"light skinned" black women.

"light skinned" black women.

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Since: Jul 07

Philadelphia, PA

#1 Jul 28, 2007
No, I'm not gonna sit here and say they're better than dark-skinned black women, but if you are a black woman with a lighter complexion than most, or 'light skinned', have you ever been mistreated mostly because people rely on the myth that all light skinned black women (including, women of black/white, bi-racial descent) are stuck up, or hussies?

I myself have felt like every other black woman has seen me as some type of rival and it pisses me off for them to think that I think that I'm better than them because I'm lighter. I understand some darker skinned black women feel like they're under represented and viewed as 'ugly'(and I think that is complete bull, cause beauty comes in all shades of black to me), but I honestly think alot like to pull reverse colorism on us and get away with it. What do you think?

Since: Jul 07

Englewood, CO

#2 Jul 28, 2007
vogue__ wrote:
No, I'm not gonna sit here and say they're better than dark-skinned black women, but if you are a black woman with a lighter complexion than most, or 'light skinned', have you ever been mistreated mostly because people rely on the myth that all light skinned black women (including, women of black/white, bi-racial descent) are stuck up, or hussies?
I myself have felt like every other black woman has seen me as some type of rival and it pisses me off for them to think that I think that I'm better than them because I'm lighter. I understand some darker skinned black women feel like they're under represented and viewed as 'ugly'(and I think that is complete bull, cause beauty comes in all shades of black to me), but I honestly think alot like to pull reverse colorism on us and get away with it. What do you think?
First of all I don't see why you would think that all dark skinned sistas view you as a rival. Who told you this or why do you feel this. I am a Black sista so the darker I am the more black beauty I have. If a brotha likes black woman then he is probably more attracted to a dark skinned sista. So I don't see you as my rival so why do you think I do.? Are you throwing out the fact that lighter skinned sistas are better looking? If so in whose eyes? I think you are grossly over exaggerating the fact that you are light skinned therefore in some way better than the dark skinned sistas.
Rose wood

Fernandina Beach, FL

#3 Jul 29, 2007
vogue__ wrote:
No, I'm not gonna sit here and say they're better than dark-skinned black women, but if you are a black woman with a lighter complexion than most, or 'light skinned', have you ever been mistreated mostly because people rely on the myth that all light skinned black women (including, women of black/white, bi-racial descent) are stuck up, or hussies?
I myself have felt like every other black woman has seen me as some type of rival and it pisses me off for them to think that I think that I'm better than them because I'm lighter. I understand some darker skinned black women feel like they're under represented and viewed as 'ugly'(and I think that is complete bull, cause beauty comes in all shades of black to me), but I honestly think alot like to pull reverse colorism on us and get away with it. What do you think?
I'm much lighter than you,(at least by that picture) but I've never met a dark skinned Black girl to view me as a rival. They usually have more confidence than me. A lot of people seem to want to bleach their skin, thinking "light is right" or that they won't get as teased when they're dark skinned. They act as if we don't have problems too. There are plenty of pretty dark skinned girls, but some girls are so insecure. I think it's sad when people bleach their skin. Anyway, I always thought people stereotyped dark skinned girls as tramps. Most dark skinned girls I see wear tight midrifts and have a nasty, syuck up attitude. I know that back in the 50's -90's guys thought light skinned girls were stuck up. Back in those times many probably were stuck up.
Rose wood

Fernandina Beach, FL

#4 Jul 29, 2007
Ebonygurl wrote:
<quoted text>First of all I don't see why you would think that all dark skinned sistas view you as a rival. Who told you this or why do you feel this. I am a Black sista so the darker I am the more black beauty I have. If a brotha likes black woman then he is probably more attracted to a dark skinned sista. So I don't see you as my rival so why do you think I do.? Are you throwing out the fact that lighter skinned sistas are better looking? If so in whose eyes? I think you are grossly over exaggerating the fact that you are light skinned therefore in some way better than the dark skinned sistas.
She said that she didn't feel as if she were any better, but some girls think she thinks she is better. I've never personally experienced what she's talking about.

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Since: May 07

Southern California

#5 Jul 29, 2007
They only treat you that way because a lot of the times the darkest child in the home is treated with the least amount of respect...so they always have to compete with their siblings for attention. So, they feel the same sense of competition outside of the home as well.

