KIP

San Francisco, CA

#438 Sep 18, 2013
BL-P wrote:
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Seen or heard is irrelevant.
Experience is the mother of knowledge.
And no one is angry with YOU.
I'm just debunking your nonsense.
Lmbao
This generation of black women don't get it.

They think everything is about someone else's money. They are the first to complain about black men being good fathers, but are least likely to let him fulfill that role. Forgive me for saying this, but many of these sisters have multiple children by different men. It's as if they don't have the ability to select a good, stable, mate for all of life's ups and downs. Then they claim they can "school" someone.

It's interesting.

Level 8

Since: May 08

Pacific Northwest

#440 Sep 18, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
<quoted text>
Why do slave descent BM do this but not any other male group?

You seem to think the women have a problem, but no other female group is living with this. You have no idea how white women would feel, or Indian women would feel if men from their group had no preference for them at all and viewed all women from outside cultures as equally worthy top bring into the group.

So really your analysis is sh!t, because youhahve no idea how your white queens would act if the shoes were on their feet instead of ours.
We've already had extensive discussions about why "slave descent BM" in the UK do this. I've offered some non-professional guesses and theories, some of which you contributed to. If you've forgotten already, that's probably another indicator of your need for some sort of medical or psychological intervention.

On the other hand, if you're asking a rhetorical question about "Why do slave descent BM do this??" - well that is simply unhelpful and simple-minded. Best to just stop it.

- You tell ME why "slave descent BM" have their humanity questioned by people of the majority color in the UK.

- You tell ME why you choose to live in a society where menfolk of your color have banana peels thrown at them in public - or are forced to listen to mocking monkey noises in a public setting.

I'm quite proud of my ethnicity and color: I see my womenfolk represented in the White House as First Lady of the United States of America. I see a woman from my ethnicity functioning as a successful media entrepreneur and a self-made billionaire. And even though, Ms. Davuluri, the new Miss America, is not African-American, she is the SAME COLOR as the First Lady - which brings scorn and racist hostility in many, MANY parts of the USA. But she is not letting that stop her. I love triumphant, assertive, self-confident Brown Sugar!

All of those lovely, confident women should be your role model, Shalimarr. Stop feeling sorry for yourself - it's unattractive.

It's not going to do you any GOOD to get angry, on an internet forum, at anonymous, strange men who are struggling with mental and/or emotional damage which you have absolutely no control over.
Spit-Fire

Scottdale, GA

#441 Sep 18, 2013
KIP wrote:
<quoted text>
Black women don't travel.
They usually stay in the same place.
They don't go anywhere unless they are permitted to go by society and other black people. Even then it's still difficult, because they are women.
For some reason, that is what you want to believe about BW, its not even close to being true.
Black women have travel groups all across America. Many of their sites are all over the internet.
Some have non profit organizations that they run for young poor BW. These trips are not only for stateside destinations, but also international cities.
BW are out in the real world handling their business.
KIP

San Francisco, CA

#444 Sep 18, 2013
Spit-Fire wrote:
<quoted text>
For some reason, that is what you want to believe about BW, its not even close to being true.
Black women have travel groups all across America. Many of their sites are all over the internet.
Some have non profit organizations that they run for young poor BW. These trips are not only for stateside destinations, but also international cities.
BW are out in the real world handling their business.
I certainly hope so. However, I live in a city that attracts tourists from all over the world and seldom if ever see black women here. I've traveled down under and to Central America and still don't see any black women.
Jax

Whitestone, NY

#445 Sep 18, 2013
Harrisson wrote:
<quoted text>
U mad, Boo??
Harrisson, George Zimmerman's fat wife is now single.
KIP

San Francisco, CA

#447 Sep 18, 2013
BL-P wrote:
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Kip, many of those women are demanding everything from others that they do not have. They refuse to ask for what they know they are worth.
It like those women will have multiple kids, yet they are asking for a brother with a masters degree and six figure salary, no kids, love church etc.
But how comes she is mentioning of church and having all those kids...when one of the sins speaks against fornication.
Those women are crazily delusional and think that we owe them our bank accounts, bmws and private jets.
You got that right on the head -- "asking for something they cannot give in return". Then one of them has the audacity to add that she was brought up with good parenting. Some of the young black women today are SO socially inept and behind. They do this to themselves and to each other. You'd have to spend quite an effort just to engage in a conversation with one of them. It's seldom like talking to another regular person.

