Why are beautiful women usually single?
Lonely girl

United States

#111 Jan 9, 2013
So called pretty girl here. Beautiful some may say. Been single for 13 years. I have to play shy, meek and. dumb to get a guy to take me serious. As soon as I comment on our nations deficit or make the mistake of being articulate...my pretty ass gets dropped like a bad habit...oh God...why didnt u make me ugly so I can have a man.
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Washington, DC

#112 Jan 10, 2013
hardcorextreme wrote:
I love to do research (as you may know). So, I did a bit of research on this topic after a debate came about with a few close friends of mine.
My friend was telling us that a guy recently made a beautiful attractive woman upset because she found out that the whole time he had a wife who wasnt even half way as good looking as her. So, the beautiful woman felt 'strung along'
This is nothing new to me what so ever. Weve all heard of the tragic stories from Marilyn Monroe to the FEMME FATALES played in old time classic french movies.
For some odd reason. Attractive women are never really MARRIED or TAKEN, they are always playing the role of the 'back up plan' or 'mistress' as i will politely like to call it.
Why is this? many men tend to not have very attractive wives/girlfriends and will stare at beautiful women on the street, they may approach them or wink at them when their wives arent looking but if it came down to it they will not leave their wives for the beautiful woman who gives him the time of day (if his lucky)
Is this because men are insecure? many of the responses i have got from my fellow male friends are that, they already expect the beautiful woman to be taken (which is usually far from the truth), they also say its because they dont want to be chasing her around and making sure no other guy is after her OR the all time favouite 'can i expect a pretty girl to cook? she has most likely been spoilt by society doing things for her just because of how she looks'
To get deeper into this, i also decided to look at online modelling sites and other social sites and all the women were attractive however, they were all single.
Has the media been lying to women this whole time? does looks really matter? the media has made it seem like, once you BUY their products or FIT their standards you will automatically become HAPPY/LOVED. No wonder why many die lonely/confused or fall into depression. Models have commited suicide,young girls resolve into 'self harming'(i currently know a black girl that self harms and two white girls)
Sure, being beautiful may have its UP'S: i see men stopping for them to walk by, women even talk to them like princesses, your parents spoil you,you get things half price from the sales man, you are less likely to get into trouble by police because all you do is flatter your lashes and he lets you go (there was a recent case where a black girl went to steal something from a store i was shopping at and the police got there and all she did was flatter her lashes and said 'i took it out of desperation' and started crying) then they let her go. She was really attractive, had that been a female version of charles manson it wouldnt have happened.But it also has its downsides beauties like Marilyn Monroe has proved this. If you go onto google beautiful women were 'the lonliest in the world'
Men should be happy an attractive woman is even giving them the time of day. I now understand why many become GOLDIGGERS and only go after rich men (atleast rich men have confidence and know they can get her and keep her without worrying about other men coming along)
So ladies, do you think we have been lied to by the media?
and gentlemen, what do you think about beautiful women? Ive heard that they are only 'decoration on earth' and that is it. What are your thoughts?
and to the beautiful ladies? why do you think this happens?
please pardon any spelling or bad grammar mistakes i may have made i am not perfect.
I like this. I have thought about how easy I can find more couples that seem to be happy long term when one or both parties are not attractive.

Interesting thread.

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#113 Jan 11, 2013
Jennifer wrote:
Pretty girls tend to end up with jerks who use them and then dump them or men who are controlling & jealous, aren't we lucky :(. The nice men dont seem to approach very pretty women & tend to go more for average looking women. Maybe very attractive women should approach nice men themselves because it seems all they mostly attract are jerks.
The only nice men I have have dated: one I asked out myself & one I was childhood friends with, never has a decent man approached me.
That is one thing that I'm trying to make sure doesn't happen..I don't want jerks and will tell them to their face,not to talk down to me or insult me.. Some fools don't learn that COMMON COURTESY GOES A LONG WAY! Also,if you aren't a complete bimbo, that's even worse.. I refuse to dumb down!

