Why are beautiful women usually single?
Ohhmyme

Alpharetta, GA

#177 Jan 30, 2014
So true! Don't come to me if i don't show intrest
Sadbuttrue

Silver Spring, MD

#178 Jan 30, 2014
fair_guy wrote:
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I am a short black man, and I get treated like shit by black American women all the time. Welcome to the "club"....
Maceo

Any ugly! lmao

You have to whine at 1:18 AM est? Lmao
Ohhmyme

Alpharetta, GA

#179 Jan 30, 2014
I don't understand why men go after the perfect woman but yet don't feel that they need to be the perfect man! We set out standards high because its a requirement for what we work hard at for ourselves! So why can't a man do the same thing! I want the best because I am striving to be the best for my man! I expect only what I expect of myself! I have the right to trine down anyone that I do not want just as men do to thirsty women throwing themselves to them! I have never thrown myself to man I don't look for men and I don't fall easy unless its a mutual attraction! I give all kinds of men chances to hang and get to know me and I them but I get board very easy. I want a successful man whats wrong with that! I just don't understand why that's a problem when it comes to beautiful men as if we only deserve a broke ugly man with no goals! Its stupid men need to wake up and be faithful have respect and work on their insecurities. Stop blaming attractive women its the men that are cheating with them and the men that are mistreating them the man meeds to be a man and do right beauty or not! Have respect for a woman period!
Sadbuttrue

Silver Spring, MD

#180 Jan 30, 2014
Ohhmyme wrote:
I don't understand why men go after the perfect woman but yet don't feel that they need to be the perfect man! We set out standards high because its a requirement for what we work hard at for ourselves! So why can't a man do the same thing! I want the best because I am striving to be the best for my man! I expect only what I expect of myself! I have the right to trine down anyone that I do not want just as men do to thirsty women throwing themselves to them! I have never thrown myself to man I don't look for men and I don't fall easy unless its a mutual attraction! I give all kinds of men chances to hang and get to know me and I them but I get board very easy. I want a successful man whats wrong with that! I just don't understand why that's a problem when it comes to beautiful men as if we only deserve a broke ugly man with no goals! Its stupid men need to wake up and be faithful have respect and work on their insecurities. Stop blaming attractive women its the men that are cheating with them and the men that are mistreating them the man meeds to be a man and do right beauty or not! Have respect for a woman period!
Maceo

Yes, your jealous and envious of Whtie men! Why would you brag about having Anal Sex in a barnyard in Fredrick, MD with a co worker in your office saying she loves Black Penis? You also said you did this to get back at White males!

Your the one that says that Black men get with White women to get back at White men!

I also think you married your White wife for 2 reasons.

1) Get back at White males because your low in the Food chain. Mostly of your own doing because you didn't improve your life you spent more time chasing WW Sex in your office!

2) You wanted to get back at BW because they attractive classy ones didn't want you because of your Poor Character, lack of Integrity, No morals and its all about YOU!

When you look at these things that I posted it really comes down to the Kinda Man you are and nobody wants a Selfish, Self Centered Arrogant, Don't Amount to anything Black Man that only looks out for himself only!

you can get angry at white men and you stay angry at Black women but really its YOU!

Really why would you not help your Ex White wife with any aspect of her business? The money help the household?

You can Waste time "Harassing BW who date/marry White men" rather than help your White wife with any aspect of her business?

Really it doesn't make any sense to me! Weren't you married???? Wasn't this your Life partner?

Yet, you can chase IR BW down on different sites, make up 2,500 profiles and take the time to Harass them, Chase Trashy WW in your office but you can't help your White wife with any aspect of the business?

You couldn't help your Mother who had Cancer?

Are you a FOOL? You ask why Black women don't want Black men like you when your clearly lacking Common sense and your "Sorry"!

Who wants an Arrogant, Old, Selfish, Self Centered Asshole like yourself!

Sorry I"m being Honest Maceo!

Thats why no Black women who are attractive want you its your POOR CHARACTER!
Sadbuttrue

Silver Spring, MD

#181 Jan 30, 2014
Ohhmyme wrote:
I don't understand why men go after the perfect woman but yet don't feel that they need to be the perfect man! We set out standards high because its a requirement for what we work hard at for ourselves! So why can't a man do the same thing! I want the best because I am striving to be the best for my man! I expect only what I expect of myself! I have the right to trine down anyone that I do not want just as men do to thirsty women throwing themselves to them! I have never thrown myself to man I don't look for men and I don't fall easy unless its a mutual attraction! I give all kinds of men chances to hang and get to know me and I them but I get board very easy. I want a successful man whats wrong with that! I just don't understand why that's a problem when it comes to beautiful men as if we only deserve a broke ugly man with no goals! Its stupid men need to wake up and be faithful have respect and work on their insecurities. Stop blaming attractive women its the men that are cheating with them and the men that are mistreating them the man meeds to be a man and do right beauty or not! Have respect for a woman period!
Maceo

Women with high self esteem who value themselves don't settle for Garbage men

Normally when a man cheats with a woman its rarely and attractive one its someone who's average unless you have PLENTY OF MONEY to take her away from desiring a man who will commit to her!

