Interracial Dating Question

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#1 Sep 21, 2013
Hello ( I posted this in the Iranian forum, but also wanted to post here for the opportunity to have different responses)

My ex boyfriend and I have rekindled interested in each other and are starting to date again. I am aware that the Persian culture is strong and so I would like to show my interest. He does know I appreciate and am interested in his culture but I think a hurdle for him is that he doesn't want to teach me-he wants me to already know it lol!

I would greatly appreciate any tips or links. As an English major, I've already read a plethora of Persian literature but I'm not sure quite where to start as far as Iranian pop culture. I don't currently have a religion so I would be opening to Islamic beliefs once I knew and I understood them better. We are both in our mid 20's and there are racial differences(I'm African-American and he is Iranian-American) between us. However, I would like to see if becoming more familiar with his culture would help that. I already enjoy cooking and cleaning naturally lol, so that "requirement" I do well in.

Any suggestions, links, tips would be greatly appreciated!

AgentSmith9

“The Sun was high...”

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and so was I

#2 Sep 21, 2013
Lmao, This is why everyone thinks AA women are desperate.

I would bet that the OP is atleast in her 40's and single.

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#3 Sep 21, 2013
Because I ask about learning a culture? He already knows mine. No, actually I'm 26 and we are dating not in a relationship so by definition, I am single.:) If you don't believe me feel free to call lol!

Please don't be rude-it's entirely unecessary.
AgentSmith9 wrote:
Lmao, This is why everyone thinks AA women are desperate.
I would bet that the OP is atleast in her 40's and single.

AgentSmith9

“The Sun was high...”

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and so was I

#4 Sep 21, 2013
ShyGirl2013 wrote:
Because I ask about learning a culture? He already knows mine. No, actually I'm 26 and we are dating not in a relationship so by definition, I am single.:) If you don't believe me feel free to call lol!
Please don't be rude-it's entirely unecessary.
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Nobody here believes you. You're the typical single bitter bw. You're either in your late or early 40's.
T-BOS

Atlanta, GA

#6 Sep 21, 2013
Any woman of any race (especially black) on this site who advise to their readers in any context of their messages that they're not involved with, nor prefer black men, evoke automatic and predictable angry responses from most black male posters. This is supposed to be your definition of "security"?

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#7 Sep 21, 2013
I'm not involved with an African American man at the moment but I never said that I haven't been before. I'm not sure what you mean by security, but I do understand how some people may be offended. For those that are offended, it wasn't intentional. It was a simple question that I posted in this forum as I am African-American myself and felt that I could and should. Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post
T-BOS wrote:
Any woman of any race (especially black) on this site who advise to their readers in any context of their messages that they're not involved with, nor prefer black men, evoke automatic and predictable angry responses from most black male posters. This is supposed to be your definition of "security"?

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#8 Sep 21, 2013
Well, I'm not most Americans. ;) And google is a wealth of information; some accurate and some not. So, I posted in an effort to find a bit more legitimate point of view but I appreciate your suggestion. Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post.
Wayne X wrote:
Most Americans can't even find Iran on the map and u here asking about Persian Culture?
Try using google or something. There's nothing you can't find on the net these days.

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#9 Sep 21, 2013
I've already addressed the same comment you posted earlier. If you don't believe me then don't. It's a free world. I offered for you to call me if you're so steadfast in your belief as I have nothing to hide. We can agree to disagree and I really don't need to discuss this further as it's entirely irrelevant to my question. Thanks for posting.
AgentSmith9 wrote:
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Nobody here believes you. You're the typical single bitter bw. You're either in your late or early 40's.
I-Twerks

Manassas, VA

#10 Sep 21, 2013
Whoever you're involved w/must be looking for someone with the IQ of a blade of grass. No person of intelligence would ever come here looking for advice.
ShyGirl2013 wrote:
I'm not involved with an African American man at the moment but I never said that I haven't been before. I'm not sure what you mean by security, but I do understand how some people may be offended. For those that are offended, it wasn't intentional. It was a simple question that I posted in this forum as I am African-American myself and felt that I could and should. Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post
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#11 Sep 21, 2013
I think comments like this forum is why African American women don't like to date within their own race. I personally am not like that, but I understand now why some are.
I-Twerks wrote:
Whoever you're involved w/must be looking for someone with the IQ of a blade of grass. No person of intelligence would ever come here looking for advice.
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#12 Sep 21, 2013
I'm free to post in whatever forum I want and I already explained my reasoning for posting here. I just joined today, so I may not know the lay of the land just yet. However, I am African-American and I'm going to post in African American forum. If no one can submit things that are actually helpful, then so be it. But I don't need to waste my time going back and forth with internet posters.

