what should black men do to uplift ou...

what should black men do to uplift our race?

Posted in the African-American Forum

terrrelle

United States

#1 May 31, 2013
Im a young black male and i have
never
thought i would "see" so much
weakness
in my own race. when i was
in high school everybody got
along
just fine and still does. when
i looked
at what was going on around
the country
i was shocked.
i then started seeing a little of it
where i stay.
in any kingdom you go to
the
man will always protect his
kingdom
and people. the man must
have
inclination
to lead his kingdom and
people
to their best.
the king has to fight and
dominate every battle for his
queen and
family. there is no backing out
from protecting
your family and the females of
your
people at that. in many African
American
men case they choose to degrade
the
females of their own community,
the females of their own family,
the females of their own race.
they choose to "protect"
other communities and
people who don't even
look like them. if other
races of men are taking
away your females and
bringing them to their
homes and communities
to "do" what you
failed to do then you
have a problem. a big one!
this only puts you at the
bottom as a man and will
show that you are less than
a man.
there is somethings you
should know to improve
yourselves and learn how
to uplift your community
1. Aspire to be honorable men
What is a man without honor?
What is a man who doesn’t have
integrity or live by any moral code?
He is a weak link. And a chain is
only as strong as its weakest link.
Having black men commit
themselves to living as honorable
men is a major step in uplifting
our race. Men with honor are
individuals that have the potential
to evoke positive change. They are
leaders- the types of individuals
that others (including black
women) will trust and will follow.
They are the Malcolm Xs, and
the Dr. Kings.
2. Aspire to be committed
husbands and fathers
Black men in America who want
to uplift their
race should recognize that they mus
first be a pillar in their own household.
Everything starts at home. So step
up to the plate as fathers and
husbands. The statistics aren’t
pleasant to look at. 72% of black
children are born to unwed
mothers. And black men are the
least likely of all races of men to
marry. Black women are surely not
getting pregnant by themselves, so
they should not be left with the
primary (and sometimes sole)
responsibility of raising children.
Studies continually show that a
child is more likely to be
successful in life if they are raised
in a two-parent home. And a black
man that wants to uplift his race is
a black man who first commits
himself to giving his family the
greatest opportunities for success.
3. Respect and encourage black
women and always try and do Whats
best for them.
We’ve all heard the derogatory
remarks-“Black women are hos.”
“Black women are bitches.”“I
prefer ‘x’ women because they’re
better than black women.” if black
women are such bad people then
what are we as black men?
cause stats shows on paper itself and
on status that us black men
are no better than black women. I’ve
never understood how any black
man could profess to respect and
value himself, while disrespecting
and devaluing the same race of
women that gave birth to him.
Misogyny, sexism, and overall
negativity directed at black women
by black men simply reveal
weakness and self-hatred within
our race. And this weakness makes
us vulnerable to attack. If black
men want to uplift our race, then
they should respect black women. you
should respect and encourage them
because they come from the exact
same families as you.
terrrelle

United States

#2 May 31, 2013
4. Stand with your brothers and sisters-
not against him or her.
When individuals stand together,
they’re a greater force to be
reckoned with. Unfortunately
competition and “hating” are ever
present negative elements in the
Black community. While
participating in this type of
behavior may temporarily advance
one man to higher position in his
professional or personal life, being
overly competitive with and
“hating” on your fellow man does
absolutely nothing to help uplift
our community as a whole.
“Hating” is foolishly playing into
the whole “divide and conquer”
agenda. If you want to uplift our
community, learn to work together.
5. Be courageous. Hold your fellow
man accountable
A black man who truly wants to
uplift his race is courageous and
not afraid to hold other black men
accountable for their actions.
Unfortunately, individuals who
need the most guidance are
oftentimes most resistant to any
kind of constructive criticism.
We’ve seen animosity directed at
black men (Bill Cosby) who
tried to hold other black men (and
black people) accountable for their
actions. Whenever you try to help
others, you have to accept that
there will be at least one
individual that gets upset. The
truth hurts. Don’t worry about the
minority that tries to attack you.
Always remember that despite
what a small minority says/does,
the majority is behind you and the
cause.
terrrelle