Finally,GOSSIPS/PEOPLE WHO DON'T MEAN GOOD FOR YOU,have a role in some single bws lives.. LIES,WRONG ADVICE ETC,can be detrimental to how some bw end up.. All kind of excuses are made as to why they SLANDER and gossip about that woman! I'm going through it now.. I HATE people who behave like this. They KNOWINGLY do what they do to try and FORCE/INSULT/BLACKMAIL bw into not dating out, dating soley bm JUST BECAUSE they are black!; Making bw feel guilty about making a good choice over an inadequate man who is wrong for them,encouraging bw to settle for men BENEATH THEM in character or trying to SET UP BW WITH MEN VIA ASSOCIATION-Some extended family member(Last I heard its incest!),a family friends kid,or some reject or drama baggage carrying man,who needs to fixed up and worked on before he is fit enough to be partner material...NOT DESPERATE,AND DESERVE BETTER!! You can never trust words from women like them..

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#114 Jan 11, 2013
Lonely girl wrote:
So called pretty girl here. Beautiful some may say. Been single for 13 years. I have to play shy, meek and. dumb to get a guy to take me serious. As soon as I comment on our nations deficit or make the mistake of being articulate...my pretty ass gets dropped like a bad habit...oh God...why didnt u make me ugly so I can have a man.
fake...

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Since: May 07

Central coast

#115 Jan 11, 2013
kissypop wrote:
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It depends on what type of beautiful women you are referring to.
How about the ones who were 'not always beautiful'. Not literally, this means once they left middle/highschool is when the real world let them know how stunning they were.
Honestly I fall into that category, I got picked on for having a 'big forehead' in school...once I hit college/the world thats when the red carpet was laid out for me everywhere I went it.
When it started happening it scared me because I was like 'damn, I was lied to and hated on by all those idiots in school'.
Its 20 times worse when you are still a virgin....lord.
Its odd because I always attracted super-gorgeous men (or boys back in the day) or picked on unmercifully by a fugly/average jerk.
I was really shy, and my self-esteem was shot to a low. Its better now but I take it one day at a time and remains single.
Esp. since I hit my 20s Im still shy and its confused for being stuck up by some. smh
Not all beautiful women stay alone
(my mom is married :-p)
*sorry about any typos/grammar mistakes
this pretty much sums it up...BTW,.how you doing
Anonymous girl

Minneapolis, MN

#116 Jan 18, 2013
not all beautiful women have ugly personalities. most have very good personalities, but are overlooked because of all the focus on their looks. im considered beautiful and very good looking girl, and i'm single. i have been proposed to before, but i turned them down because i didnt want to be married. i do have high expectations. but at the same time once i fell inlove i didnt care. all i ask is his time and his love and that is enough for me. i dont care about money. the stereotype of beautiful women only wanting to be rich is false. not completely false, but not every beautiful woman wants to be rich. honestly we mostly just want a guy that will love us and TRUST that we are loyal to him. My problem in my past relationships is that the guy will constantly be jealous of the men he imagined in his head that i could be with when he's not with me. All of my friends say that i get all the guys and they're jealous. But i tell them not to be jealous because it's not always a blessing. Sometimes it feels like a curse. I would give anything to be that average looking girl who is taken by someone she loves. :)

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#117 Jan 18, 2013
I never understood it either.

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#118 Jan 18, 2013
Anonymous girl wrote:
not all beautiful women have ugly personalities. most have very good personalities, but are overlooked because of all the focus on their looks. im considered beautiful and very good looking girl, and i'm single. i have been proposed to before, but i turned them down because i didnt want to be married. i do have high expectations. but at the same time once i fell inlove i didnt care. all i ask is his time and his love and that is enough for me. i dont care about money. the stereotype of beautiful women only wanting to be rich is false. not completely false, but not every beautiful woman wants to be rich. honestly we mostly just want a guy that will love us and TRUST that we are loyal to him. My problem in my past relationships is that the guy will constantly be jealous of the men he imagined in his head that i could be with when he's not with me. All of my friends say that i get all the guys and they're jealous. But i tell them not to be jealous because it's not always a blessing. Sometimes it feels like a curse. I would give anything to be that average looking girl who is taken by someone she loves.:)
Well in my case its different.. People often badmouth me,and want the worst for me and act as if I should just take what THEY want to force on me!! That includes the dunce men,criminals,lazy and workshy men with no class etc.. These 'well meaning' people seem to think that you are so desperately lonely that you should END UP WITH SHIT TO PLEASE THEM!! They can fuck off,if they think that's going to happen!! Their actions ALWAYS come back on them quicker than they think!!
Alison

