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#1684 Mar 27, 2013
modernaire wrote:
If I was on a date with a billionaire woman I would still make sure to be the one paying for that date. Otherwise I wouldn't ask her out. If she asked me out the same principle applies. Letting a woman pay your way reflects badly on you. It marks you as a beta male.
lol...y'all crack me up on this thread. What does paying for a meal have to do with being a man? Any ole pha880t can buy dinner. A man has to have more understanding of his value. you're not just a checkbook. You have a brain and a heart and a soul and hands and the manly qualities it takes to do things in life. You worried about who pays for dinner... that's not something to hang your masculinity on. So what happens if you lose your job and you gotta struggle for a few years?...you gonna walk around feeling like a "beta male"? I've dated a lotta women who pay for dates. the thing about that is, if a woman is paying for you, what it tells you is that she's not just with you because you have a job and can buy her sh8t. she's with you becuase she values YOU as a man and a human being. She likes you for who you are because you have qualities that go beyond the price of dinner...and that means you don't have to prove yourself and your manhood by spending money on anybody.

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#1685 Mar 27, 2013
modernaire wrote:
If I was on a date with a billionaire woman I would still make sure to be the one paying for that date. Otherwise I wouldn't ask her out. If she asked me out the same principle applies. Letting a woman pay your way reflects badly on you. It marks you as a beta male.
The truth.
SSA

Arlington, VA

#1686 Mar 27, 2013
Why are you saying such things to Desmond? He sounds like one of the most balanced and open-minded brothers on this site. He is not a hater, he looks for women who share his values. At this point in his life, it happens to be an Asian woman. If she gives him comfort, let him be. As an African man, I respect that a lot because I also have a lady back home who supported me when things were bad, now that I am getting more money, I am planning the best wedding for her. And I send her money every month in addition to spending the summers with her here.

Btw, though Desmond is dating an Asian woman, he knows and admires the juiciest Nollywood actresses. That is the sign of an open minded person.

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#1687 Mar 27, 2013
SSA wrote:
Why are you saying such things to Desmond? He sounds like one of the most balanced and open-minded brothers on this site. He is not a hater, he looks for women who share his values. At this point in his life, it happens to be an Asian woman. If she gives him comfort, let him be. As an African man, I respect that a lot because I also have a lady back home who supported me when things were bad, now that I am getting more money, I am planning the best wedding for her. And I send her money every month in addition to spending the summers with her here.
Btw, though Desmond is dating an Asian woman, he knows and admires the juiciest Nollywood actresses. That is the sign of an open minded person.
Desmond sounds like a gigilo.
SSA

Arlington, VA

#1688 Mar 27, 2013
Be a lady ...

“Obsidian Princess”

Level 8

Since: Sep 09

louisiana

#1689 Mar 28, 2013
Desmond Sandiford wrote:
<quoted text>LOL!...then you woke up. LMFAO @ "a woman chooses from a group of men who compete for her affection"...that sh8t only happens in chick flicks. In real life, most women know they aint no real prize for any man. their girlfriends will try and boost up their self-esteem by telling them they look good and all that, but the stats speak for themselves. If you honest with yourself you'll find that it's men who have all the real value. Men are the prize. women are interchangeable. but men have the power to do things and go places. It's really women competing for men by damn near killing themselves and each other to look good and sell themselves to us.
crazy, lol!

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#1691 Jul 29, 2013
jimmy wrote:
African americans must learn to deal with their eternal inferiority complex issues in a more mature way!Why not a thread about african-americans who look irishs,scottishs.....etc?After all,african americans are mixed!you people seem to have issues only with their blackness.That is why you lust for everything white or almost-white.It makes me laugh when I see you fools bashing white people coz I know you envy whites.You can think what you want to think about real africans and africa,we just dont care!
I thank the good lord everyday that he made me a black woman. It's the closest thing to having eternal youth. When I see those poor white women with their speckled wrinkly chests, ropey hands line marked faces, droopy knees some of these women not even 40 years of age, I pity them. To be fair, a lot of these ladies worshiped the sun too much, but the fact remains that black people age better in general. Not only that, as an AA I enjoy a rich history that includes musical forms that began in Africa and influence other musicians around the world. No, my friend. Most black people do not envy whites. Myself,your people have nothing I want physically, though I can't speak for the self-hating among my kind.

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#1692 Jul 29, 2013
Desmond Sandiford wrote:
<quoted text> lol...y'all crack me up on this thread. What does paying for a meal have to do with being a man? Any ole pha880t can buy dinner. A man has to have more understanding of his value. you're not just a checkbook. You have a brain and a heart and a soul and hands and the manly qualities it takes to do things in life. You worried about who pays for dinner... that's not something to hang your masculinity on. So what happens if you lose your job and you gotta struggle for a few years?...you gonna walk around feeling like a "beta male"? I've dated a lotta women who pay for dates. the thing about that is, if a woman is paying for you, what it tells you is that she's not just with you because you have a job and can buy her sh8t. she's with you becuase she values YOU as a man and a human being. She likes you for who you are because you have qualities that go beyond the price of dinner...and that means you don't have to prove yourself and your manhood by spending money on anybody.
True, how big the wallet should not define the man. Nevertheless I believe men should pay for initial dates. I paid for a date once and that man turned out to be a a**hole. Later, he tried to pick up on my sister.

Women assume more risk in the dating game than males, and that's one reason why I believe men should pay for dates. If he's short on cash, he should plan cheaper/free dates. When you're dating right, he should be asking you as a woman out. He/she who invites out pays.

Not only that, but paying demonstrates his interest in at least trying to get to know you. I find men who are lazy when it comes to courting in any way have no interest whatsoever in a woman as a person. A man who is planning and doing those actions to demonstrate interest and move things forward is the man a woman wants.