The lighter is better myth...or I call it BS...is because even the black culture believes in white superiority(as the media programs us this way)...therefore, the closer a black woman is to that white blonde hair blue eyes lady...the more superior she is(this of course is all subconscious).

Personally, I'm not light and I'm not dark so I dont have either issue.
soul brother in London

Rochdale, UK

#6 Jul 29, 2007
Hello sisters, its so sad that in this day and age we are still having this problem now and I wish that people would see us for what we really are and that is we are nice and human. Though some others may disagree with me on this forum about the stance I take, I will tell you that brothers like me for instance were put down by our own, and I remember saying to others here that I was told that I was too dark and not deemed worthy to be with some of the dark sisters, so when I went out with the light skinned sisters, they, or some of them had treated me right, but that is because they were brought up balanced and not to think that they had any right to be treated differently. Let me show you something, one time a so called adventist minister said to his daughter that she should not be with her boyfriend as he is too dark and he's not light himself. Now look at someone that is suppose to bringing up the order of love from the pulpit and then making that statement. This was as recent as 2005 and that shows that the slave mentality is still apparent. Sometimes it seems to me that others see a black persons worth than we do. How sad. I value my children and I will not say that I am better than anyone else, as I am not. But we have to stop this mistreatment of others based on how light our skin is or how dark our skin is. Skin don't do anything to us, that's something that we are born with, but our idealogies and our actions can change if our perceptions will change too. I do hope that we can learn something from each other and stop this infighting that is destroying us. Peace and love to you all. Lastly I think that you all are wonderful people and I will give the time of day to all that are created and given the right to live with love.

Soul brother

Since: Jul 07

Englewood, CO

#7 Jul 29, 2007
soul brother in London wrote:
Hello sisters, its so sad that in this day and age we are still having this problem now and I wish that people would see us for what we really are and that is we are nice and human. Though some others may disagree with me on this forum about the stance I take, I will tell you that brothers like me for instance were put down by our own, and I remember saying to others here that I was told that I was too dark and not deemed worthy to be with some of the dark sisters, so when I went out with the light skinned sisters, they, or some of them had treated me right, but that is because they were brought up balanced and not to think that they had any right to be treated differently. Let me show you something, one time a so called adventist minister said to his daughter that she should not be with her boyfriend as he is too dark and he's not light himself. Now look at someone that is suppose to bringing up the order of love from the pulpit and then making that statement. This was as recent as 2005 and that shows that the slave mentality is still apparent. Sometimes it seems to me that others see a black persons worth than we do. How sad. I value my children and I will not say that I am better than anyone else, as I am not. But we have to stop this mistreatment of others based on how light our skin is or how dark our skin is. Skin don't do anything to us, that's something that we are born with, but our idealogies and our actions can change if our perceptions will change too. I do hope that we can learn something from each other and stop this infighting that is destroying us. Peace and love to you all. Lastly I think that you all are wonderful people and I will give the time of day to all that are created and given the right to live with love.
Soul brother
Wow Brother I was going to ask Rose Wood what she mean by lighter skinned children being treated better in their homes and the dark children had to compete. I can't believe parents would do this to their children because it certainly did not happen in my home. You explained why they do it and now it makes sense but it is no least sad. It is the "Slave Mentality" that has been passed down the caste system how sad! It was bad enough that the slave owners did it to our people but for blacks to continue the practice is very, very sad.

I want to tell you I am very sorry for what you or any other black child experienced in their home. And I am very, very sorry that the world has treated you worst. But I am one of them who has been put down by society due to my color. So I know what it is like to take if from racist strangers. I took down my profile picture on Topix on Friday because a brother on here Mr Concern say I was ugly and looked mean because I am dark skinned. So it really hurts when our own people do it to us.

I am 31 years old never married, professional woman, no children maybe my skin color is holding me back. I never thought of that but maybe. I hope to have conversation with you soon take care!
Rose wood

