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Should Your Best Friend/Friend Tell Her Husband Your Business?

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#1 Oct 24, 2011
I have a friend who believes because she is married. She is obligated, to share your personal business with her husband. Including, the intimate stuff. And that makes me cringe!

We've been going back and forth with this for years. She thinks it's funny and i do not!

Like, why are your female friends sexual encounters HIS BUSINESS???

And why would you want to give your husband those types of visuals of your bestfriends/girlfriends?

Where's the loyalty???

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#2 Oct 24, 2011
The men start looking at you strange/different.

Acting very uncomfortable. lol!

I've never felt comfortable disclosing my girlfriend's business to my boyfriend.

And i wouldn't disclose my friend's private details to my husband.(If i had one)
LMAO

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#3 Oct 24, 2011
MDJ2011 wrote:
I have a friend who believes because she is married. She is obligated, to share your personal business with her husband. Including, the intimate stuff. And that makes me cringe!
We've been going back and forth with this for years. She thinks it's funny and i do not!
Like, why are your female friends sexual encounters HIS BUSINESS???
And why would you want to give your husband those types of visuals of your bestfriends/girlfriends?
Where's the loyalty???
Why is your brain so small that you can't realize that her husband is her best friend, best listener and they keep no secrets. Nothing you tell a married couple should be a secret to either of them. You aint nobody, thats her husband. Are you gay hooker?
Roller blader

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#4 Oct 24, 2011
Sexual business should be kept between the two loves and that is all. It's nobody's business what people do behind closed doors.

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#5 Oct 24, 2011
LMAO wrote:
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Why is your brain so small that you can't realize that her husband is her best friend, best listener and they keep no secrets. Nothing you tell a married couple should be a secret to either of them. You aint nobody, thats her husband. Are you gay hooker?
How do you know they are best friends? Do you know them? What if he's cheated because of her big azz mouth? Because she's revealed her friends intimate details of her girlfriend's skills in the bedroom, making him curious.

Married or not.......i would not tell my boyfriend or my husband what my girlfriends do in the privacy of their bedroom. Girl talk should remain between the girls. Married or not..........

And then when those dumb women get on these reality shows and judge shows. Oh, he left me for my best friend or my sister.

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#6 Oct 24, 2011
MDJ2011 wrote:
I have a friend who believes because she is married. She is obligated, to share your personal business with her husband. Including, the intimate stuff. And that makes me cringe!
We've been going back and forth with this for years. She thinks it's funny and i do not!
Like, why are your female friends sexual encounters HIS BUSINESS???
And why would you want to give your husband those types of visuals of your bestfriends/girlfriends?
Where's the loyalty???
There is NONE. WELL, none that would sware her to secrecy in regards to what you tell her.

You may have to start catergorizing your friends. Begin to seperate and make distinctions between those you may devulge CERTAIN types of info, from the others.

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#7 Oct 24, 2011
LMAO wrote:
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Why is your brain so small that you can't realize that her husband is her best friend, best listener and they keep no secrets. Nothing you tell a married couple should be a secret to either of them. You aint nobody, thats her husband. Are you gay hooker?
MDJ's girlfriend has an obligation to her husband, and I'm the last person on earth that would EVER dispute THAT. HOWEVER, her girlfriend also has an obligation as a friend TOO.

MDJ's personal business has absolutely nothing to do with how she administers ANY of her wifely obligations, so, it isn't necessary that the 2 should never cross.

Just my opinion.

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#8 Oct 24, 2011
vampiYAH stabB wrote:
<quoted text>There is NONE. WELL, none that would sware her to secrecy in regards to what you tell her.
You may have to start catergorizing your friends. Begin to seperate and make distinctions between those you may devulge CERTAIN types of info, from the others.
I hold little conversation wit her nothing major. Because i know how she is......

It's like a joke to her......i'm not sure if she's lauging out of nervousness or because she really finds it funny.

But i have an issue with her and her mouth. She tells her husband and her co-workers everrrrything about others.

Some things should remain private.

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#9 Oct 24, 2011
vampiYAH stabB wrote:
<quoted text>MDJ's girlfriend has an obligation to her husband, and I'm the last person on earth that would EVER dispute THAT. HOWEVER, her girlfriend also has an obligation as a friend TOO.
MDJ's personal business has absolutely nothing to do with how she administers ANY of her wifely obligations, so, it isn't necessary that the 2 should never cross.
Just my opinion.
Sorry StabB, i wasn't clear. This is a long story i'm making short. It's a conversation that me and my friends discuss. And i was interested in different opinions. Because my friends think i'm too serious. And i over-analyze and overreact.

It's not necessarily about me. It's about her single girlfriends and married girlfriends. Where we just think she talks too damn much.

And why would she want to disclose those type of details to her husband.

How would she like if her girlfriends let some of her skeletons out of the closet.

I guess it's too each his own. But if you are my friend.

Your bedroom behaviour remains between us girls.
LMAO

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#10 Oct 24, 2011
MDJ2011 wrote:
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How do you know they are best friends? Do you know them? What if he's cheated because of her big azz mouth? Because she's revealed her friends intimate details of her girlfriend's skills in the bedroom, making him curious.
Married or not.......i would not tell my boyfriend or my husband what my girlfriends do in the privacy of their bedroom. Girl talk should remain between the girls. Married or not..........
And then when those dumb women get on these reality shows and judge shows. Oh, he left me for my best friend or my sister.
You are a hooka. Hookas keeps secrets. She is married, her hooking days are over. You are the one with the big mouth for telling her in the first place. Keep you fat azz mouth shut and you wouldn't have this problem hooka. Whats up on some head?