Generally you get what's on your level which was Liz! LMAO

http://www.preciouspetsva.com/Caregivers.shtm...

Do you notice that some men will chase Stunning women for decades but won't get one! Most case if you don't get them in your 20s it comes down to MONEY like it or not!
Sadbuttrue

Silver Spring, MD

#182 Jan 30, 2014
Ohhmyme wrote:
II them but I get board very easy. I want a successful man whats wrong with that! I just don't understand why that's a problem when it comes to beautiful men as if we only deserve a broke ugly man with no goals! Its stupid men need to wake up and be faithful have respect and work on their insecurities. Stop blaming attractive women its the men that are cheating with them and the men that are mistreating them the man meeds to be a man and do right beauty or not! Have respect for a woman period!
Maceo

Why would I settle for some Old Broke Arrogant Unattractiive Black man if I'm beautiful and have many choices?

Your only as faithful as your options!

If I'm an attractive woman I go for the Best Man with the Most money because I have more men available to me!

Most Attractive woman look for Best man with the most to offer financially!

If your over 25-years old this is even MORE TRUE!

That's why some White men will date or run after Asian women because very attractive WW go for the Big Bucks because most women are average looking!

Its like you went after an Average/Below Average looking White woman to marry. You got angry at the really attractive Black women who had many options and they said "NO "i'm not interested in you" because you don't have anything to offer me which was true!

If you wanted a truly Good looking BW or White woman than you do what it takes to attract them and you didnt'!

that's how the Man/Woman dynamics go in this Country.

That's why you see White men and some Black women brag when they have stunning women like Donald Trump!

Come on now your 60 years old you should know these things! Your on the back end of your life now more than prior women look for money with men who have secure retirements otherwise why bother?

Tha't s why you don't do wrong to your mate on the back end of your life! When your Old, sickly you have no caretaker and nobody wants to start a relationship with a man to take care of him and hes broke!

Sorry but being honest ..........NO HISTORY!
Sadbuttrue

Silver Spring, MD

#183 Jan 30, 2014
Ohhmyme wrote:
So true! Don't come to me if i don't show intrest
Maceo

Why would I settle for some Old Broke Arrogant Unattractiive Black man if I'm beautiful and have many choices?

Your only as faithful as your options!

If I'm an attractive woman I go for the Best Man with the Most money because I have more men available to me!

Most Attractive woman look for Best man with the most to offer financially!

If your over 25-years old this is even MORE TRUE!

That's why some White men will date or run after Asian women because very attractive WW go for the Big Bucks because most women are average looking!

Its like you went after an Average/Below Average looking White woman to marry. You got angry at the really attractive Black women who had many options and they said "NO "i'm not interested in you" because you don't have anything to offer me which was true!

If you wanted a truly Good looking BW or White woman than you do what it takes to attract them and you didnt'!

that's how the Man/Woman dynamics go in this Country.

That's why you see White men and some Black men brag when they have stunning woman like Donald Trump! When a woman is attractive and has her own money she can be picky...like Heidi Klum or Naomi Campbell!

Come on now your 60 years old you should know these things! Your on the back end of your life. Now more than prior women look for money with men who have secure retirements otherwise why bother taking some old Ass Black man who's selfish, self centered and arrogant and has no Investments or retirement? Why take a sickly old Broke BM who live solely for himself/

Tha't s wy you don't do wrong to your mate on the back end of your life!

When your Old, sickly you have no caretaker and nobody wants to start a relationship with a man to take care of him and HE'S BROKE! LMAO

Sorry but being honest ..........NO HISTORY AND YOUR SICKLY DON'T CUT IT!
yesnomaybe

Brookline, MA

#185 Feb 17, 2014
It is not all easy when people make assumptions about you because of the way you look. One can make it a point to work on the inner qualities and still be perceived as something else because of the other persons insecurities.

I knew from childhood that I resembled my very handsome and tall father and he told me when I was growing into young womanhood to notice peoples actions and not to just listen to their words, because by actions true intentions are shown.

