asian men and black women
Alicia906

Clarksville, TN

#316 Apr 1, 2007
LEAH wrote:
I THINK THAT THIS WHOLE THING BETWEEN BLACK WOMAN AND ASIAN MEN WERE NEVER THERE AND WILL NEVER START TO EXIST..BLACK WOMAN AND ASIAN MEN ARE TOTALLY DIFFERENT..AND IN MY OPINION I DONT THINK THAT AN ASIAN MAN WOULD BE ABLE TO HANDLE ANY BLACK WOMAN BECAUSE THEY WOULD BE TO SENSITIVE AND SO SHY..I LIKE A MAN WHO CAN STAND UP FOR ME AND WILL KNOW FROM THE BEGINNING EXACTLY WHAT HE WANTS,AND A MAN I KNOW FROMT HE BEGINNING THAT WILL KNOW HOW TO TREAT ME RIGHT JUST GUESSING FROMT THE START AND ALSO WHO CAN BE ABLE TO EXPRESS HIS FEELINGS ..NOT A BOY THAT WILL RATHER CRAWL UP INTO A SHELL AND IGNORE THE WORLD..IM SORRY BUT THATS JUST MY OPINION
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Well Im black and was in a deep relationship with a asian guy. He wasn't shy or timid at all. In fact through out most of our time together we hang like first cousins/bestfriends. His family totally accepted me. It was wonderful. The only thing that broke us up was the mountains of stress from finances. My point is don't use stereo types. You can't or shouldn't make judgements like that unless you have tried to experience it for yourself.
Lauren

Jacksonville, FL

#317 Apr 1, 2007
Kelly wrote:
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I guess you don't have Imaginasian TV or AZN Network because they present an alternative to mainstream Asian culture.
African American women have a wide variety of tastes; some do not care for basketball and/or rap music.
If any Asian guy wants to approach an AA woman, just approach her without any preconceived notions.
I believe that Asians and AA will break down the barriers between each other when they realize their similarities as people of color, and appreciate the cultural differences between eachother.
I totally agree with this. I am indeed proud of the fact that AA culture is admired for the musical influence and other such related things but honestly, that's not all we're about. I'm more than rap/hip hop and I don't even like sports but that doesn't mean I can't go to a game and find it enjoyable. I like other things. I like the things that Asians, Whites, Indians, etc. like as well. I can bob my head to a rap song just as easily as I can sing along to country or move to classical. Sure, I like soul food but that doesn't mean I shun quiche and fine wine.

“Everyone who loves Everyone”

Since: Mar 07

United States

#318 Apr 1, 2007
justineloveseiji wrote:
heyy guys check this outt!
http://groups.msn.com/BlackAsianFamilieswithC...
look @ those pictures; you`ll love themm
awwwww, so cute =)
Starsix

Chicago, IL

#319 Apr 1, 2007
As a black(west indian)female with a long history of dating men of all races including muslim(yes) and asian, and now with a white bf. I find that the true reason most black women don't date out of their race is that they don't realize that black men are the dominant when it comes to aggressively pursuing a woman while asian men and white men are more laid back and in some cases slightly timid. But once the doors open and the walls of fear are broken down black women realized that these men are great and in some cases huge...LOL. And that a having a big dick isnt all its cracked up to be because I have had big dicks (personality wise) that turn out to have small penis's and small penis's that were nice dicks lol. SO to any black woman that feels that an asian or white isn't as good as a black man think of this I have come from an entire mixed family of every frickin race and all we want now isn't dick its a good father....
Starsix

Chicago, IL

#320 Apr 1, 2007
hi
GREENLEAFBREATHE R

Richfield, OH

#321 Apr 1, 2007
DAMM YOU GOT A BACHELORS IN DICKOLOGY OR SUMTHING
Kelly

United States

#322 Apr 2, 2007
Lauren wrote:
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I totally agree with this. I am indeed proud of the fact that AA culture is admired for the musical influence and other such related things but honestly, that's not all we're about. I'm more than rap/hip hop and I don't even like sports but that doesn't mean I can't go to a game and find it enjoyable. I like other things. I like the things that Asians, Whites, Indians, etc. like as well. I can bob my head to a rap song just as easily as I can sing along to country or move to classical. Sure, I like soul food but that doesn't mean I shun quiche and fine wine.
Exactly.Other ethnic groups are diverse, and we are as well. I've met a few white and Asian guys who felt that they needed to "thug out" to impress me, superficially believing that AA women enjoy that type of behavior. I dislike rude, thuggish behavior regardless of ethnicity. And most AA men are not "thugged out", regardless of what most lousy rap videos present.
Lionheart

Brisbane, Australia

#323 Apr 5, 2007
Man i love the black honeys!:)
Im asian and my girlfriend is black - she is from zimbabwe, i will marry her soon :)

Im a proud owner of a wonderful brown suga
lady :)

People look at us because we are one of a rare kind but i couldnt give a fuck!
I love her and thats what matters...you
should see the number of looks when we go through chinatown...hehehe...funny shit
i tell you.

