Black Women = Unapproachable

Level 1

Since: Mar 11

Detroit, MI

#911 May 15, 2011
KingKnowledge wrote:
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Black women are the most sexist women in the world but are very unapproachable or receptive – they have an inclination toward defense of men (especially black men) this is because of a number of reasons
Eg..
what there mothers taught them
What there girl friends teach them
What they see and hear on tv
Their own experiences
(all of which are inconclusive)
For many of them (not all but most) once they obtain these beliefs it is hard to reshape them… and then they become stuck in limbo b/c they will repeat the same functions based on their prior teachings and experiences… and then they will think there savior is in another race or that there is something wrong with all men.
How about;

we were sold away from every thing we knew

our children were ripped from our arms and sold

we were humiliated, degraded standing half naked in front of strangers being sold

we were raped and humiliated some more

we have had to be the strenght of the black community

we're constantly told by the media that we're ugly....

none of which have ever been addressed, dealt with, etc

Wouldn't that cause many black women to put walls up,

have trust issues, be unapproachable.

“The Ah-Nizzle”

Level 2

Since: Nov 07

Los Angeles

#912 May 16, 2011
I just think some BM are intimidated. When a sista is fine then she can shut a room down
Caribbean girl

Windermere, FL

#913 Aug 13, 2011
I can communicate fine with everyone and am approachable the problem is too much pride amongst most BP. They feel once they reach a certain level they need not communicate with the "lower class" of BP and thats just plain rediculous it alos goes in reverse. The BP that are in the ghettos may feel that the "upper class" is trying to "follow the WM" and they feel "betrayed" so they feel no need to be approachable or kind to one another.

we need to get off our high horses and talk to people smile when you are walking by someone its amazing how that can change someones day. Say "hey hows it going" just that simple people.
Caribbean girl

Windermere, FL

#914 Aug 13, 2011
lovey26 wrote:
I don't think that Black women are any less approachable than other groups of women. I think that with a lot of guys, a simple "hello" turns into "Where's your man?" and "Can you have friends?" When you are not receptive to their advances, they may turn aggressive or insulting. Personally, I've been cursed out in public by a few random guys for...I don't know why really? LOL! But it's very scary and has made me less likely to respond. So, I think it depends on the person and their experiences not color.
Yes exactly I have had random men come up to me and insult me because I didnt respond? lol
Me and a friend were sitting on a bench while she was talking to me, I hear mumbling behind me, next thing I know I hear "alright heffas I see how it is ya'll ignore me and have a nice day ladies" I was like what? who? all he had to do was come up to us and say excuse me how are you doing? thats it! be polite I didnt know him lol it was weird.
Masud_S_Hoghughi __

Germany

#915 Aug 13, 2011
........I get black females approaching me on the street all the time - asking for directions......

...there seems to be an awful lot of lost negrows wondering around.........

.....I just completely blank them!.........
Robert Jackson

Nashville, TN

#916 Jul 2, 2012
They are approachable to the ones that what to be approach
Robert Jackson

Nashville, TN

#917 Jul 2, 2012
I agree 100%. We need to remember that regardless of our social economic or financial endeavors we are still one people who needs to stand as one. It is enough that we have to adhere to the struggles of trying to make a difference financially, and socially, but we have to separate ourselves according to postion, and looking down to the ones who does not prosper or come up their standards. We discriminate against each other. Black women and men alike needs to be cordual to one another because we are all that we have
phil463

Jersey City, NJ

#918 Jul 4, 2012
Nzingha wrote:
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And once she deals with black men like you, she'll then see!
Shut up you crazy bytch.
phil463

Jersey City, NJ

#919 Jul 4, 2012
Sadbutrue wrote:
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I always have met BM who were always telling habitual lies, played games, deceitful so you can understand where the behaviors derive which is from most Black men's collective behaviors.
You reaped what you've sown. You earned your reputations so try to salvage yourselves maybe a little hard now since BW have lost faith in you.
Please' you crazy bytch' bw do the same shyt.
sweetcocoa

United States

#921 Nov 25, 2012
We are approachable. I have men of all races approaching me. I will say that some men are intimidated.
Caroluu

United States

#922 Nov 26, 2012
Nzingha wrote:
The reason black men say that black women are all of a sudden unapproachable, is because white and nonblack women throw themselves at you black men, now more than ever.Because these women are so"easy", it is now easy to say that black women are unapproachable.When in reality, that is not true.What happened to chasing the woman? Once a form of chivalry, but white and nonblack women destroyed that approach, so when you come across a black women that has standards,and not as easy as others you black men now label it as "unapproachable."
Another thing, with this "black woman is unapproachable" bs, you are now being played as puppets. Because you now let others races of women dictate how you approach black women. They are now setting the standards because of their actions(being easy, throwing themselves at you), and because of their actions,black men let those actions dictate how they now feel about their own women.Pathetic, now "others" are in control and dictating how black men feel about black women.
Back in the day,you had to put in a little work,the dog chasing the cat, that kind of thing,but because of the easiness of white and nonblack women,courting has become obsolete to black men. It is "others" actions, that are influencing how you feel about approaching black women.
So sad, to me, to see black men, who say black women are unapproachable are now being played like puppets.Keep your strong black male image, and don't let the easiness of white and nonblack women, change how you feel about approaching black women. Man up and be influenced by your own thought patterns,and not by the actions of "others." It can make you look weak....SMH
Absolutely the truth.

