wrote:
<quoted text> Anymore cards you want to lay out on the table ??
LMAO you are a stalker and desperate for my attention WHITE TROLL don't you have something else to do but hang out with black people??? SMH desperate Becky lol

“Never fear the fall...”

Level 2

Since: Jan 13

Chatham, UK

#1245 Mar 19, 2013
But dark skin is gorgeous...
:/
Donna

Chicago, IL

#1246 Mar 19, 2013
TBMR wrote:
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Black men being cruel is my opinion from my own experiences
and you prove my point with your constant insults, put downs etc
I will always feel black men are cruel because the majority of the black men I meet in real life and online are mean
And no I dont bash bm. I dont throw negative stats about jail or hiv and shit at you all. I dont put other races of men on a pedestal over you. I dont c/s the white racists posts about bm. You liars keep speaking on my supposed love for wm when I have not made ONE post that stated I was even into white guys
You are making up lies about me but I'm telling the truth about you ... you as a black man are cruel just like many others
Its my opinion
I haven't been really following the back and forth between you guys what has he said that was cruel please enlighten me? Because I can't stand Bm that belittle black women and I will say I have also experienced some cruel belittling Bm in my lifetime

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Since: Nov 10

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#1249 Mar 19, 2013
Its good to read from the story that Kelly accepted her self and it was sad that it took words from others in order for her to realize she is beautiful.

Words are powerful! They can either break you or make you.

“Maat's my principle”

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Since: Jan 12

bamako,mali

#1250 Mar 19, 2013
MsNewNew wrote:
Its good to read from the story that Kelly accepted her self and it was sad that it took words from others in order for her to realize she is beautiful.
Words are powerful! They can either break you or make you.
Hey mighty Queen what's up ? good to read you again .

Level 9

Since: Nov 10

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#1251 Mar 19, 2013
dcool wrote:
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Hey mighty Queen what's up ? good to read you again .
What's up King Dcool?:) I'm doing well. How are you my friend?
Donna

Chicago, IL

#1252 Mar 19, 2013
TBMR wrote:
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You have expressed that you think he's cool and he has expressed he thinks you're cool too
I aint tryin get in the middle of that
He is just treating me like most black men usually do. Its no big deal
I said he is intelligent I've seen his posts on more intellectual threads that's why I made that comment plus I thought u were attacking me at first but it was just a misunderstanding. That's ok I just didn't feel like reading old posts. And yes you are right belittling BW is a common trait in the Bm that I've met.
Donna

Chicago, IL

#1253 Mar 19, 2013
I was just wondering why did Tina Knowles have to teach KELLY that she was beautiful? Where was her dark skin parent that made her that way in the first place? Did they have low self esteem as well?

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