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Lonely Guy

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Jan 8, 2007
 
This is a question for black women or men that know what black women like in a man. I'm having trouble meeting women. My biggest problem I guess, is approaching a woman I don't know and initiating a conversation and trying to get her phone number. I also have social anxiety which makes talking to strangers difficult. I've been working out a lot to improve my physical appearance. I hear a lot of women like muscular guys. So, do you guys think I have a chance? Or should I just pay a prostitute? Thanks.

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Jan 8, 2007
 
Awww, sorry Lonely Guy. One thing that may help you is to approach a woman with confidence. I can tell by your post that you don't have enough and if you are approaching a woman with the same demeanor, then that may be a turnoff to them. Don't be so down on yourself, there is probably hope for you yet.

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Jan 9, 2007
 
Confidence is king! That is your trump card with the ladies...Nobody likes a person that thinks they are a troll ....Hold your head up high even if you look like shrek! Somebody will take notice!

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Jan 9, 2007
 
Lonely Guy wrote:
This is a question for black women or men that know what black women like in a man. I'm having trouble meeting women. My biggest problem I guess, is approaching a woman I don't know and initiating a conversation and trying to get her phone number. I also have social anxiety which makes talking to strangers difficult. I've been working out a lot to improve my physical appearance. I hear a lot of women like muscular guys. So, do you guys think I have a chance? Or should I just pay a prostitute? Thanks.
Pay a prostitute... You got to start somewhere.

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Jan 9, 2007
 
edo bg wrote:
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Pay a prostitute... You got to start somewhere.
Why should he have to pay for a** when we're trying to tell him how to get some for free. LOL. JK, I hope no one takes offense.

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Jan 9, 2007
 
Lonely Guy wrote:
This is a question for black women or men that know what black women like in a man. I'm having trouble meeting women. My biggest problem I guess, is approaching a woman I don't know and initiating a conversation and trying to get her phone number. I also have social anxiety which makes talking to strangers difficult. I've been working out a lot to improve my physical appearance. I hear a lot of women like muscular guys. So, do you guys think I have a chance? Or should I just pay a prostitute? Thanks.
We ain't Don Juans, but many men know that there are easy and hard girls. The first thing you got to do is learn to not fear rejection. In my case, I have always taken that for granted. Risks are a normal parts of life. It's matter of valuing them. What if you met some Tyra Banks in the street? The first thing, she's unlikely to slap you (though it happened to me when I was young and went for a much older girl!). What can she do then? Nothing too negative basically. You've got everything to win! If she passes, then it's a good opportunity to know that you were after all very capable. A first successful step! Confidence comes from many fields and not just physical appearance as that only counts when you have actually confirmed girls liked your appearance (and which part specifically, in my case I know girls like my smile and laughter. I use them only when it's a big game!). If it's for a start, that's not a strong asset as you'll soon forget about yourself. Never forget to have a plan B. If you want to meet a girl make sure you'll still have something to appear doing if it backfires. Don't cross the street just for her! So, these are basically cautions and I'll let the girls tell you what they like but...(in my experience, girls sometimes don't really know what they want. At least men want first the physical contact and the rest after). I have never been to any prostitute in my lifetime and I think it's not respectful to women. I have a sister and I can't see myself exploiting the misery of another girl. Also, I am afraid it can cause you to become violent in a way. I have discouraged that in some places I've been and I found good results. Good luck.
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Jan 9, 2007
 
Lonely Guy wrote:
This is a question for black women or men that know what black women like in a man. I'm having trouble meeting women. My biggest problem I guess, is approaching a woman I don't know and initiating a conversation and trying to get her phone number. I also have social anxiety which makes talking to strangers difficult. I've been working out a lot to improve my physical appearance. I hear a lot of women like muscular guys. So, do you guys think I have a chance? Or should I just pay a prostitute? Thanks.
A brotha that started a forum on how to meet a black woman. I'm proud of you. Just be confident and don't be afraid to approach her. Sistahs are very nice and they have fun personalities. Some black women are caught up in physical appearances others are not. I'm a muscular dude and I go to the gym 5 times a week. Of course it has improved my dating life. But I don't think its totally necessary unless you are just sloppy and really out of shape.
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Jan 9, 2007
 
Lonely Guy wrote:
This is a question for black women or men that know what black women like in a man. I'm having trouble meeting women. My biggest problem I guess, is approaching a woman I don't know and initiating a conversation and trying to get her phone number. I also have social anxiety which makes talking to strangers difficult. I've been working out a lot to improve my physical appearance. I hear a lot of women like muscular guys. So, do you guys think I have a chance? Or should I just pay a prostitute? Thanks.
One thing that I finds that helps is if you think of all the postive things you have to offer in a relationship. This will boost your confidence. What is it about you that you believe a person would find attractive. Is it that you have a strong belief in loyalty? Or do you have a great work ethic?(hint hint wink wink)lol.
Most women now a days would love a man who is true to his word and treats them like a queen.

