Black women: Leave Black AND White me...
Alfie

UK

#24 Jul 31, 2013
Spit-Fire wrote:
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Hey its ok..lol. It was just a little miscommunication.
Yes the bashing is emotional abuse. Its like the guys who beat their women and constantly tell them that no one else wants them.
The physical beating is bad enough, but the emotional/mental abuse helps to keep you trapped. Mind games!
The WM who do it.... I just chalk it up to racism. I don't even know why they get in the mix.
One is just as crazy as the other!
please stop fooling urselves ,there is no mass demand for shebeasts...
only us bm marry u sheboons....

u r not a highly sought after commodity like
gold or diamond.
WranglerJoey27

Fort Worth, TX

#25 Jul 31, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
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Well, it depends. That is why I said that Black women DO need to work on themselves too. Some women have made BW look bad because they don't know how to be good girlfriends or wives, and that is true, so these women need to realize what they are doing and change it. Be open to changing with the idea that you're going to get a better type of guy. Black and White men bash BW as if they want us to suddenly change as a group and say "Okay, you're right, I'll be better for you" and that isn't going to happen. You bash a group of women, and we just don't like you. Then you have more BW who don't even mind being single because they'd rather not deal with those men. Many African American women need to look back at our grandmothers and how many of them treated their men - not all, but do things like cook for them, be nice and don't nag, trust the guy, ask him how his day was after work or if he'd like something to drink, make sure he isn't too stressed out or unhappy, etc... it may sounds weird, but it's true. Be a GOOD woman, and also take care of yourself and your looks.
THAT will make many Black women look better in society, and take that love and give it to a Hispanic guy, or an Asian or ANYONE who isn't a White or Black American guy. Why? Because they're the ones who have demanded it. They want us to change? Fine, we'll change, but not for them, we will change and give it to other men.
You didn't answer my question that was at the end. I say yeah change for yourselves to better yourselves instead of it being for a guy. Not every black dude is the same like not all white guys are the same. Not all Hispanic and Asian guys are going to be any better either. Maybe it's an America thing. Try a European born dude. You just might find him to be different. Maybe try a Carribean black guy. It just see like you're not really broadening your options but narrowing them with knocking off not one but two groups of men.
Spit-Fire

Decatur, GA

#26 Jul 31, 2013
Alfie wrote:
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please stop fooling urselves ,there is no mass demand for shebeasts...
only us bm marry u sheboons....
u r not a highly sought after commodity like
gold or diamond.
Lol....please take a long walk off a short cliff!
WranglerJoey27

Fort Worth, TX

#27 Jul 31, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
<quoted text>
Well, it depends. That is why I said that Black women DO need to work on themselves too. Some women have made BW look bad because they don't know how to be good girlfriends or wives, and that is true, so these women need to realize what they are doing and change it. Be open to changing with the idea that you're going to get a better type of guy. Black and White men bash BW as if they want us to suddenly change as a group and say "Okay, you're right, I'll be better for you" and that isn't going to happen. You bash a group of women, and we just don't like you. Then you have more BW who don't even mind being single because they'd rather not deal with those men. Many African American women need to look back at our grandmothers and how many of them treated their men - not all, but do things like cook for them, be nice and don't nag, trust the guy, ask him how his day was after work or if he'd like something to drink, make sure he isn't too stressed out or unhappy, etc... it may sounds weird, but it's true. Be a GOOD woman, and also take care of yourself and your looks.
THAT will make many Black women look better in society, and take that love and give it to a Hispanic guy, or an Asian or ANYONE who isn't a White or Black American guy. Why? Because they're the ones who have demanded it. They want us to change? Fine, we'll change, but not for them, we will change and give it to other men.
I forgot to add another thing. There are a lot of black women with very disgusting uncouth attitudes and lifestyles that may be causing many men to react the way we do towards black women in general. Have you ever thought of that? Black women are known to be quite rude and untraditional these days with the respect and values departments. Many are, not all of them. Many black women want respect, but they haven't earned it. Do you know what I mean?
Spit-Fire