Fernandina Beach, FL

#8 Jul 29, 2007
Ebonygurl wrote:
<quoted text>Wow Brother I was going to ask Rose Wood what she mean by lighter skinned children being treated better in their homes and the dark children had to compete. I can't believe parents would do this to their children because it certainly did not happen in my home. You explained why they do it and now it makes sense but it is no least sad. It is the "Slave Mentality" that has been passed down the caste system how sad! It was bad enough that the slave owners did it to our people but for blacks to continue the practice is very, very sad.
I want to tell you I am very sorry for what you or any other black child experienced in their home. And I am very, very sorry that the world has treated you worst. But I am one of them who has been put down by society due to my color. So I know what it is like to take if from racist strangers. I took down my profile picture on Topix on Friday because a brother on here Mr Concern say I was ugly and looked mean because I am dark skinned. So it really hurts when our own people do it to us.
I am 31 years old never married, professional woman, no children maybe my skin color is holding me back. I never thought of that but maybe. I hope to have conversation with you soon take care!
When my mom was in college she had a classmate whom was dark chocolat colored. Her mother was light, as were her siblings. I assume she had a recessive gene. Anyway, her mom pushed her down the stairs one day. She developed such a horrible stutter that she could barely say a single word and she had a dent on her forehead. That was extremely sad to hear. There is a girl on here who's mother has her thinking having dark skin is manly. She began skin bleaching at 12 and says people began to treat her differently. I don't know if her self confidence and personality had to do w/ her being treated better. She says her dark skinned dark ruined her, by being dark. I think it's so sad people still think like that is 2007. I thought people stopped thinking like that in the late 90's. There are plenty of pretty dark skinned people. I'm light skinned and have a dark skinned brother, but we are treated the same. My mom is the type to love her children unconditionally. Other than that, my dark skinned brother has always had a lot of girlfriends, is very popular, and in college. Dark skin never bothered him or gave him a bad life. I think parents can be a lot to blame for how their dark skinned kids feel.

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Since: Jul 07

Virginia Beach, VA

#9 Jul 29, 2007
Ebonygurl wrote:
<quoted text> I took down my profile picture on Topix on Friday because a brother on here Mr Concern say I was ugly and looked mean because I am dark skinned. So it really hurts when our own people do it to us.
You let a total stranger tell you what to do.You must think you are not pretty because you have a dark complexion,other than that you would have told him to get lost.If you can't see beauty in youself no one else will see it either.

Since: Jul 07

United States

#10 Jul 29, 2007
Ebonygurl wrote:
<quoted text>First of all I don't see why you would think that all dark skinned sistas view you as a rival. Who told you this or why do you feel this. I am a Black sista so the darker I am the more black beauty I have. If a brotha likes black woman then he is probably more attracted to a dark skinned sista. So I don't see you as my rival so why do you think I do.? Are you throwing out the fact that lighter skinned sistas are better looking? If so in whose eyes? I think you are grossly over exaggerating the fact that you are light skinned therefore in some way better than the dark skinned sistas.
Actually, if you read my original post, I never tried to say darker skinned women were lesser than lighter skinned ones. Around where I live, the 'light is right' slave mentality is still around and those lighter than a paper bag are viewed as beautiful and all that total BS. I'm not trying to say darker women are ugly or whatever, but I'm making a point saying colorism goes both ways. I've seen darker women complain about how men often prefer the lighter ones, and how they're stuck up and think they're better and bullshit like that, well how do you think we feel when we hear that? Just another generalisation.

By the way, I notice that I'm not that 'light'. Reason for this? I have a summer tan, and unlike most girls I know who try to avoid the sun, I embrace it. I personally think darker skin is much more varied and prettier than lighter skin, but I still have love for my lighter skinned people.
BlackAmericanPri ncess

Dayton, OH

#11 Jul 29, 2007
I hear this a lot... I have dark skinned friends who complain about lighter girls getting more attention. I actually know a guy who wouldn't date my friend because she was dark. I wish this stupid mentality would stop. Both shades are pretty, and all shades in between are pretty as well.
I've gotten told that I'm light, when I'm really not. I'm not as light as you are vogue--but I'm a light carmel complexion. And I've actually had some of my darker friends comment about me, making stupid remarks about my complexion. I have a friend who is only about a shade darker than me and she thinks she too dark and avoids the sun like a plague. It's crazy. I've always thought that dark was pretty--actually much prettier than lighter skinned. No offense to any lighter skinned people. I just think dark skins look more exotic. I actually like to be in the sun, esp. during the summer because I get this reddish look and I like that. I don't mind getting darker. I know some black people don't like the sun.
I don't really have much problem with the whole light vs. dark thing, since I'm carmel and in between--or so I would think. But even I have sometimes encountered darker girls talking about me... So who knows. I've seen just as many pretty dark girls as light girls. The media just seems to favor lighter girls more, so we often miss out on the darker ones.
I admit I'm even guilty of this colorism problem. I don't date darker guys.. I don't know if I have that mentality as well, but I like my guys to be a little lighter than me--not yellow by any means but light nonetheless.

