Why Do Cultured Black Women Date Out?

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#1595 Apr 28, 2013
London wrote:
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lol! Exactly Capree. You tell em!! As one poster just said, in truth, the remaining bm with bw don't really want those ladies..very few. Men ride the tide. If the majority of their friends etc are off doing other things (being with other men, different groups of women etc), they will want that too. Very few males don't ride the tide of what other males are doing. It just is what it is.
Thanks girl! You said that beautifully!

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#1596 Apr 28, 2013
BossinUp wrote:
<quoted text> Why do you cuss so often???
Any way clown, learn to read and comprehend. I said there are at least 1 million black men that are single in this country. I didn't say 1 million for every 1 black woman your poor reading scorned heffa. And a black woman only needs one man, so if a black woman can't find a man out of all the black men in this country, then it's her own damn fault.
And if you're not attracted to black men (cough), then why are you worried about whether or not black men want to get married or marry black women??? That's just plain stupid.
Like I said, Msnewnew said and anybody with a brain knows, YOU DO NOT CARE ABOUT THE WELL BEING OF BLACK WOMEN. Because if you did, then you would let black women live their lives as they see fit, not as you see fit. I have yet to see you create a thread discussing health for black women, prostitution, welfare, education, poverty etc. You act like bw's only goal in life is to date/marry. 99.999999% of all your posts have something to do with black men. Now how the hell can you expect us to believe that you're not attracted to black men when we're the only thing you log on to talk about??? Whenever I see your name, the first thing comes to mind is let me see what this looney tune is saying about black men now. Because I know you're not gonna be talking about anything else.
You know, I have noticed that most people who are obsessed with personal--sepecially iR relations--don't seem to be able to talk about anything else. And the more they promote these black man vs black woman threads, the DUMBER they tend to be. They tend to see things only through that narrow lens.
Even the rare person, like SBT, who seems to have cracked a book a few times in life, still can't seem to talk about anything else but Black men vs Black women. And their thoughts on that subject tends to be shallow and myopic.

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#1597 Apr 28, 2013
Capree wrote:
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Below is what you posted dummy and you can go back to your post and see it!
****The point is there are 5 million available black men for one black woman to choose from***** In case you don't know it, bw outnumber bm you twit!
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I have black female relatives and friends who are getting short changed! So I do care besides black men are making black women who foolishly hang on to them even though these black men don't care enough about them to marry them.
In case you have poor reading comprehension you twit, one black woman being you or any black woman who is reading my post. GEEZ YOU HAVE POOR READING SKILLS. So again, one black woman only needs one black man. If this one woman cannot find a black man out of the millions that exist, then something is wrong with her. PERIOD.

Bullshyt, there are far greater problems for black women other than dating and marriage. Yet you never speak on those issues. So don't give me that shyt that you are speaking on behalf of 'ADULTS' when you're no more enlighten than they are concerning men. As another poster told you, you're not being honest with these women about men, because you're trying to trick these women into believing all these other races of men are so great when they are just like black men. OH, AND ALL RACES HAVE MORE WOMEN THAN MEN. So if black women can't find men in her own race due to disproportionate numbers, then what the hell would make black women' chances better seeking relations with another race that already has it's own share of competition amongst women??? Explain this to me. MEN IN ALL RACES HAVE IT BETTER BECAUSE THERE ARE LESS MEN THAN WOMEN, THEREFORE WE ALL CAN PLAY THE FIELD MORE. And you can lie to these unsuspecting black women by telling them that white men and others don't play the field, but that clearly shows how uninformed you are or how much you truly do not care about black women.

Like I said before, discuss real issues with black women like health, crime, drugs, depression, building wealth, education etc. But the reason why you don't discuss these things is because you don't give a rats azz about black women in the first place. If you did, you wouldn't waste so much precious time complaining about black men like that's gonna improve anything for black women. These are merely your issues, and you use this forum as a place to vent your anger and frustration. Stop using this 'Im doing this for my sisters' crap to disguise your true intentions.

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#1598 Apr 28, 2013
Savant wrote:
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You know, I have noticed that most people who are obsessed with personal--sepecially iR relations--don't seem to be able to talk about anything else. And the more they promote these black man vs black woman threads, the DUMBER they tend to be. They tend to see things only through that narrow lens.
Even the rare person, like SBT, who seems to have cracked a book a few times in life, still can't seem to talk about anything else but Black men vs Black women. And their thoughts on that subject tends to be shallow and myopic.
SBT takes the cake. She will post Youtube videos, blogs, and even posted a link about a porn star who doesn't do movies with bm because she will lose her white fan base, just to prove a point to black men. These women are obsessed with this topic, but all of them claim to not be attracted to bm any longer. But you can't pay them to log on and discuss anything but bm. Otherwise, they simply won't log on. FYI Boundaries of Space is also SBT, which goes to show just how obsessed this woman is with black men. This Maceo dude really fcked her up bad. LOL She sees him everywhere, and wishes he would just talk to her. SMH PATHETIC. I've seen a few white women go crazy behind black men too, which is a testament to the power that black men have. It's also explains why so many white men are jealous of black men.