Decatur, GA

#28 Jul 31, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
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Omg I so agree! It's emotional abuse, they are abusive men. Many Black women respond to it like an abusive relationship too, they seem to believe that Black men are the best they can get, so as a group they accept the abuse. I'm not saying that it should be an
us vs them" thing, but at the point, BW need to understand that we can't accept this from them. If for no other reason then that we care about the younger generation too much. Young Black girls, do you want them raised in this society and country where they are made to feel how they are? The answer is clearly NO.
So what changes? What can we do to start to counter it? It's up to us to change things because hateful people don't suddenly wake up and decide to change for no reason. Black men in America are NOT going to just stop bashing us, it will get worse, because there is no reason for it not to at this point.
White men just annoy me at this point. I was on another website and a Black woman asked a question about BW and a White guy answered that he didn't like Black women AND neither did his Black male friend. I just thought "What is the point of that?" the girl asking the Q was a teenager too, and didn't say anything offensive in it to anyone at all. I don't like, or respect White men back as a group. It's not like I go out hating them, but they are not "good guys" to chase or date. They're bad, and many of them know that they are bad. Black women should learn to avoid them much more often.
No the bashing is not going to stop. Its gotten to the point that it has become the norm.
SMH..It is also generational. The silent majority have been too silent, their silence has given way to consent.
I think BW are on the right track. We're taking our education seriously, focusing on health, owning businesses and the BWE blogs are gaining major traction etc.,
Racist BM and WM are blood brothers! Lolol

“Bow Chika Wow Wow”

Level 4

Since: Sep 12

Location hidden

#30 Aug 1, 2013
WranglerJoey27 wrote:
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I forgot to add another thing. There are a lot of black women with very disgusting uncouth attitudes and lifestyles that may be causing many men to react the way we do towards black women in general. Have you ever thought of that? Black women are known to be quite rude and untraditional these days with the respect and values departments. Many are, not all of them. Many black women want respect, but they haven't earned it. Do you know what I mean?
That is what I have been mentioning on here. I said that many BW have made us look bad, and those women need to change too. However, to respond to your last post, I don't think European men are the answer either. This is the United States, I don't think BW should chase or desire some guy across the world. Caribbean and African men are already being dated all the time, and they are cool. I don't ever think there will be a time when *all* Black people date other races, I am talking about there being many more, and in that case, there are enough Hispanic, Asian or whatever men who are not Black or White who they can date. That's not to say these women should be bitter and go out dating them at all, be a good person and change your outlook on the world, and then just be more into dating them as opposed to others. I don't think that's hard at all.

If more Black women have a more positive outlook on the world then we can change the way others view us as a group, but that doesn't mean that we should go towards the men who bashed us. That's like being teased in school and called ugly by a popular guy, and you leave for summer, have a makeover and come back hot, only to have the main guy who teased you ask you on a date. You reject him, if you're smart, and you date the guy who didn't really tease you before, even if he didn't notice you very much.

“Bow Chika Wow Wow”

Level 4

Since: Sep 12

Location hidden

#32 Aug 1, 2013
The Shagstar wrote:
<quoted text>you do know that Middle Eastern and Indian men want a wife that cooks and cleans and know how to take care of their kids, because I know some Pakistani men that wouldn't even choose a Pakistani woman raised in Britain because they think they're way to westernized and slutty, just like a white girl, so they usually go back to their homelands to find a traditional girl.
Okay, there aren't even that many Middle Eastern/Indian men in the U.S, but I have started to see some Black women dating them. I recently had a man from the Middle East who was really interested in me too, and he was Americanized and lived here his entire life. Cute Black girls with sweet personalities can attract men easily, and being cute actually isn't that hard.
Alfie

UK

#33 Aug 1, 2013
Spit-Fire wrote:
<quoted text>
No the bashing is not going to stop. Its gotten to the point that it has become the norm.
SMH..It is also generational. The silent majority have been too silent, their silence has given way to consent.
I think BW are on the right track. We're taking our education seriously, focusing on health, owning businesses and the BWE blogs are gaining major traction etc.,
Racist BM and WM are blood brothers! Lolol
u sheboons r really delusional .....

u r not highly sought after as there is no big demand for beasties..

there is a reason ur ir marraige n dating numbers
r low
sherillas r chosen last by all men...
Satan

Lewisville, TX

#34 Aug 1, 2013
What ever happened to "Black Love?"
Satan

Lewisville, TX

#35 Aug 1, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
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Okay, there aren't even that many Middle Eastern/Indian men in the U.S, but I have started to see some Black women dating them. I recently had a man from the Middle East who was really interested in me too, and he was Americanized and lived here his entire life. Cute Black girls with sweet personalities can attract men easily, and being cute actually isn't that hard.
Are you even black?
You look like a Mulatto or some type of mix.
pinkpearl

Fairfield, CA

#38 Aug 1, 2013
REDNECK SNAPPER wrote:
<quoted text>
You have no shame and street walkers will steal a lot of men.
If all of these non-AAM are so great and you hsve known "many of them", pray tell us why you're still single?
A STRANGE WOMAN IS LIKE A DEEP DITCH.
Dif you read my original post? I am not single, my boyfriend is Hispanic. He's Mexican but I've dated other Hispanic guys too, and an Asian guy. Don't start with the bitterness on here. I will not let it change the topic on this thread. You abusive guys have tried TOO hard to tear down black women's self esteem, as proof with your post, so you can watch us as we make other men happy. You cannot have your cake and eat it too.

