Do black girls go out with asian boys?

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JustJustin

Simpsonville, SC

#1 Jul 1, 2010
Before I get nasty answers or be called a troll I wanted to say I loked it up already and mainly got it the other way around :( I live in South Carolina in a small area and I go to Highschool with mainly blacks and whites and very few asians/mexicans (hispanics). I'm Japanese, Chinese, and French-Korean (the name speaks for its self.) and there is this pretty girl at my school name Alexus she has the most amazing personality ever but its like this, I fit in with the "Emo" kids and shes with the "black kids" but we have so much in common! She loves rock music and loves the exact same things I love but her friend (Yvone) says she doesnt date chinese boys. And thats what everyone at school calls me :( Chinese. Everyday I walk past her I wave and when she smiles or wave back I turn red, I attempted to ask her out but this guy shes friends with did so I didnt get to. And yeah I know its summertime but I got an invite to go to this party and shes going I asked a lot of people and they all confirmed and I really want to know if I have a chance with her because I really like her and no one really knows how to help me. South Carolina doesnt have very many people of Asian heritage which sucks because I need as much help and advice as possible. Okay well thats all... sorry I put so much.

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#2 Jul 1, 2010
You need to man up and grab your nuts. Ask her to hang out.

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#3 Jul 1, 2010
I say, go for it but in a careful way due to the difference in social circles. Don't mind her friend. You won't know what will happen unless you try.

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#4 Jul 1, 2010
An Educated Black Woman wrote:
I say, go for it but in a careful way due to the difference in social circles. Don't mind her friend. You won't know what will happen unless you try.
Well he could be embarrassed and get scarred for life.

The Vtech Shooter was apparently an Asian guy that got rejected by a Black Girl.
JustJustin

Simpsonville, SC

#5 Jul 1, 2010
MumRa wrote:
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Well he could be embarrassed and get scarred for life.
The Vtech Shooter was apparently an Asian guy that got rejected by a Black Girl.
I'm not like him!
JustJustin

Simpsonville, SC

#6 Jul 1, 2010
An Educated Black Woman wrote:
I say, go for it but in a careful way due to the difference in social circles. Don't mind her friend. You won't know what will happen unless you try.
:( I guess your right but I really don't want to get rejected. I've known her since 4th grade but she never really knew me until last year :( I have one asian friend and he says I should forget her but I cant
JustJustin

Simpsonville, SC

#7 Jul 1, 2010
MumRa wrote:
You need to man up and grab your nuts. Ask her to hang out.
:( I've tried but I cant really talk to her... If I don't look at her then I can I talk to her a little bit better *not mess up... atleast not as bad* and if I look at her then its all down hill. I just dont want to be rejected this girl is seriously something beautiful and shes really outgoing where I'm not :/

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#8 Jul 1, 2010
JustJustin wrote:
<quoted text> :( I've tried but I cant really talk to her... If I don't look at her then I can I talk to her a little bit better *not mess up... atleast not as bad* and if I look at her then its all down hill. I just dont want to be rejected this girl is seriously something beautiful and shes really outgoing where I'm not :/
So is she dating somebody now?

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#9 Jul 1, 2010
Yes. My boyfriend is Korean and we have two children.
http://bwamu2.ning.com/
JustJustin

Simpsonville, SC

#10 Jul 1, 2010
MumRa wrote:
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So is she dating somebody now?
No shes single but a lot of guys like her
JustJustin

Simpsonville, SC

#11 Jul 1, 2010
Misty Knight wrote:
Yes. My boyfriend is Korean and we have two children.
http://bwamu2.ning.com/
Did he ever approach you? Because I want to approach Alexus but... yeah, thats a little hard right now

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#12 Jul 1, 2010
The way it is where I live (Texas) there are large groups of Black students who hang out together. They usually date each other or other Black people. There are a few Black students who mostly hang out with the Black group but kind of have friendly aquaintances outside the group from other races- but not for best friends or dating. Then there are the Black students who don't hang out much, if any, with the other Blacks. They hang out with one of the white groups or a white group mixed with other non-blacks- usually sharing one or more main interest with them. Mostly their entire social circle is non- Black. The Black group seems to leave little room for varying tastes and interests and seem to be the same in this way.

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#13 Jul 1, 2010
JustJustin wrote:
<quoted text> Did he ever approach you? Because I want to approach Alexus but... yeah, thats a little hard right now
Well of course he approached me. We met in my accounting class and we found out we had a lot in common. Just approach her like you would approach any other women. Just wait till you two are alone and ask her out to the movies or the mall.

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#14 Jul 1, 2010
sONE wrote:
The way it is where I live (Texas) there are large groups of Black students who hang out together. They usually date each other or other Black people. There are a few Black students who mostly hang out with the Black group but kind of have friendly aquaintances outside the group from other races- but not for best friends or dating. Then there are the Black students who don't hang out much, if any, with the other Blacks. They hang out with one of the white groups or a white group mixed with other non-blacks- usually sharing one or more main interest with them. Mostly their entire social circle is non- Black. The Black group seems to leave little room for varying tastes and interests and seem to be the same in this way.
That pretty much sums up High School and College.

http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Why-Are-All-...

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#15 Jul 1, 2010
JustJustin wrote:
<quoted text> No shes single but a lot of guys like her
The issue with High School is peer pressure. I think you have a better chance at a secret hook up than actually dating her.

Use the help with homework game. That way she has an excuse to be around you to her friends. Also, you best chance with her is over summer vacation.

When you get to College with Coed Dorms. It will get much easier.

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#16 Jul 1, 2010
MumRa wrote:
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That pretty much sums up High School and College.
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Why-Are-All-...
There's even a book about it, lol. I didn't know how cammon it was across the US in general. I've only lived in one town my entire life.
twistedbabydoll

Ypsilanti, MI

#17 Jul 1, 2010
MumRa wrote:
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Well he could be embarrassed and get scarred for life.
The Vtech Shooter was apparently an Asian guy that got rejected by a Black Girl.
MumRa don't feel that even a serial killer got a woman before you.

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#18 Jul 1, 2010
*common not cammon
twistedbabydoll

Ypsilanti, MI

#19 Jul 1, 2010
JustJustin wrote:
<quoted text> I'm not like him!
Don't listen to MumRa. He's a misfit that hits BW.

Just get to know the girl more and build a friendship. I know the thought of being rejected can be scary but that is the risk you have to take when asking someone out. Just know that if they say no, that does not make you any less of a person. But just send her a gift or get to know what she is most passionate about and learn about her from it.

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#20 Jul 1, 2010
sONE wrote:
The Black group seems to leave little room for varying tastes and interests and seem to be the same in this way.
It doesn't matter what school you go to, the "black" group always appear to be the same. For the "black" group, they are unconsciously protecting themselves from "others". People begin to look at themselves in so much more detail, which causes them to compare themselves to others and gravitate towards those that make them feel more confident and “normal”, something every teenager desperately needs.

It kind of shows how people are so tied to their traditions. Most blacks prefer a certain style and are not open to "other" who wish to change their traditions.

When I went to college, I was forced to go out my comfort zone and start interacting with whites, Asians, and foreigners. I've always been a Sci Fi geek and into K-pop and it was great meeting people outside my group that was interested in the same stuff.

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