“Yes WE Can! Yes we Will!”

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Baltimore, Md.

#1599 Apr 29, 2013
BossinUp wrote:
<quoted text> In case you have poor reading comprehension you twit, one black woman being you or any black woman who is reading my post. GEEZ YOU HAVE POOR READING SKILLS. So again, one black woman only needs one black man. If this one woman cannot find a black man out of the millions that exist, then something is wrong with her. PERIOD.
Bullshyt, there are far greater problems for black women other than dating and marriage. Yet you never speak on those issues. So don't give me that shyt that you are speaking on behalf of 'ADULTS' when you're no more enlighten than they are concerning men. As another poster told you, you're not being honest with these women about men, because you're trying to trick these women into believing all these other races of men are so great when they are just like black men. OH, AND ALL RACES HAVE MORE WOMEN THAN MEN. So if black women can't find men in her own race due to disproportionate numbers, then what the hell would make black women' chances better seeking relations with another race that already has it's own share of competition amongst women??? Explain this to me. MEN IN ALL RACES HAVE IT BETTER BECAUSE THERE ARE LESS MEN THAN WOMEN, THEREFORE WE ALL CAN PLAY THE FIELD MORE. And you can lie to these unsuspecting black women by telling them that white men and others don't play the field, but that clearly shows how uninformed you are or how much you truly do not care about black women.
Like I said before, discuss real issues with black women like health, crime, drugs, depression, building wealth, education etc. But the reason why you don't discuss these things is because you don't give a rats azz about black women in the first place. If you did, you wouldn't waste so much precious time complaining about black men like that's gonna improve anything for black women. These are merely your issues, and you use this forum as a place to vent your anger and frustration. Stop using this 'Im doing this for my sisters' crap to disguise your true intentions.
You know, there are probably more Black men and women in PRISON than in IR marriages. But where are the threads about the prison industrial complex and the New Jim Crow? Where is the concerned about how this threatens the destruction of the Black family and community?
Once I tried to convinced a woman named Carol (before learning how Obtuse and mentally unbalanced she was) to at least take a look at some of the works of Angela Davis and others who had more insightuful perspectives (and knowledge) of the situation of Black women and Black people generally than to these uninformed Topix posters. Carol's response was that she felt no need to deal with Angela Davis' "playbook." Good lord! What simplemindedness.
Has anyone in Topix a clue?

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#1600 Apr 29, 2013
London wrote:
<quoted text> So I should base my perspective from men I haven't dealt with instead?
<quoted text> Which is why I said pages ago, IF you are honest with your wife at all times, regardless the situation and circumstance KUDOS to you. I simply said, I doubt many of us can say the same. Man or woman, married or not. Apparently you are some sort of saint. Bless you for that.
<quoted text> lol ! You are the one who started going off but yet I'm the one whose not intelligent??
<quoted text> You just don't know how funny this response is. YOu need to get yourself together. Compose yourself.
<quoted text> Well thanks for trying to show me the way.
I reject your way though, I choose to go my own way (for fear of one day sounding and acting like you).
Psst...honestly...you are in no danger of ever sounding like me...because unlike you...I don't have the issues that you are clearly dealing with...I know my dad...was raised by both he and my mom...and I'm not married/dating out...

So no need to justify the mindset and or behavior of a racists...not at all!

“Black Luv or Bust!”

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#1601 Apr 29, 2013
BossinUp wrote:
<quoted text> Why do you cuss so often???
Any way clown, learn to read and comprehend. I said there are at least 1 million black men that are single in this country. I didn't say 1 million for every 1 black woman your poor reading scorned heffa. And a black woman only needs one man, so if a black woman can't find a man out of all the black men in this country, then it's her own damn fault.
And if you're not attracted to black men (cough), then why are you worried about whether or not black men want to get married or marry black women??? That's just plain stupid.
Like I said, Msnewnew said and anybody with a brain knows, YOU DO NOT CARE ABOUT THE WELL BEING OF BLACK WOMEN. Because if you did, then you would let black women live their lives as they see fit, not as you see fit. I have yet to see you create a thread discussing health for black women, prostitution, welfare, education, poverty etc. You act like bw's only goal in life is to date/marry. 99.999999% of all your posts have something to do with black men. Now how the hell can you expect us to believe that you're not attracted to black men when we're the only thing you log on to talk about??? Whenever I see your name, the first thing comes to mind is let me see what this looney tune is saying about black men now. Because I know you're not gonna be talking about anything else.
Thank you...well stated indeed!

