How To Manipulate A Narcissist?

How To Manipulate A Narcissist?

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THE MANIPULATOR

United States

#1 Sep 21, 2011
PART 1.

The first step is to repeat a message over and over again.

A. BW are strong, intelligent, independent, with high self esteem, don't need a bm and bm are not qualified. This elevates the woman and degrades the man

This is why racists continually glorify bw and demonize bm. ALWAYS!

Sadbutrue | 2 hrs ago | Reply

If any person is constantly bombarded with a lie that is is never or rarely ever refuted, any person will believe it's the truth

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THE MANIPULATOR

United States

#2 Sep 21, 2011
PART 2

SIGNS OF NARCISSISM

Signs and symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder may include:

Grandiose sense of one's own abilities or achievements

Fantasies about having exceptional power, attractiveness or success

Sense of belonging to an exclusive group of people who truly understand each other

Need for constant praise

Expectations of special treatment

Exploitation of other people

Lack of empathy for other people

Envy of other people or a belief that you are the subject of other people's envy

Haughty or arrogant behaviors

Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder may come across as conceited or snobbish. They often monopolize conversation. They may belittle or look down on people they perceive as inferior. When they don't receive the special treatment to which they feel entitled, they may become very impatient or angry.

People with narcissistic personality disorder tend to seek out individuals whom they perceive as equal to their own self-image or to whom they attribute the same special talents and qualities they see in themselves. They may insist on having "the best" of everything — car, athletic club or social circles.

Their personal relationships and interactions are driven by the need for admiration and praise. Consequently, people with narcissistic personality disorder value others primarily according to how well those individuals affirm their unrealistic self-image. This limited value of others usually means that people with the disorder aren't interested in or aren't capable of perceiving the feelings or needs of others. They may take advantage of other people to make themselves look as good as they imagine.

On the other hand, seeking admiration also makes people with narcissistic personality disorder vulnerable to criticism. If someone criticizes an individual's contribution to a project at work, for example, he or she will perceive this comment as an assault on an image that needs to be protected at all costs and may respond with feelings of shame, humiliation or sadness or may express rage, disdain or defensive behaviors

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THE MANIPULATOR

United States

#3 Sep 21, 2011
Part 2

Signs and symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder may include:

Grandiose sense of one's own abilities or achievements

Fantasies about having exceptional power, attractiveness or success

Sense of belonging to an exclusive group of people who truly understand each other

Need for constant praise

Expectations of special treatment

Exploitation of other people

Lack of empathy for other people

Envy of other people or a belief that you are the subject of other people's envy

Haughty or arrogant behaviors

Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder may come across as conceited or snobbish. They often monopolize conversation. They may belittle or look down on people they perceive as inferior. When they don't receive the special treatment to which they feel entitled, they may become very impatient or angry.

People with narcissistic personality disorder tend to seek out individuals whom they perceive as equal to their own self-image or to whom they attribute the same special talents and qualities they see in themselves. They may insist on having "the best" of everything — car, athletic club or social circles.

Their personal relationships and interactions are driven by the need for admiration and praise. Consequently, people with narcissistic personality disorder value others primarily according to how well those individuals affirm their unrealistic self-image. This limited value of others usually means that people with the disorder aren't interested in or aren't capable of perceiving the feelings or needs of others. They may take advantage of other people to make themselves look as good as they imagine.

On the other hand, seeking admiration also makes people with narcissistic personality disorder vulnerable to criticism. If someone criticizes an individual's contribution to a project at work, for example, he or she will perceive this comment as an assault on an image that needs to be protected at all costs and may respond with feelings of shame, humiliation or sadness or may express rage, disdain or defensive behaviors

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THE MANIPULATOR

United States

#4 Sep 21, 2011
Manipulating a narcissist

Once you understand what narcissism is all about, it is quite easy to manipulate a narcissist to do what you want. Above all else, a narcissist is seeking for admiration. To be aware of this can be a powerful tool.

The thing a narcissist fears the most is the feeling of not being in control. If you make a narcissist believe he or she is in control, you can pull the strings of a narcissist and make a narcissist do whatever you want. It will give you the feeling of strength and power and increases your self-confidence when you feel you are in control of the situation instead of other way around.

Think of a narcissist as someone who is mentally invalid. Narcissists are not sadistic. Deep inside narcissists do not mean to harm their victims, they simply are lacking the necessary tools to understand how other person is feeling in a given situation. Narcissists see themselves as omnipotent, all-mighty beings, therefore it is impossible that they could do something wrong. The fault is always in someone else.
THE MANIPULATOR

United States

#5 Sep 21, 2011
CONCLUSION

Now you know why racist stroke the ego of AAW and rush to the defense of AAW.