I grew up to be rather stunning. I did not however hang my self-worth or take too serious the attention that my looks drew because I knew that the men who just stared at my a** or who invited me to go out on their boat did not know me from Eve. They did not care for me, they just wanted to be next to me because of what I looked like, they wanted to show me off as if I was a trophy or prize...and most definitely wanted to use me for their own sexual satisfaction.

They showed me by their actions what their intentions were.

I respect good men. I respect good women. I just never respected people who tried to use me or expect me to want to be used just for my beauty. Maybe some women are ok with that, maybe that is their only source of power or esteem -- but I was raised to know that looks and health can change and to not take things for granted all while not using your looks to get anything that you want or need.

I went to school instead of modeling, I volunteered at Cradles to Crayons (still do), I gave blood to the American Red Cross (still do), I made it a point to not have my life focus on only my looks, but the whole of myself. Even after bettering myself as I have, men STILL only stare, men and women stop what they are doing while I am in a store and turn to stare, women still make snarky comments to me, friends turn out to wait for just the right moment to insult me with any morsel of info in front of others to try to make themselves look better, and job interviews with other women and potential co-workers do not turn out that well even if I am very qualified. The list goes on.

I have, for my own mental health, had to drop friends who are not sincere.

It is almost a shock to people when you are highly attractive and genuinely nice. It is a hoot at times, the expressions on people's faces when you actually talk to them and smile. Like attractive people are from another planet and they speak in a strange language.

So, this long post is to educate many of you about the fact that even if one is handsome or beautiful. Even if one is highly attractive, he or she can still be attractive on the inside as well. It depends on how you were raised and your internal evaluation of the attention that is given.

Looks, over time, will fade -- but the inner qualities of a person will help him or her get through that transition and those core qualities will last for a lifetime

People just make assumptions.
The word assumption does have the word ASS in it.
kimani

Johannesburg, South Africa

#187 Feb 18, 2014
im am bftul and i think it a curse ...when i was growing up i use to love it coz i got all the attention and freebies it fun until i grew up an had to face the world .. a day il have more than 5 guys asking for my number and i know all they want is my body ... im so lonely it hurts coz no matter how hard i try to be avarege i still stand out ... i can not be in a relationship for more than a year with a guy bcos they turn out ti be sooo insecure and insecurities breaks the relationship.. i sumtimes ask my self will i eva find some one to love my inner me coz most of this mans they focus sooo much on my beauty and they forget my inner me ... iv tried killing my self coz sometimes it get to be so much for me .. i get soo lonely.. i also wish to be loved and cared for .. i also with to have my prince charming but im getting old and no1 sees me as a marrige matirial.. BEAUTY IS A CURSE...

“B'in <3 by sum1 gives strength”

Since: Nov 13

but <3'in sum1 tks courage.

#188 Feb 18, 2014
Pride, ego,
bitterness, fear,
lack of substance, unfaithfulness, too manipulative, constant lying
Insecurities
Selfishness, greed

Dependency on lies would have to be on top of all things.

If you can find a down to earth cute girl that's doing something with her self keep her close and cherish her because all that glitters is not gold.

“B'in <3 by sum1 gives strength”

Since: Nov 13

but <3'in sum1 tks courage.

#189 Feb 18, 2014
hardcorextreme wrote:
I love to do research (as you may know). So, I did a bit of research on this topic after a debate came about with a few close friends of mine.
My friend was telling us that a guy recently made a beautiful attractive woman upset because she found out that the whole time he had a wife who wasnt even half way as good looking as her. So, the beautiful woman felt 'strung along'
I don't expect the OP to respond to this as it's been 3 years.

So, firstly in the BC this is why a man has to suspect a beautiful BW is interested in him if she is very friendly.

You may say, "that's not fair. Pretty women can't be friendly just to be friendly?"

But let's be realistic. If a man treats a friendly woman as just a friend it almost always blows up in his face too. If he has a GF then that's obvious trouble. If he is single she thinks he's gay for not making a move on her. Obviously this is dependant on your definition of "friends" and "friendly".

In the BC friends can too often mean fxcking buddies. And "Friendly" means willing to have sex without a relationship.

I'm not using those definitions as friends here though...

I'm using the definition of friends as someone you don't sleep with or spend romantic time alone with. Basically you see them as not interested in you and you aren't interested in them but you share the same values although not the same opinions and about everything.