Black women reading this, Look at his post, and realize that you are better and deserve better than guys who call you street walkers and try SO HARD to tell you that you're undesirable. These men are trying to control you and trying to keep you with the despite their lack of respect. Ask yourself, do you deserve better than this? Do other black girls deserve this? Do YOUNG black girls deserve this? No! So we have to change it by leaving them and their culture of disrespect.
pinkpearl

Fairfield, CA

#39 Aug 1, 2013
Satan wrote:
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Are you even black?
You look like a Mulatto or some type of mix.
I am a Black woman and I am proud of that. Not mixed at all, we dont all look alike in Africa.
WranglerJoey27

Fort Worth, TX

#40 Aug 1, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
<quoted text>
That is what I have been mentioning on here. I said that many BW have made us look bad, and those women need to change too. However, to respond to your last post, I don't think European men are the answer either. This is the United States, I don't think BW should chase or desire some guy across the world. Caribbean and African men are already being dated all the time, and they are cool. I don't ever think there will be a time when *all* Black people date other races, I am talking about there being many more, and in that case, there are enough Hispanic, Asian or whatever men who are not Black or White who they can date. That's not to say these women should be bitter and go out dating them at all, be a good person and change your outlook on the world, and then just be more into dating them as opposed to others. I don't think that's hard at all.
If more Black women have a more positive outlook on the world then we can change the way others view us as a group, but that doesn't mean that we should go towards the men who bashed us. That's like being teased in school and called ugly by a popular guy, and you leave for summer, have a makeover and come back hot, only to have the main guy who teased you ask you on a date. You reject him, if you're smart, and you date the guy who didn't really tease you before, even if he didn't notice you very much.
I know that's what you're saying. So the message is black women should simply expand their options but rule out all white men and black men. You just make it seem like black women haven't caused most of these men behaviors. That's how it sounds to me, like you guys want the respect but feel you are entitled to it no matter how you behave or treat a man including disrespecting him. You guys choose to pass up good men because you seem to pick the thugs over the good guys for some reason. I never understood that. I think you all deserve to be happy as women, but some black women seem to not want happiness but more like entitlements. I could be wrong, but that's what I picked up anyway. Many of these women first should focus on behaving like ladies because Hispanics and Asians are pretty traditional people for the most part. To your last part of your post, you said you'll reject him if you'd smart. Yes, you'll reject those individuals if you're smart and show more respect to the good ones in any race. Doesn't that make more sense and sound like a better mind expansion than ruling out even the good men in both races because you're basing it on color?

“What do the stars say......”

Since: May 11

...explore outside the milkway

#41 Aug 1, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
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Maybe some, but I'm still Black and I've attracted a lot of Hispanic men who like me just fine. There are people who dislike EVERY race. I have friends in every race who have difficulties attracting men at all, that isn't a Black female issue, some people have gotten too consumed with that idea. However, there are good Hispanic and Asian guys who deserve a loving Black woman MUCH more than the other two guys these days. I think more Black women should just try. Most People want a loving relationship regardless of race, but Black and White guys in the U.S are just not worth it because they are insulting to us as woman.
I'm saying Black women should think positive, better yourself and be happy and go for the races of men who don't constantly disrespect us in society as much.
Well I am just saying not to consider race when you want to find love.

“What do the stars say......”

Since: May 11

...explore outside the milkway

#42 Aug 1, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
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Oh, and there are definitely Asian men who do like Black women too. I live around many, the main obstacle some Asian guys have is their family. I have dated some Asian men, so I know. Not just East Asian either, but like Filipino men and down South like some Indian or Middle Eastern American guys.
Yeah, I know I have dated an indian before. He became too clingy way too fast, but he was a nice guy.

