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Mar 16, 2013
 
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Whoever denies colorism is stupid as hell. Its not just dark skinned black men that dissed dark skinned black women. It's black mn PERIOD, light, brown, and dark. They all are racism towards dark skinned women. And nowadays, being a light skinned black woman is not good enough. The reason why black men choose light skinned black women is because they don't have access to non-black women, so they will get with black women who look closest to a non-black woman, and when a black man have more access to non-black women, he will dump light skinned black women to be with a white, LAtina, and an Asian. The movie, Jungle Fever is proof to what I'm talking about. Wesley Snipes was married to a light skinned biracial woman, but when he met a white woman at her job, he dumped his biracial wife to be with her, so these black men really want non-black women. They hate black women. They really don't want black women as wives and girlfriends. They only choose light skinned black women as a STEP UP to non-black women. Once they get a non-black woman, he will dump the light black woman as well, if you don't believe me, look at Michael Jordan. His wife is light skinned, and when he became famous and have access to non-black women, he divorce his wife for a young white Cuban. So light, brown, and dark black women are all in the same boat when it comes to this.
Da*n.. that's a broad generalization. Yet a interesting post i must admit.

Hey if white, latina, and Asians women are what some of these men really want so ?. For the life of me black women need to stop complaining about this. Some of these men are showing their true colors so let them be. Black women complain yet many still don't want to open their options. It's black men who are still down for black women. Don't let theses blogs , youtube videos and the media fool you. For those who have a color complex and think anything besides black is better.

SCREW THEM.
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First of all, it is not my subjective opinion or view that you are a certifiable IDIOT, it is an objective truth. This self evident truth is clear for all to see in your many imbecilic, preposterous post. And the fact that an idiot thinks me a buffoon ranks right up there with with a blind person critiquing an art exhibit. And I am still waiting on you to name these sources that I supposedly parrot, but of course you won't provide them because they don't exist.
It would be an insult to an "Intellectual Impostor" to assign to you this pejorative label because they, for the most part, possess some minimum critical thinking skills while your mind and intelligence is but a barren, toxic wasteland. However, all is not lost because being exposed to you, one does in fact derive certain medicinal benefits; since it is a physiological truth that laughter stimulates the flow of serotonin and dopamine.
And since I find myself in your debt for your unintended contributions to my health, I offer to you this advice as a reciprocal "QUID PRO QUO" recompense. I think that you and reality could patch up your differences, allowing you to once again enter her realm, if only you would make the conciliatory gesture of contrition for your past insults to her by promising to periodically empty out your DENIAL FOLDER. I'm sure something can be arranged!
I'm sorry sir, were you saying something?
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Mar 16, 2013
 
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That's a D*mn lie! You cannot pin the blame soley on black mothers.#1 Alot of these dark skinned black mothers either had a dislike for their own skin color (which would be why they cant teach their own daughters to love themselves) or they dont detect that their kid has an issue.
#2 Society (whites) have brainwashed Americans into believeing in a European standard of beauty.
#3 I blame these black male rappers, entertainers, athletes etc (not all of them but most) for keeping this belief alive. Did you not read the article of Lil wayne professing his hatred for dark skinned women (look it up). And who do you often see in music videos, and photo shoots? Or the wives and girlfriends of most black entertainers?
PREACH!!!!! A lot of people want to brush this shit under the rug and try to solely put the blame on black women. I expect white people to put their own standard of beauty up there because they are the majority of the population in America, but within the black community, it's BLACK MEN that keep this shit going. It's BLACK MEN that divides black women into skin tones. It's BLACK MEN that praises light skinned women, so they need to shut the fck up about blaming black women for this.

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<quoted text>When you consider how often Black men step outside their race its safe to determine that Black men have more of a proclivity with being color struck. HOWEVER...the focus shouldn't be whose on top of the color struck pile. I think what's important here is to seek ways to resolve the condition through raising a generation of Black men & women who'll want to seek romance/ marriage with their own as opposed to "crossing over".
Another reason I am pessimistic about there ever being any resolution to our collective issues is because whenever I hear or participate in exchanges with black women, I only ever here the list of indictments against black men and never any mention of what black women are doing, not only as a contributing factor in the degeneration of group love, but never anything relating to fulfilling their biological and historical role as a stimuli for masculine love.