Howard Beach, NY

#119 Jan 20, 2013
I disagree. Not all beautiful women are selfish and shallow. I have met the ugliest women around and their hearts were nothing but evil and black! People always say that good looking people are idiots and shallow. NOT TRUE! The most beautiful people were beautiful. It all starts from inside and your beauty will shine within out.
I am a very beautiful woman but lonely and have had many lovers and relationships but nothing seems to click. I agree about RICH men because they have they have enough balls to handle a beautiful woman. ;)

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#121 Jan 20, 2013
Alison wrote:
I disagree. Not all beautiful women are selfish and shallow. I have met the ugliest women around and their hearts were nothing but evil and black! People always say that good looking people are idiots and shallow. NOT TRUE! The most beautiful people were beautiful. It all starts from inside and your beauty will shine within out.
I am a very beautiful woman but lonely and have had many lovers and relationships but nothing seems to click. I agree about RICH men because they have they have enough balls to handle a beautiful woman. ;)
Well in my case its different.. People often badmouth me,and want the worst for me and act as if I should just take what THEY want to force on me!! That includes the dunce men,criminals,lazy and workshy men with no class etc.. These 'well meaning' people seem to think that you are so desperately lonely that you should END UP WITH SHIT TO PLEASE THEM!! They can fuck off,if they think that's going to happen!! Their actions ALWAYS come back on them quicker than they think!!
Absolutely The Truth

Toms River, NJ

#122 Jan 21, 2013
well they certainly think that they are all that, especially when they have their ATTITUDE PROBLEM with it. it certainly explains why many of us good straight men that are having a very hard time finding a good woman today, and with so much makeup they put on their face just makes them look attractive.

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#123 Feb 1, 2013
Absolutely The Truth wrote:
well they certainly think that they are all that, especially when they have their ATTITUDE PROBLEM with it. it certainly explains why many of us good straight men that are having a very hard time finding a good woman today, and with so much makeup they put on their face just makes them look attractive.
Not this woman...I don't have an attitude...Unless you provoke me..
ebonybeauty

Pacoima, CA

#124 Feb 24, 2013
I understand this topic too well because i see a lot of beautiful women who r very insecure with themselves because they r single. I don't mean to sound cocky but i am one of them. Everywhere i go im either getting looks and comments from different race men (believe it or not a lot of men love black women) or looks and stares from insecure women. To be honest this makes me really insecure. Sometimes i say to my self that i wish i wasnt pretty, i wish i didnt look like my mother...
The insecurity level has gotten so bad that the other day a man and his friend were staring at me and i snapped at them asking them what were they looking at. He responded with "you're just so beautiful, cant we look?" I felt horrible....
Men have this whole outlook on beautiful women to be promiscuous or only interested in money and power, but im not like that at all, in fact my mother was very beautiful (hour glass shape, nice smile, pretty skin) and she fell in love with my father who was painted houses for a living....just goes to show that "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder". A woman is a woman at the end of the day, all she needs is a little attention....
Hot for 30

King City, CA

#125 Mar 2, 2013
beautiful wrote:
yes! I am exceptionally beautiful white girl but I am lonely and single for last fours years.I had miserable life I was hated by all girls in school and girls would make plans to hurt me, I have been attacked physically by jealous girls.
I am nice and friendly person,but still I have no friends, girls are intimidated by me and boys see me only as beautiful sex object.
I am extremely fussy about men, it is very hard for me to like a guy I except him to be perfect in every way, because in my mind I think that I deserve only perfect man.
I also have perks of being beautiful like I earn a
lot of money for very little work but I never been happy in my life.
Beautiful. I was looking for a comment like that.
That's exactly how I feel. I am told by everyone I know that I'm the whole package, and think the men I date see what I have to offer. I think they choose not to see it because they want someone who needs them more than they need her. That's my take. I am a pretty girl bit by no means am I spoiled or selfish. I worked for everything I have and care about people. Like you said, however, men choose to see only the sex part of it and that's all they often see no matter how wonderful you are. They will say anything to get it too. It sucks and it's lonely but I have a little hope still.
THANKS FOR THINKING

United States

#126 Mar 16, 2013
Reds wrote:
It's difficult to say who is a beautiful woman and and how beautiful they are. I always find women's looks are very overrated. I am not gay by the way.


