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“#BlackWomenRise”

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#1 Jul 31, 2013
Aren't you all sick of the race topic? Sick of guys just being so rude towards Black women as a group?

There should be a movement of more Black women to be the best woman you can be. Be sexy and take care of your body so it's the best out there like it originally should, be smart and sexy and sassy and fun, love your men and take care of their needs and make them happy and become great women - BUT not to either Black or White guys. Attract Hispanic and Asian men, and take care of them and let them take care of you as a good woman by their side, one that loves them and treats them well.

Black and White men are race obsessed and neither of them deserves a good Black woman. There are many men in the U.S who are neither of these two races and they're great guys who just want a woman to love them. Black women have a lot of love to give, and you dont have to worry so much about their race obsessions and stuff like that, trust me.

I date Hispanic guys, I take care of my bf, I cook the foods he wants, I clean, sex whenever he wants it and good sex how he wants it. He gives me his love, he buys me things and treats me nicely. It's a better relationship than ANY I've had. So leave these guys behind, find a guy who isn't a part of a group that bashes us non stop in society, and give that guy the best loving of his life.

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Since: Jul 13

New York City

#3 Jul 31, 2013
- You cannot speak on a general level unless you personally spoke with every white/black individual on this site or outside of this site .

- We all have preferences on what type of women/man we want to date , with all due respect PinkPearl you are doing exactly what you don't like man doing to black females . You're bashing 2 races without any logical proof to back your general thread .

- No matter the persons race , love is in everyone , a hispanic man can be a very abusive man as a white / black / asian man . Everything determines on how he was brought up in his community and environment .

- I feel as if this is directed towards me as from your recent comments on my threads . Understand , they're simple "questions" that I'd like to be answered in a mature fashion .

- Though I am happy that he makes you happy as you make him happy . I pray you both last

“What do the stars say......”

Since: May 11

...explore outside the milkway

#5 Jul 31, 2013
Hispanic men can be very racist, and a lot of them either prefer white or latina women, hell they don't even their own black women. You can't base your own experiences on other people. A lot of asian men aren't too fond of black women either. White men and black men are the same way. Black women need to find a man reguardless of his skin color, someone who will love her unconditionally and who won't hurt her and someone who is not out to use her. True love can be very hard to find especially if its in the wrong place. Any man can be prejudice to any woman based on her race, yes this includes hispanic and asian men as I mentioned before.
Spit-Fire

Tucker, GA

#6 Jul 31, 2013
I understand why you wrote this post and why you feel the way you do.
I think, based on my own circle of girlfriends/ co workers, that BW are going to be very diverse in their romantic prospects.
There are many BW who want other men of color only.

“#BlackWomenRise”

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Since: Sep 12

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#7 Jul 31, 2013
REDNECK SNAPPER wrote:
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Hmmmm, every culture have their unique customs.
I don't think AAW would like drinking hot sauce as a cocktail and greasy food is bad too.
Hmmmm, there are more women than men in every culture. I can see senorita eye balling a bw for stealing her senor.
Some Black people love hot sauce, and more Black women can learn to love it too, because their foods are delicious! lol. I love Hispanic men, I like Hispanic women too, but I still have to steal their men because many are wonderful.

If she's a shy, quiet type, then she can rock some Asian guy's world. Their foods are less spicy and their culture is more reserved. I notice there are shy Black girls too, people just ignore them, and Asian men have many pluses!++ Many are good guys, and I know because I have known many of them.

“#BlackWomenRise”

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Since: Sep 12

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#8 Jul 31, 2013
Carmiana wrote:
Hispanic men can be very racist, and a lot of them either prefer white or latina women, hell they don't even their own black women. You can't base your own experiences on other people. A lot of asian men aren't too fond of black women either. White men and black men are the same way. Black women need to find a man reguardless of his skin color, someone who will love her unconditionally and who won't hurt her and someone who is not out to use her. True love can be very hard to find especially if its in the wrong place. Any man can be prejudice to any woman based on her race, yes this includes hispanic and asian men as I mentioned before.
Maybe some, but I'm still Black and I've attracted a lot of Hispanic men who like me just fine. There are people who dislike EVERY race. I have friends in every race who have difficulties attracting men at all, that isn't a Black female issue, some people have gotten too consumed with that idea. However, there are good Hispanic and Asian guys who deserve a loving Black woman MUCH more than the other two guys these days. I think more Black women should just try. Most People want a loving relationship regardless of race, but Black and White guys in the U.S are just not worth it because they are insulting to us as woman.

