The burden of dating a "Black Man"
KIP

San Francisco, CA

#22 Jul 30, 2014
ashleigh wrote:
http://www.filthyfreedom.com/b log/the-burden-of-dating-black -men
This article made me a little sad.what do you think about it????
Very interesting article. Unfortunately, the woman seems to validate her defeatist attitude about HER personal experiences within an intra-rracial union.

“Reality is merely an illusion”

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Since: Apr 12

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#23 Jul 30, 2014
Jubilant Sleep wrote:
Society clearly treats white and black men differently. I've seen this firsthand. It's the same with white and black women. It takes more than a few decades for the people of society to change. Things are much better now but we are far from where we should be at this point.
Go live in Africa then and you can enjoy your preferential treatment while hard working White farmers are forced off their land. Problem solved. Not that you need to, you already have affirmative action and special minority scholarships in America.
KIP

San Francisco, CA

#24 Jul 30, 2014
Matthew_1 wrote:
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Go live in Africa then and you can enjoy your preferential treatment while hard working White farmers are forced off their land. Problem solved. Not that you need to, you already have affirmative action and special minority scholarships in America.
... And you have white privilege as well as the "benefit of the doubt" treatment from media, law enforcement, and employers.
KIP

San Francisco, CA

#25 Jul 30, 2014
ashleigh wrote:
http://www.filthyfreedom.com/b log/the-burden-of-dating-black -men
This article made me a little sad.what do you think about it????
She goes on to to say the negative experience(s) take place in New Jersey. It's as if all the uptight, plucked up experiences take place back east. She's able to go into length about the "burden" and so forth. It didn't make me sad. It just made me wonder about life back there. It doesn't sound very appealing.

Since: Jul 14

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#26 Jul 31, 2014
That article makes it seem like a I would suddenly get bowed down to as my supreme white azz enters the restaurant...

smh.
Aussie Bob

Norwood, Australia

#27 Jul 31, 2014
Jubilant Sleep wrote:
<quoted text>I understand your point. The problem I have with what people like you say is that you expect us educated blacks to someone magically enchant the uneducated blacks to be more like us. I don't have time to walk up to every lazy person I know and tell them to educate themselves nor do I think I should have to. I'm sick of everyone lumping us all into one category. It undermines everything successful blacks have worked so hard to get. That is all.
I appreciate you taking the time to answer my questions.

This may sound strange but I think the majority of African Americans would benefit from learning the real truth about how they came to be in America and who it is that pushed degenerate AA culture on them.

Professor Tony Martin (a respectable African American academic) understands what I am driving at & I believe you may be beginning to understand it as well.

Feel free to drop by the Anglo American forum to discuss what is going on in America anytime you want.
Aussie Bob

Norwood, Australia

#28 Jul 31, 2014
Thomas Sowell understands as well.

“Sleep is My Sanctuary”

Since: Mar 14

Location hidden

#30 Jul 31, 2014
Aussie Bob wrote:
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I appreciate you taking the time to answer my questions.
This may sound strange but I think the majority of African Americans would benefit from learning the real truth about how they came to be in America and who it is that pushed degenerate AA culture on them.
Professor Tony Martin (a respectable African American academic) understands what I am driving at & I believe you may be beginning to understand it as well.
Feel free to drop by the Anglo American forum to discuss what is going on in America anytime you want.
Call me crazy but I think the damage has been done. Sure there are more blacks than you think who already know the things you're talking about. But I doubt those who don't know will want to hear anything about it. They just blindly play into the trap that keeps them stagnant while poking fun at people like me who were raised to take our lives into our own hands.

“Sleep is My Sanctuary”

Since: Mar 14

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#31 Jul 31, 2014
Garrig wrote:
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But you can be outspoken, try to reach out to some of these people, inspire them.
No thanks. People who want to be inspired by me approach me on their own. I don't seek people out who want nothing to do with me in the first place.
Big Knob

United States

#32 Jul 31, 2014
Yawn, another thread by the same ol suspects, female impersonators, dead end white dudes, wanna be irbw, and ashleigh the great, as usual, these non issue bm sure are on everybody's mind..........enjoy your delusions!
Big Knob

United States

#33 Jul 31, 2014
Aussie Bob wrote:
Thomas Sowell understands as well.
Louis Farrakhan, Naim Akbar, Dr Claude Anderson, Dr Frederick KC Price understand alot better than a hand pecked negro like Tom Sowell..........why go to an anglo fourm when the anglos have come here......no thanks!
Big Knob

United States

#34 Jul 31, 2014
Ash wrote:
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If black men took care of their kids..this wouldn't be an issue. Black men need to wrap it up or cut it off ;)
Do what every other culture of women even carribbean bw do, get married first, or keep shop closed..........
Big Knob

United States

#35 Jul 31, 2014
This thread should be called why are wm always in the bm's mix, when they should find solutions for 16.6 million ww who're running around here single. And why assimilation is CULTURE GENOCIDE!!
Big Knob

United States

#36 Jul 31, 2014
ashleigh wrote:
Do you think people look down on black women who stick with black men?? Do you think people think highly of black men with white women?? Do you think black women get racism from whites when dating white men??? Let me know what you think...
Why dont you ask john mayer, and do you think its a burden for successful bm who date bw? I really dont but whats your opinion,........your threads suggest a pattern of behavior..........interesting!

