Why are beautiful women usually single?

Why are beautiful women usually single?

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#1 Feb 2, 2011
I love to do research (as you may know). So, I did a bit of research on this topic after a debate came about with a few close friends of mine.

My friend was telling us that a guy recently made a beautiful attractive woman upset because she found out that the whole time he had a wife who wasnt even half way as good looking as her. So, the beautiful woman felt 'strung along'

This is nothing new to me what so ever. Weve all heard of the tragic stories from Marilyn Monroe to the FEMME FATALES played in old time classic french movies.

For some odd reason. Attractive women are never really MARRIED or TAKEN, they are always playing the role of the 'back up plan' or 'mistress' as i will politely like to call it.

Why is this? many men tend to not have very attractive wives/girlfriends and will stare at beautiful women on the street, they may approach them or wink at them when their wives arent looking but if it came down to it they will not leave their wives for the beautiful woman who gives him the time of day (if his lucky)

Is this because men are insecure? many of the responses i have got from my fellow male friends are that, they already expect the beautiful woman to be taken (which is usually far from the truth), they also say its because they dont want to be chasing her around and making sure no other guy is after her OR the all time favouite 'can i expect a pretty girl to cook? she has most likely been spoilt by society doing things for her just because of how she looks'

To get deeper into this, i also decided to look at online modelling sites and other social sites and all the women were attractive however, they were all single.

Has the media been lying to women this whole time? does looks really matter? the media has made it seem like, once you BUY their products or FIT their standards you will automatically become HAPPY/LOVED. No wonder why many die lonely/confused or fall into depression. Models have commited suicide,young girls resolve into 'self harming'(i currently know a black girl that self harms and two white girls)

Sure, being beautiful may have its UP'S: i see men stopping for them to walk by, women even talk to them like princesses, your parents spoil you,you get things half price from the sales man, you are less likely to get into trouble by police because all you do is flatter your lashes and he lets you go (there was a recent case where a black girl went to steal something from a store i was shopping at and the police got there and all she did was flatter her lashes and said 'i took it out of desperation' and started crying) then they let her go. She was really attractive, had that been a female version of charles manson it wouldnt have happened.But it also has its downsides beauties like Marilyn Monroe has proved this. If you go onto google beautiful women were 'the lonliest in the world'

Men should be happy an attractive woman is even giving them the time of day. I now understand why many become GOLDIGGERS and only go after rich men (atleast rich men have confidence and know they can get her and keep her without worrying about other men coming along)

So ladies, do you think we have been lied to by the media?

and gentlemen, what do you think about beautiful women? Ive heard that they are only 'decoration on earth' and that is it. What are your thoughts?

and to the beautiful ladies? why do you think this happens?

please pardon any spelling or bad grammar mistakes i may have made i am not perfect.

“Caribbean American”

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#2 Feb 2, 2011
Beautiful women usually have high standards, but this isnt always the case because I see a lot of beautiful girls with ugly dudes. Women are less crucial when it comes to man usually the ugliest women are the ones who judge harsh when it comes to a mens appererance.
Cocheese

Los Gatos, CA

#3 Feb 2, 2011
lots of Beautiful women suffer from narcissism. They are unable to maintain long term meaninful relationships because of their self indulgent ways.
It's me, me, me with them. "I love me some me"

until they come down from their pedestals and join the "regular" people. They will have issues developing a long term relationship.

Long term relationships involve lots of compromise.
That's a word thats not in a "pretty" girls vocabulary.

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auntie bee

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#4 Feb 3, 2011
they think they are too good to keep thier coochies cleaned out?

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#5 Feb 3, 2011
This is interesting, a couple of things come to mind. #1, the more attractive a woman is, I feel she probably thinks she has all the time in the world to snag that rich, handsome guy-and she is not willing to settle for anything less. I wouldn't say I am beautiful, but when I was younger I had to beat the men off with a stick, that said, I wanted perfection, I wanted the perfect man-i'm being honest, if he didn't look the part, I didn't bother with him. #2 Men are often put off by an extremely attractive woman, even if he himself is attractive, men might think she is too far above him and not make the move. I have a friend, who has a very pretty successful sister who is pushing 30, I think right now she is playing the field. I also know the man who is chasing after her (he is an engineer, very handsome, very tall) and she doesn't want him, she has him in the friend mode. Anyway, my point is, she is looking for something even better.
the light has come

Danville, IL

#6 Feb 3, 2011
This is my spin. Because the flower is beautiful, do not mean a man want to pick it. No relationship is built on beauty alone. Once past the advertising, the next step is finding the real person behind the mask. Do they share the same ideals. Accepting each other as they are. Even then, women tend to want to change the man.
beautiful

London, UK

#7 Feb 3, 2011
yes! I am exceptionally beautiful white girl but I am lonely and single for last fours years.I had miserable life I was hated by all girls in school and girls would make plans to hurt me, I have been attacked physically by jealous girls.
I am nice and friendly person,but still I have no friends, girls are intimidated by me and boys see me only as beautiful sex object.
I am extremely fussy about men, it is very hard for me to like a guy I except him to be perfect in every way, because in my mind I think that I deserve only perfect man.
I also have perks of being beautiful like I earn a lot of money for very little work but I never been happy in my life.