United States

#3 May 31, 2013
6. support progressive leaders and
positive role models
in a culture where negativity and
bad behavior is often awarded, it’s
important for black men to be
aware of our progressive leaders
and positive role models. we need
to be aware of them so that we can
also bring more attention and
greater support to their initiatives.
every day, countless individuals
selflessly commit themselves to the
advancement of Blacks. but their
efforts fall short because they are
not recognized and/or supported.
we need to make sure that they
know that we are aware of them.
we also needs to stand behind them
and make them wanna keep fighting
for us.
If you’re a black men committed to
uplifting our community, be sure to
support individuals that are
committed to fighting for you.
As black people its our duty as a race to fight each other.
7. don’t glorify ignorance
it’s a hard to accept at times- but
stupidity sells. just turn on your TV
or radio, and you don’t have to
look hard for blacks (and other
races) doing some of the most
ignorant things. it’s usually just
an attempt to make a quick buck.
We can choose to be “entertained”
by the behavior. but black men
should never put these types of
individuals up on a pedestal and
glorify their ignorance. black
people committed to making a
quick buck and advancing
themselves through ignorance are
not concerned with the black race
as a whole. thus, black men that
are committed to uplifting our race
should be highly selective about
who they “glorify” and who they
choose to imitate.
terrrelle

United States

#4 May 31, 2013
Correction- As Black people its our
duty as a race to fight for each
other, support each other, uplift
each other, love each other, help
each
other, educate each other and
nothing less.

“Bow Chika Wow Wow”

Level 4

Since: Sep 12

Location hidden

#5 May 31, 2013
I can't figure out if Blacks are really this crazy, or if it's just that I've read so many negative things online that it's begun to cloud my judgement of reality when I'm outside. I still see most Black people together and with kids, etc... but... idk, I think Black people have some communication issues. We're a community, and a community works like a relationship. Right now, Blacks are in an unhealthy relationship with one another, and in order to save it, we need to actually communicate our issues. Not blame the other, or try to make the other side feel bad or guilty. We can't get defensive or angry but actually try to understand what the other is saying.

Black men are going to have to try to see Black women's issues and what we face from our perspective. It's not so easy for us in this world as women and as Black people in the United States. In a country where women are valued and respected based off of our looks, Black women are the MOST demeaned for our looks, and if I'm being 100% honest, Black men are annoying these days because they have no problem adding to this these days. You have younger Black guys and others who PROUDLY say they aren't attracted to Black females. We are the women of your race, if you uplifted Black females more often, more would be receptive and warm towards BM. More Black women would also have more respect for themselves and not desperately seek love from men by sleeping around and getting pregnant. I think out of every race of women, I notice that Black women coming out of inner city areas, the women who like the "thugs" types of men are crying out in their actions. They don't want the "smart" Black guy with the plain clothes or comes off as weak because they desperately want a man who appears as if he can protect her, and that's these thug kinds of guys. They don't protect her and they leave her alone and bitter, but actions speak louder than words. Many Black women in America are crying out for something, I'm not sure what it is though...

If I were to guess, off the top of my head though, it would be respect. We are extremely disrespected. Do you know how many times I've been mistaken for a hooker or just made to feel bad about myself from some men, and men in all races. We're being called ugly left and right, and then at the same time praised for ONLY our bodies, if that. People say we're fat, we're ugly, we're mean and angry and bitter and rude and all kinds of TERRIBLE things, and I never see a Black man come to our defense. These days, you guys are likely to join in. Then, you get upset because you want Black women to treat you better. People should really think about things, Black women are people. For every "Black women are worthless" comment, there is a nice, sweet Black girl somewhere reading it who then feels either pain or anger from it, and neither of those emotions lead to good in people.
terrrelle

United States

#6 May 31, 2013
8. aggressively pursue an
education
On the heels of not glorifying
ignorance, comes the importance of
achieving an education. Overall, an
education ensures opportunity and
advancement. and Black men need
to step up their game when it
comes to pursuing an education.
there is a glaring disparity
between Black men and Black
women when it comes to academic
achievement. Black women out
perform black men in college
enrollment and graduation rates.
And the graduation rate of Black
men is lower than any other racial
group. We don’t have to think far
back to a time when black people
weren’t even allowed to read or
write. and it’s truly disheartening
when black men don’t take full
advantage of the opportunities to
advance themselves and their race
by getting an education.