If I were to set at the negotiating table to redress grievances, I would come prepared to enumerate my failing and contributions to our respective issues, accompanied by some possible solutions and not just my complaints. I would not presume to demand a correction without offering some concessions on my part and yet, I never hear anything remotely like this when dialoguing with sisters about our issues.

Sure, as a collective, we the black family will lose, but if I were suffering some deficit preventing my romantic ambitions from not being realized, or my dreams of marriage and family not manifesting, I most certainly would humbly listen to my targeted demographic in order to acquire an understanding of what needed to be done. We instead run into immovable walls of intransigence and independence, but yet, these walls are bereft as to why progress is not being made. Go figure!

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Hi, Cayla N.
Oh hello dear, how are you?

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I'm sorry sir, were you saying something?
No Madame, that was just the sound of gas escaping your bloated body! But you are nonetheless excused!
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Da*n.. that's a broad generalization. Yet a interesting post i must admit.
Hey if white, latina, and Asians women are what some of these men really want so ?. For the life of me black women need to stop complaining about this. Some of these men are showing their true colors so let them be. Black women complain yet many still don't want to open their options. It's black men who are still down for black women. Don't let theses blogs , youtube videos and the media fool you. For those who have a color complex and think anything besides black is better.
SCREW THEM.
Black women have every damn right to complain when they feel discriminated against by black men. Black women are human just like everybody else. If I disagree with something, I'm going to say something. I don't care what you say. Most black men DO NOT truly want black women, and I don't have to look in the media to see this shit. I've seen it in real life. Where I live, I see black men with non-black women left and right. They only choose light skinned black women and biracial women because they are the closest to want they REALLY want, and that's a non-black woman, and when they do get what they want, they will dump their light skinned black wives and girlfriends. Why is it when a black woman speaks about this issue, we are consider bitter and angry when we are just expressing our feelings like everbody else? This show that people look at black women as less than human. If I hurt, I'm going to say OUCH!

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PREACH!!!!! A lot of people want to brush this shit under the rug and try to solely put the blame on black women. I expect white people to put their own standard of beauty up there because they are the majority of the population in America, but within the black community, it's BLACK MEN that keep this shit going. It's BLACK MEN that divides black women into skin tones. It's BLACK MEN that praises light skinned women, so they need to shut the fck up about blaming black women for this.
Co-sign 95% lol. I must say, I was enraged by his ridiculous claims. And we have the same theory. However, I feel like the situation would be better if alot of dark skinned black women learned their worth and cherished themselves. Even with alot of these flip floppin' black males. But we cant blame them. We as African Americans would like to think we run hollywood and the entertainent industry, but in all honesty we dont. These black men are being brainwashed so that they can become the brainwashers. Some of them are just f*cking ridiculous though.
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<quoted text> Oh hello dear, how are you?
I'm doing just fine. How are you?
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<quoted text> Co-sign 95% lol. I must say, I was enraged by his ridiculous claims. And we have the same theory. However, I feel like the situation would be better if alot of dark skinned black women learned their worth and cherished themselves. Even with alot of these flip floppin' black males. But we cant blame them. We as African Americans would like to think we run hollywood and the entertainent industry, but in all honesty we dont. These black men are being brainwashed so that they can become the brainwashers. Some of them are just f*cking ridiculous though.
Well, you mainly have black men throwing parties for light skinned women a few years back. And I think that a black man threw a racist beauty contest called LIGHT SKIN VS. BROWN SKIN VS. DARK SKIN WOMEN BEAUTY CONTEST. I'm not going to babyfied black men. Black men are responsible for keeping this shit going in the black community, period.