The most realistic quote. Whose to determine what is beautiful and what isn't? In case you were wondering, I am black, beautiful, very plus sized, happily married, financially secured and loved thanks to my black husband and hit on daily on men of many races. It is up the individual not the public to decide if they are beautiful or not. This is one of the most superficial questions ever and I feel silly for reading this
Caro

Pietermaritzburg, South Africa

#127 Mar 29, 2013
beautiful wrote:
yes! I am exceptionally beautiful white girl but I am lonely and single for last fours years.I had miserable life I was hated by all girls in school and girls would make plans to hurt me, I have been attacked physically by jealous girls.
I am nice and friendly person,but still I have no friends, girls are intimidated by me and boys see me only as beautiful sex object.
I am extremely fussy about men, it is very hard for me to like a guy I except him to be perfect in every way, because in my mind I think that I deserve only perfect man.
I also have perks of being beautiful like I earn a lot of money for very little work but I never been happy in my life.
I agree that beautiful girls suffer from the jealousy of other girls, even their sisters and mothers can make them suffer for it . It is a double edged sword. Other girls do not want to be seen with you because you show up their faults. A lot of them learn to down play their looks to make themselves socially acceptable. Men are scared to approach them. Only the arrogant types apply. Decent men have to get passed the appearance, to the person underneath. Let me tell you that the beauties are usually very nice, intelligent and kind personalitywise once their defences are down, and they trust you. I had stunning female friends and its true I was intimidated but I had the compassion to understand they also need support. Once I became speechless in the presence of a beauty queen. Years later she told me she had been so shy, lonely and nervous when she was a beauty queen.

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#128 Mar 30, 2013
Dinie wrote:
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That is one thing that I'm trying to make sure doesn't happen..I don't want jerks and will tell them to their face,not to talk down to me or insult me.. Some fools don't learn that COMMON COURTESY GOES A LONG WAY! Also,if you aren't a complete bimbo, that's even worse.. I refuse to dumb down!
Finally,GOSSIPS/PEOPLE WHO DON'T MEAN GOOD FOR YOU,have a role in some single bws lives.. LIES,WRONG ADVICE ETC,can be detrimental to how some bw end up.. All kind of excuses are made as to why they SLANDER and gossip about that woman! I'm going through it now.. I HATE people who behave like this. They KNOWINGLY do what they do to try and FORCE/INSULT/BLACKMAIL bw into not dating out, dating soley bm JUST BECAUSE they are black!; Making bw feel guilty about making a good choice over an inadequate man who is wrong for them,encouraging bw to settle for men BENEATH THEM in character or trying to SET UP BW WITH MEN VIA ASSOCIATION-Some extended family member(Last I heard its incest!),a family friends kid,or some reject or drama baggage carrying man,who needs to fixed up and worked on before he is fit enough to be partner material...NOT DESPERATE,AND DESERVE BETTER!! You can never trust words from women like them..
That is one thing that I'm trying to make sure doesn't happen..I don't want jerks and will tell them to their face,not to talk down to me or insult me.. Some fools don't learn that COMMON COURTESY GOES A LONG WAY! Also,if you aren't a complete bimbo, that's even worse.. I refuse to dumb down!
Finally,GOSSIPS/PEOPLE WHO DON'T MEAN GOOD FOR YOU,have a role in some single bws lives.. LIES,WRONG ADVICE ETC,can be detrimental to how some bw end up.. All kind of excuses are made as to why they SLANDER and gossip about that woman! I'm going through it now.. I HATE people who behave like this. They KNOWINGLY do what they do to try and FORCE/INSULT/BLACKMAIL bw into not dating out, dating soley bm JUST BECAUSE they are black!; Making bw feel guilty about making a good choice over an inadequate man who is wrong for them,encouraging bw to settle for men BENEATH THEM in character or trying to SET UP BW WITH MEN VIA ASSOCIATION-Some extended family member(Last I heard its incest!),a family friends kid,or some reject or drama baggage carrying man,who needs to fixed up and worked on before he is fit enough to be partner material...NOT DESPERATE,AND DESERVE BETTER!! You can never trust words from women like them..