It's important that you feel like you are worth the time of day because it will impact the type of woman you attract. Some women could take advantage of you because you do not feel worthy of a womans company. So watch out but make sure you have self worth.

BTW PLEASE DO NOT PAY A PROSTITUTE. No woman would like an STD.
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Tullahoma, TN

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Jan 10, 2007
 
ALL TYPE, WOMEN ARE THE REGARDLESS OF COLOR

SOME LIKE A TALL MAN , SOME LIKE SHORT, SOME LIKE LIGHT, SOME LIKE DARK, SOME A THUG{TOUGH}, SOME LIKE CHURCH GOING, SOME DON'T CARE, SOME LIKE MEN PLENTY OF MONEY, SOME TAKE CARE OF THEIR MEN,
SOME LIKE AGRESSIVE MEN, SOME LIKE PASSIVE MEN, SOME PERFER MEN WHO WANT CHILDREN, SOME DON'T
ALL WOMEN HAVE A NEED TO LOVE, WANTED, CHERISH, HELD, COMPLIMENTED,ENCOURAGED,
BE SEEN, HEARD, RESPECTED BY HER MAN
YOUR TIMEA LITTLE WINE AND DINNING

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Jan 10, 2007
 
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BTW PLEASE DO NOT PAY A PROSTITUTE. No woman would like an STD.
Ha ha not every prostitute is disease ridden. Some of these women treat this as a job and are very professional about it and are really careful about getting stds so always practice safe sex.
I say if your gonna do it, then make sure you get the most out of it and make it worthwhile. Don't let the job take over you.
I think these women provide a service that is valuable. They also help reduce the risk of a horny guy raping someone because he couldn't get any that night.
I don't judge prostitutes at all. The only ones I feel sorry for are the ones who do it because they are on drugs or had no choice but to do it because they ran away from home at a young age and had no means to get by. They all have a story to tell so we shouldn't judge them.
There are a lot of girls out there that are not prostitutes bu sleep around like they are, so what's the difference. Because money is exchanged? That's doesn't seem to make huge difference to me. There are some women out there that only put out if they are gonna get a fur coat ot benz, so what does that make them?

I think that maybe if he did pay for it, and the prostitue was a really nice lady that wouldn't mind sitting down having a conversation, then it would help him not feel so scared of women, make him realise they are not that alien.

But lonely guy you should still work on who you are on the inside and not focus so much on the physical side of you.
I'm not saying you should rush out and get a prostitute, in fact I think it should be a last resort but if that's what you wanna do then its up to you.
But once you are confident within yourself then you will attract the right women, so you probably won't need a prostitute. You will get to where you wanna be eventually.

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Jan 10, 2007
 
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Ha ha not every prostitute is disease ridden. Some of these women treat this as a job and are very professional about it and are really careful about getting stds so always practice safe sex.
I say if your gonna do it, then make sure you get the most out of it and make it worthwhile. Don't let the job take over you.
I think these women provide a service that is valuable. They also help reduce the risk of a horny guy raping someone because he couldn't get any that night.
I don't judge prostitutes at all. The only ones I feel sorry for are the ones who do it because they are on drugs or had no choice but to do it because they ran away from home at a young age and had no means to get by. They all have a story to tell so we shouldn't judge them.
There are a lot of girls out there that are not prostitutes bu sleep around like they are, so what's the difference. Because money is exchanged? That's doesn't seem to make huge difference to me. There are some women out there that only put out if they are gonna get a fur coat ot benz, so what does that make them?
I think that maybe if he did pay for it, and the prostitue was a really nice lady that wouldn't mind sitting down having a conversation, then it would help him not feel so scared of women, make him realise they are not that alien.
But lonely guy you should still work on who you are on the inside and not focus so much on the physical side of you.
I'm not saying you should rush out and get a prostitute, in fact I think it should be a last resort but if that's what you wanna do then its up to you.
But once you are confident within yourself then you will attract the right women, so you probably won't need a prostitute. You will get to where you wanna be eventually.
Good point they would sure skool him on how to proceed in life he might have to pay a little extra for talking though !! LOL
edo bg

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Jan 10, 2007
 
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Why should he have to pay for a** when we're trying to tell him how to get some for free. LOL. JK, I hope no one takes offense.
I was serious. He got to start somewhere and it's obvious that his only problem is self confidence. A prostitute will not hurt his feeling whether he does a good or a bad job, therefore messing with his mind even more. He needs to put in a few practice runs, and hopefully somebody tells him how great he is (even if it's a lie). After all that happens. Whatch out ladies.