My wife is married to a black man...has only dated black men...loves,prefers and seeks to understand all that pertains to and impacts black men...and again...is co-raising three other young black men...our three sons together....

Ironically...she knows other black women...who that are educated,married and raising children with educated...family oriented black men...

She also knows plenty of non-black women...white women in particular...who are single,divorced and or never married...who are raising children all alone...and have some major issues with guess who...not black men...not Asian men...nor Hispanic men...but the race of men that they have left and struggled with...just to get some help raising their children and making ends meet!

"Or as she has been told from both black and non-black women who have been in relationships with non-black men...men are men...either they are good or they are sorry"

So as a result of my wife's reality...and her understanding of what it all means...you will never see her posting on Topix or any other online site...about how damn worthless,pointless and just plain sorry black men are...in general!

Now what's bizarre to me is the fact that while my wife is soooo involved with black men...me,our children,my father,my brother,my uncles,our neighbors,colleagues and associates...this Capree character types about black men far more than my wife ever does!

With my wife it's not even about race...it's about an individual man's character,perspective and personal character!

“Black Luv or Bust!”

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#1602 Apr 29, 2013
Black Woman Clowns Her Blind Husband On Divorce Court ( Worst Woman Ever )!

* http://youtu.be/U0ERFVvJu0s
London

Memphis, TN

#1603 Apr 29, 2013
Moorspeaks wrote:
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Psst...honestly...you are in no danger of ever sounding like me...because unlike you...I don't have the issues that you are clearly dealing with...I know my dad...was raised by both he and my mom...and I'm not married/dating out...
So no need to justify the mindset and or behavior of a racists...not at all!
I believe you are the biggest racist on the forum. You certainly are racist and hateful toward wm. You brought them up in our discussion for absolutely no reason even after I repeatedly told you to move beyond the race and simply deal with the relationship aspect. You could not do this. You coudln't see past your racism.

What's the point of knowing your dad if one gets to react to situations as you do??

“Black Luv or Bust!”

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#1604 Apr 30, 2013
London wrote:
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I believe you are the biggest racist on the forum. You certainly are racist and hateful toward wm. You brought them up in our discussion for absolutely no reason even after I repeatedly told you to move beyond the race and simply deal with the relationship aspect. You could not do this. You coudln't see past your racism.
What's the point of knowing your dad if one gets to react to situations as you do??
You're full of shyt!

Plain and simple...

I'm no racist...stupid...because a person is not into dating/marrying out and prefers their own kind...that does not make them a racist...you sound clueless as hell...stop being simple minded and brainwashed!

And I brought up wm because both the langauge/tone of the thread and you...yourself brought up white-non-black men...try to keep up okay!

Then...in typical fashion...you attempted to make big blind generalizations about black men out...even had the nerve to try to project your own personal issues and perspective on black men onto me....making all sorts of idiotic comments....even mentioned my relationship with my wife...which the thread is not specifically!

Now here you are making stupid comments about me knowing my father...based on what...the fact that I don't see the world as you do nor agree with your idiotic nonsense...lmbao!

Please...try that shyt on someone who might actually buy it!

“Black Luv or Bust!”

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#1605 Apr 30, 2013
London wrote:
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I believe you are the biggest racist on the forum. You certainly are racist and hateful toward wm. You brought them up in our discussion for absolutely no reason even after I repeatedly told you to move beyond the race and simply deal with the relationship aspect. You could not do this. You coudln't see past your racism.
What's the point of knowing your dad if one gets to react to situations as you do??
Pssst...I love how you are the one that is married to a non-black man who clearly has issues with black men...in general...that you go out of your way to not only justify but to defend....per your own comments....yet here you are claiming that I'm the one that's racist!

*I don't hate any particular group of people(but I do take issue with those who seek to discriminate and stigmatize me or my kind!)but I sure as hell don't blindly worship or make excuses for the racist ass mindset or behavior of non-blacks!

