African American Women and East India...

African American Women and East Indian men and dating?

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Since: Jan 09

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#1 Mar 16, 2009
This has become a very interesting topic for me since I started dating an Indian guy. I really never cared for Indian men until I met him. Moreover, I was not aware of the internal and external racism that the Indian culture has in terms of discriminating against darker Indians and their hatred of other races. Based upon what I have read, this is very similar to African American culture in the United states in terms of discrimination within one's own race (the light vs. dark thing you know). I am just interested in what some of you have to say. Honesty is appreciated...

~peace.

“~Belle et ReBelle ~”

Since: Oct 08

NYC

#2 Mar 17, 2009
yes, they do have their colorism, but its much worse than in AA communities, in my experiences with indians they don't take black women seriously, i think pakistanis are worse for that, i have never been entered into a relationship with them based on observing that, although i have been approached. although i did enjoy the culture, learned some hindi, etc, i find it silly, some of them are darker than we are, but i guess that might be what bothers some of them...

you yourself could be someone from the indian subcontinent going by your picture, either case i
wish you and your man happiness for the future, i think if the two people care about each other, that is the key.
apoeticprincess

Gadsden, AL

#3 Mar 30, 2009
Hi,
I posted this same thread in another similar forum on here but you may not have seen it so I'm reposting it to let you know there is hope!

I'm African American and have been married to an Indian man from Kerala for the last three years. When we married, I was everything an Indian mother probably wouldn't want for her never married only son. I was Western, an African American, divorced, and I had two kids from the previous marriage! Gasp! LOL. However, my husband's family embraced me in a manner I wasn't prepared for. I had prepared myself for the worst but it's not what I got.

It is unusual to see relationships like ours but they do exist and they can work if both parties are up front with one another about the cultural expectations on both sides.

I hear from women all of the time who had no idea that there are so many marriages that are still arranged in India and they fall for a guy who has no intention of marrying someone outside of their culture. However, there are others (like my husband and many many more) who see beyond the color and culture line and decide to marry or become involved in a serious relationship for who you are, not what culture you are from.

I've lived in India so I know the color/skin issues are alive and well. One look at some of the many many skin lightening cream commercials and you'll know exactly what I'm talking about. However, amongst the billions of people in India, there are good people who don't care about the color of your skin or what kind of family you are from. They simply want and need to know that you will make their son or daughter happy. Remember people, racism exists everywhere.

I remember when my husband and I first got together, I scoured the internet trying to find information on Black and Indian dating and found virtually nothing. I finally made the decision the other day to start a blog about our experience so for anyone interested, you can check it out at www.blindianlove.wordpress.com It's a work in progress and in the coming days I'll be adding many many more pictures from our wedding ceremonies (three! LOL) and filling you in on what life is like in a relationship like ours.

For all of you who are in Indian/African American relationships, don't lose heart or faith. Take it one day and one step at a time and above all, don't be afraid to talk about the cultural stereoptypes and expectations on both sides. In our case, my mother hated the idea of me marrying a foreigner. By contrast, his mother and family accepted me and my children with open arms. Remember, there's always hope!

Since: Jul 08

Racists Get Ignored!

#4 Mar 30, 2009
Lots of Asian men are dating black women for some reason.

Since: Nov 08

Ontario, Canada

#5 Mar 30, 2009
i love black women.....infact indian women are a disgrace.....theyre racist ass coons. lol funny thing is they all try hard to emulate black women cuz as you can see black women have it goin on naturally with they're sexy, sassy and vivacious selves.
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#6 Mar 30, 2009
konrad wrote:
i love black women.....infact indian women are a disgrace.....theyre racist ass coons. lol funny thing is they all try hard to emulate black women cuz as you can see black women have it goin on naturally with they're sexy, sassy and vivacious selves.
Konrad with all due respect...PLEASE do not disrespect YOUR OWN WOMEN! You may have anger and resentment towards a few of them...but do not be like that. You HAVE to LOVE your people...it's within the Christian religion to NEVER DISRESPECT THY MOTHER AND THY FATHER! If you disrespect your own people, you're disrespecting that from which you came and Karma will curse your children Konrad! I know things are tough for you, but you have a gift and you come from the highest ward of consciousness! You have the power and ability to make CHANGE within. If there is ANY disagreement in your heart about India and its culture...the thoughts within your mind will puncture a hole into the state of consciousness of the Indian POOL of thought...thus those who feel the SAME as you will conect WITH you and carry your anger..until it becomes so big...CHANGE will eventually come about!