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Since: Apr 07

Austin

#12 Jul 29, 2007
i perfer light black skin on women. dark seems sooo manly to ppl plus dull looking. but there are some beautiful dark black women. but they all single and fat! haha

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Since: Jul 07

memphis

#13 Jul 29, 2007
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Since: Jul 07

memphis

#14 Jul 29, 2007
you look cute
Rose wood

Fernandina Beach, FL

#15 Jul 29, 2007
djhixx wrote:
i perfer light black skin on women. dark seems sooo manly to ppl plus dull looking. but there are some beautiful dark black women. but they all single and fat! haha
Have you seen every dark skinned woman to say they're fat or single? Since when did Meagan Good become fat or single? Gabrielle Union isn't fat. Brandy is outright ugly,(whether or not she was light or dark) but she's not fat. I don't know if she's single.

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Since: May 07

Southern California

#16 Jul 29, 2007
djhixx wrote:
i perfer light black skin on women. dark seems sooo manly to ppl plus dull looking. but there are some beautiful dark black women. but they all single and fat! haha
I'd like you to tell me that these women look fat, manly and dull. I think that a lot of darker women have this exotic factor that lighter skinned women cannot achieve. They're two different looks. Check out these pics, and tell me again that darker women are manly, fat, and dull.

http://www.sonymusic.com/artists/UltimateGram...

http://www.webdesign.org/img_articles/9708/im...

http://www1.istockphoto.com/file_thumbview_ap...

http://eur.i1.yimg.com/eur.yimg.com/xp/premie...

http://www.microsoft.com/library/media/1033/w...

http://www.sawf.org/newsphotos/entertainment/...

http://mlm.business-opportunities.biz/wp-cont...
Rose wood

Fernandina Beach, FL

#17 Jul 29, 2007
BreeCheese, that first pciture was nice, but Lauryn (sp) had bad hair. The 2nd lady looked exhausted and you had Oprah on there. Light or dark, most people think she's ugly. I think she's ugly too.
Djhjxx's parents make her think that way, which is sad.

I think her look is exotic. http://proofmagazine.i8.com/images/door_of_ku...
She's pretty.http://images.google.co m/imgres?imgurl=http://ia.imdb .com/media/imdb/01/I/28/82/89p .jpg&imgrefurl=http://www. imdb.com/name/nm0800899/&h =90&w=116&sz=3&hl= en&start=0&tbnid=ItNrb v7_EFekFM:&tbnh=68&tbn w=87&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dan na%2Bsimpson%26gbv%3D2%26svnum %3D10%26hl%3Den
They're pretty.http://moderntraditiona l.com/magazine/tips/ethopianma keup.jpg
Rose wood

Fernandina Beach, FL

#18 Jul 30, 2007
djhixx wrote:
i perfer light black skin on women. dark seems sooo manly to ppl plus dull looking. but there are some beautiful dark black women. but they all single and fat! haha
I couldn't resist, so to prove that light skin people can get old and fat I'll provide some links. After all, humans are humans.
Before.http://www.speakers-net work.com/speakers/images/phyli cia_rashad1.jpg
After.http://www.broadway.com/ site_images/502873.jpg
Before.http://film.onet.pl/_i/ plotki/duze/l/lisa_bonet_1.jpg
After.http://content.clearchan nel.com/Photos/female_celebrit ies/lisa_bonet_ChrisWeeks.jpg

Since: Apr 07

Honolulu, HI

#19 Jul 30, 2007
Ebonygurl wrote:
<quoted text>First of all I don't see why you would think that all dark skinned sistas view you as a rival. Who told you this or why do you feel this. I am a Black sista so the darker I am the more black beauty I have. If a brotha likes black woman then he is probably more attracted to a dark skinned sista. So I don't see you as my rival so why do you think I do.? Are you throwing out the fact that lighter skinned sistas are better looking? If so in whose eyes? I think you are grossly over exaggerating the fact that you are light skinned therefore in some way better than the dark skinned sistas.
How do you post from an anonymous proxy like that?

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Since: Apr 07

Austin

#20 Jul 30, 2007
they all darker then my dad. noami pretty.

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