Preference or Self Hate?
Gia

Nassau, Bahamas

#1 Jul 30, 2013
The majority of you black people have SELF HATE! You don't know the difference between the two. All I hear is I only date light skin bw or I only date white men. Diddy, young berg, lil wayne are self haters and yes there are more bm that are self haters. Bet that bitch look better red? If she is ugly and dark skin with lighter skin she will look even worse! Nothing to hide the ugliness from. There is beauty in EVERY RACE in EVERY SHADE! You see some dark skin women some are beautiful some are ugly. Fair skin women some are beautiful some are ugly. The color of your skin does not make you more attractive than anyone. Now let us say that you like white women that is your preference if somebody who isn't your preference has other qualities that you like you should still be willing to give that person a chance perhaps even fall in love with them. Its like I like light skin women but I think dark skin women are attractive too and I am open to dating a woman of a darker shade and I may or may not fall in love with that individual. If you like and only date white men because you think black men are ugly and you're black you have self hate. A guy may be like I only like light skin or mixed race women. He wont give a dark skin woman a chance, he insults them and wants nothing to do with them and he is black. That is self hate. Be open minded and willing to give every race and shade a chance. Close minded people are ignorant and judgmental. What is most important is not the physical but it is the inside. Beauty fades with age you can get into an accident etc then all you have is your personality. I can fall in love with somebody that isn't that physically attractive but his personality is alluring. You people need to get in that way of thinking!

“Shed so many tears”

Level 7

Since: Jan 08

Location hidden

#2 Jul 30, 2013
Gia wrote:
The majority of you black people have SELF HATE! You don't know the difference between the two. All I hear is I only date light skin bw or I only date white men. Diddy, young berg, lil wayne are self haters and yes there are more bm that are self haters. Bet that bitch look better red? If she is ugly and dark skin with lighter skin she will look even worse! Nothing to hide the ugliness from. There is beauty in EVERY RACE in EVERY SHADE! You see some dark skin women some are beautiful some are ugly. Fair skin women some are beautiful some are ugly. The color of your skin does not make you more attractive than anyone. Now let us say that you like white women that is your preference if somebody who isn't your preference has other qualities that you like you should still be willing to give that person a chance perhaps even fall in love with them. Its like I like light skin women but I think dark skin women are attractive too and I am open to dating a woman of a darker shade and I may or may not fall in love with that individual. If you like and only date white men because you think black men are ugly and you're black you have self hate. A guy may be like I only like light skin or mixed race women. He wont give a dark skin woman a chance, he insults them and wants nothing to do with them and he is black. That is self hate. Be open minded and willing to give every race and shade a chance. Close minded people are ignorant and judgmental. What is most important is not the physical but it is the inside. Beauty fades with age you can get into an accident etc then all you have is your personality. I can fall in love with somebody that isn't that physically attractive but his personality is alluring. You people need to get in that way of thinking!
oH hush! YOU SOUND SO STUPID!

“Take the kinks out ya mind”

Level 4

Since: Jul 13

and not your hair

#3 Jul 30, 2013
Gia

Nassau, Bahamas

#4 Jul 30, 2013
The only stupid person here is YOU.
Foreignest

Saint-ismier, France

#7 Jul 30, 2013
dab399 wrote:
<quoted text>
Gia,I always have a preference for light skinned,mixed,& white women over dark skinned
women just because I dont find them attractive doesn't mean I'm a self hater. Hey,I like what I like,& it is what it is.
Yes it's self hate for you. Don't try to hide it. I read you in another tread.
Gia

Nassau, Bahamas

#9 Jul 30, 2013
SELF HATERRRRRRRR IN DENIALLL!!!

“All Men Want Me???”

Level 2

Since: Jul 13

Off Course They Do!!

#10 Jul 30, 2013
I thin most people have an element of self-hate, if you don't, then you must think you are perfect, and such arrogance always precedes a fall.

“Repent and worship God”

Since: Jul 13

Location hidden

#11 Jul 30, 2013
dab399 wrote:
<quoted text>Why is it self hate for me because I dont find dark skinned women attractive? I love myself & I'm not a black woman. I'm a black man who happens to like light skinned & white chicks. The only time I hate myself is because I dont like being a black man & that's not the case. I like being a black man. Just because I like myself doesn't mean I have to like everyone else that has the same complexion as me. You're too quick to call black men self haters because they dont find dark skinned black women attractive but yet when black women dont find dark skinned black men attractive & only light skinned mixed & white men you give these women a free pass & not are called self haters. I hate double standards when it comes to black women. Black women are the biggest hypocrites ever when it comes to interracial dating.
We are entitled to be with whom we so desire. I am very happy as are other people who found the right person regardless of their race or ethnicity.
Troll

UK

#12 Jul 30, 2013
Phoenix Ascended wrote:
<quoted text>
We are entitled to be with whom we so desire. I am very happy as are other people who found the right person regardless of their race or ethnicity.
When you're on, Mr.Anderson disappears. Just sayin!