TWO METHODS USED TO POLARIZE BM/BW BY MANIPULATION OF THE EGO.

1. Create a narcissistic individual and call it EMPOWERMENT = POSITIVE

I'M STRONG, INTELLIGENT,INDEPENDENT, HIGH SELF ESTEEM, DON'T NEED A BM AND BM ARE NOT QUALIFIED.

2. Stereotype or demonize an individual

BM ARE SPERM DONORS, FELONS, DISEASE CARRIERS, UNFIT, IMMATURE, IRRESPONSIBLE AND DESERTERS

THE RESULTS

BW = POSITIVE AND BM ARE NOT WORTHY
BM = BW HAVE UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS

Anybody looking at this example can see bm/bw have been polarized against each other.
Satan

Stanton, MI

#6 Sep 21, 2011
Having a bad day Momo?
WORKED BW

United States

#7 Sep 21, 2011
The bw has been ruined
Hugo

Mexico, Mexico

#9 Jan 16, 2013
I really liked that post!!!!
David

Norfolk, VA

#10 Mar 4, 2013
I married a narcissist woman. As I came to determine what she was (by research, observation, and using techniques learned to control her)... I found myself not being able to keep up with it. As I communicated with her, about issues within our marriage, she turned things around on me. Even after determining she was ill, it was so difficult to maintain the techniques of trying to control her. Needless to say, I'm giving up. At baseball games with my son, her horns would start to grow as any woman came close to me (she thought was better looking than her i guess). Basketball games the same thing. Anyplace rally. Everyplace I went with her I was the problem. I'm a smart man and tried to live with her. Since I have a few homes, I decided to "make her happy" and put the min down on a home she loved. She still wasn't happy.. she would get into rages, degrade me, etc. When she made no sense I'd say it. When she acted up at games, I'd put my foot down as best I could so she would not create a scene. There is so much more... she hated the mother of my child (although she was nice a times) for some reason.. I am giving up. She thinks she is going to get a "profit" from the house... she will not. At first it made me wonder if it was me, but thanks to all of the research, I know she is ill. Sorry if this is rambling but... I'm going to leave her. i only have a few more months to deal with this... I can't believe I didn't see it clearer or believe what I was reading. I spent little money on her compared to most.. but I did spend some. I'm leaving... Question I have .. what will she become? She is 50 yrs old this year with nothing to show for it.
Julie R

Columbus, OH

#11 Aug 30, 2013
I am married to a person who has Undiagnosed NPD. He has asked for a divorce and doesn't want to give me any support after 15 years of a VERY emotionally degrading marriage. I am emotionally broken. And he wants me to sign an uneven agreement. We have 2 children and they have already seen the effects of the NPD. Nothing is good enough. Nothing. How do you compromise with him. Please help. Or it will get ugly for me. Please. I have a few days to respond to him on his agreement. Help. Please. He is not negotiating. I need an easy way out. Thank you.
Isabella

Sweden

#12 Nov 23, 2013
Julie R wrote:
I am married to a person who has Undiagnosed NPD. He has asked for a divorce and doesn't want to give me any support after 15 years of a VERY emotionally degrading marriage. I am emotionally broken. And he wants me to sign an uneven agreement. We have 2 children and they have already seen the effects of the NPD. Nothing is good enough. Nothing. How do you compromise with him. Please help. Or it will get ugly for me. Please. I have a few days to respond to him on his agreement. Help. Please. He is not negotiating. I need an easy way out. Thank you.
There isno easy way out dont sign anything, there is no compromise you are going to be strong and dont argue with him. dont belive a word coming out of hes mouth he dont give a .... about you. you make the limit, be clever and strong and let a lawyer deal with it
I was maried to same type like him, dont ever let presure,your emotion get in the way, get even and get what you derserveitsnot hess call to deside that.!!!
blink

Eveleth, MN

#13 Aug 20, 2014
Julie R wrote:
I am married to a person who has Undiagnosed NPD. He has asked for a divorce and doesn't want to give me any support after 15 years of a VERY emotionally degrading marriage. I am emotionally broken. And he wants me to sign an uneven agreement. We have 2 children and they have already seen the effects of the NPD. Nothing is good enough. Nothing. How do you compromise with him. Please help. Or it will get ugly for me. Please. I have a few days to respond to him on his agreement. Help. Please. He is not negotiating. I need an easy way out. Thank you.
Get your self a PAID attorney not a public defender, now you have to be strong for your children, they need you to be strong for them. What ever it takes get a paid attorney and give him/her those papers. Find one that has been around for a few years and deals with abusive spouses and custody cases. Watch out for corrupt "womens advocates" with their free attorney the one I had did no research on my ex (turns out my new paid for attorney found out he has 15 FELONY convictions that the free one never even brought up making my ex intelligible to be lawfully near my child much less when my boy was an infant!!! My ex never should have gotten the 5% custody that he did. So the point of this is a warning just because your attorney is a women doesn't mean she's looking out for your children's best interests.