“Bow Chika Wow Wow”

Level 4

Since: Sep 12

Location hidden

#7 May 31, 2013
When Black women say Black men aren't being "men" it's because many of us feel NO protection of sense of safeness with you guys anymore. That is the message read between the lines. If I'm being honest, which I always try to be on here, then as much as I love some Black men, I don't trust you guys as a group anymore. Black men, in my mind, are like White men in many ways. Many of you are racist and full of hate in the same ways. Look at the comments many say on this site, you're repeating the same things about Black women than White men have told you all, and have said for hundreds of years. Black men are spreading the word of racist White men these days, in mass too.

So from my view, as a Black female, it seems that it's a game. Why would I respect you when you're vile and hateful? I don't, and that's why you have many Black women now trying to play "catch up" and degrade Black men and hope to date other races to beat you at your own game. That's where the fragmentation is coming from. Who cares how it started, or if it was a goal of Whites or whatever, but it's happening.

“Bow Chika Wow Wow”

Level 4

Since: Sep 12

Location hidden

#8 May 31, 2013
terrrelle wrote:
8. aggressively pursue an
education
On the heels of not glorifying
ignorance, comes the importance of
achieving an education. Overall, an
education ensures opportunity and
advancement. and Black men need
to step up their game when it
comes to pursuing an education.
there is a glaring disparity
between Black men and Black
women when it comes to academic
achievement. Black women out
perform black men in college
enrollment and graduation rates.
And the graduation rate of Black
men is lower than any other racial
group. We don’t have to think far
back to a time when black people
weren’t even allowed to read or
write. and it’s truly disheartening
when black men don’t take full
advantage of the opportunities to
advance themselves and their race
by getting an education.
I do agree with this. I love smart, educated Black men. Especially if he is educated about our history and culture, then OMG that is so sexy because he can pass that knowledge and pride on to his children. As a woman, it is very attractive to meet a man who could help raise great children. It's ALSO our responsibility to be as understanding of our history though. Black men and women should both work on our education levels.

I know a Black man getting his Ph.D working as a Grad student instructor/professor in African American studies at a local University. He grew up in Compton, he's only about 25 y/o and he is the PERFECT man. All of the Black guys who think they do need to be rappers/athletes should look up to Neil Degrasse Tyson nd men like him. There are definitely level headed Black women who love level headed, smart Black men. Plus, this guy isn't even very physically attractive, but his brain is super attractive.:)
terrrelle

United States

#9 May 31, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
I can't figure out if Blacks are really this crazy, or if it's just that I've read so many negative things online that it's begun to cloud my judgement of reality when I'm outside. I still see most Black people together and with kids, etc... but... idk, I think Black people have some communication issues. We're a community, and a community works like a relationship. Right now, Blacks are in an unhealthy relationship with one another, and in order to save it, we need to actually communicate our issues. Not blame the other, or try to make the other side feel bad or guilty. sweet Black girl somewhere reading it who then feels either pain or anger from it, and neither of those emotions lead to good in people.
i feel everything you said. we do need to stop pointing fingers a gender of people. even though Im a black male i say its my gender that's mainly the problem. I also think we should stop blaming the innocent people who did nothing wrong to nobody. and start holding the fools and the ones who are causing these negative issues of our race accountable for their actions.
terrrelle

United States

#10 May 31, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
<quoted text>
I do agree with this. I love smart, educated Black men. Especially if he is educated about our history and culture, then OMG that is so sexy because he can pass that knowledge and pride on to his children. As a woman, it is very attractive to meet a man who could help raise great children. It's ALSO our responsibility to be as understanding of our history though. Black men and women should both work on our education levels.
I know a Black man getting his Ph.D working as a Grad student instructor/professor in African American studies at a local University. He grew up in Compton, he's only about 25 y/o and he is the PERFECT man. All of the Black guys who think they do need to be rappers/athletes should look up to Neil Degrasse Tyson nd men like him. There are definitely level headed Black women who love level headed, smart Black men. Plus, this guy isn't even very physically attractive, but his brain is super attractive.:)
your exactly right. its good to know about black history. i love learning about black history. history is actually my favorite subject. i believe its plenty of intelligent black people out there. many of them don't even get recognized. but yeah i do agree with you. education is extremely important to every person.