For those that were/are helpful, thank you for taking the time to post. For all the others, you didn't really need to waste your time.
T-BOS

Atlanta, GA

#13 Sep 21, 2013
ShyGirl2013 wrote:
I'm not involved with an African American man at the moment but I never said that I haven't been before. I'm not sure what you mean by security, but I do understand how some people may be offended. For those that are offended, it wasn't intentional. It was a simple question that I posted in this forum as I am African-American myself and felt that I could and should. Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post
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I'll rephrase the last sentence in that previous post - this is supposed to be the black man's definition of "security"? Sorry for the confusion.

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#16 Sep 21, 2013
Spoiled Brat wrote:
Negro females with their IR BS, your man is black so stop trying to put everybody here in your little dream world & just deal with it Beaula.
you need to be turned over someone's knee and you bare bottom spanked

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Houston, TX

#17 Sep 21, 2013
ShyGirl2013 wrote:
I think comments like this forum is why African American women don't like to date within their own race. I personally am not like that, but I understand now why some are.
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Shygirl, comments crazy or not are not the reason people date out, at least it shouldn't be, at that point you are dating with an agenda more so than simply because you like someone. Having said that, I personally think it's very arrogant(just my opinion) to expect someone not of a particular culture to automatically know that culture. Thats supposed to be part of the journey, learning ones significant other thru time and trial and error.I agree with the other poster who says just google "Iranian Culture" and a wealth of info should come up, or if he has a sister that you are close to in age get to know her

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#18 Sep 21, 2013
Cassius Chaerea wrote:
Yes, how well we all know how pathetically insecure the negro male is. He is like a perpetual five year old.
Kind of like you who feels the need to come here and cast aspersions on a whole group of people on the basis of race. In the future, check the mirror before call someone else insecure.

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#19 Sep 21, 2013
...before you call...

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#20 Sep 21, 2013
I'm sorry, maybe because I'm tired I'm not sure what you mean? Are you referring to the idea that a lot of African American Women want to date black men, so they shouldn't be worried? Or are you referencing something else? I think I'm missing your point, but I would like to understand it :)
T-BOS wrote:
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I'll rephrase the last sentence in that previous post - this is supposed to be the black man's definition of "security"? Sorry for the confusion.

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#21 Sep 21, 2013
You're absolutely right and I shouldn't have generalized or made that statement so I apologize for that. And regarding his culture, yes he's a bit arrogant lol, but I think perhaps it's more of him not thinking I'm genuinely interested. That I'll have to explore further. Thanks for taking the time to post.
mrman0351 wrote:
<quoted text> Shygirl, comments crazy or not are not the reason people date out, at least it shouldn't be, at that point you are dating with an agenda more so than simply because you like someone. Having said that, I personally think it's very arrogant(just my opinion) to expect someone not of a particular culture to automatically know that culture. Thats supposed to be part of the journey, learning ones significant other thru time and trial and error.I agree with the other poster who says just google "Iranian Culture" and a wealth of info should come up, or if he has a sister that you are close to in age get to know her

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#23 Sep 21, 2013
Cassius Chaerea wrote:
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My "aspersions" are based on statistical and daily fact's. What do you base yours on, other than your own negro racism?
LOL!!! Predictable response. Do you even know what the fck you're talking about? Typical racist pig you are. Trying to flip the script. The very fact that you place black men within your narrowly defined categories is proof enough of what you are. Examples of your attitude are plentiful. No...I and most other black men are the exact opposite of what you want us to be. That's plain fact and it scares the fck out of piss-ant racists like you.

How about if you link to one, just one example of racism by me. Don't mind if I don't hold my breath do you?

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