If a man see a beautiful woman and he is in a relationship he may avoid her because of her beauty too. He doesn't want to explain to the woman he is openly sexually connected to how he doesn't find this beautiful woman attractive when clearly she is, though he is not invested in her.
(assuming he doesn't wear his ring because of extreme hazard at work otherwise it makes no sense for a married man to not be identified easily)
To the OP point, though a guy also doesn't want to come across as a prick by acting funny every time the pretty women come in the room just because he is married. So he may decide to be cordial and genuinely friendly. But when a pretty single woman gets used to that casual friendliness what usually happens next? She decides he is the "lucky guy" ( a term I want to touch on later) that will get to have experience her love. Then she finds out he is married because he doesn't want her to get the wrong idea and then everything gets sour.

In the case of men with GF's who run across pretty single women the above also applies. In fact, it applies more often because he will not have a ring if he isn't engaged.

“B'in <3 by sum1 gives strength”

Since: Nov 13

but <3'in sum1 tks courage.

#190 Feb 18, 2014
hardcorextreme wrote:
For some odd reason. Attractive women are never really MARRIED or TAKEN, they are always playing the role of the 'back up plan' or 'mistress' as i will politely like to call it.
Many pretty women tend to be drawn to men that already exude stability. Meaning married men...

They want a single guy with a career, home, and roots in his community, plus with family values.

When you add in that these pretty women often want these things plus a good looks they are basically setting themselves up to collide with men who already have it all and aren't on the market.

A single man that has all these things plus no kids is obviously enjoying the single life or is extremely picky. If he is picky then SHE will have to move out of her comfort zone to catch him. That's going against the natural flow of men pursuing women right?

So pretty women are a victim of their own desires.Unless they agree to role the dice on men BEFORE they establish themselves in a community, and career like all other folks, they will have to compete with married women for the pool of men that tend to have no need for a GF because they have a woman.

There are no short cuts just because you are attractive. You still have to put in work with a guy that is coming up like you are.

“B'in <3 by sum1 gives strength”

Since: Nov 13

but <3'in sum1 tks courage.

#192 Feb 18, 2014
hardcorextreme wrote:
Many men tend to not have very attractive wives/girlfriends and will stare at beautiful women on the street, they may approach them or wink at them when their wives arent looking but if it came down to it they will not leave their wives for the beautiful woman who gives him the time of day (if his lucky)
Men will often go the route of least resistance.

If he can achieve happiness with a sexy & cute woman instead of being teased by a very pretty but shallow woman, he will go with the cute woman most of the time. She's still attractive.
Keri

Blacktown, Australia

#193 Mar 30, 2014
hardcorextreme wrote:
This is clear and it means that being single does NOT make you UNDESIRABLE it just means your standards are too high
Maybe you are, maybe you're not, but if you go around calling yourself 'exceptionally beautiful', you are probably giving off a very unapproachable and narcissistic vibe. Relax a bit already.
I'm told I am very attractive but it is ALWAYS unrealistic to call oneself 'exceptionally beautiful' because this is ALWAYS in the eye of the beholder. Relax...
Zoe Voss

Concord, Australia

#194 Mar 31, 2014
I only have sex with black men.
old farmer

Samoa

#195 Apr 8, 2014
I have met beautiful women and there is one thing that I find many of them tend to lack - a personality that is all about physical appearance. It is the same with attractive men I would say as well. I have however met extremely attractive women however who have the most wonderful and deeply developed personalities. Unfortunately they were taken...!!!:)

“ News”

Level 6

Since: Aug 11

Location hidden

#196 Apr 8, 2014
I guess I'll never know exactly why so many stay single, but I'm learning to stay clear from them more and more, like everyone else does after awhile. The ones who are married spook me out just as bad. I had so many, as recent as last week, willing to start something up with me, as though I'm supposed to overlook the fact that she is married or in a long-term commitment. It makes me never want to be married to a women who is very beautiful. Then you come off of that beauty thing anyway when you find out they taste like everybody else, or smell bad like everyone else when they miss a day or two without washing.