Level 8

Since: May 08

Pacific Northwest

#449 Sep 18, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
<quoted text>
But you and your male group do the same thing....
No we do NOT, you confused troll.

According to the Pew Research study on interracial marriage, "about 24% of all black male newlyweds in 2010 married outside their race, compared with just 9% of black female newlyweds."

Since facts, figures and statistics are a particular weak point of yours, I'll help you interpret this:

Roughly 76% of all Black male newlyweds in 2010, married WITHIN their race. Are you getting this, Shalimarr?? 76% is roughly 3/4 of Black husbands choosing Black wives. It is an overwhelming MAJORITY.

Obviously, you need to move to the USA so that you can have a far, far better chance of marrying a "slave descent BM" who wants a Black spouse. ;o) Or you can stay in the UK and continue whining away about a nonexistent "crisis" that most of us in the USA have little or no concern about.

smh!

Get counseling... seriously.

“The Spotted Girl News Network”

Level 8

Since: Apr 09

Spotted World

#451 Sep 18, 2013
BL-P wrote:
I was at a restaurant today and saw a brother controlling two beautiful white blondes in their mid 20's. Lol.
He had one allowing him to feed her (I mean putting food in her mouth,) and the other was cheering.
My God, two gorgeous blondes. Lol. The other was visibly single looking for another brother. Lol.
Wm, I suggest you stop procreating to produce those lovely women, cause clearly, you are producing them for brothers. They seriously hate you. Lol.
I wanted to ask them for a photo. But just didn't want to disturb the intimacy at the table. Lmbao.
But I got a ten second video clip of the couple with the side kick. Lol.
Nobody is making WW for the brothers. Saying that they are being made for brothers is like saying computers are being made for terrorists. That said, there are brothers who feel entitled to them, and there are blondes choosing to give themselves away to the brothers for whatever reasons. I don't support nor condone this, but who am I to try to stop it? If someone wants to mate a telephone pole, that isn't my business, but don't expect me to cheer and give my blessings and approval. I probably won't attend the telephone pole's commitment ceremony.
canday

Wichita, KS

#454 Sep 18, 2013
Harrisson wrote:
<quoted text>
<quoted text>
Unfortunately, you've posed yet another invalid rhetorical question - one fueled more by emotion and frustration and jealousy than by logical analysis.
In the USA, there is no overwhelming "stigma" or "societal disapproval" for BMs or BW to deal with after choosing a white spouse. There is definitely disapproval from segments of the white community and black community and from angry or embittered individuals such as yourself.
But society as a whole either approves or is simply *indifferent* as in tossing out a curt "None of my business!" accompanied by a shrug of the shoulders. You'd have to be extremely vain about your race's status to think that a highly educated Chinese-American physicist or hedge-fund manager devotes his/her valuable mental space to cluck-clucking over whether or not it's responsible for a visibly brown man of African-American heritage like Tiger Woods, to be pursuing an endless stream of pale, blonde WW as mates while overlooking BW.
More likely than not, the Chinese-American professional DOESN'T CARE. You can safely assume that millions of other non-Black ethnic/racial minorities don't care either. Worrying about this stuff is not what pays the bills for them. It is a non-issue.
They easily and confidently vote for President Obama in overwhelming numbers without worrying about the "awful shame" or "stigma" of his parentage. It absolutely doesn't matter to them that he is a black man who was birthed by an Anglo-Saxon-American woman. Only people like yourself - with unresolved personal issues - and a very shaky grasp of facts, get this agitated over very personal and sexual matters beyond their control.
Time to calm down, Shalimarr. Let's take a deeeep breath here...
;o)
Hey handsome how have you been?:)
canday

Wichita, KS

#456 Sep 18, 2013
KIP wrote:
<quoted text>
That's just your gloomy outlook.
Black women are known for having the absolute most miserable outlook on everything from themselves to people they've never met. Everyday is marked by a dark cloud overhead and everyone sucks. I grew up with this and it just got old. Somebody else ALWAYS has to be on the low side of things, so they can have someone to talk about who's worse off than they.
Thank god my creole boyfriend doesn't think like u.U r truly white washed man.YOu married a white woman so u could live off of her and her family.I can't imagine myself marrying to a white family that's why I'm with a creole man now.A proud creole man who loves black women :) he is the best.

