“Expecting!”

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#26 Oct 25, 2013
Cogito2 wrote:
Black women should freely apply their metrics however and with whomever they please; I fully support their maximizing their educational opportunities. Because for me personally, such a woman who thinks me beneath HER romantic standards because of some stenciled letters on a piece of paper given to her by a four year brick and mortar institution, despite my demonstrable intelligence is only giving testimony to her intellectual myopia and her lack of understanding of how the world works.
I myself have a college degree but I have never used it. I had some silly notion of being a broadcast journalist before reality started slapping me around. Besides, 99% of your knowledge and accrued wisdom is acquired after you leave college. University is largely a THEORETICAL WORLD, not the REAL WORLD. I however, do understand that (Black) women beyond the job market are SOMEWHAT limited in their wealth creation options, so it's an important metric for them.
HOWEVER, what I don't like is when black women start crying, complaining, cajoling and trying to guilt manipulate black men regarding our metrics....be they physical, age related, financially etc.. This is when black female hypocrisy kicks in. Suddenly after judging us by their rigid, non compromising standards, we start to hear the invocation of words like "TRADITION", "THAT'S WHAT A MAN IS SUPPOSED TO DO", and my favorite "WHITE MEN DO IT FOR THEIR WOMEN."
The implicit suggestion of all of this is that black women are justified and having their individual metrics to weed out the bad from the good, but black men must submit to their traditional roles and parallel the behavior of white men, lest we not be thought of as men. I say that men should have and maintain their metrics and standards just as sisters should; and not feel an obligation, simply because we are men, to relax our metrics in the interest of the greater good, while they maintain theirs in their personal self interest.
This works for me. What irks me is when men whine about the fact that there ARE standards.

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#27 Oct 25, 2013
GothicRose wrote:
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This works for me. What irks me is when men whine about the fact that there ARE standards.
I say let each of us meet our individual burden of proof and not lean upon nor declare the right to co-op our gender counterpart's existence in the name of gender entitlement, tradition etc.. Women can and should have all of the standards that their pretty little hearts desire, but they should not ask for a discount or to be graded on the curb when the light is shone upon them and attempt to declare eminent domain on the resources and love of black men in the interest of our culture or the black community.
Cedric

Miami, FL

#29 Oct 25, 2013
Jesuspeaceandlove wrote:
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It's because these people hate us african american women regardless. They will continue to inform everyone of their negative preconceived notions of us.
Its because y'all masculine shebeasts never pick your battles wisely! You claim blackmen Arndt on your level,but you have a black dad! Self contradicting baldheaded stupid heffas. Lol! Dam sham your own men would let a crakkka kill you and laugh at you as you beg for your miserable self centered existence. Yes you caused this with all that feminism crap. Where were the white feminist like gloria alread when the racist were calling mrs Obama a dam savage? Yall some stupid crack smoking useless morons.
Cyrus V

Manassas, VA

#30 Oct 25, 2013
Cedric wrote:
<quoted text>Its because y'all masculine shebeasts never pick your battles wisely! You claim blackmen Arndt on your level,but you have a black dad! Self contradicting baldheaded stupid heffas. Lol! Dam sham your own men would let a crakkka kill you and laugh at you as you beg for your miserable self centered existence. Yes you caused this with all that feminism crap. Where were the white feminist like gloria alread when the racist were calling mrs Obama a dam savage? Yall some stupid crack smoking useless morons.
Kill yourself before you reproduce, animal. And I sincerely mean it.

“Perfection is impossible”

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But excellence is close enough

#32 Oct 25, 2013
Cedric wrote:
<quoted text>Its because y'all masculine shebeasts never pick your battles wisely! You claim blackmen Arndt on your level,but you have a black dad! Self contradicting baldheaded stupid heffas. Lol! Dam sham your own men would let a crakkka kill you and laugh at you as you beg for your miserable self centered existence. Yes you caused this with all that feminism crap. Where were the white feminist like gloria alread when the racist were calling mrs Obama a dam savage? Yall some stupid crack smoking useless morons.
Exhibit A.
Cedric

Miami, FL

#33 Oct 25, 2013
Jesuspeaceandlove wrote:
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Exhibit A.
Your that Phoenix creep? Same town same phrases same dictionary babbling words. I told your weird azz if you keep stalking me i will expose you but you didn't listen.

“Perfection is impossible”

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But excellence is close enough

#35 Oct 25, 2013
Cedric wrote:
<quoted text>Your that Phoenix creep? Same town same phrases same dictionary babbling words. I told your weird azz if you keep stalking me i will expose you but you didn't listen.
I'm not Phoenix. And no one is stalking you, you replied to me.
Cedric

Miami, FL

#36 Oct 25, 2013
Jesuspeaceandlove wrote:
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I'm not Phoenix. And no one is stalking you, you replied to me.
Who dat in that picture! That's you??
Bystander

Fremont, CA

#37 Oct 25, 2013
Cedric wrote:
<quoted text>Your that Phoenix creep? Same town same phrases same dictionary babbling words. I told your weird azz if you keep stalking me i will expose you but you didn't listen.
Not before i expose you as the poster Blacks are worthless/Bunnywen.You old queen.

“Perfection is impossible”

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Since: May 13

But excellence is close enough

#38 Oct 25, 2013
Cedric wrote:
<quoted text>Who dat in that picture! That's you??
No, that's not me.
Cedric

Miami, FL

#41 Oct 25, 2013
Jesuspeaceandlove wrote:
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No, that's not me.
You act like a real genuine blackgirl. I wont be mean to you no mo. Im sorry for bashing you??

“Expecting!”