“>3 =O”

Level 5

Since: Mar 12

los angeles

#11 May 31, 2013
Black AMERICAN men should uplift themselves, thats it.
Soul Hunter

United States

#12 May 31, 2013
At this juncture we should just split up and go our separate ways.
denise

Chicago, IL

#13 May 31, 2013
epic fail.and you wonder why your,i mean black males hate your nappy headed guts?i actually feel sorry for black men to have such a worthless, backstabbing race of women who accuse them of the things they themselves are guilty of.and to say what you are doing is payback when you all have been in on it this whole time.they started leaving you ignorant sherillas because of what you were saying and doing,DUH!
and by the way,bm know full well that non bw don't hate them or think any less of them.as a matter of fact,there are thousands of cases where ww turned on wm to help and save both bw and bm from racism and abuse so cut the bull.many ww have always done this and you know it.you are bitter and jealous that another race of women,specifically ww,can EASILY take your place and do a BETTER job than you ever could.and that bm are strong and smart enough not to bend and fold to your demands.that is what a REAL man is.not a mommas boy who just sits there and takes abuse from you and still worship and uplift you for the mere fact that you are black.and news flash,bw dont create black people,if i'm correct BLACK MEN have something to do with it.lol
you "girls" are so pathetic and it's so sad to think about what you do to your own race of men it makes me want to cry.when i think of what you do to your sons and what you let others do to them it ticks me off so much that i agree with what you all say about aborting black male fetuses because they will come from heaven and god to the depths of hell with bw devils.they will be bettter off not being born at all.but hey it's not like you need them,only bw can have black people right?that royal black womb that single handedly birthed us all including us evil ww and saintly wm huh?.lol
now with all of this being said and done by you and me,let's see you demand bm to attack me for your honor....after all you're doing.

Level 5

Since: Aug 10

Location hidden

#14 Jun 1, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
I can't figure out if Blacks are really this crazy, or if it's just that I've read so many negative things online that it's begun to cloud my judgement of reality when I'm outside. I still see most Black people together and with kids, etc... but... idk, I think Black people have some communication issues. We're a community, and a community works like a relationship. Right now, Blacks are in an unhealthy relationship with one another, and in order to save it, we need to actually communicate our issues. Not blame the other, or try to make the other side feel bad or guilty. We can't get defensive or angry but actually try to understand what the other is saying.
Black men are going to have to try to see Black women's issues and what we face from our perspective. It's not so easy for us in this world as women and as Black people in the United States. In a country where women are valued and respected based off of our looks, Black women are the MOST demeaned for our looks, and if I'm being 100% honest, Black men are annoying these days because they have no problem adding to this these days. You have younger Black guys and others who PROUDLY say they aren't attracted to Black females. We are the women of your race, if you uplifted Black females more often, more would be receptive and warm towards BM. More Black women would also have more respect for themselves and not desperately seek love from men by sleeping around and getting pregnant. I think out of every race of women, I notice that Black women coming out of inner city areas, the women who like the "thugs" types of men are crying out in their actions. They don't want the "smart" Black guy with the plain clothes or comes off as weak because they desperately want a man who appears as if he can protect her, and that's these thug kinds of guys. They don't protect her and they leave her alone and bitter, but actions speak louder than words. Many Black women in America are crying out for something, I'm not sure what it is though...
If I were to guess, off the top of my head though, it would be respect. We are extremely disrespected. Do you know how many times I've been mistaken for a hooker or just made to feel bad about myself from some men, and men in all races. We're being called ugly left and right, and then at the same time praised for ONLY our bodies, if that. People say we're fat, we're ugly, we're mean and angry and bitter and rude and all kinds of TERRIBLE things, and I never see a Black man come to our defense. These days, you guys are likely to join in. Then, you get upset because you want Black women to treat you better. People should really think about things, Black women are people. For every "Black women are worthless" comment, there is a nice, sweet Black girl somewhere reading it who then feels either pain or anger from it, and neither of those emotions lead to good in people.
That's a start. At least some Blacks realize we have communication issues.
Amelia Sugar COCAINE

