Should I feel guilty about sleeping with another woman's husband?

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DeviLish

Burlington, MA

#1 Apr 26, 2009
I know it sounds bad. It's actually horrible but i can't help myself (sorta). I've been having this awesome, out of this world sex with a married guy for the past month. Please know that i ain't a ho. I have been with the same man for the past 5 years and got out of that relationship 6 months ago.

I'm an attractive 23 Y/O black woman. I'm in shape and i have no kids.
The married dude is only the 2nd sexual partner i've had and lawd, am i glad i met him. I'm not in love with him and i don't want him to 'fall' for me...we just have the most intense sex on a regular basis. It's just pure lust on my part. He's 36, fine to the bone muscular brotha that goes out of his way to please me. So here's the bad part. Last week, i bumped into him, his wife and 2 kids at the mall. We didn't say nothin to eachother. Seeing his family made me feel very 'guilty'.

I don't want to be the one to breakup a family. That's why i decided to break off our 'arrangement' but i dunno how i'll do that. I've not been answering his calls for a few days and just..i dunno. I have never sensed that he ever felt bad or guilty about what he's doing so why should I?. I mean he is the one in a marriage, not me.
ffs

Dallas, TX

#2 Apr 26, 2009
yes. go throw yourself off a bridge NAO.

plus bitches who normally preface their posts about how attractive they are tend to look like land whales.

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Since: Jan 09

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#3 Apr 26, 2009
SMSH

Are u OUT of your mind?!

It doesn't matter how that married man feel. U need to get out of that mess b4 it is 2 late

“An American Gal Abroad”

Since: Jun 08

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#4 Apr 26, 2009
lol

You should feel guilty

but..

Technically, you are not the one committing adultery. He is the one that has taken vows.

You are just getting laid.

I say, cut this guy off quick and get someone that is available.

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Since: Apr 08

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#6 Apr 26, 2009
Yea and no...what we emphasize of what's wrong and right could be right in other eyes...listen, should you feel guilty for lying?having an impure thought?

bottom line is don't ask people to tell you how you should feel, you'll feel it yourself...

Since: Apr 09

Maitland, FL

#7 Apr 26, 2009
OK....Im a married woman with a child. I dont judge anybody, thats Gods job. But if you really want to evaluate your self, put yourself in her shoes. What if you were married to him, and you had his babies and the sex and coversation was good and he was your everything. I mean you just wanted him to yourself but another women has been doing what your doing to your husbad. You would be really hurt. Trust me girl....carma is a bit*h. The only reason why the sex is so good is because its wrong. You always have to sneak around, the sex is intense because you know hes maried but it seems like hes craving your body.So you fel sexy to him. Listen, men crave anything with two legs, a hole and a mouth. The sex is good because you know its wrong. Its just like when you were in school and your teacher told you no eating in the classroom. For some reason it seems like those doritos you kow you shouldnt be eating, never tasted so good.sin feels good.Do you want to be judge for perveting a covenant that has been ordained as holy by God? The bible declares a marriage is holy and ordained by God. my husband wants to leave yo some advice as well on my nextpost.

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#8 Apr 26, 2009
Citiboy wrote:
Yea and no...what we emphasize of what's wrong and right could be right in other eyes...listen, should you feel guilty for lying?having an impure thought?
bottom line is don't ask people to tell you how you should feel, you'll feel it yourself...
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“blah blah blah”

Since: Mar 09

United States

#9 Apr 26, 2009
I don't know if you're for real or not, but yes, you should feel guilty. If he has a wife, a family, and cheats without any moral restraint, he is a repulsive man and deserves to lose everything.

I don't mean to sound harsh but I am really disgusted by people who violate marriage vows and end up destroying families because of it.

The fact that it's empty just makes it seem even more base... If he doesn't have the decency to end it, I think you should. In the end however, I guess it all depends on you. I feel so sorry for the wife and kids...