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#8 Feb 12, 2011
This is clear and it means that being single does NOT make you UNDESIRABLE it just means your standards are too high

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#9 Feb 12, 2011
Heightists...
truth

Chesterfield, VA

#10 Feb 12, 2011
being beautiful doesn't mean anything..truth is a lot of men mistreat women if they look good or not and men these days know women need men because not enough are available so they take advantage of that..
Men like to "collect" and show off..after a while some get bored with their woman because he got her..also if her personality doesnt' fit with his..then its not gonna last
Caribbean girl

Apopka, FL

#11 Aug 12, 2011
Most choose to be single because the way that men approach beautiful women can be a turn off. Beautiful women get approached by drunk men, men that say inappropriate things (or inappropriate hand gestures), or just plain jerks. While other men just compliment her on her beauty, maybe to shy to take it further or they think she is stuck up or taken.
Too many men also approach beautiful women in hopes that she will be a trophy just to show off to their friends.
Beautiful women get judged "she must be a gold digger" "her life must be perfect" "she must be snooty"
Too many men think beautiful women can be bought "let me take you shopping pretty lady" "you want to take a ride in my benz beautiful?" " What ever you want pretty girl I'll buy it for you" "I'll pay your car note, and house bill" "I'll take care of you, you shouldnt have to work because you are so beautiful"
What is up with that? These Men dont know how to talk to a woman, like a woman and not like some "prize" with a dollar sign on it?
Anyway
Its a shameful world we live in.:/
Sucks to be a woman

Nassau, Bahamas

#12 Aug 12, 2011
Caribbean girl wrote:
Most choose to be single because the way that men approach beautiful women can be a turn off. Beautiful women get approached by drunk men, men that say inappropriate things (or inappropriate hand gestures), or just plain jerks. While other men just compliment her on her beauty, maybe to shy to take it further or they think she is stuck up or taken.
Too many men also approach beautiful women in hopes that she will be a trophy just to show off to their friends.
Beautiful women get judged "she must be a gold digger" "her life must be perfect" "she must be snooty"
Too many men think beautiful women can be bought "let me take you shopping pretty lady" "you want to take a ride in my benz beautiful?" " What ever you want pretty girl I'll buy it for you" "I'll pay your car note, and house bill" "I'll take care of you, you shouldnt have to work because you are so beautiful"
What is up with that? These Men dont know how to talk to a woman, like a woman and not like some "prize" with a dollar sign on it?
Anyway
Its a shameful world we live in.:/
You said everything that I've experienced

Plus a beautiful woman is unlucky in finding a guy who she finds attractive as her with a good personality.
^ to men who will say bs about levels. just because she wants someone attractive doesn't = levels.
Caribbean girl

Apopka, FL

#13 Aug 12, 2011
^^ yes thats why you understood my thread very well and Those were all my experiences that I described, people just dont get it. It is hard to find a an attractive man with a good personality its like they expect me to be nothing but a pretty face.

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#14 Aug 12, 2011
I think the only way is to approach the guy if they think she's already taken or something.......
Giggs

