Do men intentionally try to hurt women?

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Since: Feb 10

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#1 Apr 15, 2010
If so do they get a rise out of it or something?
Midnight Toker

Battle Creek, MI

#2 Apr 15, 2010
No but women expect men to read their minds and do things because "we should know". So the man is put in a position of lose lose.

“I swear, I lost my shirt....”

Since: Mar 10

Leadville,CO

#3 Apr 15, 2010
I think sometimes they do, men are in no way sensitive. As long as they have a thumb on you, they're happy...
Midnight Toker

Battle Creek, MI

#4 Apr 16, 2010
xoxoTAKxoxo wrote:
I think sometimes they do, men are in no way sensitive. As long as they have a thumb on you, they're happy...
Not the thumb! LOL A man not a boy will want to be an equal partner and will not attempt to control or hurt you purposely.

“I swear, I lost my shirt....”

Since: Mar 10

Leadville,CO

#5 Apr 16, 2010
Midnight Toker wrote:
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Not the thumb! LOL A man not a boy will want to be an equal partner and will not attempt to control or hurt you purposely.
Well, you are probably one of those rare good guys.It seems to me that if you're not 100% submissive to a man, that he will dicard you like trash. Worst part is they don't even care. Giving up your feelings for someone is like selling your soul to the devil..
Midnight Toker

Battle Creek, MI

#6 Apr 16, 2010
xoxoTAKxoxo wrote:
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Well, you are probably one of those rare good guys.It seems to me that if you're not 100% submissive to a man, that he will dicard you like trash. Worst part is they don't even care. Giving up your feelings for someone is like selling your soul to the devil..
A man will not treat you like property(hence your 100% submissive idea) a boy wants that because he feels insecure and needs to possess and control you out of fear he doesn't have the attributes to keep you without it. Which if he feels and acts like this he doesn't.

It works both ways too! I spent 8 years with a women who I gave everything to who left me for an ugly dorky guy! Her problem was the same as some guys insecurity. I thankfully have a very beautiful bonita latina who is secure, intelligent and successful now but finding that was not easy either!

Loving someone with your heart is a risk because it gives them power over your emotions and the ability to break it and you. But nothing good in life is without risk :)

IMO you are a very attractive, smart, funny, level headed women from what I can tell through this medium and IF I were single I wouldn't hesitate to want to date you.

Filtering the douchebags, users, control freaks, cheaters ect.. out is the hard part and an aquired skill IMO :)

You are a catch know that.

“I swear, I lost my shirt....”

Since: Mar 10

Leadville,CO

#7 Apr 16, 2010
Midnight Toker wrote:
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Filtering the douchebags, users, control freaks, cheaters ect.. out is the hard part and an aquired skill IMO :)
You are a catch know that.
lol well I'm trying to do that, but no luck:(. You are really sweet, thank you and made me all teary eyed(jerk)j/k. Your girl is very lucky too, and I happy you were able to find someone to love you back, you definitely deserve it.;)

“Music>You”

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Since: Mar 10

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#8 Apr 16, 2010
yes, but only emotionally, and especially if they deserve it.
HaHaHaURblack

Germany

#9 Apr 16, 2010
"Do men intentionally try to hurt women?"

Only black "men".

“I swear, I lost my shirt....”

Since: Mar 10

Leadville,CO

#10 Apr 16, 2010
HaHaHaURblack wrote:
"Do men intentionally try to hurt women?"
Only black "men".
I highly doubt that..
Sad

Brooklyn, NY

#11 Jul 13, 2010
My ex boyfriend left me and married someone else about 2 years later. We were together for 5 1/2 years. I loved him so much, but he was mentally and emotionally abusive. He would always break up and leave whenever he felt like it. He always needed a break from the relationship and needed me to step back. The last time he decided to break it off with me I said enough is enough and never wanted him back. He is upset that I would not get back with him after he cheated on me for many years. Now after almost 2 years apart, He is bringing his new wife around me at my church. Why do men act like this? If you moved on why do this, if you are so happy?

“YourDadsHole”

Since: Apr 09

Caribbean

#12 Jul 14, 2010
Yes they do. Many men like to run little tests to see how much a woman cares about them the same way women do.
Difference is men seem to eventually grow out of it and women still like playing the same bullshit games well into their old age.

“lifes a bytch”

Level 7

Since: Jul 10

and then you die

#13 Jul 14, 2010
yes. SOME of them do. They do it to control you, by force or by fear. Throw a baby into the mix, and they will use family as a way to control you to. Don't know why they need to be in total control, but some do- and they will squash you down anyway they can-just to build themselves up. Those kind of men can not be changed, you'll never do good enough, and i suggest you leave as fast as you can. Those kind of men eventually kill you-which if you've been with him for many years with no escape-you're dead inside anyway so it doesn't even matter anymore.
debby

United States

#14 Jul 14, 2010
pearlofagirl wrote:
If so do they get a rise out of it or something?
those with a personality disorder.
debby

United States

#15 Jul 14, 2010
YourMomsPole wrote:
Yes they do. Many men like to run little tests to see how much a woman cares about them the same way women do.
Difference is men seem to eventually grow out of it and women still like playing the same bullshit games well into their old age.
that is inmature and should be a sign to f'ing grow up! both the male and female.
debby

United States

#16 Jul 14, 2010
Sad wrote:
My ex boyfriend left me and married someone else about 2 years later. We were together for 5 1/2 years. I loved him so much, but he was mentally and emotionally abusive. He would always break up and leave whenever he felt like it. He always needed a break from the relationship and needed me to step back. The last time he decided to break it off with me I said enough is enough and never wanted him back. He is upset that I would not get back with him after he cheated on me for many years. Now after almost 2 years apart, He is bringing his new wife around me at my church. Why do men act like this? If you moved on why do this, if you are so happy?
find a new church.
played again

United States

#17 May 30, 2014
[QUOTE againwho="xoxoTAKxoxo "]I think sometimes they do, men are in no way sensitive. As long as they have a thumb on you, they're happy...[/QUOTE]

So agreed. Men like to hurt. They only love women who hurt them. So, if the woman isn't smart enough to manipulate him he hurts you. Never go for a guy you really like . He has to be at your feet or you'll be under his. They are heartless balls of who.
played again

United States

#18 May 30, 2014
played again wrote:
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So agreed. Men like to hurt. They only love women who hurt them. So, if the woman isn't smart enough to manipulate him he hurts you. Never go for a guy you really like . He has to be at your feet or you'll be under his. They are heartless balls of who.
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