“The Spotted Girl News Network”

Level 8

Since: Apr 09

Spotted World

#457 Sep 18, 2013
Actually, I would prefer that men outside my race have absolutely no preference for women of my race. I have no preference for ANY man, and I find that BM offer even less to me in terms of my own goals and needs for my life than WM offer me. The more any man expresses any interest in me, the more repulsed I am with them. Those who value my independence, introversion, privacy, and space get the most respect from me. Others typically have my respect until they *DO* something to destroy it. Invading my world and interrupting my silence or disturbing me from my private thoughts are actions, and a sure way to make me think less. People who are not needy and who can stay out of my way are earning my respect.

I would not have a problem being around guys if they respected me enough to never mention sex around me nor ever make sexual moves onto me. Just relate to me in terms of logic, practicality, and the mind. Just ignore all sexuality and treat me like an equal, and appreciate my conversation abilities and mind.

What I need to a point is for others to think of me as geeky and to give me that type of respect and distance and to think of me in terms of knowledge, while yet not thinking of me as a commodity like a computer to turn on and take for granted.

But few guys, and particularly Af. Am. guys can relate to women on just the platonic-only level that I require.

Level 8

Since: May 08

Pacific Northwest

#459 Sep 18, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
<quoted text>
No dear, you were only legally allowed to marry women in 1967. Black men in the UK had been marrying WW since 1950. So you are 1 years behind.

BM in the UK are heavily outnumbered by whites in ways YOU ARE NOT.
So your group so soon after 1967 having 24% IR marriage rates, while your women are only 30% married, shows that you are an incredibly white woman loving group of black men.

All the other races of men in your country were legally able to marry WW long before 1967. yet you have higher IR marriage rates THAN ALL OF THEM.

Don't try to bull sh!t me...
I wouldn't think of it - you continually bullsh*t yourself and this forum on a nonstop basis.

If the American BM outmarriage rate is 24% among newlyweds, then that is what we have to deal with as African-Americans. That is a rate that allows us to sustain ourselves as a group.

If the UK Afro-Caribbean-BM outmarriage is 45 or 50%(or higher), then that is what YOU have to deal with. Feel free to continue to cry, wail, and gnash your teeth as you see fit. lol

Clean up YOUR house and YOUR mess, and don't try to conflate the separate issues found in differing ethnicities. I have ZERO desire to be British and I have ZERO desire to see 45% or 50% or 55% of African-American men marrying White women.

To hear you attempt to PREDICT that will happen, is meaningless to me. Why? Because you are continually shown to be W-R-O-N-G on so many different points of argument during these discussions, that I have zero confidence in your prediction.

Level 8

Since: May 08

Pacific Northwest

#460 Sep 18, 2013
canday wrote:
<quoted text>
Hey handsome how have you been?:)
I'm fine, Sugar - how about you?
Are you preggers, Canday?

I'll bet you are *REALLY* racked-out now, huh??
;o)

“The Spotted Girl News Network”

Level 8

Since: Apr 09

Spotted World

#462 Sep 18, 2013
BL-P wrote:
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Black women are blindly leading each other down the aisle of craziness each and everyday.
And not one stops and decides that they need to enter at the front door, instead of the back.
And to top it off they are creating sister circles, discussing more crazy stuff, that no one cares about.
Black women with their sisterhood.
Smh
Actually, it is important for women to have their own culture separate from men and to bond in platonic ways with each other. As a WW, I get along much more with BW than with BM. The BW are not trying to jump my bones nor waste my time trying to charm me, and con me and stuff.

As soon as the typical adult Af. Am. guy opens his mouth, I know what he wants before he goes on the long, boring spiel, or starts talking about his genitals, or otherwise inconveniencing me. Of course, I guess I'd rather hear someone speak about such things than than show them to me. It seems around here that low-income Whites (including Hispanics) are most likely to expose themselves. I recently discovered that one WM who did that towards me is on the sex-offender registry. I simply want to be left to run my life. I am not a slave to any sex drive. In fact, I was born asexual and find that to be a blessing and wish others would respect my sexual orientation and stop trying to force their orientation onto me.