“Reality is merely an illusion”

Level 7

Since: Apr 12

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#37 Jul 31, 2014
KIP wrote:
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... And you have white privilege as well as the "benefit of the doubt" treatment from media, law enforcement, and employers.
No I don't, that's all your conjecture. What I stated is a fact, affirmative action and special minority only scholarships are a fact.
Black Intellect

Mountain View, CA

#38 Jul 31, 2014
I'm an intermediate chess player 1500 rating I have bigger fish to fry. And I already wrote articles about this http://artistryunlimited21.WordPress.com
SadButTrue

Falls Church, VA

#39 Jul 31, 2014
The Burden of Dating Black Men
07/18/2013

The black man occupies a unique space in American culture. He is an aggressive and inherently violent threat to society. Both insatiable and lazy, he is creator of chaos and maker of his own inevitable demise; he is forever guilty beyond a reasonable doubt. He does not feel pain, or remorse, or empathy. As angry and volatile as their female counterparts, black men, by their very presence, give society reason to assume the defensive. He is simultaneously invisible and ever present in the minds and lives of white America. A non-citizen, he holds no right to self-defense.

Debased, filthy and unworthy, black men, we are told, are sexual deviants incapable of either desiring or maintaining healthy, meaningful relationships.
In fact, at a recent fellowship dinner at Columbia Law School, a wealthy, white businessman told me that the biggest business problem occurring in America is the inability of black women to find [black] husbands. He declared that this travesty is rooted in the black man’s inability to commit, not just to a woman, but also to a job. Upon picking my jaw off the floor, I concluded three important things:(1) my supposedly personal decisions regarding who I choose to fuck or date or marry are very much political,(2) so long as I date black men, I will carry their burden, and (3) while my decision to primarily date black men is a conscious one, it is not necessarily simple.

As a racially ambiguous woman, I have the privilege of changing the way society receives me at my discretion. Sometimes I am black, other times I am Indian or Latina, or I may be French, or just a white girl who tans a bit too much. Sometimes I am intimidating or a race-baiting Angry Black Woman, but I can just as easily morph into innocent and approachable. Over time I’ve found that the easiest way to change my ethnicity – change the way people treat me – is to change my company. And the company that most defines us is, in fact, our choice in a mate. When I choose to date a black man, I inevitably send a message to society about who I am and what I represent. When I choose to date a black man, I choose to be ignored at bars, barred from clubs, humiliated by groups of drunken white men, or passed over by taxis. I choose to internalize their experiences of undervaluation, passed over promotions and emasculation. I choose to carry the burden of [dating] black men, and I choose it often; 90% of the men I’ve dated are black.

One night, a date and I decided to hit a local New Jersey bar. As we approached the secured entrance, a white couple was also entering, walking only steps behind us. Before we could hand over our I.Ds, the white security guard informed us that we could not enter, as my date was violating the dress code; mere seconds later the white couple reached the door and was promptly let in – with the guy outfitted in the same ensemble. We stood there gazing at one another, he obviously embarrassed, pondering the same silent question; should I say something or just take this as a loss and walk back to the car?

If you’ve never been in a situation where you are singled out and denied access to a space because of your race and then forced to decide what action will allow you to leave with a bit of dignity, let me tell you, it is always painful and humiliating. But, perhaps more shameful than being publically passed over is thinking that just maybe your life would be easier – better even – if you were dating a white man. While I was angry with the security guard and the establishment, I would be lying if I said I didn’t feel a tinge of regret at that moment for being with a black man or a hint of frustration at the very man who was just victimized and dismissed. I knew that the Access Denied Pass did not extend to me – when I was in the “right” company, so shame on me for surrounding myself with such company, right?
SadButTrue

Falls Church, VA

#40 Jul 31, 2014
KIP wrote:
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Very interesting article. Unfortunately, the woman seems to validate her defeatist attitude about HER personal experiences within an intra-rracial union.
Maceo

I'm a mixed women and everything she said was "Correct" in that article. I don't hang around Black folks I go around more Int'l. Why? I don't understand your "Horrific, demented behaviors, why you only do for WW hence WM and hate BW.

She right, BM destroy most BW and WW lives who get involved with them like you did to your Ex White wife. You showed no love, compassion or concern, everything was about your selfish, self centered petty Ass!

That's why i won't date BM, I noticed you don't even care who you destroy you have no concern. Its totally different dating White men or other races they don't act "self destructive, nor have demented minds" like yourself!

I m not saying other races are perfect but your DESTROYING YOUR OWN RACE AND YOU DON'T CARE! You didn't care when you were doing ti but now that most BW see the truth and don't want BM you Yelp, bytch, scream and moan!

Sorry but its "Too late" and its high risk dating and marrying BM today. You don't get anything for your investment except your don't' appreciate anybody or anything your only concern is your LUSTS!

Her article is so good I'm sending to to everybody ..........she hit on many of the reasons why I don't date BM anymore!

Most of the things you do are to yourselves as well as you love destroying people who love you! You embrace those who hate you!
gloalen

Howell, MI

#41 Aug 1, 2014
the white guy said my community because he believes i'm part of the black community..

I've been removed from the black community and brainwashed into believing i was white And don't even have dark skin..

so it was hard to figure out..
gloalen

Howell, MI

#42 Aug 1, 2014
mixed is still white..

i mean you have the features.. so it's confusing As hell unless A pure white person points it out And goes hey your not pure..

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