*chuckles*
Gia

Nassau, Bahamas

#13 Jul 31, 2013
Keep denying your self hate I can fall in love with any race dark or light skin but my preference is Mexicans. THAT IS WHAT YOU CALL A PREFERENCE! You people would not give anybody else your time of day because when you see them you see aspects of yourself that you hate and you want to wash it away so you dilute it by dating ANYTHING ELSE but a DARK SKIN BLACK WOMAN!

“No Substitute For The Truth”

Level 8

Since: Jan 10

Orlando, FL

#14 Jul 31, 2013
Gia wrote:
The majority of you black people have SELF HATE! You don't know the difference between the two. All I hear is I only date light skin bw or I only date white men. Diddy, young berg, lil wayne are self haters and yes there are more bm that are self haters. Bet that bitch look better red? If she is ugly and dark skin with lighter skin she will look even worse! Nothing to hide the ugliness from. There is beauty in EVERY RACE in EVERY SHADE! You see some dark skin women some are beautiful some are ugly. Fair skin women some are beautiful some are ugly. The color of your skin does not make you more attractive than anyone. Now let us say that you like white women that is your preference if somebody who isn't your preference has other qualities that you like you should still be willing to give that person a chance perhaps even fall in love with them. Its like I like light skin women but I think dark skin women are attractive too and I am open to dating a woman of a darker shade and I may or may not fall in love with that individual. If you like and only date white men because you think black men are ugly and you're black you have self hate. A guy may be like I only like light skin or mixed race women. He wont give a dark skin woman a chance, he insults them and wants nothing to do with them and he is black. That is self hate. Be open minded and willing to give every race and shade a chance. Close minded people are ignorant and judgmental. What is most important is not the physical but it is the inside. Beauty fades with age you can get into an accident etc then all you have is your personality. I can fall in love with somebody that isn't that physically attractive but his personality is alluring. You people need to get in that way of thinking!
If someone always found themselves mostly attractive too light skin or dark skin, it may be genuine preference but too say all light or dark is unappealing is not normal IMO. I think you should be able to find someone attractive in every skin tone even tho you may be more attracted to those with a lighter or darker tone. Personally I never really understood how someone's tone make them more or less attractive especially if they have the same ethnic features. It's possible tho for two people to have similar ethnic features but have some phenotypical differences.
London

Memphis, TN

#15 Jul 31, 2013
It's probably both. Those who may have a preference based on skin tone can then practice hate toward those they don't prefer..which in turn equates to self hate. For some preference can drive hate..and self hate comes about when the hate is directed towards those who resemble you.

Some people also have a hard time understanding that the world isn't all about them and that many times those you don't prefer..probably don't prefer you either. So, don't assume. This is why personal preferences should be spoken of around those we prefer. Loud declarations of preferences draws hate and thus backlash from the hate due to cause and effect which is universal law.

Also due to white supremacy in this country and world..know also that your preferences may very well line up with white supremacy so don't get upset when you are called out about this..especially if you are railing against white supremacy.

“me! chee hoo! LOL!”

Level 6

Since: Oct 09

New Zealand

#16 Jul 31, 2013
Gia wrote:
The majority of you black people have SELF HATE! You don't know the difference between the two. All I hear is I only date light skin bw or I only date white men. Diddy, young berg, lil wayne are self haters and yes there are more bm that are self haters. Bet that bitch look better red? If she is ugly and dark skin with lighter skin she will look even worse! Nothing to hide the ugliness from. There is beauty in EVERY RACE in EVERY SHADE! You see some dark skin women some are beautiful some are ugly. Fair skin women some are beautiful some are ugly. The color of your skin does not make you more attractive than anyone. Now let us say that you like white women that is your preference if somebody who isn't your preference has other qualities that you like you should still be willing to give that person a chance perhaps even fall in love with them. Its like I like light skin women but I think dark skin women are attractive too and I am open to dating a woman of a darker shade and I may or may not fall in love with that individual. If you like and only date white men because you think black men are ugly and you're black you have self hate. A guy may be like I only like light skin or mixed race women. He wont give a dark skin woman a chance, he insults them and wants nothing to do with them and he is black. That is self hate. Be open minded and willing to give every race and shade a chance. Close minded people are ignorant and judgmental. What is most important is not the physical but it is the inside. Beauty fades with age you can get into an accident etc then all you have is your personality. I can fall in love with somebody that isn't that physically attractive but his personality is alluring. You people need to get in that way of thinking!
great observation.. What is see is a lot of negros.. Indians and chinese and se asians worship the wm and ww look.. I think polynesians r the only race i know who dont bow down to the white race..

