Why most interracial marriages don't ...

Why most interracial marriages don't last?

Created by Ape Adams on Jul 16, 2008

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white woman is a ho

woman tired being used

colored man is deadbeat

nothing in common

all of the above

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“Real Black Men Speak English”

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Since: May 07

Bmore

#1 Jul 16, 2008
Actually statistical most marriages in general don't last. feel free to Google the divorce rate in America

“Uncle Tom”

Since: Feb 07

United States

#2 Jul 16, 2008
Interracial marriages are more problematic because culture matters. people marrying from different cultures or religions run into many problems when children come into the picture
Angel

Blacksburg, VA

#3 Jul 16, 2008
NEGATIVE to all poll options. My huband and I have been marred for 17 years and giong strong.

SO sorry to disrupt the negativity of this OP LOL
Brenda

West Covina, CA

#4 Jul 16, 2008
What is considered "last"?. The average marriage is considered a success if it goes beyond the 12 year mark - black on black, white on white and everything in between. The common denominator for a long healthy marriage is communication, trust and common interest; not skin color.

“Gimme the loot”

Since: Jun 08

New Hyde Park, NY

#5 Jul 16, 2008
Kennyinbmore wrote:
Actually statistical most marriages in general don't last. feel free to Google the divorce rate in America
True facts.+1 lightbulb,+1 check mark,+1 lifesaver
Brenda

West Covina, CA

#6 Jul 16, 2008
freeradical wrote:
Interracial marriages are more problematic because culture matters. people marrying from different cultures or religions run into many problems when children come into the picture
Your statement might have truth to it when dealing with weak minded people that gives into peer and social pressure.

ReallyohReally

“That's not CHOCOLATE, dummy!”

Since: Jul 08

...Classic!

#7 Jul 16, 2008
....because there's a BLACK involved...???...
GoodGrief78

Jacksonville, FL

#8 Jul 16, 2008
Volt wrote:
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“Gimme the loot”

Since: Jun 08

New Hyde Park, NY

#9 Jul 16, 2008
Brenda wrote:
What is considered "last"?. The average marriage is considered a success if it goes beyond the 12 year mark - black on black, white on white and everything in between. The common denominator for a long healthy marriage is communication, trust and common interest; not skin color.
Erm...I believe the vows say "'til death do you part" Unless one of the two dies within 12 years, 12 years followed by divorce is not a successful marriage at all. Sometimes I feel like the majority of people just don't take marriage seriously enough tbh...
Brenda

West Covina, CA

#10 Jul 16, 2008
Volt wrote:
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Erm...I believe the vows say "'til death do you part" Unless one of the two dies within 12 years, 12 years followed by divorce is not a successful marriage at all. Sometimes I feel like the majority of people just don't take marriage seriously enough tbh...
You are correct - we take our marriage vowels in HOPE of "until death do we part", but as we all know, that rarely happens. In the past, women depended on their men for financial support; today, women are educated and self sufficent. Hence, women put up with less crap from their husbands and divorce soon follows.

Real love, communication, common interest and trust are the keys to a long lasting marriage, with both parties willing to go the long haul out of choice, not neccessary.

My husband and I are married for life. The waters were tested years ago, and we both passed with flying colors. I am sure we have trials ahead, but as we grow, we have learned to handle the stroms with ease.

“Gimme the loot”

Since: Jun 08

New Hyde Park, NY

#11 Jul 16, 2008
Brenda wrote:
<quoted text>You are correct - we take our marriage vowels in HOPE of "until death do we part", but as we all know, that rarely happens. In the past, women depended on their men for financial support; today, women are educated and self sufficent. Hence, women put up with less crap from their husbands and divorce soon follows.
Real love, communication, common interest and trust are the keys to a long lasting marriage, with both parties willing to go the long haul out of choice, not neccessary.
My husband and I are married for life. The waters were tested years ago, and we both passed with flying colors. I am sure we have trials ahead, but as we grow, we have learned to handle the stroms with ease.
I can't buy the argument that divorce rates have shot up solely because women don't feel like they have to put up with as much crap from their husbands. As we all know, both parties have grown a lot more lax about the issue of marriage. There's a female snake-in-the-grass for every male these days, a screw-thinking-things-out-I-wa nt-it-now mentality floating around, and other things in addition to what you mentioned.

But that's awesome about you and your husband. That's something almost everyone (definitely myself included) would hope to have in their future.:)

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Since: Apr 07

Williamsburg, VA

#12 Jul 16, 2008
There are no accurate statistics on IR marriages and their success or failure rate.

Newsflash! IR happens beyond white and black. Shocking, I know, but true.

My bother's wife is from China and they have two children and a marriage worthy of respect and admiration.

The reasons their marriage is solid has nothing to do with race and everything to do with how they treat one another and the expectations they have.

“Real Black Men Speak English”

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Since: May 07

Bmore

#13 Jul 16, 2008
Volt wrote:
<quoted text>
Erm...I believe the vows say "'til death do you part" Unless one of the two dies within 12 years, 12 years followed by divorce is not a successful marriage at all. Sometimes I feel like the majority of people just don't take marriage seriously enough tbh...
That's exactly part of the reason for the divorce rate. I think a lot of our parents and grandparents put up with crap than none of us this day and age are willing to put up with to keep a marriage going
BITCH FURNACE

Loganville, GA

#14 Jul 16, 2008
Angel wrote:
NEGATIVE to all poll options. My huband and I have been marred for 17 years and giong strong.
SO sorry to disrupt the negativity of this OP LOL
I think you misunderstood the question which is "MOST" not "All interracial marriages"....silly clown

“In the Space Love Demands”

Since: Oct 07

Black Love USA

#15 Jul 16, 2008
I would say that most IR relationships last fairly well. The figure may even be higher than non IR relationships, I don't know.

No matter what combination of people in such a relationship, there still has to be love, respect, and understanding of one another, common ground, knowledge of "how to fight", etc. just as with any relationship, even a gay/lesbian one.

Of course, there are the added issues/stressors of people not respecting the relationship, but most IR people tend to ignore other opinions, naturally.

Speaking for myself, I found most of my IR relationships difficult, due in part to my personal issues with men in general and part because of outside influence.

Every many I had a SERIOUS relationship with was made of emotional iron. They truly didn't mind being outside of the what people viewed as correct.

Most of the men had families that loved me or didn't care about what color I was...

White and Latino men were hard but not so hard. My relationship with a Japanese man was probably one of the most difficult I ever had.

And honestly, people are less angry or rude with my non Black friends in relationships with Black men than they are with Black WOMEN in relationships with non Black men.
Harrison

United States

#16 Jul 16, 2008
The Black one ain't worth shyt.
Brenda

West Covina, CA

#18 Jul 16, 2008
Harrison wrote:
The Black one ain't worth shyt.
Ob, boy, Harrison has made the big time. He's got a troll. Congratulations, Harrison and welcome to the club.
Well

Johnson City, TN

#20 Jul 16, 2008
No comment at this time.

ReallyohReally

“That's not CHOCOLATE, dummy!”

Since: Jul 08

...Classic!

#21 Jul 16, 2008
Brenda wrote:
<quoted text>Ob, boy, Harrison has made the big time. He's got a troll. Congratulations, Harrison and welcome to the club.
You think THAT'S bad?

http://www.topix.com/forum/afam/TQULAVKF1AIUB...

Clowns trolling a TROLL! I LOVE this country!

“Dreams are the touchstones of ”

Since: Feb 07

Our characters

#24 Jul 17, 2008
Basically half of the marriages in America don't work...it's not just an IR thing, it's an American thing.

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