I'm not mixed...I'm a full blooded AA who loves,respects and cares about the survival and the forward movement of people of African Descent the world over...starting with America first and foremost...because I'm an AA!
London

Powell, OH

#1606 Apr 30, 2013
Moorspeaks wrote:
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You're full of shyt!
Plain and simple...
I'm no racist...stupid...because a person is not into dating/marrying out and prefers their own kind...that does not make them a racist...you sound clueless as hell...stop being simple minded and brainwashed!
And I brought up wm because both the langauge/tone of the thread and you...yourself brought up white-non-black men...try to keep up okay!
Then...in typical fashion...you attempted to make big blind generalizations about black men out...even had the nerve to try to project your own personal issues and perspective on black men onto me....making all sorts of idiotic comments....even mentioned my relationship with my wife...which the thread is not specifically!
Now here you are making stupid comments about me knowing my father...based on what...the fact that I don't see the world as you do nor agree with your idiotic nonsense...lmbao!
Please...try that shyt on someone who might actually buy it!
You are racist. You are more specifically racist against white men. You are also racist against ww if they don't like bm. Please pull the post where I mentioned wm. Go ahead and find it. You brought up wm out of the blue..lol!..because you are jealous of them.**giggles**
London

Powell, OH

#1607 Apr 30, 2013
Moorspeaks wrote:
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Pssst...I love how you are the one that is married to a non-black man who clearly has issues with black men...in general...that you go out of your way to not only justify but to defend....per your own comments....yet here you are claiming that I'm the one that's racist!
*I don't hate any particular group of people(but I do take issue with those who seek to discriminate and stigmatize me or my kind!)but I sure as hell don't blindly worship or make excuses for the racist ass mindset or behavior of non-blacks!
I'm not mixed...I'm a full blooded AA who loves,respects and cares about the survival and the forward movement of people of African Descent the world over...starting with America first and foremost...because I'm an AA!
Uh, I'm not married. But I wouldn't care how my husband felt about bm. That's not my business. Bm say all kinds of things about wm..I grew up with the hate. So **shrugs**..We all have things we don't like.

“Black Luv or Bust!”

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#1608 Apr 30, 2013
London wrote:
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You are racist. You are more specifically racist against white men. You are also racist against ww if they don't like bm. Please pull the post where I mentioned wm. Go ahead and find it. You brought up wm out of the blue..lol!..because you are jealous of them.**giggles**
I'm not wasting my time finding shyt...I know what you typed!

And next...no I'm not at racist...again...I simply do not blindly worship non-black men...not not a racist not at all...but you are full of shyt!

You're biased for white men...in reality I treat all men the same...because in reality "men are men"...they're either good or bad individuals...I either respect you for the way that you carry yourself or I don't...white men get no fcking pass here...what the hell are you smoking!

If white men carry themselves like racist assholes...who play the whole white supremacist game...I call their asses on it!

Just as I should...now by the same token...I take each person as they come...even black folks!

So you can save that silly shyt...I'm not playing that game!

You can stick your head up some non-black guys ass all you want...It is what it is...if your man has personal issues with and need to marginalize and demonize all black men...he's a punk ass racist coward!

Plain and simple!

“Black Luv or Bust!”

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#1609 Apr 30, 2013
London wrote:
<quoted text> Uh, I'm not married. But I wouldn't care how my husband felt about bm. That's not my business. Bm say all kinds of things about wm..I grew up with the hate. So **shrugs**..We all have things we don't like.
So you wouldn't care if your husband was a blatant racist...who has issues with a whole race of men...wow..and you want to be taken seriously by others here...on a black forum...damn you are a genius...aren't you?

Of course you wouldn't care what your racist ass husband thought of black men....because you have personal issues with black men as well...clearly this is the case!

And now...all of a sudden...you grew up with what hate...didn't you claim earlier to not know black men that well...now you grew up with black men...ummm....wait...which is it?

“Black Luv or Bust!”

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#1610 Apr 30, 2013
London wrote:
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You are racist. You are more specifically racist against white men. You are also racist against ww if they don't like bm. Please pull the post where I mentioned wm. Go ahead and find it. You brought up wm out of the blue..lol!..because you are jealous of them.**giggles**
Lmbao...and I'm also racist against white women...if they don't like black men...wow...really...that's funny as hell!

it's very clear...that you have no clue as to whom you are typing...none!

Because I'm known for not giving a rats ass what white women think,want or need...that's not my concern...because I'm married to a black woman and have no need nor desire to be married otherwise!

Sorry sweetie pie...but I don't value white women in that way...never have and probably never will!

Now if I saw a white woman in danger...yeah...I'd probably help her...but hey that same could would be the case with any woman of any race...it has nothing to do with race...but no I don't value ww as if they are thee most precious thing on the planet...sorry...take another roll of the dice!
London

Powell, OH

#1611 Apr 30, 2013
Moorspeaks wrote:
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Plain and simple!
EXACTLY...Plain and simple! is exactly what I'm about to give you. I'm about to mop the floor (with your azz).