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Jan 10, 2007
 
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NO edo! Don't tell him to do that lol. That's not going to help him one bit. He need to just be patient and get to know the RIGHT kind of girl that will suit HIS needs and wants as well. If that poor guy catches a disease, then I'm going to throw you in jail edo lol.
Hey, i know people that it worked for....lol

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Jan 11, 2007
 
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Are we admitting to something hear edo? Huuuuuuh? LOL.
Yall are silly LOL
But Edo has a good point dont no woman want no lover with his hands all over in places they dont need to be and all uncoordinated!
Ask a virgin if she wants a guy that is experienced or a virgin like her and I BET 9-to-1 the virgin says experience PLEASE no amateur's allowed!
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Jan 11, 2007
 
Mena Marlowe wrote:
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Yall are silly LOL
But Edo has a good point dont no woman want no lover with his hands all over in places they dont need to be and all uncoordinated!
Ask a virgin if she wants a guy that is experienced or a virgin like her and I BET 9-to-1 the virgin says experience PLEASE no amateur's allowed!
LOL
Well you can ask me ha ha ha I was a virgin when I met my man.
When we started to talk about sex I said to him " I hope you aint no virgin because to virgins in the bed is like an old couple on crutches trying to do the two step" ha ha ha ha.
I told him be gentle with me the first time, but after that I want him to do me like he's really been wanting to LOL I want the real ghanian chocolate special ha ha ha and I can say it was really tasty ;o)

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Jan 11, 2007
 
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Well you can ask me ha ha ha I was a virgin when I met my man.
When we started to talk about sex I said to him " I hope you aint no virgin because to virgins in the bed is like an old couple on crutches trying to do the two step" ha ha ha ha.
I told him be gentle with me the first time, but after that I want him to do me like he's really been wanting to LOL I want the real ghanian chocolate special ha ha ha and I can say it was really tasty ;o)
Girl you are a hoot! I feel ya though! My man says I opened his nose up! mind you he has been with many chicks in the past more folks than myself but he was more uptight in the bedroom than myself
it is hysterical!

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Jan 11, 2007
 
Mena Marlowe wrote:
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Girl you are a hoot! I feel ya though! My man says I opened his nose up! mind you he has been with many chicks in the past more folks than myself but he was more uptight in the bedroom than myself
it is hysterical!
Aint nothing wrong with being a lady on the street but a freak in the bed ha ha ha that's why your man iant going no where else :o)
I never done foreplay on a guy before but I used to read ALOT of magazines and books giving tips on sex, foreplay etc so when I met my man I tried some out on him and he was hooked ha ha ha line and sinker.
He has had other girls but he tells me I'm just a nasty freak ha ha ha and has to wonder if I have been with other guys because he didn't think virgins could be so open and wild like I am ha ha ha but I reassured him that he's the only one. He says he has all the freak he needs in me and don't need no one else.

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Jan 11, 2007
 
ccheeksd wrote:
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Aint nothing wrong with being a lady on the street but a freak in the bed ha ha ha that's why your man iant going no where else :o)
I never done foreplay on a guy before but I used to read ALOT of magazines and books giving tips on sex, foreplay etc so when I met my man I tried some out on him and he was hooked ha ha ha line and sinker.
He has had other girls but he tells me I'm just a nasty freak ha ha ha and has to wonder if I have been with other guys because he didn't think virgins could be so open and wild like I am ha ha ha but I reassured him that he's the only one. He says he has all the freak he needs in me and don't need no one else.
Exactly!! but when you are in love and have respect for your man and he treats you good you dont mind going that extra mile & being creative even when you are tired!
It's all good!

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Jan 11, 2007
 
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Are we admitting to something hear edo? Huuuuuuh? LOL.
ooh no. I don't pay for nothing. I got my first experiences before i even knew how to be afraid of it. So that took care of my jitters.

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Jan 11, 2007
 
Ashley wrote:
cheeks and Mena....you two are some superfreaks! LOL. My eyes are blinded by the porn film I am watching right this moment. Ha ha haaa!
Girl go to the ANGRY BLACK WOMEN thread and see my lil battle with TODD ha ha ha. You will die. Its on the last page I think.

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