Castle Rock, CO

#15 Jun 1, 2013
The black "race" is done. There is no hope. Just live and let go.
Spit-Fire

Tucker, GA

#16 Jun 17, 2013
This is a really good thread with informative reflective posts by PinkPearl and Terelle. Nice commentary!
Prettyboy Freud

United States

#17 Jun 17, 2013
<<< what should black men do to uplift our race? >>>

Have themselves sterilized.
A Perm For BM

Mountain View, CA

#18 Mar 22, 2016
denise wrote:
epic fail.and you wonder why your,i mean black males hate your nappy headed guts?i actually feel sorry for black men to have such a worthless, backstabbing race of women who accuse them of the things they themselves are guilty of.and to say what you are doing is payback when you all have been in on it this whole time.they started leaving you ignorant sherillas because of what you were saying and doing,DUH!
and by the way,bm know full well that non bw don't hate them or think any less of them.as a matter of fact,there are thousands of cases where ww turned on wm to help and save both bw and bm from racism and abuse so cut the bull.many ww have always done this and you know it.you are bitter and jealous that another race of women,specifically ww,can EASILY take your place and do a BETTER job than you ever could.and that bm are strong and smart enough not to bend and fold to your demands.that is what a REAL man is.not a mommas boy who just sits there and takes abuse from you and still worship and uplift you for the mere fact that you are black.and news flash,bw dont create black people,if i'm correct BLACK MEN have something to do with it.lol
you "girls" are so pathetic and it's so sad to think about what you do to your own race of men it makes me want to cry.when i think of what you do to your sons and what you let others do to them it ticks me off so much that i agree with what you all say about aborting black male fetuses because they will come from heaven and god to the depths of hell with bw devils.they will be bettter off not being born at all.but hey it's not like you need them,only bw can have black people right?that royal black womb that single handedly birthed us all including us evil ww and saintly wm huh?.lol
now with all of this being said and done by you and me,let's see you demand bm to attack me for your honor....after all you're doing.
See, this is what I mean. And I'm not sure if you are a white person or a a blk man. But really, if blk men didn't start talking to blk women in this way to begin with, we would be able to tell if you were white or blk. Either way, suck a dyyk.
A Perm For BM

Mountain View, CA

#19 Mar 22, 2016
Don5163 wrote:
<quoted text>That's a start. At least some Blacks realize we have communication issues.
We don't have a communication issue. Blk women understood the message loud and clear. I don't see how the race can come back from this. Not AA. A large group of blk men cannot just spend the last 30 yrs calling their women names in music, and then spend the last decade con YouTube telling blk women & the world how much they hate blk women & how ugly blk women are & say all other races are above blk women, and then say Sorry and make up. There is no coming back from this. Not this time.

Blk men rallied up white men, Asian women, Hispanic women, and anyone they could rally together to throw stones at blk women and call blk women all kinds of slutz & hores & animals & monkeys. Blk men rallied up everyone to trash his woman. Blk women never did this. Blk women never rallied up Asian men & Arab Men, and Latino men, and Native American men to join in with calling blk men gorillas & napppy & ugly. Blk women never did that.

The blk man still had a chance even after the 30 years of calling blk women names in music. But the YouTube assault blk men held against blk women for the last decade was what ended it. There is no way to come back from that. And that wasn't white Supremacy, that was blk men that did that, all on their own, so... I mean, it's over. It's a wrap.

Tell me when this thread is updated:

Subscribe Now Add to my Tracker

Add your comments below

Characters left: 4000

Please note by submitting this form you acknowledge that you have read the Terms of Service and the comment you are posting is in compliance with such terms. Be polite. Inappropriate posts may be removed by the moderator. Send us your feedback.

African-American Discussions

Title Updated Last By Comments
Why so many black women prefer white boys 3 min Paul 2
News Barack Obama, our next President (Nov '08) 3 min Grey Ghost 1,562,784
Why can't people with thin lips kiss? (Aug '13) 19 min Nekochan 30
Why whites want to go to space. 20 min Paul 12
Whites Should Stop Sending Aid To Africa, Israe... 23 min Paul 52
News UN rights chief meets US group protesting voter... 33 min Paul 10
Why Are White People So Obsessed with O.J. Simp... 46 min Chalotte 3
More from around the web