“Bow Chika Wow Wow”

Level 4

Since: Sep 12

Location hidden

#45 Aug 1, 2013
WranglerJoey27 wrote:
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I know that's what you're saying. So the message is black women should simply expand their options but rule out all white men and black men. You just make it seem like black women haven't caused most of these men behaviors. That's how it sounds to me, like you guys want the respect but feel you are entitled to it no matter how you behave or treat a man including disrespecting him. You guys choose to pass up good men because you seem to pick the thugs over the good guys for some reason. I never understood that. I think you all deserve to be happy as women, but some black women seem to not want happiness but more like entitlements. I could be wrong, but that's what I picked up anyway. Many of these women first should focus on behaving like ladies because Hispanics and Asians are pretty traditional people for the most part. To your last part of your post, you said you'll reject him if you'd smart. Yes, you'll reject those individuals if you're smart and show more respect to the good ones in any race. Doesn't that make more sense and sound like a better mind expansion than ruling out even the good men in both races because you're basing it on color?
I have already addressed that, but then again, you are kind of proving my point. Black and White guys in the U.S cannot seem to even think of Black women outside of stereotypes. You say some Black women are bad, and that is true, but not ALL of us, and those of us who have not been mean or rude or anything have still had to sit back and listen to us as a race/gender get bashed NONstop by angry men. I have never been a bitter type of person, I'm a happy girl, I respect myself and I come from a good family. Why would I choose to chase after races of men who see me as only a stereotypical thing? If you cannot even understand that many of us actually ARE good women, then why bother with you?

See, my boyfriend likes Black girls and all races of women, he just liked pretty girls. He grew up in a diverse city that wasn't very wealthy or anything and then went to college where I met him. He's just a guy who likes girls. When we met, he wasn't obsessed with some FEAR that I would be stereotypical or anything, because he didn't think that way. So I respect him as a person and I love him with all of my heart. It is a RELIEF to be with someone who sees you as a PERSON, rather than as just a "Black woman", and I hope other Black women get to experience something like that, but in the meantime, it shouldn't be with the groups that I already mentioned.

I'm sorry if it offends you, but you can't blame us. Most of the Black females who have read this agree with me, and they see my point because it is true. We are at a breaking point with being stereotyped.
WranglerJoey27

Fort Worth, TX

#48 Aug 1, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
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I have already addressed that, but then again, you are kind of proving my point. Black and White guys in the U.S cannot seem to even think of Black women outside of stereotypes. You say some Black women are bad, and that is true, but not ALL of us, and those of us who have not been mean or rude or anything have still had to sit back and listen to us as a race/gender get bashed NONstop by angry men. I have never been a bitter type of person, I'm a happy girl, I respect myself and I come from a good family. Why would I choose to chase after races of men who see me as only a stereotypical thing? If you cannot even understand that many of us actually ARE good women, then why bother with you?
See, my boyfriend likes Black girls and all races of women, he just liked pretty girls. He grew up in a diverse city that wasn't very wealthy or anything and then went to college where I met him. He's just a guy who likes girls. When we met, he wasn't obsessed with some FEAR that I would be stereotypical or anything, because he didn't think that way. So I respect him as a person and I love him with all of my heart. It is a RELIEF to be with someone who sees you as a PERSON, rather than as just a "Black woman", and I hope other Black women get to experience something like that, but in the meantime, it shouldn't be with the groups that I already mentioned.
I'm sorry if it offends you, but you can't blame us. Most of the Black females who have read this agree with me, and they see my point because it is true. We are at a breaking point with being stereotyped.
I was just saying because some of these chicks are reading this and might think the grass is always greener on the other side, then get their feelings shot down because they may have too much expectation with Hispanic and Asian guys and find out otherwise. That's what I'm saying. If you don't fit the stereotype, then great and keep striding, but for those who do, they should focus first on making themselves happy instead of trying to find a man to make them happy because no man can fix an angry bitter woman. That's all I'm saying.
pinkpearl

Fairfield, CA

#50 Aug 1, 2013
REDNECK SNAPPER wrote:
<quoted text>
YOU ARE A LIAR AND MANIPULATING THE EGO OF AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN.
YOU ARE A LIAR!
You claim to be married but, the following post is in the present tense and should read, "used to steal" or "stole". Naw, you wrote "I still have to steal their men...."
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PinkPearl wrote
I never said i wad married, thats insane lol. Hes my boyfriend and im not lying or anything, im being honest.

I dont think ghetto, stupid blacks should try to chade other men though, those women are bad, im talking about GOOD ones who have love to give, but are disheartened by the bashing of us.
Cee Da Gawd

Fremont, CA

#51 Aug 1, 2013
Welp, life goes on, doesn't it?

“The Beating Heart Of Africa”

Level 4

Since: Mar 10

Washington, DC

#52 Aug 1, 2013
You post as if you've met all Black men or all White men.

Speak on your own experience and let others make their own choice.

I can tell you that I take care of my fiancee and treat her like the Queen she is. My race has nothing to do with that. It is my character and ideals as a man.

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