Since: May 10

Location hidden

#925 Nov 26, 2012
I don't find them that way except for the few who have a perpetual scowl on their face. The majority I find much easier to Approach than Latinas of any race.
Saharah

Escondido, CA

#927 May 10, 2013
We are approachable, not gullible. There's a difference. It depends on your own thoughts and actions. What are your intentions? Maybe we had a bad day,maybe were tired, maybe were in physical pain. Maybe I'm an older women. Maybe I just got called a racial slur,look down upon, or laugh at before you came. I just experience racism everywhere I went today. So yes White and Hispanic and Asia women don't go through what us black women go through every freaking day of our lives.And you want me to be nice and smile like yes master, when I experience black white Hispanic bus drivers let the bus down for all those races of women but not me?what I'm a dog and spread my legs to all you men? You don't have the slightest incline about institutional racism and you want me to further cheese all day giving it up like loosygosey. Yeah while all of the black women magazines are in the back of all the grocery stores.But not the Latina and Hispanic and white women magazines!!!! Please stop the mentall insanity and wake up their destroying us black women in all the medias. So yeah I got something stuck up there all right.
Jesuslove

San Antonio, TX

#928 May 10, 2013
Really? I don't think so at all.:) I think we are approachable.

“Happy & Content”

Level 2

Since: May 13

Savannah, GA

#929 May 10, 2013
TheEndofBlackness wrote:
Hello Topix,
I have lived in Nashville, New York City, St. Louis, and San Francisco and in every Town black
women are not approachable, especially at an all
black function. Other women are viewed as more attractive because you can actually flirt with them. Somehow over the years blackmen and blacwomen have forgotten how to communicate.
Low income blacks still seem to have love for each other. As a blackman with a MBA it seems professional blacks do not know how to deal with each other. I just won't everyone to know the problem is not in one community but everywhere.
Maybe it is the way that you are approaching them...?
Just a thought.

“Happy & Content”

Level 2

Since: May 13

Savannah, GA

#930 May 10, 2013
Saharah wrote:
We are approachable, not gullible. There's a difference. It depends on your own thoughts and actions. What are your intentions? Maybe we had a bad day,maybe were tired, maybe were in physical pain. Maybe I'm an older women. Maybe I just got called a racial slur,look down upon, or laugh at before you came. I just experience racism everywhere I went today. So yes White and Hispanic and Asia women don't go through what us black women go through every freaking day of our lives.And you want me to be nice and smile like yes master, when I experience black white Hispanic bus drivers let the bus down for all those races of women but not me?what I'm a dog and spread my legs to all you men? You don't have the slightest incline about institutional racism and you want me to further cheese all day giving it up like loosygosey. Yeah while all of the black women magazines are in the back of all the grocery stores.But not the Latina and Hispanic and white women magazines!!!! Please stop the mentall insanity and wake up their destroying us black women in all the medias. So yeah I got something stuck up there all right.
Yeah I agree. EVERYONE thinks they know w hat we go through but they have no idea.

Also, I hate how some men think that they can land a black woman just buy saying "d@mn shorty you look fine as h3ll, let me hit that".. all the while their pants are hanging halfway off of their behinds and their walking around like they just got shot in one knee.
AnOb

Roswell, GA

#931 May 10, 2013
Decent92 wrote:
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Yeah I agree. EVERYONE thinks they know w hat we go through but they have no idea.
Also, I hate how some men think that they can land a black woman just buy saying "d@mn shorty you look fine as h3ll, let me hit that".. all the while their pants are hanging halfway off of their behinds and their walking around like they just got shot in one knee.
I read your comments in another tread, and I feel you should be commended for showing so much wisdom. Are you sure you're only 21? We need more young people like you to help mend the fractured bm-bw relationship.

“Happy & Content”

Level 2

Since: May 13

Savannah, GA

#932 May 11, 2013
AnOb wrote:
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I read your comments in another tread, and I feel you should be commended for showing so much wisdom. Are you sure you're only 21? We need more young people like you to help mend the fractured bm-bw relationship.
Aww thank you sweetie. Actually I will be turning 21 this upcoming June. Ive been surrounded by older and positive bw all my life who have years of marriage and experience behind them so that's ALL I know lol. I get the "you have an old soul" comment from the older folks all the time. I feel more comfy being around older women then girls my age unless their similar to me.

How was your day, your from GA as well?

“Happy & Content”

Level 2

Since: May 13

Savannah, GA

#934 May 11, 2013
Tbone wrote:
<quoted text> Man, are you crazy.black eomen intentionally hate on ang good blackman who approaches her. She loose that angry blackwoman bull soon as a krakkka or thug or stud approaches her.. Wake up man your living in a dream world.
Let's get one thing straight, I LOVE black men and only have eyes for black men.

You can't have that type of attitude towards ALL black women because their are a lot of us good ones out here who are on your team rooting for you when your at your lowest.

No black woman is going to feel all lovey dovey if you approached us with a nasty attitude and the assumption that we automatically *HATED* you just because your a black men. Id just tell you to have a good day and id keep it moving.
Alfie

UK

#935 May 11, 2013
Tbone wrote:
<quoted text> Man, are you crazy.black eomen intentionally hate onang good blackman who approaches her. She loose that angry blackwoman bull soon as a krakkka or thug or stud approaches her.. Wake up man your living in a dream world.
correct its all a front....
sheboons r deceptive n canniving.....

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