After realizing this, do you really want to continue chasing after them and putting yourself out there for them more than you would for the rest, thus wearing yourself out? Most come to realize that it's not worth it. However some men go deep into their mature age, still sucking it up, and not getting very far, other than a minor heart attack, if they're lucky not to suffer worst.
Pretty Girl

South Africa

#198 Apr 14, 2014
Cocheese wrote:
lots of Beautiful women suffer from narcissism. They are unable to maintain long term meaninful relationships because of their self indulgent ways.
It's me, me, me with them. "I love me some me"
until they come down from their pedestals and join the "regular" people. They will have issues developing a long term relationship.
Long term relationships involve lots of compromise.
That's a word thats not in a "pretty" girls vocabulary.
Seriously, I am a very pretty girl and I have been single for 4 years. I don't suffer from narcissism and I am not a gold digger or believe I am better than anyone. The fact you highlight regular people show your insecurity. I am strong women who looks after my body and my looks, I am single because men findnit easier to please and be with a less attractive women as they feel they are grateful to have them. like a song once said "if you want to be happy for the rest of yojr life, never make a pretty women your wife, its my personal point of view to get an ugly girl to marry you." people see us as strong and intimidating and men aren't use to it. the fatter the girl the more men she sleeps with and picks up. I may have high standards as well but just because I want a guy who is intelligent, confident and respectful doesn't make me a spoilt bitch!
this face

Adelaide, Australia

#199 Jun 20, 2014
beautiful wrote:
yes! I am exceptionally beautiful white girl but I am lonely and single for last fours years.I had miserable life I was hated by all girls in school and girls would make plans to hurt me, I have been attacked physically by jealous girls.
I am nice and friendly person,but still I have no friends, girls are intimidated by me and boys see me only as beautiful sex object.
I am extremely fussy about men, it is very hard for me to like a guy I except him to be perfect in every way, because in my mind I think that I deserve only perfect man.
I also have perks of being beautiful like I earn a lot of money for very little work but I never been happy in my life.
Same for me. I have 4 fenale friends none knw each other. I have to have a male boss because wome are petty and jelous. Women hate me for no reaon. Althougb being beautiful does open a lot of doors and there are so many excellent perks because people will go out of there way for u I think men are deeply insecure and I may actually die alone. Its infuriating when people day ur so beautiful how are u single??!! It must b so easy for u. Well no it isnt I would have better luck if I were fat and unattractive.

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Since: Mar 13

Location hidden

#200 Jun 20, 2014
hardcorextreme wrote:
I love to do research (as you may know). So, I did a bit of research on this topic after a debate came about with a few close friends of mine.
My friend was telling us that a guy recently made a beautiful attractive woman upset because she found out that the whole time he had a wife who wasnt even half way as good looking as her. So, the beautiful woman felt 'strung along'
This is nothing new to me what so ever. Weve all heard of the tragic stories from Marilyn Monroe to the FEMME FATALES played in old time classic french movies.
For some odd reason. Attractive women are never really MARRIED or TAKEN, they are always playing the role of the 'back up plan' or 'mistress' as i will politely like to call it.
Why is this? many men tend to not have very attractive wives/girlfriends and will stare at beautiful women on the street, they may approach them or wink at them when their wives arent looking but if it came down to it they will not leave their wives for the beautiful woman who gives him the time of day (if his lucky)
Is this because men are insecure? many of the responses i have got from my fellow male friends are that, they already expect the beautiful woman to be taken (which is usually far from the truth), they also say its because they dont want to be chasing her around and making sure no other guy is after her OR the all time favouite 'can i expect a pretty girl to cook? she has most likely been spoilt by society doing things for her just because of how she looks'
To get deeper into this, i also decided to look at online modelling sites and other social sites and all the women were attractive however, they were all single.
Has the media been lying to women this whole time? does looks really matter? the media has made it seem like, once you BUY their products or FIT their standards you will automatically become HAPPY/LOVED. No wonder why many die lonely/confused or fall into depression. Models have commited suicide,young girls resolve into 'self harming'(i currently know a black girl that self harms and two white girls)
Sure, being beautiful may have its UP'S: i see men stopping for them to walk by, women even talk to them like princesses, your parents spoil you,you get things half price from the sales man, you are less likely to get into trouble by police because all you do is flatter your lashes and he lets you go (there was a recent case where a black girl went to steal something from a store i was shopping at and the police got there and all she did was flatter her lashes and said 'i took it out of desperation' and started crying) then they let her go. She was really attractive, had that been a female version of charles manson it wouldnt have happened.But it also has its downsides beauties like Marilyn Monroe has proved this. If you go onto google beautiful women were 'the lonliest in the world'
Men should be happy an attractive woman is even giving them the time of day. I now understand why many become GOLDIGGERS and only go after rich men (atleast rich men have confidence and know they can get her and keep her without worrying about other men coming along)
So ladies, do you think we have been lied to by the media?
and gentlemen, what do you think about beautiful women? Ive heard that they are only 'decoration on earth' and that is it. What are your thoughts?
and to the beautiful ladies? why do you think this happens?
please pardon any spelling or bad grammar mistakes i may have made i am not perfect.
Beautiful women are the least freaky! I don't like a pillow princess!

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