When coupledom is achieved, things can become more equitable in the finance department.

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#1693 Jul 30, 2013
Donalda wrote:
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True, how big the wallet should not define the man. Nevertheless I believe men should pay for initial dates. I paid for a date once and that man turned out to be a a**hole. Later, he tried to pick up on my sister.
Women assume more risk in the dating game than males, and that's one reason why I believe men should pay for dates. If he's short on cash, he should plan cheaper/free dates. When you're dating right, he should be asking you as a woman out. He/she who invites out pays.
Not only that, but paying demonstrates his interest in at least trying to get to know you. I find men who are lazy when it comes to courting in any way have no interest whatsoever in a woman as a person. A man who is planning and doing those actions to demonstrate interest and move things forward is the man a woman wants.
When coupledom is achieved, things can become more equitable in the finance department.
Finally, an intelligent and thought productive response to the question of who pays on a date.

However, I disagree with you on a couple of things. First of all, women aren't taking more of a risk...talk to a few guys. They'll tell you some horror stories about taking women out on dates, paying for the date only to have the woman do/say something crazy/disrespectful/embarrassi ng and ruin their night not to mention their faith in the opposite sex.

I've known cases where women gave their number to another man or even went with another guy while on a date with some guy they didn't find interesting enough. So take it from me, dating is plenty risky for us men.

And us men are always the ones expected to make the first move and ask the woman out. When she's interested, it's "good thing you were man enough to approach her"...when she's not interested, it's a cold stare or she'll even turn her back or cuss you out or even call security on this "annoying" dude that keeps bothering her.

Men get used to this kind of treatment and learn to laugh it off, but my heart goes out to brothers when they suffer like that. To me, women should be making the first move at least half the time which means they deal with the abuse and pain and shame of rejection half the time. That's only fair. But women will never get to that point because they fear rejection too much.

There is no reason I can see that a woman who has a job should get a free meal. At least pay half. And if you think a man paying for a meal means he's "interested", you're right....but it might be for all the wrong reasons. For example, a lot of married guys I know have no problem paying for dinner for some unsuspecting female they're interested in. If you a guy and you know all it takes is to throw some money around the p8ssy will come your way, then what's the incentive to develop personality traits such as kindness, consideration, a sense of humor and conversational skills?

The only way to know if somebody is really interested in YOU is to talk to them and find out what they're all about.

“Obsidian Princess”

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louisiana

#1694 Jul 30, 2013
desmond your azz is just broke.

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#1695 Jul 31, 2013
dragonpat wrote:
desmond your azz is just broke.
bitch, pay for your own fkin dinner.

“Obsidian Princess”

Level 8

Since: Sep 09

louisiana

#1696 Aug 1, 2013
Desmond Sandiford wrote:
<quoted text>bitch, pay for your own fkin dinner.
I would have to. how can a man who has not worked in 3 years pay for mine or his dinner? you sorry, broke mofo!!LOL!!!!
UruEuWauWau

Brazil

#1697 Aug 1, 2013
dragonpat wrote:
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I would have to. how can a man who has not worked in 3 years pay for mine or his dinner? you sorry, broke mofo!!LOL!!!!
Ah, my proud & sexy Yank IViggress sis in action. ;-D Sometimes I wonder how our tropical mixed kids would come out. ;^) Anyway, just a note, this retarded Yank monkey Desboon Sissyforge one time went to BRA forum, cryin', beggin' & whinin' to other BRA peeps, askin' my BRA bros & sisses to stop me from comin' to this forum, can ya believe it what level of lame dumbness we're talkin' bout here, baby?! ;-D Stay always proud, strong & sexy like in those pics I still remember, my boirrakaambiinga sis. ;-)

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#1699 Aug 8, 2013
Desmond Sandiford wrote:
<quoted text>Finally, an intelligent and thought productive response to the question of who pays on a date.
However, I disagree with you on a couple of things. First of all, women aren't taking more of a risk...talk to a few guys. They'll tell you some horror stories about taking women out on dates, paying for the date only to have the woman do/say something crazy/disrespectful/embarrassi ng and ruin their night not to mention their faith in the opposite sex.
I've known cases where women gave their number to another man or even went with another guy while on a date with some guy they didn't find interesting enough. So take it from me, dating is plenty risky for us men.
And us men are always the ones expected to make the first move and ask the woman out. When she's interested, it's "good thing you were man enough to approach her"...when she's not interested, it's a cold stare or she'll even turn her back or cuss you out or even call security on this "annoying" dude that keeps bothering her.
Men get used to this kind of treatment and learn to laugh it off, but my heart goes out to brothers when they suffer like that. To me, women should be making the first move at least half the time which means they deal with the abuse and pain and shame of rejection half the time. That's only fair. But women will never get to that point because they fear rejection too much.
There is no reason I can see that a woman who has a job should get a free meal. At least pay half. And if you think a man paying for a meal means he's "interested", you're right....but it might be for all the wrong reasons. For example, a lot of married guys I know have no problem paying for dinner for some unsuspecting female they're interested in. If you a guy and you know all it takes is to throw some money around the p8ssy will come your way, then what's the incentive to develop personality traits such as kindness, consideration, a sense of humor and conversational skills?
The only way to know if somebody is really interested in YOU is to talk to them and find out what they're all about.
Being verbally disrespected and raped are two entirely different scenarios. When I said risk, I was primarily speaking to sexual assault. Let's face it, this is a man's world and as a woman, I'm just living in it. A man is in the more powerful position not only physically but monetarily and societally. Women have the bigger burden in dating because of our vulnerabilities, physical, emotional, financial. Men should pay until a couple is exclusive.
As far as interest, I try to pay less attention to what men say than how they behave. Men will say anything.

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