I'm saying Black women should think positive, better yourself and be happy and go for the races of men who don't constantly disrespect us in society as much.
dcm1

Chandler, AZ

#9 Jul 31, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
Aren't you all sick of the race topic? Sick of guys just being so rude towards Black women as a group?
There should be a movement of more Black women to be the best woman you can be. Be sexy and take care of your body so it's the best out there like it originally should, be smart and sexy and sassy and fun, love your men and take care of their needs and make them happy and become great women - BUT not to either Black or White guys. Attract Hispanic and Asian men, and take care of them and let them take care of you as a good woman by their side, one that loves them and treats them well.
Black and White men are race obsessed and neither of them deserves a good Black woman. There are many men in the U.S who are neither of these two races and they're great guys who just want a woman to love them. Black women have a lot of love to give, and you dont have to worry so much about their race obsessions and stuff like that, trust me.
I date Hispanic guys, I take care of my bf, I cook the foods he wants, I clean, sex whenever he wants it and good sex how he wants it. He gives me his love, he buys me things and treats me nicely. It's a better relationship than ANY I've had. So leave these guys behind, find a guy who isn't a part of a group that bashes us non stop in society, and give that guy the best loving of his life.
Here's a novel idea. If you're happy with a Latino....more power to ya. People choose to date whomever he/she pleases. lol

“#BlackWomenRise”

Level 4

Since: Sep 12

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#10 Jul 31, 2013
Carmiana wrote:
Hispanic men can be very racist, and a lot of them either prefer white or latina women, hell they don't even their own black women. You can't base your own experiences on other people. A lot of asian men aren't too fond of black women either. White men and black men are the same way. Black women need to find a man reguardless of his skin color, someone who will love her unconditionally and who won't hurt her and someone who is not out to use her. True love can be very hard to find especially if its in the wrong place. Any man can be prejudice to any woman based on her race, yes this includes hispanic and asian men as I mentioned before.
Oh, and there are definitely Asian men who do like Black women too. I live around many, the main obstacle some Asian guys have is their family. I have dated some Asian men, so I know. Not just East Asian either, but like Filipino men and down South like some Indian or Middle Eastern American guys.
Spit-Fire

Tucker, GA

#11 Jul 31, 2013
I think that BW are very aware that there are AM and HM that would not date them.
The perception is that many BM/WM are the ones consistently bashing BW and take pleasure in doing so.
Its odd, but the level of animosity from some of these guys toward BW is just mind boggling.
I understand why some BW choose to steer clear of both.
However, I still think its important to judge men on an individual basis, no matter what color they are.

“Perfection is impossible”

Level 5

Since: May 13

But excellence is close enough

#12 Jul 31, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
Aren't you all sick of the race topic? Sick of guys just being so rude towards Black women as a group?
There should be a movement of more Black women to be the best woman you can be. Be sexy and take care of your body so it's the best out there like it originally should, be smart and sexy and sassy and fun, love your men and take care of their needs and make them happy and become great women - BUT not to either Black or White guys. Attract Hispanic and Asian men, and take care of them and let them take care of you as a good woman by their side, one that loves them and treats them well.
Black and White men are race obsessed and neither of them deserves a good Black woman. There are many men in the U.S who are neither of these two races and they're great guys who just want a woman to love them. Black women have a lot of love to give, and you dont have to worry so much about their race obsessions and stuff like that, trust me.
I date Hispanic guys, I take care of my bf, I cook the foods he wants, I clean, sex whenever he wants it and good sex how he wants it. He gives me his love, he buys me things and treats me nicely. It's a better relationship than ANY I've had. So leave these guys behind, find a guy who isn't a part of a group that bashes us non stop in society, and give that guy the best loving of his life.
I understand your motive of why you generated this thread, the demeaning post directed towards African American women are frequent.