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#129 Mar 30, 2013
THANKS FOR THINKING wrote:
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The most realistic quote. Whose to determine what is beautiful and what isn't? In case you were wondering, I am black, beautiful, very plus sized, happily married, financially secured and loved thanks to my black husband and hit on daily on men of many races. It is up the individual not the public to decide if they are beautiful or not. This is one of the most superficial questions ever and I feel silly for reading this
AGREE 1000%!!

Glad that you're happy within yourself.. I don't bother about whether I am beautiful or not.. I would prefer people to say, that they like my character,rather than my face! I can't live off looks forever! Yes,individuals can and will speculate about what they perceive as beautiful..The thing is though,WHY DO PEOPLE NEED OTHERS TO DEFINE THEM? Would you feel insecure if your husband wasn't around,or does your confidence come from yourself? As a plus size woman(APPARENTLY, plus size women are too fat to find anyone.. WRONG!! May I add THERE ARE WOMEN FATTER THAN ME,WHERE I LIVE!! WE BOTH KNOW THAT'S NOT A VALID EXCUSE!) also,I have to say that if I listen to every negative comment said to or about me,I would have serious issues...I'm glad that life experiences have hardened me.. Otherwise I'd be a seriously nervous wreck,and clingy etc... Glad to not care what anyone says... Its hard not punch some of them in jaw sometimes.. Some people have GONE TOO FAR WITH ME!!
single girl

Central District, Hong Kong

#130 Apr 9, 2013
All these posts make me feel so much better about myself. All my life I've had people telling me I'm pretty and as I grew up the question why is such a pretty girl still single. Truth of the matter is I always seem to attract the wrong type of men. They're all married of have gfs. I often find that men I meet always seem to only want to sleep with me but never want to find out about me. They only see the exterior. I often think if they could only spend a little bit of time getting to know me, I am actually a smart and nice person too. But people often will just look at me and assume I'm stupid.

I recently involved myself with a guy who actually has a gf. He later broke up with her but then saif he doesn't want a relationship with me. He basically just wanted to keep me as a friend with benefits. It's just everytime I feel hopeful or good about myself he will always have a way to knock it right back down again.

People often think I'm confident because of the way I look, but the truth of the matter is I'm extremely insecure. I even suffered from anaeroxia in my late teens/ early 20s because of the insecurities. I'm always sad because I'm alone. I see all my friends meeting Mr Right and settling down one by one while I'm left heart broken time & time again.

I often wish I could be an average looking person so I can just live a normal life. Surely I deserve someone better! I'm tired of people assuming because of how I am I play around & sleep with random men. When I tell them I'm not into casual sex they couldn't run any faster!

I feel men do not want to get into a relationship with me becsuse they feel they cannot trust me. They often think I have really high standards. I'm not into looks at all. I just want someone on a similar intellectual level as I that loves me.

But I just spent the last hr reading thru all the posts and it comforts me knowing other women experience the same problems as I have encountered.
Meleni

Miami, FL

#131 Apr 11, 2013
Anastasia wrote:
Excuse me. But I get a lot of compliments on how pretty and gorgeous I am. And I am sick and tired of it. Like, I don't care. I just want to be in a relationship with some one who doesn't just care about my looks. But, that's just nearly impossible. I clearly get it now. I've tried to look for a guy. But that don't help. And if I do get a date it only lasts for about 2 weeks. Not even. I feel like I'm in depression most of the time. Just because your'e pretty or beautiful that doesn't give a man or any one else to judge you by the cover of how you look. It's not fair. I can be just as smart, just as funny as the girl next door. What looks got to do with anything? A lot of my friends and customers I'm a hair stylist tell me I look prettier wtihout make up. And I don't wear it because I am more confident that way. Some of the responses really pissed me off because you guys have no clue on how it is to be in a woman's shoes. Especially if she's pretty. Maybe she's lonely because she got treated like shit by men all the time.
I am also sick and tired of hearing how beautiful i am!! i'm like i want to tell them i really don't care, but again i will appear rude and arrogant (specially at work). its not fair at all.

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