INTRODUCTION POST IN TO THIS "CONVERSATION" (Very nice and sweet as I truly am in real life).
London wrote:
<quoted text>Pretty much agree with your post. However, we all do things to stroke the egos of another. Especially the ego of someone we like or love. If a woman is with another race of man, and that man needs assurances that her same race is no threat to him, she will say what he needs to hear because that's who she's with. That's who her loyalty etc belongs to.
It's no different than what bm have done to assure there non bw that bw are no threat. It's horrible advice to tell her to make someone she's with say there are good bm. It's also very unrealistic. Live and let live.
London

Powell, OH

#1612 Apr 30, 2013
Moorspeaks wrote:
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Plain and simple!
Your response to my original post. CAPS start..uh, huh--Here he goes, your getting started.
Moorspeaks wrote:
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Again...wrong....wrong thinking,mentality and actions put into play....live on a higher level...and stop being this low vibration minded person!
Sorry but no...again...stop pandering to your man's weak insecurities and fears...instead...in thee effort to be a good woman to him...a good person to him...one that is in fact in his best interest to be with...
BECAUSE YOU MAKE HIM A BETTER INDIVIDUAL,A BETTER MAN AND AN OVERALL BETTER HUMAN BEING!
Instead of playing to his need to believe that all black men are no good...that he is thee only hope and salvation for you as a woman...which shows a clear lack of any real respect or consideration for you....your worth and your impact in his life...and in your relationship!
Why would you or any woman want to be with such a man...who thinks so lowly of you!
No be a better woman to him....a better person in general and demand that he come to terms with his own personal issues...as a man...in a adult relationship!
Make him walk the walk not just talk the talk....make him be a better man...who is confident and secure in both his own skin and the relationship...
BECAUSE YOU DESERVE BETTER!
*And no...my wife doesn't patronize me...I'm a grown ass man...with plenty of confidence and self worth...if I were married out...I'd be no less...I know my worth and what I bring to the table...I fully understand know what I do for her/why she values me...and I refuse to be treated like a charity case...how insulting!
London

Powell, OH

#1613 Apr 30, 2013
Moorspeaks wrote:
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Plain and simple!
My response to your 2nd post..still being reasonable and trying to get you to understand how absurd you are.
London wrote:
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I still don't see your point. If I'm with a non bm and he wants assurances that my same race is no threat to him, my loyalty lies with him and making him feel safe and secure in that respect. We are human beings, not perfect, and all of us need assurances sometime. I would appreciate his honesty. Many bw don't even have a viable relationship with their dad anyway so I don't know how you think him expressing himself would somehow reflect on how he feels about the bw??? I don't know what you would expect a woman to say to her man in a case such as this which wouldn't lead to him being more insecure than secure, other than alleviating any concerns the different race has over her same race (since it's believed same race shares more of a bond than different race). It doesn't have to be true as far as bm being bad..but if it helps the man feel better, she's doing what she should do. Yeah, she could spin it in a better way, but at the end of day, she still needs to tell him what he needs to hear to feel secure.
Who would risk their relationship over such a thing? Not many. Again, all you have to do is use the model bm use..it's commonsense.
London

Powell, OH

#1614 Apr 30, 2013
Moorspeaks wrote:
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*When I dated women from other cultures...that is non-AAW...I didn't attempt to tear down the men of their culture...nor convince these young ladies that I was their only hope of being happy and loved by a good man!
I didn't need to...why?...because I had confidence in myself...I didn't need to do that!
Men who do....have issues overall...it has nothing to do with the realities(good or bad)of black men...often this is why they are dating out...because among their own peers...and in regards to the women of heir own group..they actually feel inadequate...and believe that black women will be happy with anything...again...my wife does not think this way...nor has she ever...which is why I treat her like a Queen!
*The last guy that she dated before me...is the President of a black owned bank...the guy before him is a relatively famous actor..who's had a couple television series and has appeared in several other television series...both very nice guys...both married with children now...both to black women!
London wrote:
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Well that was awfully nice of you not to place those women in funny positions like that but you are one man, not many. Many men have insecurities when dating another race of woman, just like many women have insecurities. There are bm who say things about bw in order to get their non bw to trust them and not feel like bw are a threat to them and there are bw who must do the same in order to take something so insignificant as race off the table and continue the relationship. This is simply the real world and there are some men who simply don't like bm and are racist toward them just like there are some women who simply don't like bw and are racist toward them. No one is going to risk their relationship over trivial matters like that. That's just reality.
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