Now, to be clear, there are plenty of BM who I will speak to, who know the boundaries, who know that waiting for me is useless, and who give me the space I need to be me. Most of them are married, up in years, or whatever, and tend to have their lives together. When I went to fix my friend's computer, her grandson was trying to crawl on me. I didn't mind at all, though his mom didn't want him climbing on everyone. Just like when relating to my friend, I didn't see race. I just saw a curious, adorable toddler. And it didn't take long to fix the PC. The file system got trashed in one spot and corrupted part of the system registry. Luckily a registry optimizer I installed for her left a backup copy from the last time it was run, so I was able to boot off of another drive to get in there to rename 2 files.
KIP

San Francisco, CA

#464 Sep 18, 2013
Spotted Girl wrote:
Actually, I would prefer that men outside my race have absolutely no preference for women of my race. I have no preference for ANY man, and I find that BM offer even less to me in terms of my own goals and needs for my life than WM offer me. The more any man expresses any interest in me, the more repulsed I am with them. Those who value my independence, introversion, privacy, and space get the most respect from me. Others typically have my respect until they *DO* something to destroy it. Invading my world and interrupting my silence or disturbing me from my private thoughts are actions, and a sure way to make me think less. People who are not needy and who can stay out of my way are earning my respect.
I would not have a problem being around guys if they respected me enough to never mention sex around me nor ever make sexual moves onto me. Just relate to me in terms of logic, practicality, and the mind. Just ignore all sexuality and treat me like an equal, and appreciate my conversation abilities and mind.
What I need to a point is for others to think of me as geeky and to give me that type of respect and distance and to think of me in terms of knowledge, while yet not thinking of me as a commodity like a computer to turn on and take for granted.
But few guys, and particularly Af. Am. guys can relate to women on just the platonic-only level that I require.
Who asked YOU?

Nobody even paid you any attention, until you showed up here to get noticed.
Furthermore, nobody cares about what YOU have preference for or who is sad enough to have the burden of a preference for you.

If you want respect, then Be respectful. Nobody owes you their respect.
canday

Wichita, KS

#465 Sep 18, 2013
Harrisson wrote:
<quoted text>
I'm fine, Sugar - how about you?
Are you preggers, Canday?
I'll bet you are *REALLY* racked-out now, huh??
;o)
Yes I am but I have a man who loves me for the way I am and I'm very happy now.That I have 2 special people in my life now.

“The Spotted Girl News Network”

Level 8

Since: Apr 09

Spotted World

#466 Sep 18, 2013
BL-P wrote:
<quoted text>
Made or manufactured, you still got the idea.
I was not disputing the word used, but the direction. Just because more BM are interested in WW of a certain genre is not the fault of the parents. I personally don't think it is right, but in the end, people are going to do what they want to do. In this case, we are discussing consenting adults, and it takes two.

The biggest problem I have is when someone tries to boss, bully, or badger others into giving consent. Dale Carnegie once said that someone forced to decide against their will is of the same opinion still. So if someone feels they have to give it out just to stop getting badgered and harassed, then it is essentially rape. They felt pressured and gave into the pressure, rather the pressure be words, fists, drugs, or firearms.

Level 8

Since: May 08

Pacific Northwest

#467 Sep 18, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
<quoted text>...Why are no other race of women in America confronted by 24% IR marriage rates from their men?...
O the agony. O the pain... the horror of widespread interracial marriage.

Imagine the suffering endured by our fellow men of color in the Asian-American community, Shalimarr!

Why, oh why, are no other race of men in America confronted by 36% IR marriage rates from their women??

My answer: "I don't know. It's not my business. I'm happy with my sex life. I will let my Asian brothers handle their business as they see fit."
KIP

San Francisco, CA

#468 Sep 18, 2013
canday wrote:
<quoted text>
Thank god my creole boyfriend doesn't think like u.U r truly white washed man.YOu married a white woman so u could live off of her and her family.I can't imagine myself marrying to a white family that's why I'm with a creole man now.A proud creole man who loves black women :) he is the best.
What does THIS one do?
She justifies EVERYTHING I originally said with more gloom.

Level 8

Since: May 08

Pacific Northwest

#473 Sep 18, 2013
canday wrote:
<quoted text>
Yes I am but I have a man who loves me for the way I am and I'm very happy now.That I have 2 special people in my life now.
That is sweet, baby.
I'm happy for you.

:o)

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