“me! chee hoo! LOL!”

Level 6

Since: Oct 09

New Zealand

#17 Jul 31, 2013
dab399 wrote:
<quoted text>
Gia,I always have a preference for light skinned,mixed,& white women over dark skinned
women just because I dont find them attractive doesn't mean I'm a self hater. Hey,I like what I like,& it is what it is.
nah u might b a dark skin brother.. Who dont like the tone of ur skin.. Its very much like a red head wm.. They date out due to.. Double discrimination.. Majority of races who date out.. Is due to extreme like appearances

“Perfection is impossible”

Level 5

Since: May 13

But excellence is close enough

#18 Jul 31, 2013
Gia wrote:
The majority of you black people have SELF HATE! You don't know the difference between the two. All I hear is I only date light skin bw or I only date white men. Diddy, young berg, lil wayne are self haters and yes there are more bm that are self haters. Bet that bitch look better red? If she is ugly and dark skin with lighter skin she will look even worse! Nothing to hide the ugliness from. There is beauty in EVERY RACE in EVERY SHADE! You see some dark skin women some are beautiful some are ugly. Fair skin women some are beautiful some are ugly. The color of your skin does not make you more attractive than anyone. Now let us say that you like white women that is your preference if somebody who isn't your preference has other qualities that you like you should still be willing to give that person a chance perhaps even fall in love with them. Its like I like light skin women but I think dark skin women are attractive too and I am open to dating a woman of a darker shade and I may or may not fall in love with that individual. If you like and only date white men because you think black men are ugly and you're black you have self hate. A guy may be like I only like light skin or mixed race women. He wont give a dark skin woman a chance, he insults them and wants nothing to do with them and he is black. That is self hate. Be open minded and willing to give every race and shade a chance. Close minded people are ignorant and judgmental. What is most important is not the physical but it is the inside. Beauty fades with age you can get into an accident etc then all you have is your personality. I can fall in love with somebody that isn't that physically attractive but his personality is alluring. You people need to get in that way of thinking!
Some may disagree, but yes, this true. This is one of the major problems with our race. I'm not an applicant of this epidemic but sadly it's true for the majority.
mia

Darby, PA

#19 Jul 31, 2013
I'm a brown-skinned bw who is not attracted to dark-skinned men. Idk why but I simply don't find them attractive 90% of the time. I don't hate myself at all. You can't help who you're attracted to
pn2cladelover

Netherlands

#20 Jul 31, 2013
I think its partly self hate and partly minds that still see media teenage images as the present reality

i.e minds that haven't matured past media inspired lighter skin is better
hmminteresting

United States

#21 Feb 3, 2014
Gia wrote:
The majority of you black people have SELF HATE! You don't know the difference between the two. All I hear is I only date light skin bw or I only date white men. Diddy, young berg, lil wayne are self haters and yes there are more bm that are self haters. Bet that bitch look better red? If she is ugly and dark skin with lighter skin she will look even worse! Nothing to hide the ugliness from. There is beauty in EVERY RACE in EVERY SHADE! You see some dark skin women some are beautiful some are ugly. Fair skin women some are beautiful some are ugly. The color of your skin does not make you more attractive than anyone. Now let us say that you like white women that is your preference if somebody who isn't your preference has other qualities that you like you should still be willing to give that person a chance perhaps even fall in love with them. Its like I like light skin women but I think dark skin women are attractive too and I am open to dating a woman of a darker shade and I may or may not fall in love with that individual. If you like and only date white men because you think black men are ugly and you're black you have self hate. A guy may be like I only like light skin or mixed race women. He wont give a dark skin woman a chance, he insults them and wants nothing to do with them and he is black. That is self hate. Be open minded and willing to give every race and shade a chance. Close minded people are ignorant and judgmental. What is most important is not the physical but it is the inside. Beauty fades with age you can get into an accident etc then all you have is your personality. I can fall in love with somebody that isn't that physically attractive but his personality is alluring. You people need to get in that way of thinking!
Did we really need u to explain this? R people THAT stupid? In a way this sounds like HATERAID. WHAT!?

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