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#42 Oct 25, 2013
FACT wrote:
Education isn't what this bashing bm is about. Where would we be without blue collar workers and everybody had q degree.
IT'S ALL ABOUT GUILT TRIPPING AAM FOR NOT MEETING UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS.
Social inhibition
Social inhibition is a conscious or subconscious constraint by a person of behaviour of a social nature. The constraint may be in relation to behavior, appearance, or a subject matter for discussion, besides other matters. There are a number of reasons for social inhibitions, including that the person fears that the activity, appearance or discussion will meet with social disapproval.
The handlers and abusers will be sure to heap lots of guilt--whether deserved or not onto the poor mind-controlled victim. It is natural for a person to focus on himself--after all, if a person doesn’t think for himself who will? Often a person accepts their strengths, but focuses on their weaknesses hoping that that weakness will somehow be reduced by the focus that is placed upon it.
The programmers know how to take advantage of that. They set impossible standards of perfection, and then demean the victim because they have failed to live up to the impossible standard of perfection. Black and white thinking develops in the slave’s mind. The programmers will not allow the victim to display natural feelings of anger, sadness or doubt. To do so means that one is a failure and weak. Of course they are natural feelings, so the slave has to do a great deal of repression and self-incrimination for having these natural feelings. The slave learns to turn his or her anger inward. Many of the male slaves end up committing suicide. They beat themselves up with subconscious & conscious guilt. Anything and everything wrong or bad in the slave’s life is blamed upon him.
A college education is an unrealistic expectation? Negro, please.

You are some low expectation having turkeys on here. SMH

“Perfection is impossible”

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Since: May 13

But excellence is close enough

#43 Oct 25, 2013
Cedric wrote:
<quoted text>You act like a real genuine blackgirl. I wont be mean to you no mo. Im sorry for bashing you??
Thank you, and It' okay.:)
Spotted Boy

Miami, FL

#44 Oct 25, 2013
GothicRose wrote:
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A college education is an unrealistic expectation? Negro, please.
You are some low expectation having turkeys on here. SMH
You love women?

“Expecting!”

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#45 Oct 25, 2013
Spotted Boy wrote:
<quoted text>You love women?
As a matter of fact, I do.

And I love men.

Where are you going with this?
Spotted Boy

Miami, FL

#49 Oct 26, 2013
GothicRose wrote:
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As a matter of fact, I do.
And I love men.
Where are you going with this?
I once heard that most sheboons are gay as a wood pecker's pecker.

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#50 Oct 26, 2013
A college degree should not be the objective of every black man. There are many areas and pockets of specialized knowledge that are pathways to financial security and the amassing of wealth. In fact, I would argue that a college education can be a hindrance to identifying some of life's defining opportunities outside of the "programmed" box.

I most certainly am not anti-education but it can, at times, obfuscate reality when it comes to the constantly evolving and morphing world that we live in where new opportunities are born daily as we progress along the evolutionary continuum. At some point EDUCATION crosses the line and becomes INDOCTRINATION, inducing fear and paralysis about anything not taught between the brick and mortar walls of some institution.

We live in a world of IDEAS and we should not allow ourselves to be reduced to humandroids that are but mere functionaries in the job market for fifty years and then die. Do, not surrender your power to self educate or to RE-EDUCATE yourself to some accredited institution. And if your are a man, any woman who can not see your potential, share your dream, share the risk of uncertainty; she is raising her hand and identifying herself as NOT THE ONE FOR YOU.

Fortunate is reserved for the Bold!

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#51 Oct 26, 2013
Some may interpret this as sexist on my part, but I have never viewed my path to success as a man, as being one that is parallel to that of a woman's; so why would I allow myself to be judged by her standards? I have no problem with her having standards that she values and esteems in a man, but my possessing any of these standards or my happening to fit her specific profile is completely ancillary and apart from my core purpose and motivation for what I do or who I am.

Just as she has her standards for men, I have mine for her; but mine centers around those intangibles that serves as the basic building blocks of sustaining bonds: Femininity, Affability, Masculine respect, Human Empathy, Intellectual curiosity, ability to acknowledge fallibility etc.. And though I acknowledge the importance of financial stability in a relationship, she need not concern herself with that if she does not demonstrably possess those aforementioned intangibles.

However, the one distinction between our respective standards is that should she be absent of those requisites, I would not leverage it against her in an attempt to lay waste to her dignity, femininity or humanity as some women do with men when they don't possess formal education and it's corollary financial success. A woman may reject my petition for her affections on any grounds she so desires, but it should not emasculating or dehumanizing.

Our gender roles and respective duties in our contemporary social paradigm may be distinct, but our need for basic HUMAN RESPECT and DIGNITY is not.

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East Coast

#52 Oct 26, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
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My goodness, you guys are SO bitter!
Black women who say that want Black men who are more educated and therefore more stable in life. I don't want to have kids who will be raised in the cesspool that is the American ghetto, and I don't want to struggle in poverty so much. Having an education is just more security in life. Black women feel that if they are getting an education, then Black men should too.
I've never heard of any Black female who gets a degree and avoids all Black men and only wants a White guy, and I went to college, trust me, most Black females in college want Black or other types of "ethnic" men.
You do know that education doesn't always equal more money right? In fact, Black men are earning MORE compared to Black women even with the so-called educational gap.

I personally know Black men who work as plumbers and Electricians pulling in high 80K range.

I'm not saying Education isn't important, but I would rather go for a trade before I would get a degree in criminal justice or psychology.

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#53 Oct 26, 2013
Cedric wrote:
<quoted text>I hate blackwomen extremely bad!
Self hate for your race will destroy you.

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