“#BlackWomenRise”

Level 4

Since: Sep 12

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#14 Jul 31, 2013
Spit-Fire wrote:
I think that BW are very aware that there are AM and HM that would not date them.
The perception is that many BM/WM are the ones consistently bashing BW and take pleasure in doing so.
Its odd, but the level of animosity from some of these guys toward BW is just mind boggling.
I understand why some BW choose to steer clear of both.
However, I still think its important to judge men on an individual basis, no matter what color they are.
See, I'm completely confused. Why do some Black women automatically assume certain men won't like them? Sheesh, some Black girls need more confidence in this country. I have friends who get hit on by HM often or AM too, I live in California. I'm speaking from experience, I bet you are just speaking from assumptions.

they disrespect BW because they CAN. Black women are still there by their side praising them and trying to get the guys to treat them better and they won't. They do it because as GROUPS they don't see any reason to. Black men don't see a reason to respect BW and don't even have to because they can make it clear that they dislike us and MANY BW are still there for them when they want one. White men are just... who knows. Black women need to STOP being so desperate for the attention of some men, especially when the guy doesn't value her based on race alone. There ARE men in those groups who respect Black women, but are they worth it? If she meets them, maybe, but otherwise, just being more open to other men makes much more sense.

“#BlackWomenRise”

Level 4

Since: Sep 12

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#15 Jul 31, 2013
I'm not saying that BW should just go out and desperately try to get HM or AM, but just make yourself a great person, a woman who men in general will like. Take care of yourself and be happy, positive energy is good and draws many men in, THEN just go for the HM and AM. Other races do stuff like that, they focus who they want to date. Date Hispanic men, treat them well and the word spreads more amongst them and their friends and the guys start to want a Black girl out of curiosity. The thing is not just to get the guy or date him, but to be GOOD to him so he has a reason to see you as better than others.

Don't try that with others, it goes unnoticed. Good Black women are ignored by Black men, even happily married Black men don't praise Black women. White men just dislike Black people as a race, so ignore them fully.

I'm 100% serious. Make yourself a GREAT woman, and show these men how wonderful you are. There are many single Asian guys too, and they are becoming a very successful group. Just as far as society goes, Asian men will likely be more of a status thing in coming years, NOT White men. Black women can be the first to get them more, BUT it doesn't just happen, more Black women need to better themselves and show them that we're great women - but don't do it FOR Black and White men, because they have proven that they do not deserve us.

“#BlackWomenRise”

Level 4

Since: Sep 12

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#16 Jul 31, 2013
Everyone knows what I'm saying makes sense.

Be social, expand your view of the world around you. Show off that beautiful White smile Blacks are known for, meet more kinds of people and dress well, take care of your body and show off your BEAUTIFUL brown skin in cute dresses and show the world how great you are as a person. Don't let negative thoughts get into your mind so much, those negative comments are mainly by Black and White guys these days, so ignore them.

I already know many Black females with Latin guys or Middle Eastern and stuff. It is most definitely not impossible, but Black women need to change some things first, but it's okay, because it will benefit us in the long run.

You know I'm right too. If you're sick of all of the bashing, then show them that you deserve better, and also younger Black girls too, because the bashing of BW affects the self esteem of the young girls in our community too.
Spit-Fire

Tucker, GA

#17 Jul 31, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
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See, I'm completely confused. Why do some Black women automatically assume certain men won't like them? Sheesh, some Black girls need more confidence in this country. I have friends who get hit on by HM often or AM too, I live in California. I'm speaking from experience, I bet you are just speaking from assumptions.
they disrespect BW because they CAN. Black women are still there by their side praising them and trying to get the guys to treat them better and they won't. They do it because as GROUPS they don't see any reason to. Black men don't see a reason to respect BW and don't even have to because they can make it clear that they dislike us and MANY BW are still there for them when they want one. White men are just... who knows. Black women need to STOP being so desperate for the attention of some men, especially when the guy doesn't value her based on race alone. There ARE men in those groups who respect Black women, but are they worth it? If she meets them, maybe, but otherwise, just being more open to other men makes much more sense.
There is absolutely no reason to be confused by my post. I never once stated that AM/HM did not want BW. I was responding to another post that highlighted the racism of HM/AM as well.