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Black women have every damn right to complain when they feel discriminated against by black men. Black women are human just like everybody else. If I disagree with something, I'm going to say something. I don't care what you say. Most black men DO NOT truly want black women, and I don't have to look in the media to see this shit. I've seen it in real life. Where I live, I see black men with non-black women left and right. They only choose light skinned black women and biracial women because they are the closest to want they REALLY want, and that's a non-black woman, and when they do get what they want, they will dump their light skinned black wives and girlfriends. Why is it when a black woman speaks about this issue, we are consider bitter and angry when we are just expressing our feelings like everbody else? This show that people look at black women as less than human. If I hurt, I'm going to say OUCH!
Ok, first of ALL no one said you have to care what i say. I'm just stating my opinion just as you did yours. I did said your post was interesting, you have a attitude with the wrong ONE. I'm just trying to help my fellow sista's out. If you read my posting from earlier i already stated the ignorance of some Black men. I never said i disagreed with you so it's no need to be hostile . All i was simply stating we as Black women need to stop complaining. Stop complaining and worrying about what black men do and focus on US. But hey if some of ya'll want to continue to complain fine. It's only making those men ego bigger they want us to be mad and "hurt". The best way is to show them we don't care
and start bettering ourselves.

"when a black woman speaks about this issue, we are consider bitter and angry when we are just expressing our feelings like everbody else? " I pointed that out already , when a male poster automatically called us bitter and angry.

The only ones who see black women as bitter and angry are the ignorant black men. Continue to express your feelings, just don't let it affect you everyday life. The attitude was not needed but OK!

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I'm doing just fine. How are you?
That's good, still posting blasphemy, anti-Christ comments all over Topix? And lol I'm great, grades are great, family is great, and this new found freedom is amazing!
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I'm not going to dispute your opinion , i respect and understand what you're saying. I agree, i don't believe black men must be with black women. Nor do i care , they are allow to date whom ever,vice versa for us. Of course not ALL of them are with black women but the majority are.
Sorry Miss. but the data I've read on this do not back up your claims. We have over 20% who self identify as black married to nonblack women and this doesn't include living together. Those rates are much higher and believed to be another 30%. Once you couple that with the fact most bw aren't married or partnered in beneficial relationships; it's a very bleak picture. I do realize there are some claiming black when they are biracial but a quick trip to the store if you just choose to pay attention (and I certainly don't anymore) you will notice if a bm is seen, he's usually not with a bw.

I don't do the whole link back and forth thing but I can assure you the information is readily available.

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Now i agree our community is in shambles.
Which is why I say, it doesn't matter if most black men are with black women. I can even give you that and say most black are with black women and imo it causes more alarm, not less. Communities in shambles are usually in shambles because of the family structure. So, if you are saying bm/bw are mostly together, this is even more embarrassing.
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Because the men who have the power to lead are sitting back complaining.
Well that means they don't have power. The least thing men in power do is sit back and simply complain. In general, men don't complain. They either fix the problem or walk away from it.
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Sadly men like Malcolm X and Martin Luther are a thing of the past.
Those type men were never in abundance in the aa community. Single parenting and oow kids is a very old issue with blacks. Many never acknowledge this. Bw complain now but the older bw who are in their 80s and up have said we actually have it good compared to the days past. Malcolm X even called the males back then chumps.
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"Most bw who birth black kids do so with little to no resources " . These women need to pick BETTER men, who can provide and educated.
Miss women can only pick from what is available. Bw like many all women are growing up in some of the same areas as these guys but lots of these guys IF they go on to acquire resources do not want bw. When bw vehemently stated they would not be having kids with guys who had no plan for themselves or vision they were called golddiggers. So now, the birth rate has dropped significantly as a direct result of some trying to push bw down and get them to accept less with more than half of them refusing this.
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Most of the men Black women are getting pregnant by simply aren't worth a damn.
It's easy to write people off once they've actually done the damage. But lots of these guys wear masks. Now that this is such a community problem more women have opened their eyes and are refusing to give birth. Giving birth now to black kids to the younger black girls is considered low class. Do you know how sad that is?
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In general we have this habit of wanting to change a man or "save him".
Both men and women have this sort of complex. I think it's because when we meet people and fall in love, we see all of them. During that process we decide what we can live with or without. Some of us make excuses for what we really can't live with by thinking over time the person will change. I don't it's anything abnormal about the thought process.

