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Help! What's Up With Guests Who Want Take You Food Home?

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HotChef

Cuyahoga Falls, OH

#1 Nov 27, 2013
I am having people over for Thanksgiving which I love. I hate turkey and will not cook one so my guest know that they will be treated to honey baked ham, crown rib roast and an array of side dishes. So that is not the problem. The problem are people who are welcomed to eat all they want at my home but also who ask to take an extra plate or plates home. What is with that??? I don't mine if they are taking a plate to an invited guest who couldn't make it but I have 2 women and a man who do this every time they come over for a meal. First, I think if you are invited to diner and eat your full, that it is tacky and straight out ghetto to ask to take food home for another meal or for auntie Clara who I don't know and didn't invite. My husband and like to eat leftovers next day and besides I don't want cook the next day after TG day anyway. So how do I tell these guest who want to take plates home for extra meal, no without seeming selfish or cheap? All suggestions are welcome.
Cigar Face

United States

#2 Nov 27, 2013
If it bothers you that bad, Just fix all the plates and collect the empty dishes and escort everyone out and tell them you enjoyed their company and say goodby. No need to hurt anyone's feelings by being petty of a dish that you may not eat anyways. To me, i dont care how much food i give away cause ,when you give you receive!

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#3 Nov 27, 2013
HotChef wrote:
I am having people over for Thanksgiving which I love. I hate turkey and will not cook one so my guest know that they will be treated to honey baked ham, crown rib roast and an array of side dishes. So that is not the problem. The problem are people who are welcomed to eat all they want at my home but also who ask to take an extra plate or plates home. What is with that??? I don't mine if they are taking a plate to an invited guest who couldn't make it but I have 2 women and a man who do this every time they come over for a meal. First, I think if you are invited to diner and eat your full, that it is tacky and straight out ghetto to ask to take food home for another meal or for auntie Clara who I don't know and didn't invite. My husband and like to eat leftovers next day and besides I don't want cook the next day after TG day anyway. So how do I tell these guest who want to take plates home for extra meal, no without seeming selfish or cheap? All suggestions are welcome.
I think it is tacky also. I was always taught as a child whenever I am in someone's home to only ask them to go to the restroom if I had to use it or for a glass of water. We considered it rude go over someone's house asking for food. If that person wanted you to have something they would invite you to. I have this one friend who is very nice in every other way but whenever ever she is over and spots a pie or cake on my counter or if I open my frig and she sees something she ask me to give her some and asks to take some home. I usually will give her some, while thinking dang why not wait for me to ask you.

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#4 Nov 27, 2013
Cigar Face wrote:
If it bothers you that bad, Just fix all the plates and collect the empty dishes and escort everyone out and tell them you enjoyed their company and say goodby. No need to hurt anyone's feelings by being petty of a dish that you may not eat anyways. To me, i dont care how much food i give away cause ,when you give you receive!
That sound kind of cold and mechanic doesn't? Why call her petty when the other people are using good manners or following proper etiquette. Grown-azz people should know how to act at diners and parties.

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#5 Nov 27, 2013
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That sound kind of cold and mechanic doesn't? Why call her petty when the other people are NOT using good manners or following proper etiquette? Grown-azz people should know how to act at diners and parties.
Cigar Face

United States

#6 Nov 27, 2013
Capree wrote:
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That sound kind of cold and mechanic doesn't? Why call her petty when the other people are using good manners or following proper etiquette. Grown-azz people should know how to act at diners and parties.
Please,Never post to me again! I dont associate myself with losers. Goodbye!!!!!!!

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#7 Nov 27, 2013
Cigar Face wrote:
<quoted text>Please,Never post to me again! I dont associate myself with losers. Goodbye!!!!!!!
Then don't look in the mirror idiot. Sorry if I frightened you.

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#8 Nov 27, 2013
HotChef wrote:
I am having people over for Thanksgiving which I love. I hate turkey and will not cook one so my guest know that they will be treated to honey baked ham, crown rib roast and an array of side dishes. So that is not the problem. The problem are people who are welcomed to eat all they want at my home but also who ask to take an extra plate or plates home. What is with that??? I don't mine if they are taking a plate to an invited guest who couldn't make it but I have 2 women and a man who do this every time they come over for a meal. First, I think if you are invited to diner and eat your full, that it is tacky and straight out ghetto to ask to take food home for another meal or for auntie Clara who I don't know and didn't invite. My husband and like to eat leftovers next day and besides I don't want cook the next day after TG day anyway. So how do I tell these guest who want to take plates home for extra meal, no without seeming selfish or cheap? All suggestions are welcome.
I have women who want to come over to my house every Thanksgiving,but when I tell them no go plates that usually stops them in their tracks! I do not run a soup kitchen!
Laziness in a woman is a terrible,terrible,trait!