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#10 Apr 26, 2009
-FlowerBomb- wrote:
:)

Since: Feb 09

Australia

#11 Apr 26, 2009
DeviLish wrote:
I know it sounds bad. It's actually horrible but i can't help myself (sorta). I've been having this awesome, out of this world sex with a married guy for the past month. Please know that i ain't a ho. I have been with the same man for the past 5 years and got out of that relationship 6 months ago.
I'm an attractive 23 Y/O black woman. I'm in shape and i have no kids.
The married dude is only the 2nd sexual partner i've had and lawd, am i glad i met him. I'm not in love with him and i don't want him to 'fall' for me...we just have the most intense sex on a regular basis. It's just pure lust on my part. He's 36, fine to the bone muscular brotha that goes out of his way to please me. So here's the bad part. Last week, i bumped into him, his wife and 2 kids at the mall. We didn't say nothin to eachother. Seeing his family made me feel very 'guilty'.
I don't want to be the one to breakup a family. That's why i decided to break off our 'arrangement' but i dunno how i'll do that. I've not been answering his calls for a few days and just..i dunno. I have never sensed that he ever felt bad or guilty about what he's doing so why should I?. I mean he is the one in a marriage, not me.
if i was that mans wife and i find out that you were creeping with my man i will give an ass wipping to remember

“Not liked but it's Alright....”

Since: Apr 08

Richmond, VA

#12 Apr 26, 2009
Yes you should feel guilty because you need to think about his wife...while she is at home waiting for him and cooking he is out sleeping with you how would you feel if that happened to you?

do yall even use condomms? here he is sleeping with you and going home f*cking her too. god I would kill my husband if he ate some other girls puzzy and comes home to me kissing me.

Yeah some men can be tempting even if there married but you have to respect his wife.

Since: Feb 09

Australia

#13 Apr 26, 2009
Le PouBelle wrote:
lol
You should feel guilty
but..
Technically, you are not the one committing adultery. He is the one that has taken vows.
You are just getting laid.
I say, cut this guy off quick and get someone that is available.
she is committing adultery
sex before marriage=adultery
DeviLish

Burlington, MA

#14 Apr 26, 2009
Le PouBelle wrote:
lol
You should feel guilty
but..
Technically, you are not the one committing adultery. He is the one that has taken vows.
You are just getting laid.
I say, cut this guy off quick and get someone that is available.
That's what i'm saying. I ain't the one that's cheating. Not sayin that i'm any better than him but i'm not the one being unfaithful.
DeviLish

Burlington, MA

#15 Apr 26, 2009
cherryp0p wrote:
OK....Im a married woman with a ####. I dont judge anybody, thats Gods job. But if you really want to evaluate your self, put yourself in her shoes. What if you were married to him, and you had his babies and the sex and coversation was good and he was your everything. I mean you just wanted him to yourself but another women has been doing what your doing to your husbad. You would be really hurt. Trust me girl....carma is a bit*h. The only reason why the sex is so good is because its wrong. You always have to sneak around, the sex is intense because you know hes maried but it seems like hes craving your body.So you fel sexy to him. Listen, men crave anything with two legs, a hole and a mouth. The sex is good because you know its wrong. Its just like when you were in school and your teacher told you no eating in the classroom. For some reason it seems like those doritos you kow you shouldnt be eating, never tasted so good.sin feels good.Do you want to be judge for perveting a covenant that has been ordained as holy by God? The bible declares a marriage is holy and ordained by God. my husband wants to leave yo some advice as well on my nextpost.
I'm not really religious but i get where you're coming from. It's the thrill of it all that heightens the experience. I feel like it's always the other woman that gets all the blame while everyone says "oh, guys will do anything on a pair of legs". That to me is a lame cop out. I mean they should have morals and self control too. He says that his wife doesn't like having sex anymore, he gets it like once a month from her and she ain't into it that much. Yea, i believe in karma and all of that. I'll deal with it when i have to. Right now, i want to get out of this mess but a little part of me still doesn't want to let the no strings attached fun go.
DeviLish

Burlington, MA

#16 Apr 26, 2009
PrincessStar wrote:
Yes you should feel guilty because you need to think about his wife...while she is at home waiting for him and cooking he is out sleeping with you how would you feel if that happened to you?
do yall even use condomms? here he is sleeping with you and going home f*cking her too. god I would kill my husband if he ate some other girls puzzy and comes home to me kissing me.
Yeah some men can be tempting even if there married but you have to respect his wife.
I wouldn't like it, that's for sure. We have always used protection. I don't play games when it comes to my health.

