So dark skinned bllack women are supp...

So dark skinned bllack women are supposed to feel undesirable and hopeless?

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#1 Feb 5, 2012
As a dark skinned African American, I'm getting more than a little tired of this light skinned vs dark skinned bs and the immense effort so many people seem to put into making darker skinned black women feel like sh*t.

I thought I was over my color complex, but after starting a new job around predominantly light skinned, white skinned, and European featured girls, I'm learning there's still a bit of self doubt there. I hate that and I'm trying to work on it. I think dark skin is so gorgeous. I love the way it glows. I really do, but I can't help but feel a little bad about myself when features that are so far from mine are not only being uplifted and praised, but my features are getting sh*tted on for not being that way. Even though I get complimented all the time, I still can’t help but feel like there are so many guys who won’t be attracted to me or even give my looks a chance because of the emphasis that gets placed on Eurocentric beauty. "Everybody has their preferences" yeah yeah yeah, the word 'preference' among the words 'hater' and 'troll' are so overused. There's nothing wrong with having a preference, but when you try to make someone feel like they are at a personal disadvantage for not living up to your preference; that is wrong. There's a difference between simply preferring something and trying to make it seem like someone is of low value because they don't possess what you prefer. So please, save your breath with that "I just have my preferences" bullsh*t if you know that deep down, you are mildly discriminating.

What is your opinion on this topic? Any kind, encouraging words? Dark skinned black women, what is your personal experience with this?

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#2 Feb 5, 2012
Just so you all know, I can spell b-l-a-c-k lol. I rushed typing.

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#4 Feb 5, 2012
Please Flush wrote:
You can get anything if you have the right attitude.
:)
and according to you, what would be the right attitude?

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#5 Feb 5, 2012
Just Be you! & don't mind the blind of bliss of ignorance!

having a utmost respect in yourself and carry yourself with enough dignity as a beautiful black woman with pride and confidence.

People who are open minded like you would see you for who you're, doesn't matter what race or creed and nationality.

And the attitude you carry is positive and grounded and true to who you're which gets you by as being yourself that is what matters.

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#7 Feb 5, 2012
Miss_Cocoa wrote:
As a dark skinned African American, I'm getting more than a little tired of this light skinned vs dark skinned bs and the immense effort so many people seem to put into making darker skinned black women feel like sh*t.
I thought I was over my color complex, but after starting a new job around predominantly light skinned, white skinned, and European featured girls, I'm learning there's still a bit of self doubt there. I hate that and I'm trying to work on it. I think dark skin is so gorgeous. I love the way it glows. I really do, but I can't help but feel a little bad about myself when features that are so far from mine are not only being uplifted and praised, but my features are getting sh*tted on for not being that way. Even though I get complimented all the time, I still can’t help but feel like there are so many guys who won’t be attracted to me or even give my looks a chance because of the emphasis that gets placed on Eurocentric beauty. "Everybody has their preferences" yeah yeah yeah, the word 'preference' among the words 'hater' and 'troll' are so overused. There's nothing wrong with having a preference, but when you try to make someone feel like they are at a personal disadvantage for not living up to your preference; that is wrong. There's a difference between simply preferring something and trying to make it seem like someone is of low value because they don't possess what you prefer. So please, save your breath with that "I just have my preferences" bullsh*t if you know that deep down, you are mildly discriminating.
What is your opinion on this topic? Any kind, encouraging words? Dark skinned black women, what is your personal experience with this?
You harbor self doubt. And, guess what? THEY SMELL IT!

Your hang ups with your shade, my sista, is far more your hang up than it is theirs.

Once you recon your own issues about complexion, you'll be able to maneuver around THEM and OVER them the way you should, but not a moment before.

Settle yourself!

;{)

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#9 Feb 5, 2012
Please Flush wrote:
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If you have a pleasant personality, a nice smile, and a genuine feeling for others; they will shine through. Most people find these things hard to resist. Your skin color has little to do with it.
You must be white...

...or light skinned.

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#10 Feb 5, 2012
Miss_Cocoa wrote:
http://fuckyeahdarkgirls.tumbl r.com/
Beautiful.
That was nice.