Do not become like us Konrad; do not hate and ridicule your people for they have brought you far with their dicipline and strength and made you scientists and engineers because of the bond of LOVE to keep within!

Just break away from the chain and find and connect with those who think like you and soon your DREAM will be born into the pool of thought and born into CHANGE.

Stay strong brother and love that from which you came!

Tiawanna:)
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Since: Mar 08

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#7 Mar 30, 2009
LazlowX wrote:
Lots of Asian men are dating black women for some reason.
I am AT fault for much of it...yes...I am ONE of the HOSTS:)

Since: Nov 08

Ontario, Canada

#8 Mar 30, 2009
Tiawanna wrote:
<quoted text>Konrad with all due respect...PLEASE do not disrespect YOUR OWN WOMEN! You may have anger and resentment towards a few of them...but do not be like that. You HAVE to LOVE your people...it's within the Christian religion to NEVER DISRESPECT THY MOTHER AND THY FATHER! If you disrespect your own people, you're disrespecting that from which you came and Karma will curse your children Konrad! I know things are tough for you, but you have a gift and you come from the highest ward of consciousness! You have the power and ability to make CHANGE within. If there is ANY disagreement in your heart about India and its culture...the thoughts within your mind will puncture a hole into the state of consciousness of the Indian POOL of thought...thus those who feel the SAME as you will conect WITH you and carry your anger..until it becomes so big...CHANGE will eventually come about!
Do not become like us Konrad; do not hate and ridicule your people for they have brought you far with their dicipline and strength and made you scientists and engineers because of the bond of LOVE to keep within!
Just break away from the chain and find and connect with those who think like you and soon your DREAM will be born into the pool of thought and born into CHANGE.
Stay strong brother and love that from which you came!
Tiawanna:)
i love my mother, my father, my brothas......but i dont love indian women. they've been hatin since the day i was born. theyre angry that we exist. theyre intimidated by dark skinned men, to treat dark skinned man like he wants to be treated is very intimidating to them becuz according to them his skin colour represents the colour of dirt. and because we want a good life like the white folks....they dont wanna see us live it good becuz they think "dark skinned" people should not be justified with living the dream life. theyre mad at us.
Abidale

Cambridge, Canada

#9 Oct 20, 2009
konrad wrote:
i love black women.....infact indian women are a disgrace.....theyre racist ass coons. lol funny thing is they all try hard to emulate black women cuz as you can see black women have it goin on naturally with they're sexy, sassy and vivacious selves.
Konrad I can see you have a thing for Black women. What is it with you Indian guys from Toronto? Even the married ones are always fallin' over the Black booty. I do take it as a compliment but I also think you guys just want the booty as I have stated in many other threads on this website.

“"I worship the great Lord Ram"”

Since: Oct 09

Mumbai, India

#10 Oct 20, 2009
konrad wrote:
i love black women.....infact indian women are a disgrace.....theyre racist ass coons. lol funny thing is they all try hard to emulate black women cuz as you can see black women have it goin on naturally with they're sexy, sassy and vivacious selves.
Konrad you are a disgrace, your mother must be ashamed of the bastard she gave birth to, thats what happens when a mix Indian comes into the world, I mean look at you!!

“"I worship the great Lord Ram"”

Since: Oct 09

Mumbai, India

#11 Oct 20, 2009
Abidale wrote:
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Konrad I can see you have a thing for Black women. What is it with you Indian guys from Toronto? Even the married ones are always fallin' over the Black booty. I do take it as a compliment but I also think you guys just want the booty as I have stated in many other threads on this website.
Even the married ones are always fallin' over the Black booty.