The only thing unique about bw is that many feel the need to cover for bm because of racism but that is going away also.
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The decision we make , is what our black children will have to deal with. It's a cycle that we must break , the community at this point can't be help.
It's not about being "black" anymore. The kids nowadays are just trying to get in where they fit in. Black, at this point, is a burden for them.
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I thought the birth rate for black kids increase , if i'm not mistaken.
No black birth rates are down. Hispanics and Asians are however having lots of kids. They are birthing the new group of minorities; not blacks.
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"It doesn't matter to me whether the few bm who are "successful" are with bw or not. What matters most is what's going on in the middle (the middle is where most people of any race are at). The middle for blacks imo is extremely pitiful." I agree..... how are we who have the power to better the community helping ?
Imo this isn't a question any bw should ever ask.
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<quoted text> That's good, still posting blasphemy, anti-Christ comments all over Topix? And lol I'm great, grades are great, family is great, and this new found freedom is amazing!
Lol, no, I no longer post those type of comments on Topix. I stopped doing that a long time ago, and I'm glad to hear that everything is good with you.

By the way, where have you been all this time?
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<quoted text> Co-sign 95% lol. I must say, I was enraged by his ridiculous claims. And we have the same theory. However, I feel like the situation would be better if alot of dark skinned black women learned their worth and cherished themselves. Even with alot of these flip floppin' black males. But we cant blame them. We as African Americans would like to think we run hollywood and the entertainent industry, but in all honesty we dont. These black men are being brainwashed so that they can become the brainwashers. Some of them are just f*cking ridiculous though.
Excellent post. However they aren't brainwashed.

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Well, you mainly have black men throwing parties for light skinned women a few years back. And I think that a black man threw a racist beauty contest called LIGHT SKIN VS. BROWN SKIN VS. DARK SKIN WOMEN BEAUTY CONTEST. I'm not going to babyfied black men. Black men are responsible for keeping this shit going in the black community, period.
Are you serious? Have they really done that? My main concerns are the entertainers like, Lil Wayne, Kevin Heart, T.I., The Game, Ne-Yo, Chris Brown, Yung Berg...BIG sell-outs. Girl get this! Lil Wayne had a stroke! And is in the hospital
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PREACH!!!!! A lot of people want to brush this shit under the rug and try to solely put the blame on black women. I expect white people to put their own standard of beauty up there because they are the majority of the population in America, but within the black community, it's BLACK MEN that keep this shit going. It's BLACK MEN that divides black women into skin tones. It's BLACK MEN that praises light skinned women, so they need to shut the fck up about blaming black women for this.
In my day, black women didn't play that sh!t with them. There was no separation of skin tone we allowed them play. If we didn't like someone we just didn't like her. Skin tone was besides the point. So what some of them did was make a group of biracials who held certain prejudices taught to them by their mothers and bm. Now it's just a never-ending battle to find out whose who.
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Nicole Little wrote:
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Well, you mainly have black men throwing parties for light skinned women a few years back. And I think that a black man threw a racist beauty contest called LIGHT SKIN VS. BROWN SKIN VS. DARK SKIN WOMEN BEAUTY CONTEST. I'm not going to babyfied black men. Black men are responsible for keeping this shit going in the black community, period.
LMAO! I never heard of this before ..or maybe I had but just forgot about it.

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<quoted text> Sorry Miss. but the data I've read on this do not back up your claims. We have over 20% who self identify as black married to nonblack women and this doesn't include living together. Those rates are much higher and believed to be another 30%. Once you couple that with the fact most bw aren't married or partnered in beneficial relationships; it's a very bleak picture. I do realize there are some claiming black when they are biracial but a quick trip to the store if you just choose to pay attention (and I certainly don't anymore) you will notice if a bm is seen, he's usually not with a bw.
I don't do the whole link back and forth thing but I can assure you the information is readily available.
Ok that's fine i'm not trying to sway your opinion .

Yes , already posted that 22% are married to non black women when it was 2% a few years ago.
I also know that black men are dating out rapidly and twice more than us. Well it's depends on location as well in the south and west the interracial rate is high. So of course you will see that , where i stay and grew up you rarely see it.

You don't have to post any links , i'm well aware trust me.

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