Another thing to avoid yes your going through a lot of emotional pain, but right now going to a therapist is the worst thing you can do, because your ex can have the judge lawfully bring up your history if your in therapy during this, meaning anything you say to the therapist can be used against you.

Get a recorder of some sort a home landline phone with an answering machine, a hand held voice recorder or just another cell pone using the auto recording in tools.
This is very helpful if you are still living with him. You know the signs of when he's going to go into a rage, so if you can start recoding with your device and hide it, under the couch, in your purse, exc.

Don't delete them just because your scared, remember to stay strong for your children! You can't let them live this monster. If you are moved out get that land line phone with the answering machine you'll need it at some point, as he will blow up into a rage on the phone at some point.(proof of abuse, or in very least not a normal reaction, they often hold nothing back on the phone as they think they can get away with anything as it's he-she said. Well record the s.o.b ha.

Watch out for him trying to do "nice" things to "help" your children. He's in rage that you dared to leave him so he's going to at some point (maybe even years later) try and frame you. Along with trying to keep the children as a narcissistic supply source.

So back on topic, watch out for if he ever trys to say that your children has ADD or any other distorter and that they are action out , as he'll try to come up with a web of lies saying that you caused this! I know that you don't have to share your kids just yet but I bereave it's important to share with everyone what i''m going though and have discovered!)

High chance that he'll at some point try to set you up in that you are being an abusive parent. And will (guaranteed) send COS after you. If this happens stay calm and call your attorney immediately for advice. If you don't have one, just be polite to COS let them in answer any questions they have directly and stick to yes, and no answers when ever possible. Oh and if your attorney at any time wants to stall any of the proceedings at any point during the custody dispute, find another one immediately, this is your child's/children's feature at stake here.

Stay calm, stay strong, stay in control, he's going bait your say boldfaced lies to and other horrific things to try and get you to blow up. If he does he's already won, don't let him.
blink

Eveleth, MN

#14 Aug 20, 2014
Please head my warning about the womens advocates two of them up in my area have been found embezzling government funds!! The heck with them get a good attorney to fight for your child, sell everything you have if you have to, they are more important then anything. You can do this.
Exhubisnarc

Springfield, IL

#15 Sep 14, 2016
David wrote:
I married a narcissist woman. As I came to determine what she was (by research, observation, and using techniques learned to control her)... I found myself not being able to keep up with it. As I communicated with her, about issues within our marriage, she turned things around on me. Even after determining she was ill, it was so difficult to maintain the techniques of trying to control her. Needless to say, I'm giving up. At baseball games with my son, her horns would start to grow as any woman came close to me (she thought was better looking than her i guess). Basketball games the same thing. Anyplace rally. Everyplace I went with her I was the problem. I'm a smart man and tried to live with her. Since I have a few homes, I decided to "make her happy" and put the min down on a home she loved. She still wasn't happy.. she would get into rages, degrade me, etc. When she made no sense I'd say it. When she acted up at games, I'd put my foot down as best I could so she would not create a scene. There is so much more... she hated the mother of my child (although she was nice a times) for some reason.. I am giving up. She thinks she is going to get a "profit" from the house... she will not. At first it made me wonder if it was me, but thanks to all of the research, I know she is ill. Sorry if this is rambling but... I'm going to leave her. i only have a few more months to deal with this... I can't believe I didn't see it clearer or believe what I was reading. I spent little money on her compared to most.. but I did spend some. I'm leaving... Question I have .. what will she become? She is 50 yrs old this year with nothing to show for it.
She will be a nothing bc she is her own worst enemy and doesn't know it. It's part of the sickness. My ex husband is a 52 year old loser. I had to have him removed from our home last September, our home is beautiful and he just couldn't be happy and it got so bad he screamed and degraded me for hours everyday. Would leave and come back and leave again to come back. Complete and utter chaos all day long! I was calling the police like 5 times in one day! It became apparent that I could not talk to him about anything rational any longer. He really is the devil. Now after our divorce he degrades me still treats me like in dirt, tells me nothing is my gd business and wants to know every detail of my life bc if his fear I might meet someone. He continues the financial abuse and is constantly doing repeated Coercive Control with my finances and no one stops him. It's very difficult having to deal with him while he's Mr. Nice Guy to everyone else on the planet. It sickens me that he treats me so horrible and lives with another woman now, his new barc supply as they say. Just patiently waiting for his true narc colors to come out with his new narc target, the new gf. To answer your question. She will be a nothing.

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