That is a outright lie, do you have proof, this korad is not Indian why is he living in America, because he is a fake troll.
Nobody wants black booty as you call it, I am sorry but I am speaking the truth.
Abidale

Cambridge, Canada

#12 Oct 20, 2009
First off I don't live in America. I live in Canada, that's firstly. Secondly, have you been living under a rock or are you just naive? They can "tell" you anything and you'll beleive it won't you? See that's exactly what I'm talking about. Indian men are always getting over on their dumb, naive Indian wives.
Abidale

Cambridge, Canada

#13 Oct 20, 2009
Kamalini wrote:
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Even the married ones are always fallin' over the Black booty.
That is a outright lie, do you have proof, this korad is not Indian why is he living in America, because he is a fake troll.
Nobody wants black booty as you call it, I am sorry but I am speaking the truth.
Please...don't be insulted or angry or can a venture to say jealous even? Black women have been blessed with some of the best bodies in the world. You know it, I know it, hell the whole world knows it. Just deal with it my friend. And don't hate...congratulate.
Abidale

Cambridge, Canada

#14 Oct 20, 2009
Kamalini wrote:
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Even the married ones are always fallin' over the Black booty.
That is a outright lie, do you have proof, this korad is not Indian why is he living in America, because he is a fake troll.
Nobody wants black booty as you call it, I am sorry but I am speaking the truth.
What proof could I possibly give you? If you want I can give you my address and you can come take a look at my ass if you want. Maybe I should put it in a box and mail it to you..LMFAO...seriously, how the hell can I give you proof? Clearly you're in denial.

“"I worship the great Lord Ram"”

Since: Oct 09

Mumbai, India

#15 Oct 20, 2009
Abidale wrote:
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Please...don't be insulted or angry or can a venture to say jealous even? Black women have been blessed with some of the best bodies in the world. You know it, I know it, hell the whole world knows it. Just deal with it my friend. And don't hate...congratulate.
No Indian women are not only nlessed with the best bodies but also the best faces, eyes, hair, and even brains, no you are in denial, post up some beautiful black women, for every 1 beautiful black women, I can post up to ten. I mean come on you do not even have a pic of yourself or even sign in.

“"I worship the great Lord Ram"”

Since: Oct 09

Mumbai, India

#16 Oct 20, 2009
typo blessed
tuxedo

Turkey

#17 Oct 20, 2009
Kamalini wrote:
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No Indian women are not only nlessed with the best bodies but also the best faces, eyes, hair, and even brains, no you are in denial, post up some beautiful black women, for every 1 beautiful black women, I can post up to ten. I mean come on you do not even have a pic of yourself or even sign in.
how would we know you are that girl in the avater b*thch!!!! ya you could post more beautiful Indian women since your people are hell more than 20% of human being and expecting to swallowing the whole earth in the coming years,,looooooooooooooool

“Blindian and proud”

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Since: Oct 09

Wissous, France

#18 Oct 20, 2009
Kamalini wrote:
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Even the married ones are always fallin' over the Black booty.
That is a outright lie, do you have proof, this korad is not Indian why is he living in America, because he is a fake troll.
Nobody wants black booty as you call it, I am sorry but I am speaking the truth.
Do you realize you sound like a racist and an ignorant in your posts?(I currently live in Europe but) there's a big Indian community in my native island in the French West-Indies, and Indian men and women mix with/date/marry Black women/men,it's not uncommon, it happens on a regular basis, I'm mixed myself and a decent woman and there are plenty of beautiful mixed people like me living decent lives there.

“Blindian and proud”

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Since: Oct 09

Wissous, France

#19 Oct 20, 2009
Kamalini wrote:
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No Indian women are not only nlessed with the best bodies but also the best faces, eyes, hair, and even brains, no you are in denial, post up some beautiful black women, for every 1 beautiful black women, I can post up to ten. I mean come on you do not even have a pic of yourself or even sign in.
there are beautiful and ugly people in every race!

“Blindian and proud”

Level 1

Since: Oct 09

Wissous, France

#20 Oct 20, 2009
Kamalini wrote:
typo blessed
You should travel more and for your information the person in your avatar may have light skin but is unattractive.

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