I did not think in that post that I needed to clarify that some AM/HM find BW very desirable.

I have no problem with anyone disagreeing with me, but based on my other posts on this very thread, I'm not sure how you could.

I wrote in my earlier post about the dating diversity of the BW in my circle. Half are dating HM as ATL has a large Hispanic population.

I am not a BW who believes in the myth that BW do not have options.

You are preaching to the wrong BW. I abhor the public disrespect that many BM display toward BW on a daily basis and despise the racist rhetoric by many WM.

I am all for BW expanding/maximizing all of their dating options and breaking free of the lopsided loyalty that has in no way benefitted them on a large scale.

I don't think some BW fully realize just how desirable they really are and how much power they hold in the dating game.

In short, I agree with you!!!

There was no shade thrown at you on my part at all.
WranglerJoey27

Fort Worth, TX

#18 Jul 31, 2013
I understand your "movement" OP. What you fail to forget is that you black women, many of you, have Stockholm syndrome. You will appease and defend your abusers to no end. I did say many, not all. A man will do to you only what you allow him to do to you and if a very large portion of women are accepting this type of behavior like the majority of you do, guess what? Any man will treat you accordingly because to many, it's perfectly ok because it's evidentally ok with you. That's in general. Other not watch how your own men treat you. Other races are watching how you people treat each other with the black chicks vs. the black dudes. A great example is Don Imus and that incident with the basketball team. Where do you think a 97 year old man learned infamous phrase from? Take a guess. I do wonder though. If a few Hispanic and Asian guys start treating you the way you feel white and black men treat you or black women, then what other race are you going to focus more on? I'm just wondering.

This question and post is only for the OP, no other female to answer or reply to. Thanks.
WranglerJoey27

Fort Worth, TX

#19 Jul 31, 2013
*other men watch how your men treat you

“#BlackWomenRise”

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Since: Sep 12

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#20 Jul 31, 2013
Spit-Fire wrote:
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There is absolutely no reason to be confused by my post. I never once stated that AM/HM did not want BW. I was responding to another post that highlighted the racism of HM/AM as well.
I did not think in that post that I needed to clarify that some AM/HM find BW very desirable.
I have no problem with anyone disagreeing with me, but based on my other posts on this very thread, I'm not sure how you could.
I wrote in my earlier post about the dating diversity of the BW in my circle. Half are dating HM as ATL has a large Hispanic population.
I am not a BW who believes in the myth that BW do not have options.
You are preaching to the wrong BW. I abhor the public disrespect that many BM display toward BW on a daily basis and despise the racist rhetoric by many WM.
I am all for BW expanding/maximizing all of their dating options and breaking free of the lopsided loyalty that has in no way benefitted them on a large scale.
I don't think some BW fully realize just how desirable they really are and how much power they hold in the dating game.
In short, I agree with you!!!
There was no shade thrown at you on my part at all.
Oh okay, I'm sorry! lol.

I'm happy to hear that your friends are dating HM too. I have a friend dating an Asian guy, and another who was going on a date with an Arab guy too.

I definitely believe that all of the bashing is making some BW feel they have no power in the dating world, and that isn't true! BW should feel beautiful and realize our great qualities.^.^

I think men and people in society don't respect women that they don't view other men respecting. Nobody really knows why some White men obsess over bashing BW or saying bad things about us, and the Black men who do it are seeking White approval, so I am happy to see more Black women expand and date men who are neither of those groups. It also sets up more of a foundation of men who will protect Black females because their Black girlfriends are good to them.