My parents didnt approve at first but pfft
im stubborn like a brick mate so i couldnt give a hoot what they think.

At the end of the day, marry the person u LOVE. Dont listen to your parents, they dont know any better, like seriously marrying the same race gonna solve problems?

Oh please....whateva...

There are problems/issues in every marriage, its how you handle it and what you do.

Peace Out.
beautiful black woman

El Cajon, CA

#324 Apr 5, 2007
I think and belive that a person should date whomever they see fit. Most reasons why people don't want to date this race or that are stereotypical reasons. I think that black women and asian men are faced with the most stereotypes of any other two groups. Asian men are seen as weak, short, boring, and nerdy, all of which are not true. Black women are seen as loud, obnoxious, unintelligent, and unattractive. Sometimes by men of our own race. These stereotypes are what make people not want date individuals of these groups. However, if one took the time to see they could find someone worthwhile and against the "norm". Besides, whats normal anyway?

“Still dreaming...”

Since: Dec 06

Among the unlucky stars....

#325 Apr 5, 2007
GREENLEAFBREATHER wrote:
DAMM YOU GOT A BACHELORS IN DICKOLOGY OR SUMTHING
lol, that was wrong!
Kelly

United States

#326 Apr 6, 2007
Lionheart wrote:
Man i love the black honeys!:)
Im asian and my girlfriend is black - she is from zimbabwe, i will marry her soon :)
Im a proud owner of a wonderful brown suga
lady :)
People look at us because we are one of a rare kind but i couldnt give a fuck!
I love her and thats what matters...you
should see the number of looks when we go through chinatown...hehehe...funny shit
i tell you.
My parents didnt approve at first but pfft
im stubborn like a brick mate so i couldnt give a hoot what they think.
At the end of the day, marry the person u LOVE. Dont listen to your parents, they dont know any better, like seriously marrying the same race gonna solve problems?
Oh please....whateva...
There are problems/issues in every marriage, its how you handle it and what you do.
Peace Out.
I agree. Marrying someone of your own ethnicity doesn't make marriage easier. Many people assume that interracial marriages are troubling because of cultural differences and/or socio-economic problems, so they choose to marry their own ethnicity. There are plenty of people who are in miserable marriages to people of their own ethnicity; the divorce rate in the US is pretty high.
I believe that marriage should be approached with honesty, respect and love.
SFAznGuy

Glendale, CA

#327 Apr 6, 2007
beautiful black woman wrote:
I think and belive that a person should date whomever they see fit. Most reasons why people don't want to date this race or that are stereotypical reasons. I think that black women and asian men are faced with the most stereotypes of any other two groups. Asian men are seen as weak, short, boring, and nerdy, all of which are not true. Black women are seen as loud, obnoxious, unintelligent, and unattractive. Sometimes by men of our own race. These stereotypes are what make people not want date individuals of these groups. However, if one took the time to see they could find someone worthwhile and against the "norm". Besides, whats normal anyway?
I agree. I think as an Asian man growing up in the USA is pretty tough having to deal with a ton of stereotypes. We certainly don't get a fair representation in the media for racist reasons. I don't have problems with negative images on TV as long as there are positive ones to go with it. America got a long way to go. I am happy to see progress blacks have made in the media but other minorities still have a long way to go.

1. Out of all those hospital shows on TV, when was the last time they have an Asian man as a character? If you go to any hospital in real life, there are usually a ton of Asian male doctors.

2. I am glad some Asian athletes are finally coming to his country. With Yao Ming's success in the NBA and a ton of Asian baseball players coming to this country, maybe things will change. The latest $103M man Dice-K is making a lot of noise in the MLB as we speak.

3. Black females are always being shown as hoochies on rap videos etc. Rarely do they show them as just an intelligent women. Hopefully, this will change too.