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#11 Feb 5, 2012
-Yes they expect us to crawl up into a ball and die for being born Dark Skinned. Won't happen here ! As you said OP people can have preferences. I have mine but I won't take personal swipes as to why that person will never fit my preference. As StonedLove keeps bringing up I don't like overly huge features that eat up a persons face. If a guy personally approached me who looked that type I wouldn't pick him apart piece by piece on why he isn't what I prefer.

-I have been told to my face oh you're cute but I'm just not into Darkskin girls. Or my favorite line is I don't usually talk to darkskin girls but I'm willing to make an exception for you. Like he's doing me a favor. Like wow really it's funnier when it comes from a darkskin man.

-That's cool I'm not going to force feed myself to you. Some people act as if you don't fit their preference you shouldn't even exist or breath. They put emphasis onto themselves as if their type is thee type. If you don't agree with them then theirs something wrong with you. I love my Tone it's hard to detect flaws when I'm 50 I'll be looking more like 30. The perks of being Dark.

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#12 Feb 5, 2012
JustReal63, lol!@ "they expect us to crawl up into a ball and die from being born dark skinned"

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#14 Feb 5, 2012
who said dark skin women have to feel undesirable? it's not about your skin color. if you look good, you look good. if you don't, you don't.

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JustReal63 wrote:
-Yes they expect us to crawl up into a ball and die for being born Dark Skinned. Won't happen here ! As you said OP people can have preferences. I have mine but I won't take personal swipes as to why that person will never fit my preference. As StonedLove keeps bringing up I don't like overly huge features that eat up a persons face. If a guy personally approached me who looked that type I wouldn't pick him apart piece by piece on why he isn't what I prefer.
-I have been told to my face oh you're cute but I'm just not into Darkskin girls. Or my favorite line is I don't usually talk to darkskin girls but I'm willing to make an exception for you. Like he's doing me a favor. Like wow really it's funnier when it comes from a darkskin man.
-That's cool I'm not going to force feed myself to you. Some people act as if you don't fit their preference you shouldn't even exist or breath. They put emphasis onto themselves as if their type is thee type. If you don't agree with them then theirs something wrong with you. I love my Tone it's hard to detect flaws when I'm 50 I'll be looking more like 30. The perks of being Dark.
There's nothing wrong with preferences, but, then you have to ask WHY do some uphold certain preferences. There is something DREADFULLY twisted when someone who is Black, tells a member of the opposite sex who is Black, that they're not suitable because they're Black...or darker in complexion!

Like photoshop...something's wrong with that picture!

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#16 Feb 5, 2012
Logic_c wrote:
who said dark skin women have to feel undesirable? it's not about your skin color. if you look good, you look good. if you don't, you don't.
You don't.

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#17 Feb 5, 2012
mayonnaise wrote:
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You don't.
I wonder what you look like.

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#18 Feb 5, 2012
vampiYAH stabB wrote:
<quoted text>There's nothing wrong with preferences, but, then you have to ask WHY do some uphold certain preferences. There is something DREADFULLY twisted when someone who is Black, tells a member of the opposite sex who is Black, that they're not suitable because they're Black...or darker in complexion!
Like photoshop...something's wrong with that picture!
-Who knows maybe a dark skin person beat them up when they were a child. I mean I don't want to sit there and play their psychologist. That's why I just tell them to have a wonderful day and move along. No sweat off my back it's just on to the next one!
At the end of the day I'm just one person I'm not going to jump through hoops to reassure this person to give me a chance.
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#19 Sep 15, 2012
BLAME WHITE SUPREMACY FOR SUCH STUPIDITY....

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#20 Sep 15, 2012
JustReal63 wrote:
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-Who knows maybe a dark skin person beat them up when they were a child. I mean I don't want to sit there and play their psychologist. That's why I just tell them to have a wonderful day and move along. No sweat off my back it's just on to the next one!
At the end of the day I'm just one person I'm not going to jump through hoops to reassure this person to give me a chance.
That too is also another way of going about it...

...let folk think what they wanna think...and just keep it movin'.

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#21 Sep 15, 2012
Those chocolate girls were perfection

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#22 Sep 15, 2012
BlkSelenaGomez wrote:
Those chocolate girls were perfection
"WHERE"?

:{)

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#23 Sep 15, 2012
*WERE?*

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