“#BlackWomenRise”

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#21 Jul 31, 2013
WranglerJoey27 wrote:
I understand your "movement" OP. What you fail to forget is that you black women, many of you, have Stockholm syndrome. You will appease and defend your abusers to no end. I did say many, not all. A man will do to you only what you allow him to do to you and if a very large portion of women are accepting this type of behavior like the majority of you do, guess what? Any man will treat you accordingly because to many, it's perfectly ok because it's evidentally ok with you. That's in general. Other not watch how your own men treat you. Other races are watching how you people treat each other with the black chicks vs. the black dudes. A great example is Don Imus and that incident with the basketball team. Where do you think a 97 year old man learned infamous phrase from? Take a guess. I do wonder though. If a few Hispanic and Asian guys start treating you the way you feel white and black men treat you or black women, then what other race are you going to focus more on? I'm just wondering.
This question and post is only for the OP, no other female to answer or reply to. Thanks.
Well, it depends. That is why I said that Black women DO need to work on themselves too. Some women have made BW look bad because they don't know how to be good girlfriends or wives, and that is true, so these women need to realize what they are doing and change it. Be open to changing with the idea that you're going to get a better type of guy. Black and White men bash BW as if they want us to suddenly change as a group and say "Okay, you're right, I'll be better for you" and that isn't going to happen. You bash a group of women, and we just don't like you. Then you have more BW who don't even mind being single because they'd rather not deal with those men. Many African American women need to look back at our grandmothers and how many of them treated their men - not all, but do things like cook for them, be nice and don't nag, trust the guy, ask him how his day was after work or if he'd like something to drink, make sure he isn't too stressed out or unhappy, etc... it may sounds weird, but it's true. Be a GOOD woman, and also take care of yourself and your looks.

THAT will make many Black women look better in society, and take that love and give it to a Hispanic guy, or an Asian or ANYONE who isn't a White or Black American guy. Why? Because they're the ones who have demanded it. They want us to change? Fine, we'll change, but not for them, we will change and give it to other men.
Spit-Fire

Tucker, GA

#22 Jul 31, 2013
PinkPearl wrote:
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Oh okay, I'm sorry! lol.
I'm happy to hear that your friends are dating HM too. I have a friend dating an Asian guy, and another who was going on a date with an Arab guy too.
I definitely believe that all of the bashing is making some BW feel they have no power in the dating world, and that isn't true! BW should feel beautiful and realize our great qualities.^.^
I think men and people in society don't respect women that they don't view other men respecting. Nobody really knows why some White men obsess over bashing BW or saying bad things about us, and the Black men who do it are seeking White approval, so I am happy to see more Black women expand and date men who are neither of those groups. It also sets up more of a foundation of men who will protect Black females because their Black girlfriends are good to them.
Hey its ok..lol. It was just a little miscommunication.

Yes the bashing is emotional abuse. Its like the guys who beat their women and constantly tell them that no one else wants them.

The physical beating is bad enough, but the emotional/mental abuse helps to keep you trapped. Mind games!

The WM who do it.... I just chalk it up to racism. I don't even know why they get in the mix.

One is just as crazy as the other!

“#BlackWomenRise”

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Since: Sep 12

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#23 Jul 31, 2013
Spit-Fire wrote:
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Hey its ok..lol. It was just a little miscommunication.
Yes the bashing is emotional abuse. Its like the guys who beat their women and constantly tell them that no one else wants them.
The physical beating is bad enough, but the emotional/mental abuse helps to keep you trapped. Mind games!
The WM who do it.... I just chalk it up to racism. I don't even know why they get in the mix.
One is just as crazy as the other!
Omg I so agree! It's emotional abuse, they are abusive men. Many Black women respond to it like an abusive relationship too, they seem to believe that Black men are the best they can get, so as a group they accept the abuse. I'm not saying that it should be an
us vs them" thing, but at the point, BW need to understand that we can't accept this from them. If for no other reason then that we care about the younger generation too much. Young Black girls, do you want them raised in this society and country where they are made to feel how they are? The answer is clearly NO.

So what changes? What can we do to start to counter it? It's up to us to change things because hateful people don't suddenly wake up and decide to change for no reason. Black men in America are NOT going to just stop bashing us, it will get worse, because there is no reason for it not to at this point.

White men just annoy me at this point. I was on another website and a Black woman asked a question about BW and a White guy answered that he didn't like Black women AND neither did his Black male friend. I just thought "What is the point of that?" the girl asking the Q was a teenager too, and didn't say anything offensive in it to anyone at all. I don't like, or respect White men back as a group. It's not like I go out hating them, but they are not "good guys" to chase or date. They're bad, and many of them know that they are bad. Black women should learn to avoid them much more often.

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