Anyway, people are just people and I hope people learn to judge other people as individuals instead of making statements like "All.... is like ..."
Kelly

Santa Clara, CA

#329 Apr 6, 2007
yes some asians have very huge cocks , ive had sex with one and i was like WOW! thats amazing so wut im trying to ssay is that not all asians are 5-6 inches
Kelvin

United States

#331 Apr 6, 2007
Whitey wrote:
It's a conspiracy. Us white people did it.
Us white men have put something in the water to make all the good looking black people prefer white mates. Same for the hot Asian chicks. The chemical formula is a closely guarded secret that we keep in a vault in a secret location in Minnesota.
We did this after we gave AIDS to all the black folks.
It's simple really. Pure genius too.
I think it is in your wet dreams. Stop trying to categorize all the people. I think you need to take your racist comments and go jump off somewhere.
Jams

Atlanta, GA

#332 Apr 7, 2007
I find this post refreshing. For once what about shaking things up a bit? Is there any reason that the only acceptable interracial matches seem to be White Men Asian girls or Black Men Asian women? Are these couples devoid of independent thought? If there were mixed couples of all races I would say fine. But when millions of people i.e wm+af or bm+wf then I ask myself how did these people all the get the same idea. The logical answer is an inferiority complex amoung the black men and asian women, and stereo typical beliefs amoung the white men and white women. Love true love is not a race or class, if you are using that as your guide it will illude you forever. Thanks room have a great day.
Kelly

United States

#333 Apr 8, 2007
Jams wrote:
I find this post refreshing. For once what about shaking things up a bit? Is there any reason that the only acceptable interracial matches seem to be White Men Asian girls or Black Men Asian women? Are these couples devoid of independent thought? If there were mixed couples of all races I would say fine. But when millions of people i.e wm+af or bm+wf then I ask myself how did these people all the get the same idea. The logical answer is an inferiority complex amoung the black men and asian women, and stereo typical beliefs amoung the white men and white women. Love true love is not a race or class, if you are using that as your guide it will illude you forever. Thanks room have a great day.
Stereotypes play a part in terms of attraction for many people. Also, a person's perceived social and economic status plays a part; someone AA men would marry an unattractive, unintelligent, non-productive white, latina or asian woman in a heartbeat over an AA woman who is attractive, intelligent and ambitious. It's all about the perceived status of whites, AA, latinos and asians in the US. Same goes for white men.
Asian women have been accused of abandoning asian men in greater numbers than asian men abandoning asian women at the altar. Regardless of statistics, most people still marry their own.

“Liberals = Hippies”

Level 1

Since: Dec 06

Kobe, Japan

#334 Apr 8, 2007
As a white male married to a Asian (Japanese) female and living in a country (Japan) in Asia I would like to chime in.
There are people like myself that never imagined in thier lives that they would end up in an interacial marriage. When I first met my wife I had no intrest or fasinaction with asian females. As a matter of fact at the time I would not have been able to quickly find Japan on a world map. Sometimes its just right.
Alot of the Japanese men I know are only intrested in thier own race. This is true of the females as well. However the ones that are intrested in other races seem almost obsest with the notion. A good example is when they see any black female which is in of it self a rarity here, she is automatically bumped to the status of the most perfect women in the world. It doesn't matter how they, look, dress, carry themselves or even if they can actual speak to each other.
I'am only speaking of my own expierence and perception here not trying to generalize. My Japanese is now pretty good but sometimes the full intention of what native Japanese people are saying gets past me, but this is the feeling I have gotten the few times I have seen the situation delevlop.
The other reason I feel this way is I can not begin to even fathom counting the number of times I have seen good looking Japanese women with hideous looking white guys. My wife speaks english very well, and to me is attractive. But in many of these WM, AF relations ships, they level in which they can actually communicate in is close to nothing. Just seems that the fact that thier partner is of a certain ethnicity is the only factor that they are attracted too.

“Still dreaming...”

Since: Dec 06

Among the unlucky stars....

#335 Apr 8, 2007
Kelly wrote:
yes some asians have very huge cocks , ive had sex with one and i was like WOW! thats amazing so wut im trying to ssay is that not all asians are 5-6 inches
Come on now...was all that really neccessary?
Your corner business should be kept to yourself.
I'm just saying...
obinna

Owerri, Nigeria

#336 Apr 9, 2007
hi everybody
The Mien Prodigy

Grand Haven, MI

#337 Apr 10, 2007
I'm Asian and I have a Black girlfriend. People say it's inpossible to continue on but we've been together for almost 2 years!!!

If anyone has a MySpace, join my group: It's called Asian Men + Black Women

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