“Complete Your Dreams”

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Since: Dec 10

lansing michigan

#9 Nov 27, 2013
Wow, I am glad someone brought this up. I get that from some friends also though most of my guest who are black people don't ask and my white guests never ask, there are a few guest who always ask to take tons of food home with them. I don't like being put on the spot or saying no and hurting their feelings either so what should I do?
HotChef

Cuyahoga Falls, OH

#11 Nov 27, 2013
Cigar Face wrote:
If it bothers you that bad, Just fix all the plates and collect the empty dishes and escort everyone out and tell them you enjoyed their company and say goodby. No need to hurt anyone's feelings by being petty of a dish that you may not eat anyways. To me, i dont care how much food i give away cause ,when you give you receive!
How am I being petty? My husband and I pay well for high quality foods for our friends to have a nice dinner. Is it a crime for us to want enjoy few more meals out it later on?
HotChef

Cuyahoga Falls, OH

#12 Nov 27, 2013
Capree wrote:
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I think it is tacky also. I was always taught as a child whenever I am in someone's home to only ask them to go to the restroom if I had to use it or for a glass of water. We considered it rude go over someone's house asking for food. If that person wanted you to have something they would invite you to. I have this one friend who is very nice in every other way but whenever ever she is over and spots a pie or cake on my counter or if I open my frig and she sees something she ask me to give her some and asks to take some home. I usually will give her some, while thinking dang why not wait for me to ask you.
Thank you, I mean what do some people expect? I hate to even mention this but it is the same thing, year round with certain people. I enjoy being a hostess and making everyone welcome and treating them like family while they are in my home but I don't like people asking to take stuff home without me saying so in the first place.
HotChef

Cuyahoga Falls, OH

#13 Nov 27, 2013
dbiggs69 wrote:
<quoted text> I have women who want to come over to my house every Thanksgiving,but when I tell them no go plates that usually stops them in their tracks! I do not run a soup kitchen!
Laziness in a woman is a terrible,terrible,trait!
Yeah, laziness in anyone is a terrible trait. I wish I could put up a no take out sign.
Soul Hunter

Los Angeles, CA

#14 Nov 27, 2013
Just tell all your guest at the same time prior to eating there won't be any on the road dinners.

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#15 Nov 27, 2013
Aoli wrote:
Wow, I am glad someone brought this up. I get that from some friends also though most of my guest who are black people don't ask and my white guests never ask, there are a few guest who always ask to take tons of food home with them. I don't like being put on the spot or saying no and hurting their feelings either so what should I do?
Well I haven't gotten any suggestion yet either.
Cigar Face

United States

#16 Nov 27, 2013
HotChef wrote:
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How am I being petty? My husband and I pay well for high quality foods for our friends to have a nice dinner. Is it a crime for us to want enjoy few more meals out it later on?
You kinda misunderstood me a bit. When you give you recieve. I always feed people around the Holidays whithout worrying about who will take the last piece. Its your food do as you please. Some people are soo funny that they wont allow people at their house cause they may ask for food.

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lansing michigan

#17 Nov 27, 2013
Cigar Face wrote:
<quoted text>You kinda misunderstood me a bit. When you give you recieve. I always feed people around the Holidays whithout worrying about who will take the last piece. Its your food do as you please. Some people are soo funny that they wont allow people at their house cause they may ask for food.
I like to feed other people also around the holidays but like the OP said there is no use in taking advantage. I want people to eat as much as they want to over my house but by taking food to their homes for future meals and maybe depriving visitors that might drop in later or myself who may want to eat some more the following day are two different things.

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#18 Nov 27, 2013
Hell,I've seen people start fixin go plates when food hits the table!
lomaxx

Indianapolis, IN

#19 Nov 27, 2013
Wow are you really surprised about blacks being freeloaders? Even if they are relatives and friends? White people don't have this problem. Ok, now go ahead and hate on me.

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#20 Nov 27, 2013
lomaxx wrote:
Wow are you really surprised about blacks being freeloaders? Even if they are relatives and friends? White people don't have this problem. Ok, now go ahead and hate on me.
No one, at least not myself is going to hate on you because someone here has already that said that a few of her black dinner guests are the only ones who want to take extra food home with them but never the white guests. I have found this to be true also. It's a bad habit left over from when black families use come together with less expensive and everyone brought something nice and there would be tons of food left over. Not true today.

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#21 Nov 27, 2013
HotChef wrote:
<quoted text> Thank you, I mean what do some people expect? I hate to even mention this but it is the same thing, year round with certain people. I enjoy being a hostess and making everyone welcome and treating them like family while they are in my home but I don't like people asking to take stuff home without me saying so in the first place.
I hear you. I am a great cook and have my culinary degree so I love making high end cuisine so my friends know that if they are coming over our house that it's going to be like going to a Wolfgang Puck restaurant. LOL Expensive cuts of meats, fresh vegetable dishes and home made desserts NY cheese cakes, tortes etc.. I want everyone to enjoy themselves also but don't you dare try walking out with my half of my 50 dollar spiral ham! LOL

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