Manchester, UK

#15 Aug 12, 2011
hardcorextreme wrote:
I love to do research (as you may know). So, I did a bit of research on this topic after a debate came about with a few close friends of mine.
My friend was telling us that a guy recently made a beautiful attractive woman upset because she found out that the whole time he had a wife who wasnt even half way as good looking as her. So, the beautiful woman felt 'strung along'
This is nothing new to me what so ever. Weve all heard of the tragic stories from Marilyn Monroe to the FEMME FATALES played in old time classic french movies.
For some odd reason. Attractive women are never really MARRIED or TAKEN, they are always playing the role of the 'back up plan' or 'mistress' as i will politely like to call it.
Why is this? many men tend to not have very attractive wives/girlfriends and will stare at beautiful women on the street, they may approach them or wink at them when their wives arent looking but if it came down to it they will not leave their wives for the beautiful woman who gives him the time of day (if his lucky)
Is this because men are insecure? many of the responses i have got from my fellow male friends are that, they already expect the beautiful woman to be taken (which is usually far from the truth), they also say its because they dont want to be chasing her around and making sure no other guy is after her OR the all time favouite 'can i expect a pretty girl to cook? she has most likely been spoilt by society doing things for her just because of how she looks'
To get deeper into this, i also decided to look at online modelling sites and other social sites and all the women were attractive however, they were all single.
Has the media been lying to women this whole time? does looks really matter? the media has made it seem like, once you BUY their products or FIT their standards you will automatically become HAPPY/LOVED. No wonder why many die lonely/confused or fall into depression. Models have commited suicide,young girls resolve into 'self harming'(i currently know a black girl that self harms and two white girls)
Sure, being beautiful may have its UP'S: i see men stopping for them to walk by, women even talk to them like princesses, your parents spoil you,you get things half price from the sales man, you are less likely to get into trouble by police because all you do is flatter your lashes and he lets you go (there was a recent case where a black girl went to steal something from a store i was shopping at and the police got there and all she did was flatter her lashes and said 'i took it out of desperation' and started crying) then they let her go. She was really attractive, had that been a female version of charles manson it wouldnt have happened.But it also has its downsides beauties like Marilyn Monroe has proved this. If you go onto google beautiful women were 'the lonliest in the world'
Men should be happy an attractive woman is even giving them the time of day. I now understand why many become GOLDIGGERS and only go after rich men (atleast rich men have confidence and know they can get her and keep her without worrying about other men coming along)
So ladies, do you think we have been lied to by the media?
and gentlemen, what do you think about beautiful women? Ive heard that they are only 'decoration on earth' and that is it. What are your thoughts?
and to the beautiful ladies? why do you think this happens?
please pardon any spelling or bad grammar mistakes i may have made i am not perfect.
I was going to read this but it made me sleepy.
lkgv

United States

#16 Dec 12, 2011
Gahhh, everyone is intimidated.
Get some confidence, looks aren't everything shitttttt.
Reds

Northallerton, UK

#17 Dec 12, 2011
It's difficult to say who is a beautiful woman and and how beautiful they are. I always find women's looks are very overrated. I am not gay by the way.

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#18 Dec 12, 2011
Everyone has a different perspective on what's considered beautiful....but women who are beautiful on the outside often have ugly personalities. It's usually because they are accustomed to men going ga ga over them. So they often expect "special" treatment.

You also have beautiful women that have a ridiculous resume of standards that they refuse to bend to find a proper companion. Alot of them want the man that's 6"6, curly hair, sucessful, house and cars, muscle, and perfect sex. They want someone they think is as perfect as they are....not saying all beautiful women are like this but a lot are. And even if they find all those qualities I just mentioned the guy may project the same attitude that she has (egostatistical) & will get what he,
needs and move to the next beautiful woman that comes along.

A lot of beautiful women seek outter beauty before they seek inner beauty. They tend to jump from one pointless relationship to another seeking someone who is as beautiful on the outside as they think they are. That's my opinion.
Mark

Kansas City, MO

#19 Dec 23, 2011
Beautiful women have more suitors than average women. They are waiting for the best deal to come their way. In our politically correct society, saying any of this will send people off into a "not all beautiful women are like that" tangent, even though deep down we all know it's true.

“Hustler”

Since: Dec 11

USA

#20 Dec 23, 2011
hardcorextreme wrote:
I love to do research (as you may know). So, I did a bit of research on this topic after a debate came about with a few close friends of mine.
My friend was telling us that a guy recently made a beautiful attractive woman upset because she found out that the whole time he had a wife who wasnt even half way as good looking as her. So, the beautiful woman felt 'strung along'
Men should be happy an attractive woman is even giving them the time of day. I now understand why many become GOLDIGGERS and only go after rich men (atleast rich men have confidence and know they can get her and keep her without worrying about other men coming along)
So ladies, do you think we have been lied to by the media?
and gentlemen, what do you think about beautiful women? Ive heard that they are only 'decoration on earth' and that is it. What are your thoughts?
and to the beautiful ladies? why do you think this happens?
please pardon any spelling or bad grammar mistakes i may have made i am not perfect.
It depends on what type of beautiful women you are referring to.
How about the ones who were 'not always beautiful'. Not literally, this means once they left middle/highschool is when the real world let them know how stunning they were.
Honestly I fall into that category, I got picked on for having a 'big forehead' in school...once I hit college/the world thats when the red carpet was laid out for me everywhere I went it.
When it started happening it scared me because I was like 'damn, I was lied to and hated on by all those idiots in school'.
Its 20 times worse when you are still a virgin....lord.
Its odd because I always attracted super-gorgeous men (or boys back in the day) or picked on unmercifully by a fugly/average jerk.
I was really shy, and my self-esteem was shot to a low. Its better now but I take it one day at a time and remains single.
Esp. since I hit my 20s Im still shy and its confused for being stuck up by some. smh
Not all beautiful women stay alone
(my mom is married :-p)
*sorry about any typos/grammar mistakes

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