“An American Gal Abroad”

Since: Jun 08

Location hidden

#17 Apr 27, 2009
fatoum20 wrote:
<quoted text>
she is committing adultery
sex before marriage=adultery
No, sex before marriage is called pre marital sex.
west side

Australia

#18 Apr 27, 2009
DeviLish wrote:
I know it sounds bad. It's actually horrible but i can't help myself (sorta). I've been having this awesome, out of this world sex with a married guy for the past month. Please know that i ain't a ho. I have been with the same man for the past 5 years and got out of that relationship 6 months ago.
I'm an attractive 23 Y/O black woman. I'm in shape and i have no kids.
The married dude is only the 2nd sexual partner i've had and lawd, am i glad i met him. I'm not in love with him and i don't want him to 'fall' for me...we just have the most intense sex on a regular basis. It's just pure lust on my part. He's 36, fine to the bone muscular brotha that goes out of his way to please me. So here's the bad part. Last week, i bumped into him, his wife and 2 kids at the mall. We didn't say nothin to eachother. Seeing his family made me feel very 'guilty'.
I don't want to be the one to breakup a family. That's why i decided to break off our 'arrangement' but i dunno how i'll do that. I've not been answering his calls for a few days and just..i dunno. I have never sensed that he ever felt bad or guilty about what he's doing so why should I?. I mean he is the one in a marriage, not me.
get married for God sake, if u can have a boy friend you can have a husband.

i turned 24 last November, black and im a virgin, why because i follow Islam, when i think about sex im like damn man i need to get married, but some people when they think about sex they go out and get laid. we are not animals.
J Sweets

United States

#19 Jun 30, 2011
Sweetheart, u do what makes you happy. If getting laid by a married man makes you happy, do you. You don't have to ask what other ppl think....its YOUR life to live.
DeviLish wrote:
I know it sounds bad. It's actually horrible but i can't help myself (sorta). I've been having this awesome, out of this world sex with a married guy for the past month. Please know that i ain't a ho. I have been with the same man for the past 5 years and got out of that relationship 6 months ago.
I'm an attractive 23 Y/O black woman. I'm in shape and i have no kids.
The married dude is only the 2nd sexual partner i've had and lawd, am i glad i met him. I'm not in love with him and i don't want him to 'fall' for me...we just have the most intense sex on a regular basis. It's just pure lust on my part. He's 36, fine to the bone muscular brotha that goes out of his way to please me. So here's the bad part. Last week, i bumped into him, his wife and 2 kids at the mall. We didn't say nothin to eachother. Seeing his family made me feel very 'guilty'.
I don't want to be the one to breakup a family. That's why i decided to break off our 'arrangement' but i dunno how i'll do that. I've not been answering his calls for a few days and just..i dunno. I have never sensed that he ever felt bad or guilty about what he's doing so why should I?. I mean he is the one in a marriage, not me.
nene

UK

#20 Jul 20, 2014
The rule is if u cant find ur own man take someone elses.life is too short to be alone.
keke

UK

#21 Jul 20, 2014
cherryp0p wrote:
OK....Im a married woman with a child. I dont judge anybody, thats Gods job. But if you really want to evaluate your self, put yourself in her shoes. What if you were married to him, and you had his babies and the sex and coversation was good and he was your everything. I mean you just wanted him to yourself but another women has been doing what your doing to your husbad. You would be really hurt. Trust me girl....carma is a bit*h. The only reason why the sex is so good is because its wrong. You always have to sneak around, the sex is intense because you know hes maried but it seems like hes craving your body.So you fel sexy to him. Listen, men crave anything with two legs, a hole and a mouth. The sex is good because you know its wrong. Its just like when you were in school and your teacher told you no eating in the classroom. For some reason it seems like those doritos you kow you shouldnt be eating, never tasted so good.sin feels good.Do you want to be judge for perveting a covenant that has been ordained as holy by God? The bible declares a marriage is holy and ordained by God. my husband wants to leave yo some advice as well on my nextpost.
what if the woman cant find a man? the other women doesnt owe the wife/girlfriend anything

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