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#11 Oct 24, 2011
Maybe because i've never been married. I don't understand.

ooof! Still don't think i could do it.

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#12 Oct 24, 2011
MDJ2011 wrote:
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I hold little conversation wit her nothing major. Because i know how she is......
It's like a joke to her......i'm not sure if she's lauging out of nervousness or because she really finds it funny.
But i have an issue with her and her mouth. She tells her husband and her co-workers everrrrything about others.
Some things should remain private.
I agree with you, MDJ, totally! And, the fact she has this tendency to disclose your secrets with co-workers shows an indiputable lack of respect for you. Telling co-workers your business puts a whole another spin on things.

As if telling her husband things wasn't bad enough...
LMAO

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#13 Oct 24, 2011
MDJ2011 wrote:
Maybe because i've never been married. I don't understand.
ooof! Still don't think i could do it.
You a bw...dam...don't you know by now that you can't trust bw! They tell you everyday on reality tv!

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#14 Oct 24, 2011
MDJ2011 wrote:
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Sorry StabB, i wasn't clear. This is a long story i'm making short. It's a conversation that me and my friends discuss. And i was interested in different opinions. Because my friends think i'm too serious. And i over-analyze and overreact.
It's not necessarily about me. It's about her single girlfriends and married girlfriends. Where we just think she talks too damn much.
And why would she want to disclose those type of details to her husband.
How would she like if her girlfriends let some of her skeletons out of the closet.
I guess it's too each his own. But if you are my friend.
Your bedroom behaviour remains between us girls.
Look, this b!tch is a world class blabber mouth...

...CUT HER OFF...PRONTO!

I've found that people like this tell your business and don't even have enough integrity to tell the truth. They fcuk around & be tellin' THEIR version of sh!T !

You don't need that, MDJ!

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#15 Oct 24, 2011
LMAO wrote:
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You are a hooka. Hookas keeps secrets. She is married, her hooking days are over. You are the one with the big mouth for telling her in the first place. Keep you fat azz mouth shut and you wouldn't have this problem hooka. Whats up on some head?
Ummm, it's not about me dumb azz! I told her nothing.......

LMA-OFF!!!!

It's her mouth that's in question you stupidfk.

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#16 Oct 24, 2011
Hey MDJ!

I don;t know why some women feel compelled to tell their husbands your personal business. I guess they think you'd be comfortable and wouldn't mind it since you all are close friends, but then again, some women are known to be gossip and drama queens by nature. Besides, I'm sure her husband probably could care less about anything she tells him, since men aren't interested in gossip and drama like that. Either way, it's still wrong to do so.
LMAO

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#17 Oct 24, 2011
MDJ2011 wrote:
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Ummm, it's not about me dumb azz! I told her nothing.......
LMA-OFF!!!!
It's her mouth that's in question you stupidfk.
Awite then. So, whats up on some head?

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#18 Oct 24, 2011
vampiYAH stabB wrote:
<quoted text>I agree with you, MDJ, totally! And, the fact she has this tendency to disclose your secrets with co-workers shows an indiputable lack of respect for you. Telling co-workers your business puts a whole another spin on things.
As if telling her husband things wasn't bad enough...
Well she didn't disclose any of my secrets. Because i didn't have any. lol! I did tell her one thing and she said she told him. smh But she has this habit of telling her husband, coworkers, and probably other friends others intimate details.

I'm not sure if you heard this old school saying.....

That you are obligated to tell your husband everything.

And i absolutely disagree with that.......

If i were married he would be told things about me and me only.

My best friend and my girlfriends business is none of my husband's business. It was told in privacy, and it shall remain private.

She disagrees. And she wonders why no one tells her stuff anymore.

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#19 Oct 24, 2011
vampiYAH stabB wrote:
<quoted text>Look, this b!tch is a world class blabber mouth...
...CUT HER OFF...PRONTO!
I've found that people like this tell your business and don't even have enough integrity to tell the truth. They fcuk around & be tellin' THEIR version of sh!T !
You don't need that, MDJ!
We tried to tell her........

I stop telling her stuff a looooong time ago.

And i really hate that she's doing it to others.

If she wants certain things about her to remain private between friends.

She should give others the same respect.

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#21 Oct 24, 2011
Nerdtician wrote:
Hey MDJ!
I don;t know why some women feel compelled to tell their husbands your personal business. I guess they think you'd be comfortable and wouldn't mind it since you all are close friends, but then again, some women are known to be gossip and drama queens by nature. Besides, I'm sure her husband probably could care less about anything she tells him, since men aren't interested in gossip and drama like that. Either way, it's still wrong to do so.
Hey Mack!!!

I'm glad to see you as always. It's been a long time. lol!

I guess, it's not the same here so you lost interest to post as much?

Some men will not tell you their boys business. That's why i don't get when she does it.

And why would someone want their spouse to know about your sexual activities. It may give him ideas.

And i don't know Mack, he likes that gossip. That's why i'm concerned. lol!

I stop telling her stuff a long time ago. But i know her friends feel uncomfortable around him. Knowing that he knows stuff about them.

Oh well..........

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